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James Corden, Roger Taylor, Tom Hiddleston and Passenger!

Ye gods, what a line-up, as Chris and the gang kick off that Friday feeling with Barry Manilow, James Corden, Roger Taylor, Tom Hiddleston and live music from Passenger!

Barry Manilow calls from California, to reveal that he's the latest name to be added to The Children in Need Rocks line-up!

James Corden, friend of the stars and Paul McCartney, talks about his latest screen outing as singer Paul Potts!

Rock royalty Roger Taylor talks solo songs, Queen, and drumming - leading the studio in a "boom boom clap!" intro to We Will Rock You.

With a new Thor film on the horizon, A-list actor Tom Hiddleston talks screen gods, and Bond!

And Mike Rosenberg - aka Passenger - plays the most nerve-wracking gig of his life, and smashes it!

Release date:

2 hours, 59 minutes

Last on

Fri 18 Oct 2013 06:30

Pause for Thought

With Simon Cohen, who runs a communications agency.

 

I’ve been thinking about Madeleine Mccann’s family, and the response to the latest appeal.


I have to admit that in 2007 when I first heard the news, like so many other stories, I thought ‘that must be awful for them’, but I didn’t really let it into my heart. Now I’m a father, with my own little girl, I feel completely differently, like I want to reach out to them.


I’ve heard this distinction between feeling for someone and feeling with them described like this: One day, Sympathy and Empathy come across someone in a deep hole. Sympathy says ‘You poor thing, it looks really dark down there. Would you like a sandwich?’ Empathy, on the other hand, climbs down into the hole and says ‘I see you. It’s horrible down here, isn’t it?’


The response to the latest Maddy appeal shows how many people are still in that hole with the family, that they still care, that they’re not leaving. What must it feel like for them, after all these years, to receive those calls, those letters, those emails? Such simple and small gestures.


All of us know someone with a missing piece of their heart - a parent who passed away many years ago; or some other past trauma. If it hasn’t really touched you, that’s okay, but it might be best to hold on to your sympathy - after all, who wants to be thrown a sandwich when they’re in a hole?


But if that person is really in your heart, it’s never too late to show it. It’s never too late to pick up the phone and say those empathic words: ‘I’ve been thinking about your loss, and I want you to know, I’m here with you.’ The smallest gesture can make a world of difference.


Mother Teresa said ‘Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.’ What small thing will you do, today, to show someone that you still care?

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