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Who's Kidding Who?

1 hour, 27 minutes
First broadcast:
Wednesday 30 January 2013

Vanessa asks about the little lies you tell yourself, prolix is the Word Of The Day and Steve Haslewood is today's Jolly Good Fellow, with the Moody Blues Go Now his birthday number 1.

Music Played

15 items
  • Image for Phil Collins

    Phil Collins Sussudio

  • Image for Kristina Train

    Kristina Train Lose You Tonight

    (CD Single), Mercury

  • Image for Steely Dan

    Steely Dan Rikki Don't Lose That Number

    A Decade Of Steely Dan, MCA

  • Image for Deacon Blue

    Deacon Blue That's What We Can Do

    (CD Single), Edsel Records

  • Image for 10cc

    10cc Good Morning Judge

    The Very Best Of 10cc, Mercury

  • Image for The Four Tops

    The Four Tops Baby I Need Your Lovin'

    The Four Tops - The Ultimate Collecti, Motown

  • Image for Alicia Keys

    Alicia Keys Brand New Me

    Girl On Fire, RCA

  • Pause For Thought

  • Image for Emeli Sandé

    Emeli Sandé Clown

    (CD Single), Virgin, 5

  • Image for The Beach Boys

    The Beach Boys Darlin'

    The Best Of The Beach Boys (CD 2), EMI

  • Image for George Harrison

    George Harrison Got My Mind Set On You

    George Harrison - Cloud Nine, Dark Horse, 1

  • Image for Passenger

    Passenger Let Her Go

    Promo single, NETTWERK, 1

  • Image for Alfie Boe

    Alfie Boe Wayfaring Stranger

  • Steve Haslewood's birthday number 1

    • Image for The Moody Blues

      The Moody Blues Go Now

      Fifty Number Ones Of The 60's (Variou, Global Television

  • Image for Bellowhead

    Bellowhead Roll The Woodpile Down

    Broadside, Navigator Records, 003

  • Word Of The Day

    Word Of The Day

    Prolix – marked by or using an excess of words – e.g. “the speech was unnecessarily prolix"

  • Pause For Thought with writer Adrian Plass

    Pause For Thought with writer Adrian Plass

    Last year when my wife and I feared that our integrity was falling apart. A simple question dented our pride and revealed our prejudice. I’ll get to that. First, what were we proud about?

    We pride ourselves on being inclusive, treading a narrow path ourselves, but with arms wide to embrace anyone needing love. Sounds okay, doesn’t it?

    We were, for instance, thrilled that last year’s Paralympics increased awareness that differences in physical ability shouldn’t define anyone.

    Okay. The prejudice.

    Last year Bridget and I toured with two fellow-speakers who had life-long disabilities.

    Marc was a popular public speaker. He suffered from severe cerebral palsy. Insubstantial and seriously uncoordinated, he did a sort of floppy, flapping dash from one wall to another when he needed to cross a room. Marc was great. We liked him immediately.

    Marianne was a singer. She had no arms. She had feet, though, and she used them for almost everything, including, remarkably, eating meals. Marianne was lovely. We warmed quickly to her.
    So - that question.

    It was late, but Marianne and Marc had something to ask.

    ‘Tomorrow,’ said Marc, carefully controlling his vocal slurring, ‘do you want Marianne or me to drive you?’

    The child inside me screamed silently, ‘Oh, my God! We’re going to die, and we’re being asked to choose how it happens!’

    ‘Yes, but look,’ I wanted to reply, ‘you wobble like tissue paper in the wind, and SHE’S GOT NO ARMS!’

    I actually bleated, ‘Right, when do you plan to leave?’

    The woman with no arms was leaving early, so we opted to perish with the man who did windmill impressions.

    We survived. Marc’s control was perfect once his hand was on the wheel.

    Comparing notes, Bridget and I agreed there had been a gleam in Marianne and Marc’s eyes as that question was asked. They knew what the effect would be. We also agreed that we were horrified by our assumption that we’d be less safe in a car driven by someone with disabilities.

    Too much pride we decided, and rather more prejudice than we had fondly imagined.


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