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18/02/2011

Duration:
1 hour, 30 minutes
First broadcast:
Friday 18 February 2011

On her last show before sitting in for Jeremy for a week, Vanessa found dreams CAN come true, plus Pat Creavy in Brentwood chose Phil Collins and Marilyn Martin singing 'Separate Lives' in 'I Want to Wake Up with You '.

Contact the show via e-mail: vfeltz@bbc.co.uk.

Music Played

15 items
  • Image for Kenny Loggins

    Kenny Loggins Footloose

  • Image for Wonderland

    Wonderland Not A Love Song

    (CD Single), Mercury, 1

  • Image for Cat Stevens

    Cat Stevens Wild World

    The Very Best Of Cat Stevens, Island

  • Image for Cher

    Cher Love & Understanding

    (CD Single), Geffen

  • Image for ABBA

    ABBA Does Your Mother Know

    Abba Gold (40th Anniversary Edition), Polar, 015

  • Image for The Four Tops

    The Four Tops Standing In The Shadows Of Love

    Soul (Various Artists), Polygram Tv

  • Image for The Pierces

    The Pierces You'll Be Mine

    (CD Single), Polydor, 1

  • Image for Jackson Browne

    Jackson Browne In The Shape Of A Heart

    The Next Voice You Hear - Jackson Bro, Elektra

  • Pause For Thought

  • Image for Tracy Chapman

    Tracy Chapman Talkin' Bout A Revolution

    Tracy Chapman, Elektra

  • Image for New Radicals

    New Radicals You Get What You Give

    (CD Single), MCA

  • Image for Clare Maguire

    Clare Maguire The Last Dance

    (CD Single), Polydor, 1

  • Image for The Staple Singers

    The Staple Singers I'll Take You There

    Afrodisiac (Various Artists), Universal Music Tv

  • 'I Want To Wake Up WIth You' choice of Pat Creavin in Brentwood

  • Image for Bob & Earl

    Bob & Earl The Harlem Shuffle

    Shades Of Soul (Various Artists), Global Television

  • Pause For Thought from Andrew Graystone, Director at The Church and Media Network

    It’s Friday now, and the Valentine’s Day roses are beginning to look a bit droopy. So maybe it’s a good time to think about what makes our loving relationships last.

    One of the biggest influences on me as a teenager was Cuth. Actually his real name was Bob, but, for some reason I never fathomed, everybody without exception called him Cuth. He was on the threshold of a high-powered career in the city, but more importantly to me he was the leader of a youth group I went to every Sunday throughout my teenage years. He taught us the Bible, prayed for us and organised wild games and barbecues for us on countless Saturdays. He was also the first person I ever knew to have a swimming pool in their house. Well, not exactly a swimming pool. More like a very large bath. But we were allowed to go round from time to time and play in it. Apart from that I didn't know much about him.

    Just occasionally he mentioned Mrs Cuth. I never met her. But when I was older I found out a bit more about her. To be honest, the details are still a bit sketchy to me. But I do know that not long after their children arrived Mrs Cuth had a serious accident, and from then on she was more or less confined to bed. It turns out the swimming pool was really a basic hydrotherapy pool for his wife. Whatever plans and ambitions he may have had as a young businessman, Cuth curtailed them so that he could look after her. I don't know what promotions he may have turned down, what opportunities for travel he may have passed by, or what personal strain he may have borne to look after Mrs Cuth. He never chose to talk about it. What I do know is that a lot of the energy that might have gone elsewhere went into faithfully nurturing teenagers like me.

    Cuth cared for his wife every day for forty years until she died. Then within a week Cuth had died too. I guess he knew that his life's work was done. I hope they’re dancing in heaven.

    Cuth taught me that it’s not the grand gestures that count in a really loving relationship. It’s the day-to-day choices that make the difference. So for me the question is not “do I love my Jane” or “did I remember to bring her flowers on Monday” but will I bother to make the bed when I get out of it, and peel those potatoes, knowing that if I leave them another ten minutes she will do them herself ? Moment by moment my own inflated view of myself challenges me to say no, which would be the easiest and most damaging thing in the world. God’s call demands that I answer yes, now, willingly and not grudgingly. And not because it will be a good or a generous thing to do. That would be just a backhanded way of feeding my own ego. I must do it because this person I happen to be married to is a human being of utmost value and beauty and dignity, just as I am.

  • Feltz's Friday Philological Challenge

    Regular correspondent Cliif in Carmarthenshire came up with this cracker incorporating all four Words Of The Day from this week

    There once was a symbiotic friend of mine
    To whom I sent a pellucid Valentine
    She complained of its grandiloquence
    and that it was so full of blandishments,
    But apart from that she said it was fine.

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