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2 hours, 5 minutes
First broadcast:
Wednesday 18 August 2010

Lynn Parsons on Patrol, wondering what the Royal Family might do on Civvy Street and whether you really know your neighbours! E-mail the show: lynn.parsons@bbc.co.uk.

Music Played

26 items
  • Image for Bruce Springsteen

    Bruce Springsteen and The E Street Band Working On A Dream

    (CD Single), Columbia, 1

  • Image for Rickie Lee Jones

    Rickie Lee Jones Chuck E's In Love

    Country Roads (Various Artists), Polygram Tv

  • Image for Thea Gilmore

    Thea Gilmore You're The Radio

    (CD Single), Fullfill Records, 1

  • Image for Alannah Myles

    Alannah Myles Black Velvet

    Red Hot Metal (Various Artists), Dover Records

  • Image for Al Green

    Al Green Tired Of Being Alone

    Shades Of Soul (Various Artists), Global Television

  • Image for The Everly Brothers

    The Everly Brothers Walk Right Back

    The Everly Brothers - Perfect Harmony, Knight Records

  • Image for Edwyn Collins

    Edwyn Collins A Girl Like You

    The All Time Greatest Movie Songs, Columbia/Sony Tv

  • Image for The Beatles

    The Beatles Can't Buy Me Love

    The Beatles - 1, Apple, 7

  • Image for Lissie

    Lissie Cuckoo

    Catching A Tiger, Columbia, 8

  • Image for Garth Brooks

    Garth Brooks If Tomorrow Never Comes

    Garth Brooks - The Hits, Liberty

  • Pause For Thought

    • Image for Dire Straits

      Dire Straits Walk Of Life

      Brothers In Arms 20th Anniv Edition, Vertigo

  • Image for Rox

    Rox Rocksteady

    (CD Single)

  • Image for Roxy Music

    Roxy Music Oh Yeah (On The Radio)

    Bryan Ferry/Roxy Music - Street Life, Eg

  • Image for Faith Hill

    Faith Hill This Kiss

    New Hits 99 (Various Artists), Global Television

  • Image for The Beach Boys

    The Beach Boys Kokomo

    Love At The Movies (Various Artists), Telstar

  • Image for Phil Collins

    Phil Collins (Love Is Like A) Heatwave

    (CD Single), Atlantic, 1

  • Swing Time, requested by Mark Brown

  • Image for Catatonia

    Catatonia Mulder And Scully

    Simply The Best Radio Hits (Various), Warner E.S.P.

  • Image for Jack Johnson

    Jack Johnson At Or With Me

    (CD Single)

  • Image for Paul Simon

    Paul Simon Loves Me Like A Rock

    Paul Simon - Negotiations & Love Song, Warner Bros, 2

  • Image for Simply Red

    Simply Red Money's Too Tight (To Mention)

    Now 1985 (Various Artists), Now

  • Image for Diane Birch

    Diane Birch Valentino

    Bible Belt, Virgin, 1

  • Image for Rod Stewart

    Rod Stewart Tonight's The Night

    The Best Of Rod Stewart, Warner Bros

  • The Show Tune, requested by Andrew Edwards

  • Image for Barenaked Ladies with Erin McCarley

    Barenaked Ladies with Erin McCarley Every Subway Car

  • Image for 10cc

    10cc The Things We Do For Love

    The Greatest Hits Of 1976 (Various), Premier

  • Pause for Thought

    Today, our words come from Rabbi Jeremy Gordon of the New London Masorti Synagogue

    "When our first son was born we signed up to a regular e-mail bulletin that told us all the things we should expect from our newborn in his first weeks and months.

    In the sixth week the email said - Your child will start smiling – and he did.

    In the fifth month the email said - Your child might enjoy sucking on a piece of carrot – and he did.

    And around about the year point the email said - Your child should start walking – but he didn’t .

    So we waited a month – no walking.
    And three months later – still no walking, and the e-mails have moved on and everyone else’s little kids seemed to be jumping and running and we can’t help but wonder what’s gone wrong.

    So we take our child to a drop-in clinic where we put him on the floor and we turn to the nurse to explain the problem.

    And it was precisely at this moment that our son got up – and took his first steps, toddling over as if to say, ‘I don’t think you should be wasting this nurse’s time, can you take me home now?’

    We missed seeing our son’s first steps, because we busy explaining to the nurse that something was going wrong.

    Our son, of course, decided to walk when he was good and ready – he hadn’t been remotely interested in walking according to our timetable.
    Of course if we had understood that, my wife and I would never have worried in the first place.
    It was the expecting that caused the tension, not the reality.

    The Jewish tradition does its best to stop us expecting our physical abilities come as a matter of course. There are a series of blessings to be said every morning which remind us of the gift of being able to see, to stretch out our limbs, to walk, to breathe. These blessings remind us that taking even the most mundane bodily functions shouldn’t be taken for granted, and I think that applies regardless of one’s faith. We shouldn’t compare ourselves or worse our children against pre-existing catalogues of expectations.

    I think expectations are dangerous.
    Expectations make us worry, overly, about end results – and take our mind away from the moment. We miss the myriad of miracles popping up all around us every time we breathe or take a step.

    It’s one thing to hope or to dream, but to expect … an expectation is a recipe for disappointment, a spiritual straightjacket. We would be better off without them".


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