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Duration: 1 hour

Twenty-one-year-old Nel has lived in Britain since she was six, after her family fled war and violence in Afghanistan. Despite respecting her parents' decision to leave, Nel has always felt a strong connection with the country and longs to know what her life would have been like if she'd stayed and grown up there.

This documentary tells the intimate story of a young woman returning to Afghanistan. In Kabul, she sees the modern face of the country through her cousin, one of only a handful of female lecturers at Kabul University. But even her cousin accepts that her marriage will be arranged.

Outside the capital, behind the closed doors of hospital wards and prisons, Nel soon discovers a world of extreme violence against women and gains a new understanding of why her family decided to leave.

Last on

Wed 8 Jun 2011 01:15 BBC One Wales only

  • Photo: Nel in Herat, western Afghanistan

    Photo: Nel in Herat, western Afghanistan

    When Nel was young her mother decided to move to the UK to flee the war and allow her daughter more freedom. Now 21-year-old Nel wants to understand how different her life would have been if she had remained in Afghanistan.


Thandie Newton
Sarah Waldron
Executive Producer
Tom Giles


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