Death is a part of life, but losing someone close to you is devastating.
Getting over grief might seem impossible at first, but it just takes time
Losing a loved one...
Living and dying are part of our life cycle, but that doesn't make dealing with death, or fear of death any easier. The reality is that death is the only certainty in life, so it's good to try and get your head around it.
Grief is the word for the emotions you have when someone you care about dies. It's different for everyone but common feelings include:
- Numbness - especially if the person's death came as a shock. It can be hard to believe they're gone. You may act like they're still alive at first.
- Guilt - sometimes people regret the way they acted around the person who has died or even start to blame themselves for their death.
- Frustration - someone you care about is gone and nothing you can do will bring them back. This can make you angry and confused. Sometimes we even get angry with the person who died, for leaving us.
- Depression - it's normal to feel very sad when someone dies.
- Tiredness - problems sleeping or loss of appetite.
All of these are normal feelings - most of them are unavoidable. Go easy on yourself and let yourself grieve.
How long does grief last?
You'll never forget the person who has died., and you might always feel sad when you think of them. But as time goes on you may remember things about them that make you happy. Things will definitely get easier.
The first year is the hardest for most people, but there's no right or wrong length of time to grieve. You may feel better quickly - if this is the case, it doesn't mean you loved them any less. You shouldn't feel guilty for continuing to live your life.
Getting over grief might seem impossible at first, but it just takes time. It's not easy, but people do cope with grief and become happy again once they've worked through it.
If you feel you're stuck grieving longer than you'd like to be - or that it's taking over your life - get some support.
Talking about your feelings and the person you've lost is usually a big help. Many people find counselling helps too. Have a look at the related links on the side of this page.
The process of dying
Do you worry about what will happen when you die? Or worry that you will feel pain? These fears are very common.
When a person dies, they first slip into unconsciousness. This means they're not aware of anything after this point. Slipping into unconsciousness is like going to sleep - this can make it feel a little less scary.
The time after a person dies will be a period of grief for our loved ones. Whether we think we're going to heaven or anywhere else or not, the most important thing is to not worry about dying too much - worrying while we are alive is a waste of life. Fully appreciate every moment that you are living now, and you can appreciate the sheer awesomeness of being alive!
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