Bullying - Are You Being Bullied?

If you're being bullied you need to tell someone. You don't deserve it and you can put an end to it.

It's the bullies who have a problem, not the people they target

The signs

Bullying takes many forms, like name-calling, hitting, spreading rumours, stealing, excluding people and turning someone's friends against them. Bullying via text or online is still bullying.

It's not you, it's them

Although it's hard to feel sorry for bullies, it might help to understand that happy people don't need to make others feel unhappy or small. It's the bullies who have a problem, not the people they target. You really aren't on your own - unfortunately bullying is common. People get through it, and so will you. But it's got to stop.

What to do

Speak out. You have the right to live without being tormented. Keep a diary of what happens. It'll help you decide what to do. It should also stop you missing out anything important and help show you're telling the truth.

If you're being bullied through texts or phone calls, save messages and call records if you have space in your phone. If not, write down the time of the call/text, what was said/written and the caller/sender's number if you have it. And don't reply to any texts - it's just what the bully wants.

If you're being bullied online, don't respond to nasty comments. But as before, keep a record of everything you get sent by screenshotting or saving the messages.

Who should I tell?

As many people as you can. Sometimes just having things out in the open can be enough to make bullies stop. If it's at school, any of your teachers should be able to help (your school should have an anti-bullying policy). If you can't tell your teachers, ask a parent or another adult to speak to them for you. If you don't trust any adult enough, charities like Childline or Bullying UK can help.

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