There's no shame in being single, it doesn't mean you're a loser! But if you're single and feeling lonely, you're not alone.

if you're comfortable with yourself there's no need to settle

Singled out

Being single doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you - or that you're alone. But some people fear it more than being buried alive...

Lonely planet

Being single can be tough, especially if everyone else around you seems to be pairing off.

When your best buddy spends all their time with a new hottie, you can feel left out. But friendships are strong, and your friend will soon realise they need both in their lives to be happy - and many friendships last longer than flings!

It's also hard adjusting to single life when you come out of a relationship. Some people are so bothered about it they'll immediately get involved with someone else just to avoid being single - because they don't know how to be on their own.

But if you start seeing someone for the wrong reasons, chances are you'll be single again before you can say Harry Styles...

The waiting game

Everyone will be single at some point - maybe for months or even years on end. It's often just about being patient, and putting yourself out and into the world as much as possible, so that you meet more people. There's nothing wrong with waiting for the right person - if you're comfortable with yourself there's no need to settle for the sake of being with someone.

It can be frustrating. But it's quite natural: why do you think they invented, ahem, self-servicing?

Hit single

There are loads of benefits to being single.

You can do what you want with who you want - whether it's snogging randoms on holiday or flirting with a fittie on Facebook. You have control of the remote, your diary and your happiness! Focussing on yourself means that when the right person does come along, you know what you stand for.

You get more time with your friends, you can go on the pull and you don't need to worry about your other half all the time. The world is your oyster.

In the long-run you'll probably spend most of your life in a relationship - so enjoy being single while you can!

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