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Posted by MM (U1821038) on Tuesday, 1st September 2009
Posted by DeafHeart (U11184242) on Sunday, 6th September 2009
I experienced similar harrasment when I first moved here. But realised that the kids are just crying out for some attention, and were bored hence their michief/trouble making, so took them out, with their parents permission, and with my ten year old, on various trips, day out to the seaside, cinema, swimming, adventure park and mcdonalds's and since then have had no problems! It took time to earn their respect and change their behaviour/attitude towards me. Instead of being downright rude and discriminating, they shown a desire to understand what being Deaf means - and they have mastered fingerspelling totally of their own accord!
But it is not always easy to find an answer.....I remember despairing about it for quite a long time....found a solution in the end...
Posted by MM (U1821038) on Sunday, 6th September 2009
The mind boggles. really ! "crying out for attention..." so they get it by making OUR lives a misery ? Most of the kids around here have so much they don't know where to start, they are NOT deprived material-wise, I would agree their parents are morons, why take it out on us ? since in order to stop little Timmy being sent to the social services and care area to learn basic humanity, they back their violence up....
Earn respect ? again I cannot follow the reasoning. You seem to justify what they do, deaf people prefer privacy, they know what risk they run otherwise.....I'd want their parents sent to parenting classes myself. You are put in such a position you cannot counter them, the law allows them to abuse us. In many respects all you CAN do, is avoid any sort of contact with them. When I tried that they'd bang on my door all hours, or throw stones at the house all hours, another dodge was switching off our electricity supply from outside, and trying to rip the gas meter off the wall, all good fun... NOT !
Dumping waste food through your letter box, throwing lighted cigarettes into your son's bedroom of an evening, all good honest fun I'm sure... I suppose we were lucky it was only our immediate neighbours kids and not some with a real gripe !
ANYONE approaching children these days, even to gain 'respect' faces charges and the sex offenders register. If the parents are crap there is nothing YOU can do to change their attitude but move. The item I put up, is just one of 4 known attacks on deaf people here from just one club, so bad they made local front pages... Only ONE case has ever made court, and near every deaf person we know can tell a story about being abused by Joe public, whatever age.
We're so much on the defensive we have no time for a charm offensive, which will ONLY be seen the wrong way anyway. We are in fear of local children, they are armed with the law, manipulate it, and are immune to it being applied to them, and an army of woolly-minded idiots posing as social workers who will make excuses for them.
I Moved, TWICE, and I am not a soft touch or victim, when I moved to the last area I offered neighbours sign lessons and explained how to communicate with us, they told me to *-off.... There was simply no back up, not from the police, from the deaf clubs, groups, from the 'neighbours', from 'neighborhood watch', local authorities, or from the parents of these children.
If these kids cannot target YOU, they can still target your children, or your partner, either way you will lose. That's my Achilles heel, I could stand up for myself.
Posted by IanIlly (U8801543) on Sunday, 7th November 2010
Reviving this thread as I have experienced harassment from football supporters on a train home. They were well drunk but that is no excuse, it just eases their inhibitions. So, that is as a person wearing a hearing aid. I wonder what the reaction would be to someone with a CI?
I leave that as a question as I am looking into this option and how is it perceived by the great and good general public?
Posted by AndyfromCornwall (U14342750) on Sunday, 7th November 2010
Well out here in the country we do not get a lot of that sort of think. Because it is remote and there are no street lights the local youth tend to congregate in town. In many cases the kids are recognised if they misbehave and the parents informed.
The police are very no-nonsense about rowdy youths in town. The whole place is covered by CCTV now and any serious incidents are attended by a dog patrol in addition to whatever cars are nearby. In a few extreme cases they call for reinforcements from Plymouth.
A spectacular example of this was on New Years Eve a few back. For some reason a large number of Chinese people assembled at a local hotel for some kind of reunion and fighting broke out. The cops made about 40 arrests!
So we are fairly well off here in the towns.
On the other hand the remoteness of some places has enabled some shocking crimes. When there's nobody much about you can do as you please. One terrible example was the mentally disabled man who was kicked off a railway bridge to his death below. There was nobody to hear his screams for mercy.
Posted by ilovepink (U14315242) on Monday, 20th December 2010
That is so sad to read there are some really bad people about. How do they get away with doing that they wouldnt dare do that over here they would be to scared of what would happen to them if they did.
Posted by ilovepink (U14315242) on Monday, 20th December 2010
those kids were not bored they were evil .no decent kids would do that they are just bad through and through.
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