Question from Risa: What actually is text bullying?
John: It's any kind
of message that comes via your mobile phone, messaging, email, that's
threatening, unwanted and you find it a worry. For some kids it
can be extremely concerning.
It can be "you're smelly", or "we know where you
live" or the horrible 'happy slapping'... there's nothing happy
Question from Mekat: Can u use Childline, can
John: Childline is
there 24 hours a day seven days a week, trained counsellors, and
it's anonymous. It's a great place to go and their number is 0800
11 11. It's freephone and easy to remember.
Question from Lisa: My so-called friends text
bully me and give people my phone number what can I do?
Myleene: That's the
equivalent to giving somebody your door keys, and you are allowed
to be mad about that! Change your number and only give it to people
who you trust.
Question from lotsofsugar: How do you ignore
John: Well you can
- just don't read it. Our advice is don't delete them, make a note
of them and the time you received them as it might be important
Ask your mum and Dad and talk to the phone company
and if they are convinced it is bullying they'll change your number
and sim card for you, so it won't cost you any more money.
Myleene Klass listens to the questions during the webchat
Myleene: You are
the one with the power, you can do something about it. You have
the evidence, you're in a very strong position.
Question from Ollie: Hi. I get bullied at school
a lot and the teachers never help no matter how many times I ask
for help. What can I do?
John: If that were
happening to me, I would go and see the Head or a teacher who is
specially trained as lots of teachers have gone on courses. Go to
the website and it will tell you someone in your area who is specially
trained to help with this sort of thing. Not every teacher is good
Myleene: The same
thing happened to me, I felt like I wasn't being taken seriously,
I really do think outside help works too, it helps as you're not
telling tales you're giving information and getting it back.
Question from Jade: Some boys annoy me about
my hair. Should I change it?
Myleene: No, they
are in the wrong, they're annoyed because you're so fabulous! No
under no circumstances, do you change the way you are, do you change
your clothes... What else? Put a stop to it now otherwise it can
Question from John: Doesn't creating a campaign
such as this, make bullies more aware of this medium and perhaps
encourage them to bully through it? Or do you think this is counteracted
by the fact that it allows people to stand up against it?
Myleene: They should
John: Do you keep quiet about it or wait
till it goes away? It's certainly a rational thought, the only way
you can end it is to speak about it and get through to the people
doing the bullying and persuade them to stop doing it.
A warning to the bullies: You're ruining not only
a child's life and their family's life, you're ruining your own
life. You're going to be paying the price for a long time if you
get a criminal record.
Question from Robyn: How many forms of bulling
Myleene: I think
it manifests itself in many different forms, through technology,
through letters, in the physical capacity and name calling. It's
completely unnecessary. If you feel threatened, that is bullying
and you can report it.
John: However many
different types of bullying there are it's too many.
Question from Kirsty: Do you think there should
be guidelines for minimum ages for kids to have phones... or should
they only be allowed to have phones with call abilities so that
they can't text or take photos and films? Do you think this would
make an impact?
John: 25% of children
under 11 have mobile phones. And the number is growing, it's getting
to 100%, we're getting to a situation where all children above 11
have got them.
Mobile phone companies don't advertise to children,
the advice they give is that below the age of 12, children should
only use them infrequently and in emergencies. I don't think there's
any point in having a law in banning it, particularly if parents
want to know where there children are.
Question from Jade: Should u reply to text bullying
John: Don't give
them that satisfaction, that's what they want.
Question from sparey11: How do we stop text
bullying if we are doing it?
John: Think about
what you're doing, think about the hurt you're doing to someone
else, would you like it done to you? And it's a crime and you're
harming yourself, you could get in a lot of trouble.
FINAL WORDS: John: Be
strong, don't suffer in silence and go to the website. stoptextbully.com.
There's also great sections on CBBC in Your Life and the Bullying
message board so log onto bbc.co.uk/cbbc.
Myleene: You're not
alone! you'll come through it, like I have. And don't forget, more
information on safe chatting, and texting, is available at bbc.co.uk/chatguide.
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