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Gorleston's Myleene Klass launched a new anti-bullying
website called Stop Text Bully earlier this month.
The website, created by the children's charity
National Children's Home (NCH) is designed to help children who
have been threatened or abused via their computer or mobile phone.
On Thursday 30 June at 5.30pm, Myleene joined us
with the NCH's new technology adviser, John Carr to answer your
questions in an exclusive webchat.
Question from Mimi: Myleene,
why did you get involved with Stop Text Bully?
Myleene: For me
it was really important, I think that someone in the public eye
should be proactive and I have my own experiences of bullying. If
I can make people feel not isolated, that's a job well done.
Question from Lou: What is NCH and what do they
do for Text Bullying?
John: NCH is a children's
charity that provides a whole range of services to children from
homelessness to learning and bullying is something we know a lot
about.
Children's lives have been ruined by it. It's a
very serious problem. We were delighted to help to stop the people
doing the bullying that it's not just a crime it's a horrible thing
to do to a human being.
Question from Natalie: Have you or anyone you
know been bullied? If so how long did it last and how did you/they
managed you cope?
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The NCH's technology adviser John Carr
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Myleene: Yes I have.
It started at primary school with name calling then at secondary
school it got more physical.
But it's only by looking back I can see it as bullying.
I thought it happened to everybody. They pick people indiscriminately,
it isn't your fault. I didn't see myself as a victim of bullying
until after the event.
When it was a physical form, I told the headmistress,
but it was really difficult for me. I was called in to her office
with the bully. I was made to shout at the bully: "You're a bully
and I'm not scared of you". And of course it didn't work.
Question from tj1000: I think it is just wrong
people are turning mobiles into weapons - do you agree?
John: When I was
a kid, there was bullying but you could close your door when you
got home, it would stop. Now with mobiles they can get at you all
of the time. It's a much more horrible type of bullying. It's new
and worrying and you can't ever escape from it and it needs to be
stamped out.
We did a survey on this three years ago when parents
and kids told us stories, we did our own national survey to see
what was happening to them. It emerged it wasn't just the odd child
here and there it was widespread. Kids are also being harassed by
camera phones as well as texts.
Question from Tracy beaker fan: I have been
text bullied lately and resorted to breaking my phone do you have
any advice as I don't want to break my new one.
Myleene: Firstly
I'm sorry to hear that, you shouldn't feel threatened, they're trying
to intimidate you. It is bullying.
The website is for you so you can realise your
options. Do not break your phone - you should not suffer, you have
done nothing wrong! The site's also good for parents to check out
if they think their child is a bully or being bullied.
Question from Stuart: Why do you think bullies
actually LIKE to bully people?
Myleene: There's
a million and one different reasons, maybe somebody bullied them.
Their self esteem, you're wearing the trainers they wanted... You
are not alone, have the confidence to do something about it.
Question from Rachel: Hi myleene, I am being
bullied by some girls in my class and I am in some of the same lessons
as them what should I do? luv Rachel.
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Text bullying is a big problem
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Myleene: This can
be very difficult and I've been in that situation. It can be something
like not even saving you a seat in class, and it can be really painful.
Stay clear of them, keep a circle of friends around you.
Don't feel ashamed, I felt ashamed as I didn't
have a support group around me. Log on to the website and see where
you can go from there.
I wanted to tell my Mum and Dad but I didn't want
to put the pressure on them and I didn't want to tell a teacher.
People like Childline can help. What these bullies are doing is
a criminal activity.
John: There are three
acts of parliament that say this criminal. Bullying breaks each
of the three laws. They may think it's a laugh but they could end
up with a criminal record.
It's important for parents who think their children
might be doing the bullying to help them get out of this behaviour.
And for the children being bullied, go to the website
and there's so much help for you. Counsellors who you can speak
to anonymously. Thirty percent of the children being bullied weren't
telling anybody, they shouldn't be suffering alone.
Question from Lydia: I did get some bullying
by the internet on my messenger account - is this the same?
John: What we found
in the survey 1 in 5 children received some type of bullying, mobile
and by messaging. It's very similar, just block them and put them
on your barred list. It's actually a lot easier to deal with than
it is with a mobile phone. And ignore emails too.
Myleene: If anyone
feels threatened, then that is bullying. If it's hurting you and
making you feel insecure and emotional that is a form of bullying
and actions can be taken.
Question from
John: How do you feel about the way in which kids are being bullied
by text, do you feel that technology is pushing us back?
Myleene: The way
technology is progressing makes homework easier and easier to stay
in touch with people, like you're Mum and Dad.
But at the same time we need to police the technology
we're putting out there making sure it's secure for people using
it. Otherwise it can just run away with itself, people shouldn't
feel vulnerable or insecure just because they're carrying a mobile
phone. It's a tool for communication and that's it.
There
were loads more questions - read more of the webchat here
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