Italian parents turn to law to evict adult son

Venice (file image) A Venice court may be asked to issue a protection order for the parents

An Italian couple have sought legal help to persuade their 41-year-old son to fly the nest, Italian media reported.

The Venetian parents, who have not been named, say their son has a job but refuses to leave home and wants his clothes washed and his meals prepared.

They have sought help from lawyers at the consumer association Adico.

Lawyer Andrea Camp said a letter was sent to the son, advising him to leave home in six days or face legal action.

If he refuses, lawyers will ask a court in Venice to issue a protection order for the elderly parents against their son.

"We cannot do it any more," the father was quoted as saying.

"My wife is suffering from stress and had to be hospitalised. He [the son] has a good job but still lives at home.

"He demands that his clothes be washed and ironed and his meals prepared. He really has no intention of leaving."

Some reports said the son had also become aggressive.

The couple turned to Adico after hearing of a similar case earlier this month in which Adico persuaded a son to leave home. After he left, his parents changed the locks.

Adico says hundreds of Italian families face similar problems getting adult children to leave home.


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    Comment number 180.

    sorry but what the hell this guy has issues

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    Comment number 179.

    This situation is very common in Italy (unfortunately). Sometimes dictated by unemployment or small salaries. Or by tradition, you move out only when you get married. But parents are indeed to blame in some cases as they do not push their adult children to independence and keep treating them as lazy teenagers...with adult freedom.

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    Comment number 178.

    Re 148. You pay your taxes, you apply for planing permission like everyone else fine. You don't you get kicked out, simples ! The council would do the same to me . Just because the travellers are a 'minority' does not allow them to ride roughshod over the rules the rest of us abide by. No sympathy for dale farm here i'm afraid.

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    Comment number 177.

    Love it !

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    Comment number 176.

    ref #172
    1 Hour ago
    I'm nearly 30 and still live with my parents. It is not out of choice - with local rents being in excess of £1000/mo. and my income not being much more, it is not an option!

    But do you expect your parents to wait on you? This 41 year old does.

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    Comment number 175.

    They are being bullied by their own son,,,,how much board should he pay a week? what is fair?

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    Comment number 174.

    Parents cannot just wash their hands of their child because they are no longer convenient to have around. Perhaps they should question why they brought up their offspring to behave in this way? It's a rare situation where an adult would want to live with their parents, when they clearly are unwanted, but the parents must take the blame for their situation - if anything, THEY should move out.

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    Comment number 173.

    My brother still lives with our parents. Besides contributing financially he does much of the cooking & grocery shopping, shares the household chores & as my parents are getting older takes on many of the heavier tasks like gardening & DIY. Because my brother pulls his weight, everyone is happy & all benefit from this arrangement.

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    Comment number 172.

    I'm nearly 30 and still live with my parents. It is not out of choice - with local rents being in excess of £1000/mo. and my income not being much more, it is not an option!

    It is not that people are lazy these days, it is that the cost of living has out-stripped salaries!!! House prices are still at £300k here - 2.2 times their true value based on pre-1998 values/trends.

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    Comment number 171.

    And we all still think it is time to spare the rod?

    Pah, the parents have no sympathy from me- the son didn't spoil himself.

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    Comment number 170.

    Well Italian males are overly attached to their "mamma's'" aren't they? Maybe this particular "mamma" just doesn't possess the requisite nurturing instinct?

    Before I receive the inevitable salvo of humourless, indignant female attacks, I'd like to point out my use of irony as a tool of humour.

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    Comment number 169.

    I live in Italy and can only say that it is certainly not unusual for older children to be living with their parents - I have friends in their 30s & 40s who still live at home but work in the family businesses. A contributing factor may be that Italian mammas love to do everything for their children in the quest to be the perfect mother, and unfortunately this can be the result in extreme cases.

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    Comment number 168.

    26. Nicomo
    Anybody still living at home after the age of 25 really has to get out and start living!"

    Not so - it's that attitude which means we have a shortage of housing in the UK!

    Living with other members of the family is fine if everyone is contributing as they are able, and can be a good way of dramatically reducing everyone's living expenses. In this case, though, the son wasn't helping

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    Comment number 167.

    I have 3 generations of my family living in one household, my grandma has senile dementia, i am disabled, my older sister is the only one who works and we all live with my single mother who is a registered carer. somehow we are a happy unit. we have our problems but we are all pulling in the same direction. this man sounds despicable, even i manage to help out the family with DIY work and chores!!

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    Comment number 166.

    @158 I think you wouldn't notice all the chores you did for your son if they sneak up a little by a little.
    But as you contradicted yourself anyway I don't think you read the article fully.
    If the son is aggressive then say, 70 year old parents are not really going to stand up against him are they?

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    Comment number 165.

    Ah, isn't it fun to make sweeping judgements based on a single story?

    One news article doesn't justify all these pompous generalisations about whole generations of spoilt/lazy children. Nor does the fact that someone moved out at 16 make them better than anyone else, or mean that everyone should do the same. There are all kinds of families out there, and what suits one may not suit another.

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    Comment number 164.

    I'm sorry, but surely the parents can just change the locks one day when he's at work, and put all his stuff out the door? I would, if any grown child of mine treated my home like a hotel. Maybe the parents did make a rod for their own back many years ago by allowing it to continue, but lawyers and eviction? Jeez :-/

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    Comment number 163.

    As far as I can see, the problem isn't that a 41 year old man is living with his parents, but that he is expecting them to wait on him, and he doesn't contribute to the household at all, even though he is perfectly able to help and can afford to financially contribute.

    There's nothing wrong with adults sharing a house as long as they are all happy with how the rest of them contribute.

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    Comment number 162.

    148.Daniel smith

    Yet Again the BBC choses to allow comments on such a silly story but not on The Dale Farm Story.
    There are plenty of forums out there for you to talk about Emmerdale Farm

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    Comment number 161.

    I did the classic leaving home at 21 to live with my girlfriend in London. That was in 1981. Now I'm the father of 3 boys, aged 16, 14 (in October) and 11. As far as we're concerned they can stay as long as they like, although we do expect them to all go to university.


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