Italian parents turn to law to evict adult son

 
Venice (file image) A Venice court may be asked to issue a protection order for the parents

An Italian couple have sought legal help to persuade their 41-year-old son to fly the nest, Italian media reported.

The Venetian parents, who have not been named, say their son has a job but refuses to leave home and wants his clothes washed and his meals prepared.

They have sought help from lawyers at the consumer association Adico.

Lawyer Andrea Camp said a letter was sent to the son, advising him to leave home in six days or face legal action.

If he refuses, lawyers will ask a court in Venice to issue a protection order for the elderly parents against their son.

"We cannot do it any more," the father was quoted as saying.

"My wife is suffering from stress and had to be hospitalised. He [the son] has a good job but still lives at home.

"He demands that his clothes be washed and ironed and his meals prepared. He really has no intention of leaving."

Some reports said the son had also become aggressive.

The couple turned to Adico after hearing of a similar case earlier this month in which Adico persuaded a son to leave home. After he left, his parents changed the locks.

Adico says hundreds of Italian families face similar problems getting adult children to leave home.

 

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  • rate this
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    Comment number 120.

    Yes, what type of behaviour is this?! What a way to repay the people who brought you up all those years, and cooked, washed and cleaned for you when you really needed it?! DISGRACEFUL! But people must remember that this is a very different case to the majority of live-at-home adults though... in terms of societal culture, economics, and consent of the parents. Don't knock us all lol.

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    Comment number 119.

    @17. SMB

    I moved out of my parents house when I was 20. My brother semi-moved out when he was 38 ( he was spending some time with his girlfriend and some time at home ). I'm the elder of the two and we were both brought up the same way, so it wasn't learnt behaviour.

    Some people are just lazy and would rather have it easy at parental home rather than take care of themselves.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 118.

    @107

    Oh la la. Some truths, some exaggerations. It is true that some italian mothers find it difficult to let go and that it is not good.
    I find it a bit harsh to speak about "very broken social dynamics that [Italy] does not want to face up to". It is quite an exaggeration compared to phoenomena like mass tenage pregnancy, alcoholism, youth engaging in nationwide riots... an ominous future.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 117.

    @ 111 Stormish

    That's embarassing for you. A complete mis-quotation. Wasn't even me who said that :) You have a job, yet you can barely even read, let alone reference correctly. Good luck to you, and to me for that matter. Some competition for jobs we have here. Wow.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 116.

    I'm 24 and I left home five years ago. I love my parents, but the idea of living with them strikes me as horrific. What about one's independence? And if I pull a girl on a night out I'm hardly going to want to bring her back to my parent's home.
    This sounds like the case of an overgrown kid who should have been thrown out years ago.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 115.

    I am 103 and still live with my parents in a bird cage hanging frm a golden tree called Spume. l eat only artichokes and syrup of figs and have no friends. Send money now.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 114.

    I swear to you, the parents have a responsibility - I see no issue with what this poor child has done - I feel sorry for him

  • rate this
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    Comment number 113.

    @ 103 Mike

    My gf did a full day of 'testing' (They do it cos they can) with 15 other applicants, got the job, performed in the top 10% of all employees, and still got laid off in the end.That's what we're dealing with.WE live at home because we have No Other Choice. If this man wants to live at home but his parents dont so what? It's Gossip.
    Ignore the incoherent ramblings of 'dave gahans tattoo'

  • Comment number 112.

    This comment was removed because the moderators found it broke the house rules. Explain.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 111.

    43 Dragon Reborn said:
    'it does seem like our elders have no understanding that getting a job is not a matter of fact, inevitable process like it was for them'

    I graduated in 1974 straight after the 3 day week. Ever heard of that? The economy was so ravaged by unemployment, recession and hyper-inflation,we only had electricity on certain days of the week. It took me 2 years to find a job.

  • rate this
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    Comment number 110.

    101.anonimolombardo

    If you can't go back to your country but would like to then I do feel sorry for you.

    I am not in England either. Gladly. :-)

  • rate this
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    Comment number 109.

    I'm 31 years of age and still live at home with Mammy and I don't know where I'd be without her, she washes my beige clothes. She's really supportive when others criticise, especially my work colleagues. I'm fairly independent and don't have to seek Mammy's permission to go anywhere I want, sometimes I don't even call to check in!!! Independence and responsibility are vastly overrated anyway.

  • Comment number 108.

    This comment was removed because the moderators found it broke the house rules. Explain.

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    Comment number 107.

    High unemployment and cost of accommodation are a major factor in Italians staying at home longer. However, many Italian parents not only tolerate this, but actively encourage their children to remain dependent; with Italian mothers especially effectively infantilizing their children, by continuing to wait upon them. Italy has some very broken social dynamics that it does not want to face up to.

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    Comment number 106.

    Magnifico I'm just a poor boy nobody loves
    me
    mamma mia
    mamma mia let me go go go go go!!

    oh wait he's the one who wont go......

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    Comment number 105.

    @102 dave gahans tattoo

    I did not say YOU were one of those people, only that they exist, en masse. About comments being aimed at me...a comment making fun of people living with their parents IS aimed at me (and you, among others), because I live with my parents! Such comments are a personal betrayal by an older generation who call us lazy when we work to get employment which they were handed.

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    Comment number 104.

    @ 32

    I agree that he probably got used to living a lifestyle far more extravagantly than he would if he had to pay a mortgage/rent, however I feel it is unfair to stereotype an entire generations upbringing as you have. I also hope for your sake that you don't fall into this 'young mans' generation that his age of 41 would categorise him into....

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    Comment number 103.

    @ 100 DragonReborn

    Exactly. You trail around every city in this country to the offices of every firm imaginable for days of tests, group challenges, presentations, psychological assessments (you name it, they do it!) all to be rejected without reason. My parents generation got to waltz into one office, answer "So why do you want to work for us?" and boom, job for life.

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    Comment number 102.

    @97 Mike. Your point would be valid however as I stated earlier I am 22 and living at home. I am NOT in the 'left home at 16 and all was swell' camp. I don't like to see people respond to honest comments as if they were directed at them as some form of criticism - it tells me that the poster thinks the world revolves around them and cannot reasonably consider other points of view.

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    Comment number 101.

    @96.
    dave gahans tattoo

    1) I could not find those news on the main newspapers in Italy (Il Corriere, La Repubblica). I don't doubt of their existance, but they certainly weren't headlines. It took a bit of research from the BBC.

    2) I was forced to move out of my country, I did not choose it, and I'm not in England, so you can chill out.

    Regards

 

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