Maternity leave: How common is Yvette Cooper's experience?

Generic pic of woman on phone Women on maternity leave are entitled to 10 Keeping in Touch days - but neither employee nor employer is obliged to make this happen

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Shadow home secretary Yvette Cooper has revealed how she felt "cut off" from her job when she took maternity leave for the second time - is her experience typical?

For Denise, not her real name, the thought that she will soon have to go back to work fills her with dread.

The teacher worries about how her colleagues will treat her following her absence and she is concerned they won't understand or care about how she feels leaving her daughter for the first time.

And those fears have been compounded by the radio silence she has experienced since she left work.

"I tried to keep in touch but all communication was ignored," she says.

She texted colleagues after the baby was born but mostly received taut, single-sentence replies. She was also sent a card with the wrong baby name inside.

Yvette Cooper Yvette Cooper was the first UK minister to take maternity leave

"They didn't even tell me that one of my colleagues was leaving and a senior member of the team was signed off with stress. I guess they blamed me for the extra pressure," she says.

Denise describes the school where she teaches as having a highly pressurised environment and an ambitious ethos. It also has a high turnover of staff.

"Nothing will put me off having more children but this experience has killed any ambition I had to climb the ranks, and certainly any sense of duty I have to my department. If I get pregnant again quickly when I go back, so be it - it's been made very clear the department will go on without me."

'Cut off'

Denise was speaking after ex-Labour minister MP Yvette Cooper told how she felt "cut off" by Whitehall officials when she took maternity leave for a second time.

The mother-of-three described Communities Department staff as "very unsupportive" and said she had to "fight" to keep in touch with developments.

Maternity mentoring

In 2011, accounting firm Ernst and Young launched its maternity mentor scheme to increase retention rates of female staff following maternity leave.

The firm, named as one of the top 50 employers for women in a 2013 Times poll, now sees 95% of its female staff returning from maternity leave, compared with a national average of 77%.

The scheme is made up of four sessions which give managers and staff advice on coping with maternity leave.

In feedback following the sessions, employees said it had given them "greater motivation to continue my career" and "played an enormous part in me keeping my sanity and being successful in work on my return".

Other firms with similar schemes include supermarket chain Asda and Citibank.

Members of Parliament are not classed as employees so are not entitled to any specific provision for maternity leave.

But it appears they are not the only group to experience career difficulties when taking time off to have children.

In March, a poll suggested that one in seven of 1,000 women surveyed had lost their job while on maternity leave, while just under half reported a cut in hours or demotion. More than one tenth had been replaced in their jobs by the person who covered their leave.

Maternity discrimination lawyers Slater & Gordon, who commissioned the poll, said many women appeared not to know where to turn for help and thought even the act of seeking help would damage their career prospects.

It is against the law to dismiss or otherwise disadvantage an employee for a reason related to pregnancy or maternity leave.

But what are the rules around simply keeping in touch?

One often perpetuated myth is that employers are not allowed to contact employees while on maternity leave - however the Work and Families Act 2006 makes it clear that "reasonable contact" is allowed.


So in effect, it is up to the two parties to work out the level of contact that they want to have.

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The vast majority of women would be pleased to let go of the ropes and the ties [of work] because it is supposed to be a special time spent with your baby”

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The employee is allowed 10 paid Keeping in Touch (Kit) days - where they can visit the office - although again, there is no obligation on either party to do this.

An employer could fall foul of sex discrimination laws if they do not alert the woman about potential promotions or reorganisations within the company.

And the Equality and Human Rights Commission says that, in particular, employers should keep in contact with an employee if they are at risk of being made redundant.

Claire, not her real name, felt she was "cut off" when she went on maternity leave from her government post, leaving her feeling "worthless". She later resigned.

She believes there needs to be monthly contact after an initial three months of grace for mother and baby.

"This could be done very informally via email or text or by pre-arranged phone call, or even letter," she says.

"It may even be nice to have another staff member make an informal home visit towards the end of the maternity leave just to bring the person returning to work up to speed with any changes and to check that their return is being managed satisfactorily."

What are you entitled to?

  • Employers should keep women informed of issues affecting them - such as promotion opportunities or job vacancies
  • The amount and type of contact between you and your employer must be reasonable
  • Contact can be made in any way that best suits, for example telephone, email, letter or visit
  • You can work for up to 10 days during maternity leave without it affecting maternity pay. These are Keeping in Touch (Kit) days.
  • You are under no obligation to work Kit days and your employer is under no obligation to offer them
  • Pay for Kit days, and the type of work done, is agreed between employer and employee

Source: Citizens' Advice Bureau

She says a "personal touch" is vital.

Slater & Gordon go a step further.

"Changes to the law to set out the obligations upon employers to communicate effectively with maternity leavers would give women greater clarity as to what information they should be receiving during their absence," says employment lawyer Kiran Daurka.

But Siobhan Freegard, founder of the Netmums website, says she believes the majority of women find it liberating to be away from work - and would find regular contact with the office stressful.

"The vast majority of women would be pleased to let go of the ropes and the ties [of work] because it is supposed to be a special time spent with your baby," she says.

Jo Swinson, Minister for Employment Relations, describes current arrangements for maternity leave as "old-fashioned and rigid".

She says that is why the government is introducing shared parental leave and pay, adding it is "committed to making sure that more businesses make the best use of women's talents throughout the organisation, from the shop floor to the boardroom".

"It will also allow women greater flexibility to return to work earlier if they wish, reducing the impact of pregnancy on women's careers," she says.


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  • rate this

    Comment number 16.

    "IMO the social impact of having a generation of children raised by strangers & TV is of far greater worry than the mild inconvenience of covering someone's role during maternity."

    That's sorted then, we have a volunteer. You can do all the extra maternity leave work

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    Comment number 15.

    LOL, this HYS is evidence enough of how ignorant, spiteful & plain devious many people can be behind your back, in cowardly secrecy.

    One can make a good logical comment & someone will always "bad" attack you & rate you down, they are just endemically nasty ignorant scum people, who are NOT worth knowing anyway.
    Turn your back at work or have time off & the spite knives often come out.

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    Comment number 14.

    We've devalued the importance of the family unit to the point where it's EXPECTED that you shouldn't be able to afford a home & decent standard of life on the back of a single wage. IMO the social impact of having a generation of children raised by strangers & TV is of far greater worry than the mild inconvenience of covering someone's role during maternity.

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    Comment number 13.

    I find it astounding that people like African Gypsy's have such little forsight. Who will look after you when you are old? Want a pension? Need services? It will be our daughters and sons who will do these things, because we brought them into this world, sacrificing often job prosperity and advancement. THINK

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    Comment number 12.

    In my observed experiences, so many people are pretentious & 2 faced. There is this standard where people are nice & talk all luvey dovey to collegues, but they do so only because of the closeness of work situation. Many work relationships are entirely pretentious & false

    It does not just only happen to women on maternity leave, people with illnesses & other issues experience same/worse

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    Comment number 11.

    Every mother's experience is different. Surely many of the issues with communication depend on the relationships that you have with colleagues and bosses at work prior to taking leave? Mothers need to realise that the world doesn't stop just because they had a baby. Use the maternity time to bond with the child, but also make sure that you keep relationships at work going if it's important to you

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    Comment number 10.

    Having a baby is a choice. Either you choose to be at your desk on time from this day forth, or you choose to find yourself another job.

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    Comment number 9.

    Maternity leave should be banned, One is forced to replace the permanent employee with a temporary contractor: you are therefore automatically over budget and behind schedule. You can't go to the client and say "this is a sixth month job, but I'm using a woman so I'll bill you for seven months in case she drops a sprog." The client will say "so use a bloke, instead."

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    Comment number 8.

    Why does the previous generation feel superior for living in a boom that meant that they could afford to have one parent stay at home. Don't they understand that they are the historical outlier? Women go to work and expect to be treated with respect and dignity when they decide to become mothers because society has progressed for the better, not because we have lost sight of the meaning of family

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    Comment number 7.

    Women have been manipulated into the labour force for productivity and political reasons. Nothing to do with women's lib really.

    Society is pressuring women to abandon their kids for the sake of both capitalist (productivity = profit and taxes) and socialist ideals (destroy the family unit and national culture).

    Why isn't the Labour NHS cover up the top story? BBC lefty bias?

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    Comment number 6.

    Motherhood: large, forced subsidies from your employer, your colleagues and the community in general still aren't quite enough

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    Comment number 5.

    My ex-boss stole all my maternity pay and job. I brought them to the court years later. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize that we need to make a complaint within three months (after having a baby). So they got away of it easily. Those evil people named themselves as “NHS senior consultants”, working in a children hospital. How ironic!

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    Comment number 4.

    What on earth is wrong with women today. Having a baby is THE most important thing and should be the best time in a women's life. Women's lib has a lot to answer for. They downgraded the role of wife and mother and convinced a whole generation into believing they were oppressed. Now where's your equality when you have to go out to work and pay someone else to look after your precious children.

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    Comment number 3.

    Maternity leave affects the person taking it: their entire life has just changed dramatically but the work place doesn't stay still. Communication needs to be a two-way thing and the gov should do a whole lot more to help companies pay for maternity cover to protect the job of the new mother and keep work colleagues from doing twice as much work.

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    Comment number 2.

    When I left for maternity leave I knew I had given up any right to returning to the same job because I had decided to come back with reduced hours; that said I had agreed with my manager and his boss that I could come back and do half my job and the other half wouldn't impact on me. When I actually came back my manager and his boss had both moved on, my replacement got my job and I was moved :-(

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    Comment number 1.

    I am glad I had my babies when it was normal for mothers to stay at home. The best years of my life.


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