Who grows a moustache nowadays? Err, me

The moustache finally met the cut-throat razor, to Patrick's delight

Who sprouts hair only on their upper lip these days? Well, plenty of men grew moustaches in November to raise money for prostate cancer charities. Among them was Patrick Heery, who reflects on the highs and socially awkward lows of the last month.

WEDNESDAY 1 DECEMBER

November is over and with it moustaches around the world are succumbing to the sharpness of a razor blade. My own tache has gone and so, I can reflect on my one and only 30-day experience of living with facial hair.

Patrick's tache - the experts' view

Pat Heery's moustache

A natural-looking moustache which fits the face very nicely, fairly evenly proportioned and coloured, and a nice shape.

Note that it complements the gentleman's skin tone and matches the eyebrows. It has good density and a rugged, outdoor, slightly military quality.

The hair appears not to be too coarse and therefore easy to trim and subsequently shave, and if the gentleman is not accustomed to growing moustaches, it is not at all bad for a month's work.

It is almost a shame to shave it off now.

Master barbers Truefitt and Hill, Mayfair, London

I was the least likely person to agree to take part in Movember - a fund-raising event to raise money to fight prostate cancer. I do not do weird and whacky things for charity. I've never sat in a bathtub full of baked beans, worn a red nose, run on treadmill for 24 hours or skydived out of a plane strapped to an instructor. It's just not me.

That's not to say I don't donate to others who carry out these laudable activities to raise money for worthwhile causes. I just don't do the whole charity effort myself.

But then, my children intervened. "Please dad, please - you'll be the best dad ever." And so it went on until I found myself not shaving my upper lip. How hard can it be? Very, very hard indeed.

First you have to live through the surreptitious looks and the knowledge that people are thinking: "Is he growing a moustache? Does he really think that is going to look good?"

Then come the insults - a cat could lick that off, I've seen better moustaches on 13 year olds. Next the comparisons - criminals of the most repellent kind along with Nazis of the Ilk of Himmler or Hitler. The best I managed was looking like a 1950s grocer. None of them would spur anyone on to cultivate a moustache.

I even tried adding a soul patch - the bit of hair under the chin - to add some mystique, but to no avail. I still looked out of place - a strange, military throw-back - like the brigadier on an episode of Dr Who.

As well as all that, you have to cope with the itchiness - actually it's more a constant burning sensation that drives you to distraction, the moustache care - apparently conditioner is the done thing - and the shock of catching a glimpse of your face with something unusual on it.

As the month draws to a close I have learnt some valuable lessons:

A new-found admiration for any moustachioed man. Anyone who chooses this look freely, whatever their reasoning, will always have my utmost respect. It's not an easy look to carry off, so more power to their hairy top lips.

About to shave off your own moustache? Here are some tips

  • Use a good pair of clippers to trim the moustache short
  • Apply pre-shave oil (to soften and raise hairs - good idea after not shaving for a month)
  • Steam face (with hot towel, or in shower or bath) for about 2 minutes
  • Apply glycerin-based shaving cream, or a good shaving soap
  • Lather with a badger-hair brush
  • Shave first with the grain of the hair, reapply cream or soap and then shave across the grain
  • Rinse face and splash with cold water
  • Apply a good aftershave balm to prevent or soothe irritation or razor-burn

Source: Truefitt and Hill

My wife hates facial hair, I mean really, really hates it.

Never pay any attention when your children beg you to do something in return for maximum love or best dad ever status. Within a week they had lost interest. By which time it was far too late.

Movember is a growing phenomenon each year that raises millions for research into the fight against prostate cancer - one of the deadliest cancers in men. I have raised much more than I set out to do and have felt a common cause with all those other uncomfortable-looking men who you have seen on a bus or a train near you who are bursting to shout: "I know it looks stupid but it's for charity." We have lived through the looks, the smiles, the wives and partners who can't stand to look at us - even more than normal. But we have made it.

I've been compared to Groucho Marx, Brian Murphy from George and Mildred, Captain Mainwaring and a weasel from Wind in the Willows.

Some of my fellow Movembees - the Australian cricket team and the X-Factor's Wagner - have come unstuck a bit of late, so it feels like a great time to return to my clean-shaven ways.

And there is one bonus I am really hoping for. With less hair on my face, there's a chance it will re-emphasise the hair on my head. Leave me with that hope, please.

I've been grateful for all your support during what has been a very long month. Here are some of your rather fine efforts.

Readers' moustaches for charity Readers' taches clockwise from top left: Peter Atyeo and Adriano Selmi; Alistair Batchelor; Steve Metcalf and, inset, his mo inspiration, Glenn Hughes, the biker in Village People; and Philip Baker, pictured twice to show progress

MONDAY 29 NOVEMBER

Patrick Heery Eek! It's in your face, but at least it's not on it

There are less than two days to go. I am so excited that I will soon be back in the land of the clean-shaven. I can't tell you how excited, but take it from me, it's a pretty big deal.

I still laugh out loud when I catch a glimpse of myself in the bathroom mirror. The only thing that has kept me going is the amount of money I've raised so far and the messages and pictures of support that you have been sending in.

PROSTATE CANCER

  • Movember is to raise funds and awareness
  • Most commonly diagnosed cancer for UK men
  • Rare in under-50s, but black men and the overweight may be more at risk
  • Warning signs can include frequent urination, difficult or painful urination or ejaculation, or blood in urine or semen
  • But often experience no symptoms

The nicest thing anyone has said about my new appearance so far is that I look like a 1950s grocer. I agree it's not as insulting as being called a Nazi or a criminal of one sort or another - but it's hardly a ringing endorsement of the moustachioed-look.

Well it will be gone in less than 48 hours. And hopefully my wife will start talking to me again.

I'm guessing there are thousands of men in a similar position, willing 30 November to come quick smart, although some might be having second thoughts about getting rid of their new hairy friend.

So before the month is out let's have all your Movember moustache pictures.

Send them to yourpics@bbc.co.uk or text them to 61124 (UK) or +44 7725 100 100 (International) and tag them Movember. If you have a large file you can upload here.

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THURSDAY 25 NOVEMBER

Pat on Day 22 Patrick laments there's still not enough to comb

There is now less than a week to go. Less than a week! I find myself day-dreaming of having a bald, smooth top lip at various times of the day. I cannot wait. Pictures of your taches from around the world have really cheered me up during my moustache month and your kind comments are also much appreciated. As for your less than kind comments - since this is for charity, those have been warmly received too.

It's no secret, if you've been keeping up with this diary, that the experience of growing a moustache hasn't been entirely enjoyable for me. But not for one moment did I consider a moustache could be a safety hazard... until I got talking to a colleague yesterday.

When she was younger, her father used to have a moustache - a big, old droopy one. Now, this colleague has a very severe peanut allergy. Her moustachioed dad, was partial to the odd pint at his local ever now and then and, while having a drink, if he felt a little peckish, he was partial to a packet of nuts. At the end of the evening he would return home and, like any loving father, would have a quick look at his sleeping daughter and give her a goodnight kiss.

However, the droopy moustache had trapped enough essence of peanut that the young girl would wake the next morning with a moustache-assisted, allergy-swelling, trout pout. What more evidence do you need about the dangers of the tache.

But let's not forget this whole month is about reminding us all about the dangers of prostate cancer. The Movember website says that the moustachied men are raising awareness by prompting private and public conversation around the often ignored issue of men's health. They are also raising a lot of money. In the UK alone last year, nearly £5 million was raised. I am happy with my own fundraising efforts but am still hoping for a late push to reach even greater amounts. Now that would make the month much more bearable.

MONDAY 22 NOVEMBER

We are into the last full week of this moustache growing. Movember men across the globe must be cheering - including the fine-looking fellows below, who sent me photos of their own efforts.

Top, from left: Paul Haggath, Mark Coughlan, Iain MacMillan, Lawrence Sinton, and below, British Embassy staff in Washington DC Top, from left, Paul Haggath, Mark Coughlan, Iain MacMillan, Lawrence Sinton; and embassy staff in DC prepare for a tache-off with Antipodean counterparts

After three weeks, I am feeling no happier with my moustachioed look and can't wait to be rid of it.

It has stopped itching at least but it still looks fairly pathetic and is not attracting too many compliments. Once more I can't help but feel sorry for those men whose normal look includes a hairy top lip. Everyone seems to think it makes you look like a sex offender or a Nazi. Not the greatest device for raising one's self-esteem.

I visited my father for the first time since growing the tache and asked him if he'd ever grown one. After saying I looked like a budding Hitler, he admitted that he had not, which got me thinking - where does a son learn how to look after their beard or moustache?

Someone at work told me that bearded men exfoliate, another said that to relieve the itchiness I should clean it with conditioner. Now this may all sound weird but I have been washing my bald head with shampoo for the last 25 years or so, even though it is pretty hairless. That feels more a case of old habits dying hard. I do draw the line at conditioner though.

So, I've looked up grooming tips online. And indeed, a site on beard-care does recommend shampoo and conditioner to keep my moustache soft and in check. It also says I should invest in a fine-toothed comb to keep it tangle free.

I don't think my moustache quite warrants a combing which is a real, real shame. When you haven't had anything of your own to comb for a quarter of a century, the one silver lining of moustache growing would be idly running a comb through my own hair while sitting on the settee of an evening. But I fear in the week left to me, my tache will not get the required bushiness to justify it.

A selection of your moustache-care tips for Patrick

I have had a tache since 16. I am 60 now and my kids and grandkids say I am not allowed to shave it off. My tip is shave from the centre outwards to each side.

Alan Carr, Wallsend, Tyne & Wear

Conditioner is definitely the way to go. My mo is entering its third week and (excuse the pun) growing on me. And I got into the NBL game for free, just by growing the mo (as well as other official rewards for fundraising). And the Taipans won - good times! Keep it going mo bros up there in the UK. Not long to go...

Philip Baker, Cairns, QLD, Australia

My 'tache is two weeks old, as I started late, and is coming on nicely, but then I have grown one, on and off, since I was 15. All I do with mine is trim it on occasion, and give it a shampoo when I remember. It is not the same as a beard, which does need a good shampoo, with an occasional visit made to the barber's just to get the shape redifined.

Neal Roallson, Brentford, Middlesex

My dad always had facial hair, be it a full beard, a 'stache, or a jaunty Van Dyke. He lost the hair on his head in his early 20s and tried to make up for it with wonderful facial hair. He always looked quite handsome with a beard until it turned grey and he started dying it with over the counter black hair colour. No-one had the heart to tell him how bad it looked. I like a man with facial hair and I think it's because of my dad.

Cheryl Brown, Clacton on Sea

Don't forget that when you have a draught of beer, you have to suck your moustache dry. And yes, combing is necessary.

Mr J, Oxford

It seems odd that humankind has adopted the idea that shaving is the norm. The damage inflicted upon male faces over the years must prove the truth is that not shaving is the better choice... regardless of whether the bearer can grow a lot or a little!

Jack Frost, via Facebook

Growing a moustache for Movember means shaving properly for the time in years. I use clippers, but dislike being clean shaven. Seems such a waste of time. We are men!

Jon Wade, via Facebook

Keep your tache short, pick out the bits of food regularly, and of course keep it clean. I wash my tache and beard at same time as washing face, occasionally wash beard with shampoo.

Steve Haines, Hampshire

The best tip for making that 'tache looking good is to get some similar coloured eye liner and thickening up the colour only takes a light touch over the facial hair (NOT THE FACE ITSELF) and it stands out great.

James, Glos

Patrick, persevere! I think it looks lovely and it will get even better. And well done for standing up for a good cause.

Elena, London

Patrick, your 'tache looks lovely, keep going.

Marina Gray, Dumbarton, Scotland

WEDNESDAY 17 NOVEMBER

Pat Heery with tache after seven then 14 days Er, what a difference a week makes - Pat, left, last week, and right, on day 14

I am halfway through this month of fundraising facial hair, which is fantastic. Two weeks today and I will be clean-shaven once again. But is this moustache that's refusing to grow on me, growing on me?

In short, no. As I have said since the start of the month, I am not really enjoying the challenge of growing a moustache. But from the outset everyone has asked about one particular aspect. "Is it itchy?" "Don't worry, the itchiness doesn't last."

Arthur Lowe as Captain Mainwaring Does Captain Mainwaring remind you of someone?

But I thought it was one aspect of whisker-growing I was going to be spared - maybe my pathetic attempt was so feeble it couldn't even muster the required bristliness to make it itch.

But no. Yesterday, it began to itch, although it was an itch that felt more like a burn, a burning sensation on my top lip that wouldn't stop. Is that normal? It's just one more reason to add to the list of things wrong with facial hair. At least it might signal a start of more industrial growth - well I can but hope.

Tuesday was also the day I got my first compliment. "I think it suits you," said one colleague. Now I never expected to hear that. But don't worry. Compliments are far outweighed by the insults. "Do us all a favour and go and wash it off," one Newsroom wag offered. Roll on December.

Below is a selection of your suggested lookalikes for Patrick

Sorry Patrick but you have an uncanny resemblance to the weasels from Wind In The Willows. That said, my tashe is failing miserably and I've learned there is a massive hole in my beard that doesn't fill in, right on the Lemma line.

Rob, Bristol

I've seen this fella on Time Team. Didn't know he'd gone bald.

Alan Winter, via Facebook

I do believe the gentleman rather resembles Baldric, of Blackadder infamy. With or without the 'tache.

Simon Cope, Burton On Trent, Staffs

More like Blackpool manager Ian Holloway.

Hooton Roberts, via Twitter

He looks a bit like Andy Barnes, a Scrapheap Challenge regular, captain of The Barley Pickers. Proper job!

Luke, Bromley

My own effort makes me look like Kenneth Branagh in The Boat That Rocked. I look like a 1960s civil servant, too young to have fought in the war, too old to enjoy the sexual revolution, bristling with suppressed rage at his own lack of glory and sexual frustration, all expressed in a moustache. I can't wait to get rid of it.

Oscar Franklin, London, UK

I hate to say it, but you are looking strangely similar to Heinrich Himmler. Put on some round-lensed glasses, switch the good-humoured and cheerful look for the serious and slightly squinty gaze as in the "Captain Mainwaring" photo, and the moustache will do the rest.

John Smith, Victoria, British Columbia

It looks like my old maiden aunt who had a shadow or small rodent perched just beneath the nostril area.

David Black,

I have been married to a luxuriant moustache for more than 25 years. If you want to keep it, grow it long and only clip back when too much froth from the top of your beer drops to the floor. Neat and tidy m's are like kissing a toothbrush, go for the long and soft and reap the benefits.

Ann Ward, Lancashire

MONDAY 15 NOVEMBER

Right, so we are two weeks in and I have to say I am not impressed with any aspect of moustache-growing so far.

I wake every morning hoping that my top lip will be home to an impressive bristling tache, but no - it seems to be the same patchy, frankly Velcro-like line of hair. At least it means everyone can continue to make fun of my moustache-growing ability to their heart's content.

Wagner from X Factor The epitome of cool, apparently - Wagner from X Factor

As I've said before, it seems unfair that a man can be judged by others for his ability or lack of ability to grow facial hair. If a man's masculinity was judged rather on his power to grow hair on his back I would be up there with Arnold Schwarzernegger and Jean Claude Van Damme. Life is so unfair for those bald men, struggling to grow moustaches but with an abundance of hair sprouting in places where they'd rather not have it.

As I've mentioned before, my wife hates my putative moustache - tells me off if I try to kiss her. That's fair enough. But her reaction, when clapping eyes on the picture sent in by Lawrence Sinton [posted further down in this story] was rather less hostile. "Ooh, could you send me that picture," she asked.

A colleague suggested it was because Lawrence had a, I believe the term is soul patch - the little piece of beard under the bottom lip - that he managed to carry the look off. A dig around on Wikipedia reveals this was a look sported by jazz musicians in the 50s and 60s... which probably tells you all you need to know about why the look is cool.

So, I'll give it a go. But hang on, I can't help noticing this weekend's most prominent proponent of the tache and soul patch. The X F actor's Wagner. To be fair he carries it off well but if he's the epitome of cool, I want no part of it.

Below is a selection of your comments on this update

Patrick, Lawrence Sinton is cheating. It's only meant to be upper lip.

Mark Coughlan, via Twitter

My husband is on day 15 of Movember as well - he, however, is having no issues in filling in his handlebar moustache. Tell your wife to count her blessings that she's dealing with a strip of Velcro rather than a member of the Village People...

Helen, Calgary, AB

Got to say that's a pretty pathetic excuse for a moustache. I'd grow more than that in 24 hours!

David, Ilkeston, England

I am also on day 15, it is going well now and I can almost forget I have one. A tip I received when mine was not showing was to colour it in with mascara. Perhaps you can artificially give yourself a prominent mo... Good luck and keep up the good work. Loving this update.

Terry Lane, London

THURSDAY 11 NOVEMBER

Now, did I say I was happy with my masculinity? Well I am, but I wish this thing would bush up a bit if for no other reason than to stop the gags like: "I'll sponsor you when it begins to show."

So I thought I'd seek consolation from the comments on the site. So thanks James from South Wales for this: "Well at least at the end of the month you won't need to shave... you can just get a cat to lick it off."

And this from Jonathan Friend: "I've seen better moustaches on 13-year-olds."

Lawrence Sinton Lawrence Sinton - sporting a tache and soul patch combo

Friend by name if not by nature, it seems. Thanks, though, to Lawrence Sinton (see picture, right) who has offered moral support by sending a picture of his own Mo-vember effort. "I am getting comparisons to the bad Michael Knight or Tom Selleck," he says. Hmmm, doesn't sound like he's getting too many gags about cats licking it off.

When I catch sight of myself in a mirror I wonder who my newly-moustachioed self reminds me of - a bit of Blakey from On The Buses or Captain Mainwaring from Dad's Army maybe. The moustache seems to get a bit of bad press - adorning the lips of figures of fun. But there have been some taches of note that deserve a mention.

Selleck in Magnum PI is probably every man's idea of a moustache (see picture under Tuesday's entry). He would not have been the same, smooth, suave figure without his big, impressive moustache. It is manly, cool and probably inspired many a top lip to follow suit.

The moustache also seems to be the facial appendage of choice to some of the most infamous names in history - Hitler sported a paint pot moustache which helped make him look dangerous and frankly unhinged. What Charlie Chaplin once carried with humour, Hitler deported with malevolence. Stalin's effort was a much fuller, warmer tache - but once again presumably does not inspire too many copycats.

PROSTATE CANCER

  • Movember is to raise funds and awareness
  • Most commonly diagnosed cancer for UK men
  • Rare in under-50s, but black men and the overweight may be more at risk
  • Warning signs can include frequent urination, difficult or painful urination or ejaculation, or blood in urine or semen
  • But often experience no symptoms

The world of sport was a happy home for many moustaches once upon a time. Australian cricketers loved them. Remember Merv Hughes - now that was a moustache. And David Boon - I think those top lips made me hate the Aussie cricket team even more than the regular drubbings they dished out. Swimmers - Mark Spitz and David Wilkie; world-class athletes - Daley Thompson - these men were in their time the epitome of masculinity as well as success.

In the modern sporting world it seems moustaches have been replaced by tattoos as the accessory of choice.

But the tache doesn't have to be the home of only the despotic world leaders or stars of the world of sport. My own personal favourites are worn by Barry and Paul Chuckle - the Chuckle Brothers. Now those are moustaches worn with style. If I end up with a Chuckle at the end of November, I'll be laughing.

Below is a selection of your comments on this update

Rejoice - 11 days in and had to remove food from mine last night. Some lessons in moustachioed eating definitely required.

Richard Nott, Aberdeen, Scotland

I only allow my chums to abuse me if, and only if, they cough up sponsorship. Keeps the Facebook insults down and the money up.

Neil Stevens, Tadley, Hampshire

We once saw (unexpectedly, mind you) the World Beard & Moustache Championships - you have a way to go!

MagellanPR , via Twitter

Lots of great figures in music wear a moustache. Brandon Flowers from The Killers, David Crosby from The Byrds and CSN, all of the Beatles during the years between Sgt Peppers and Let it Be, Ian Anderson from Jethro Tull just to name a few. Lando Calrissian in Star Wars, the most important man with a tash ever, in any time or space.

Chris, Bristol

Back in our college days, many of the young men used a girlfriend's mascara to make their tache look fuller, or to give it the right colour. It's worth a try.

Leila,

It's great to have a choice. After extensive head/neck surgery, I was unable to shave for months and ended up with what friends told me was a decent beard. Then, I had to have (brutal) head/neck radiotherapy, which totally destroyed the majority of the newly acquired beard. Such is life...

Mark Lord , via BBC News Magazine on Facebook

Keep going Patrick! If your efforts encourage one man to get a PSA test done for an early diagnosis, then it will be all worthwhile.

Joy, Bedford, England

I'm having similar comments - one was "it's like a rugby team, 15 a side". I'm persevering though, no matter how silly I look.

Darren Rye, Birmingham, UK

May women join?

Sara, London

I generally don't like moustaches, but my dad wouldn't be the same without his. He has always had a moustache, except for once when I was a small child - he accidentally shaved off half his moustache. For the two weeks it took to re-grow, my four-year-old self cried and screamed every time I was left in a room with him. I had no idea who the clean-shaven man in my house was.

Stefi, Sussex

WEDNESDAY 10 NOVEMBER

Yesterday was a great day in my moustache-growing journey. A colleague looked at me and then asked whether I was growing my moustache for Movember. I could have kissed him. Yes, yes, yes I was and he was the first person to realise it. That felt good. He then admitted his first thought had been that my wife had kicked me out. Wow - anyone growing a moustache just for pleasure must have to put up with a lot of questioning as to why.

The other thing I've noticed is the number of men who have a look at my nine-day growth and say: "Is that it?" or "In a couple of weeks' time there might be something to see." (Jonathan Fried, your comment from yesterday - see below - is just one of many of this ilk.) Now, I've never claimed to be some sort of Dave Lee Travis and I'm not sure I'll have the bushiest tache to show off at the end of the month. But should that cause me to question my masculinity? I've fathered two children and lost the hair on my head so I don't think I need anymore reaffirmation of my testosterone.

As I've said, I am finding this moustache growing very difficult, but it prompted me to look up a bit of info on the most common cancer in men in the UK. Some 36,000 men are diagnosed with prostate cancer every year and more than 10,000 die from the condition.

Right then, let me concentrate on growing this moustache.

Below is a selection of your comments on this update

Keep at it! A number of us from work are doing it too. It's amazing how self-conscious it makes you feel.

Charles Smith, Crawley, W Sussex

Well at least at the end of the month you won't need to shave... you can just get a cat to lick it off.

James, South Wales

I am taking part in Mo-vember for the first time and have just started a new job. I am the only man in the office and 10 days in some of the women are still beating me for growth on the top lip. My wife and I can not wait for 1 December and if it was not for my friends who I meet with once a week also taking part and sharing mo-stories, it would be gone.

David Scott, Glasgow

It's 35 years since I last had a moustache but a conversation with some friends about Movember convinced me to try. My father died from prostate cancer, and I found out this weekend that my father-in-law is having a biopsy this week. The big drawback is that my colleagues at work are vying to find different names for me e.g. Pablo, Pedro, Speedy etc. As long as they stump up the cash at the end of the month, they can call me anything.

Chris Alexander, Chester

TUESDAY 9 NOVEMBER

I hate facial hair. I've never understood why anyone would grow a beard or moustache - I have never met a man who doesn't look better once clean shaven. When someone shaves off a beard they always look years younger, more human, just better.

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I've been told I look like a school caretaker, a football hooligan and a porn star”

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I don't think I am beardist - well maybe a bit - but I've just never seen the point. I've certainly never tried to grow a beard or moustache myself. I'm not one of those men who has to shave every day and I've often thought I would struggle to grow anything resembling a decent beard. But why would I want to? I've been as bald as a coot for 15 years so if I could grow more hair I would want it on my head not my face.

But then along comes Movember - for the uninitiated, it's a worldwide fund-raising campaign for prostate cancer charities, in which men grow moustaches in return for sponsorship. Even then, it's the sort of thing I could usually resist with ease but, when my son's teachers all said they were taking part, he really wanted me to do the same and, in a moment of weakness, I wilted.

We are now eight days in and it has got to the stage where it is clear something is going on. I no longer just look unshaven, there is a definite shape to things on my top lip. It leads to my first dilemma. I want to shout out to everyone I meet: "I know it looks awful, I'm not the sort of person who would grow one of these for fun - it's for charity."

Tom Selleck Attaboy: Tom Selleck provides a blueprint

The worst thing is that at the moment, people aren't saying anything. They must see something is going on but they don't say: "Oh, are you growing a moustache?" Then at least I could say why. But at the moment everyone is being very polite and no-one is saying anything. And it drives me mad.

Thing is, when I started out I thought there would be moustaches all over the place, a brotherhood of fundraisers, all in it together, seeing who is making the most progress or looks silliest. Supportive glances across a meeting room, a common understanding. But no. I look round the BBC newsroom and mine is the only top lip with bristles on it.

I have to say, I want to shave it off. I want to shave it off so much. The razor is calling to me but there are more than three weeks to go. But I already can't stand it. It's just not me - I've been told I look like a school caretaker, a football hooligan and a porn star.

My wife hates it and I hate it. I am going to have to raise a lot of money to make this worthwhile. I initially thought £200 would be good but I would happily shave it off and stump up that sum myself. So maybe I've got to aim higher.

The only thing keeping me going - apart from the fact that it is for a cancer charity and we all have had lives touched by cancer and know what a ruthless killer it can be - is that my kids love it. They really, really love it.

So for now I'll keep going, trying to raise some cash, but I can't promise it'll make it to the end of November.

Below is a selection of your comments on this update

I have been doing Movember for two years now and it does get easier as the month progresses. As someone who has been through a male-related cancer scare myself, I feel that it is really important to get the word out - especially for men-related health issue. Just remember that there are lots of styles to choose from and that you are not alone!

Ayad, Gatineau, Canada

What to do if you already have a moustache? I've had my wild moustache for nearly 40 years and have only shaved it off two or three times and re-growth it quickly each time - my face just looks bland and incomplete. Keep going - it's for good cause.

Smilesping, Godalming

I am a proud moustache-wearer, have been ever since I could produce something like one. I have often wondered at the British prejudice towards moustaches. Either one is regarded as a freak, or (in the case of the homophobes) one is automatically classed as a homosexual man, which, so sorry, is not something determined by a moustache.

D. Fear, Heidelberg, Germany

I've seen better moustaches on 13-year-olds.

Jonathan Fried, Granada, Spain

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