'Time to face death head-on'

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Death will, as ever, come to us all. But in this week's Scrubbing Up, end of life expert Professor Keri Thomas says it is time to face up to the need to plan properly for our demise.

As we are frequently reminded, we are in an ageing society and we live and die differently now.

Previously, most people died from accident, infection or childbirth having been previously well. This is still the way that many die in developing countries- from HIV, TB, infant diarrhoea, and trauma.

Over the last century the way we die has changed - most of us now dying later from more predictable gradual decline of one or many of our organs.

Previously we could be death-fearing or death-denying - now we have to be death-aware and "death-prepared".

For the first time therefore we have a chance , not only to know that one day we will die, but to prepare for it and to live in the context of our dying.

For many, death is still seen as failure as we perform futile heroics, postponing the inevitable whilst providing inadequate support for those at this crucial time in their lives.

How can we hold the balance of striving to prevent avoidable early death, yet facing its imminent reality by better supporting people at this vital time?

Good preparation

The answer is, in part, to listen harder.

When asked, most people say they want to live, and live as well as possible until they die.

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If we get it right for the dying, we get it right for the living too”

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We then want to die well in the place and manner of our choosing with those we wish to be with, peacefully, with dignity, having done all we need to do and made good preparations for our final journey.

That is the essence of advance care planning and the movement to improve end of life care for all, of which I and many colleagues are involved.

It does not inevitably lead to an attempt to control death through euthanasia, but it is a fervent desire to affirm life, supporting people to live well until they die and to get it right when the time eventually comes to die.

It is time we face our own mortality head-on.

Surely we must firstly admit that this is going to hit us all; secondly, make strategic practical plans at every level to be prepared; and thirdly, initiate our own personal plans.

Dying matters

The majority of those working in health and social care who deal with people nearing the end of life are not specialists, but generalist frontline staff doing the best they can with the resources they have.

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Like the rest of us, they find it difficult to tackle the taboo subject of death and dying.

And yet, if people are not given the opportunity to discuss their preferences for how and where they would like to be cared for, the chances of fulfilling those wishes are inevitably reduced.

Advance care planning can play a major part in improving the care a person will receive.

Although in essence it is a considered discussion with family, friends and professional carers, it works best as part of a process of planning leading to the delivery of quality care in alignment with peoples' wishes.

We need to deliver better end-of-life care for all in every setting, and to have more discussions of matters related to death and dying.

There is much good work already going on, but more still to do.

This week is the national 'Dying Matters' awareness week, and next month we will hold our annual GSF meeting as part of the International Society for Advance Care Planning and End of Life Care conference, being held in London.

The NHS also has the National End of Life Care Programme, which works with health and social care providers across England to improve adult end of life care.

By actively and bravely living with dying and planning ahead, nationally, locally and personally, we might be able to affirm the full value of life so that "when our time comes to die, dying is all we have left to do".

If we get it right for the dying, we get it right for the living too.


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    Comment number 205.

    9 Hours ago
    Why can't I pay for terminal medication, removal of my body to a recyling plant and execution of my will alltogether in advance.
    Soylent Green anyone?
    It might be the "greenest" choice.However with the resulting medication residue the Soylent Green option might not pass inspection. :)

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    Comment number 204.

    Why can't I pay for terminal medication, removal of my body to a recyling plant and execution of my will alltogether in advance.
    Soylent Green anyone?

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    Comment number 203.

    @201 & 202:
    There are some good answers to the questions you both pose but it would be off track some for the subject at hand.But I think it would be reasonable to consider how Western civilization has been impacted by religion & how many things that we take for granted are a result of Judeo-Christian teaching. We have started to unravel that fabric & I don't think it portends well for society.

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    Comment number 202.

    The communist is right.No-one is suggesting people with religious beliefs have to get involved in euthanasia.They should leave the rest of us to make our own minds up & not inflict their bigotry on us.
    Haven't all the religions inflicted enough misery & suffering on the world already???

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    Comment number 201.


    Why does everything have to be about religion. Not everyone believes in a "Him" or a "Spirit" or whatever. Just because YOU believe in some faith doesn't mean that everyone else does too.

    Honestly why would "God" care about humans worshipping him. Because supposedly he "created" the Earth in seven days and all. So why does he need people to believe in him.


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