Modern childhood 'ends at age of 12'

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Childhood is over for many children by the age of 12, according to members of a parenting website.

Netmums website users are complaining that children are under pressure to grow up too fast.

They say that girls are made to worry about their appearance and boys are pushed into "macho" behaviour at too young an age.

The website's co-founder Siobhan Freegard blamed a "toxic combination of marketing, media and peer pressure".

"The pace of modern life is so fast that it is even snatching away the precious years of childhood," she said.

"Children no longer want to be seen as children, even when as parents we know they still are."

"There needs to be a radical rethink in society to revalue childhood and protect it as a precious time - not time to put pressure on children to grow up far too fast," said Ms Freegard.

The website asked for its members' views and received more than a thousand replies.

The most common view - from more than two-thirds of this group - was that childhood was now over by the age of 12.

'Under pressure'

About a third of those replying to this online snapshot believed that childhood ended even sooner, at the age of 10.

Parents voiced concerns that children were being put under pressure to act older than their years.

Girls were made to worry about their appearance and their weight, boys were meant to act tough and both boys and girls were under pressure to take an interest in sex at too young an age.

"Children need time to grow and emotionally mature in order to cope with what life throws at them," says Ms Freegard.

This is the latest example of parental concerns about children growing up in an oversexualised culture.

Claire Perry MP, the prime minister's adviser on childhood, has warned about children accessing inappropriate material on websites or through mobile phones.

Another MP, Diane Abbott, attacked what she called the "pornification" of youth culture, in which young people were growing up in an environment of sexual bullying and explicit sexual images.


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    Comment number 476.

    Two years before GCSE is when youngsters have to take responsibility for themselves, because the world starts to make demands upon them as individuals. That's inescapable, because they know then that they are in the rat race.10-13 is the post primary/pre-teen period when they start to become self-aware, with the issues that brings. It's that 10-13 period that risks being lost.

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    Comment number 475.

    I always felt that middle schools neatly solved this problem, by separating children 13 and under from much older and more grown up young adults. Sadly they are phasing them out where they still exist. Boys particularly seem to benefit, as they mature slightly later than girls. The private prep school system also keeps pupils to 13 before they go to their secondaries. Seems to work better that way

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    Comment number 467.

    Furthermore, I think education stages is about right, my kids at 4 were both desperate to start school, my ten year old is looking forward (truly) to SATs tests as she expects to excel, and the move to secondary school is at the right time, my daughter's body is changing and her mind needs more expansion.
    The thing to do with kids of this age is not more mollycoddling, but more parental guidance.

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    Comment number 372.

    Modern childhood 'ends at age of 12'....

    ...I am

    * 46 years old
    * married
    * a father
    * a professional
    * an engineer

    ...but I still love Tom and Jerry. Who wants to grow up? ;-)

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    Comment number 356.

    My great great grandad worked from age 9 to 73 as a coal miner so had no childhood.
    I have children myself 1 wanted to grow up too fast and 1 is happy still being a child at almost 15


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