Viewpoint: 10 jargon phrases used for my autistic son

 
Mark Neary and his autistic son Steven Mark and Steven Neary

My son Steven is 23. He has autism and other learning difficulties. And the language of the social care system seems to make his life sound even less "normal" than it is.

The adult social care world is about many things, but one thing that I feel it's not about is care. The language seems to mislead you right from the start. Processes seem to come before people in a system of impenetrable management where money is the biggest consideration.

Day centres are closed down. Although you may have considered them a helpful lifeline, this closure is not a negative thing because it's been done to promote independence.

Service user choice is also a fabulous phrase until you find it results in being given a sum of money to purchase your own care provider but no one provides care at those rates which are calculated for you by a fairer charging policy. Which also sounds good but isn't.

Steven was transitioned into adult services six years ago. Soon after, he was taken into a care unit against all our wishes which resulted in a well-documented court case (Autistic man unlawfully detained, June 2011).

One of the unit's ideas was that he should have a person-centred plan. He had to create a wish list, and came up with six things:

  • Live at home with Dad
  • Go on holiday to Somerset
  • Have Christmas presents at home
  • See Toy Story 3 at the cinema
  • Have breakfast in the bacon shop
  • Go swimming at Hampton open-air pool

All six wishes were refused because they were not considered to be in his best interests. To me, that's not a person-centred plan, that's a system-centred plan.

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Mark Neary and Steven in the pool

Mark Neary is a blogger and father to Steven, who has autism and other learning difficulties

A service user, like Steven, is a case and every piece of minutiae from his life must be recorded and analysed. For two years I had to keep logs of everything my son did. I still have 565 sheets of paper, all saying: "Steven had pears, grapes, bananas and oranges for breakfast." For 126 consecutive Mondays, a support worker recorded "Steven watched a Mr Bean DVD with his father."

I was never once asked to hand over the logs I'd written.

One manager explained to me once that everything learning disabled people do must have a value - not too bad until you realise that someone else is setting the value and its parameters are very narrow. Who on high decreed that everything we do must have some value?

I write a lot about the language of the social care world. I love it when I read stuff like transparency because the reality seems to be the opposite. I therefore tend to work on the principle that the opposite of what is being presented is probably closer to the reality.

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If Steven chooses either steak or fish for his tea, he is being empowered”

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But the thing that really gets my goat is when a person's entire life, everything they do, is jargonised.

I was recently comparing with a friend the way I present the everyday norms of my own life with the way the social care world presents Steven's life. We were having the conversation in a pub. If Steven were to go to that pub, or to a gym or swimming pool, for instance, he might be described as accessing the community.

Here are 10 jargon phrases I jotted down on the back of a beer mat, the kind of things which make Steven's life sound even less "normal":

1. I live in my home. Steven's current placement is in the family home.

2. When I make a pizza, I'm making a pizza. When Steven makes a pizza, he's increasing his independence skills (as overseen by an occupational therapist).

3. If I cry, I'm sad about something. If Steven cries, it is logged and analysed by the psychologist and positive behaviour team.

4. If I shout or swear, I'm angry about something. If Steven shouts or swears, it is challenging behaviour and new behaviour management plans need to be drawn up.

Mark Neary and Steven at a theme park Acessing the community aka a day at a theme park

5. If I choose between steak or fish for my tea, I'm making a choice. If Steven chooses either steak or fish for his tea, he is being empowered.

6. I have friends. Steven has a circle of support and influence.

7. If I'm asked what I want to do with my free time, I'm planning my hobbies. If Steven is asked what he wants to do with his free time, it's his person-centred plan.

8. If I make an unwise choice, I've messed up. If Steven makes an unwise choice he may be lacking mental capacity.

9. If I sort my CDs into alphabetical order, I'm being a bit anal. If Steven sorts his Mr Bean DVDs into colour order, he is being inappropriately obsessive.

10. If I eat two Mars bars, I'm being a pig. If Steven eats two Mars bars, he is challenging boundaries.

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    Comment number 87.

    Social care is a profession, and like any other profession has its own vocabulary and accepted practices, and there's nothing wrong with these in themselves. Non-professionals shouldn't get bogged down with it, though, especially clients and families. It's like music - the musician reads the notation and spends hours preparing and rehearsing, but all that's important to the audience is the music.

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    Comment number 44.

    We all lack 'mental capacity' from time to time and I believe the way to help everyone, not just kids with Autism, but other learning difficulties is to make sign language universal. It's extremely important to be able to communicate, and it's my belief sign language is the way for all to communicate and should be part of the national cirriculum

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    Comment number 154.

    I wonder what Mr Neary's reaction would be if social workers noted nothing down and told him his son is "being anal" or a "being a pig"? Another court case? The jargon was created so that social workers can describe behaviours without putting people's backs up, especially those of close family members, by referring to them in "normal" terms". I guess that doesn't make an engaging blog though?

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    Comment number 259.

    Well I'm sure the leftie do gooders at the BBC have an empathy with the politically correct clap trap that Steven and Mark have to put up with!

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    Comment number 411.

    Interesting. Pretty much all the care and attention and time spent on this man's son dismissed with sneering sarcasm. No wonder it's increasingly difficult to get people to work in this field.

 

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