Stimming: What autistic people do to feel calmer

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There is a slang word that people in the autism community use to describe the noises and movements they sometimes make to feel calmer. It also covers habits such as nail-biting.

What is this word?

It's stimming, short for the medical term self-stimulatory behaviours - a real mouthful.

Stimming might be rocking, head banging, repeatedly feeling textures or squealing. You'll probably have seen this in people with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) but not really wanted to ask about it.

It is a term used widely in the ASD community.

Why do people with autism stim?

There are many reasons. The world-renowned animal behaviourist Temple Grandin is on the spectrum and says most people stim simply because it feels good.

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In Autism Digest in 2011, she said dribbling sand through her fingers was a feeling that used to calm her. Referring to her own childhood experiences, she said that stimming "may counteract an overwhelming sensory environment, or alleviate the high levels of internal anxiety these kids typically feel every day". A real life example is that it could stop sounds hurting your ears.

As an adult, Grandin seems to control the sensory overload a little better but says some people need to stim to "refocus and realign their systems".

UK campaigner Robyn Steward says she relaxes her wrists and lets her hands flap up and down when she's happy or anxious. A public speaker with autism, Stewart thinks that for her, it's the rhythmic nature of stimming that does the trick. "When babies don't sleep well, you put them in the car, in their car seat, and you drive about. They are lulled to sleep by the sound and the movement because they feel safe." The repetitive sound, she says, is a good example of a stim outside of the context of autism.

So, in short, stimming is often done to block unwanted sounds or visuals through distraction, or to bring focus. Not all noises and movement are stims - these have a purpose. Tics, for instance, are purposeless.

Is it just people on the autism spectrum who stim?
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No. Neurotypicals, or people without autism (you, maybe?), also self-stimulate; nail biting, hair twirling and foot tapping all count as stims.

NTs, as they're known for short, can usually control their stims and tend to do ones that are considered more acceptable in public than those done by people with autism.

There are blogs and web forums where people on the spectrum discuss stimming, compare stims and discuss public reactions.

Should stimming be stopped?

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"Quiet hands" is a gentle request you might hear from teachers or parents in the US encouraging children to stop stimming. The consensus between autism experts now seems to favour not intervening unless it's causing harm, no matter that it may look a bit different or cause others to feel uncomfortable.

On the Talk About Autism forum, a contributor called Claire (who is on the spectrum herself), writes: "[Stopping stims is] a bit like 'teaching' someone who is blind not to feel things in a room to find out where they are because we don't like them putting their arms and hands out to do so.

"It has a purpose. Stopping it in order to make others feel better seems bizarre to me."

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    Comment number 6.

    To the critics who demand conformity: have you never considered how we find the world? Noisy, inconsistent and stressful as a result. Add the real discrimination we face (most autists are unemployed because job interviews do not allow us to shine). Is it any wonder we try self-calming measures. The alternative is meltdown. You do not want that.

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    Comment number 24.

    To 1, LS. " Autistic people usually need to be taught to adapt to social situations. Expecting the world to change for them is impractical." And you are the one supposed to have the better "social skills" and "emotional empathy"? Wow.
    Why not step into our world a bit, rather than insisting on dragging us into yours. You developing your range of social tolerance would be "more acceptable."

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    Comment number 19.

    My 8yo son is on the spectrum and stims. (Flaps/spins/hums) when he is stressed, upset and when he's excited. He can't help it. it's what he does. I can't explain how it feels when people look at him like he's an alien or roll their eyes at me like I'm a bad mother and I dread the day he notices these negative reactions. People need to stop judging things they clearly do not understand.

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    Comment number 2.

    It doesn't sound as though the author wanted the world to change for her but perhaps become more accepting of what looks odd to non autistic people. I don't know what autistic people need but I suspect being likened to a flapping chicken isn't high on their list of needs.

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    Comment number 11.

    If they aren't harming themselves or anyone else, causing disruption or being a danger or a nuisance, why does it matter what anyone does or the reason they do it?

    Everyone has their quirks. Even "normal" people.


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