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this bustling world that we live in we are all becoming workaholics
and it is your career that it being put first instead of a love life.
Speaking from my own experience I left my boyfriend of two years to
come to Lincoln because it was somewhere where I felt that I could
be happy.
The
long distance relationship gets so much bad press. Everyone warns
you that it will fail and sometimes it does but if you are committed
then there is no reason why you can’t pursue the career you
want and have a love life a train journey away.
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is just one way of staying in touch |
For
some a train journey would still not bridge the gap. Candice Driver
is also in her second year at Lincoln and sees her boyfriend from
Mexico in the holidays. Candice said that they keep their relationship
going via the computer and that it is difficult. "I have no
idea if it will work but I hope so."
Even
if you do break up there is still hope for your relationship. Shereen
Thomas, also at Lincoln got back together with her boyfriend two
months ago. "We were together for about two years then broke
up just before I came to university." They broke up because
Shereen was going to University but decided to try again. So far
it is going well.
Some
tips for keeping your relationship going:
Make time for each other. This may seem hard when you live far away
but this doesn’t just mean making time to see each other but
talking.
Talk
on the phone or email each other. I have a contract phone with free
minutes so I always speak to my boyfriend for about half an hour
every other day.
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messages are quick and easy |
Take
it in turns to visit each other if you can. A four to five hour
train journey separates my boyfriend and me so we see each other
about three times in a semester.
As
he also goes to University and works we have to plan around our
timetables to find time to meet up.
Go
out with your friends and enjoy nights out. Try and have at least
one friend you go out with who is also in a relationship back home.
This helps as then you can talk with someone who isn’t on the
pull on a night out.
University
is about working hard and playing hard so although you may be thinking
of someone at home don’t forget about why you’re at university
in the first place.
The
sad thing with a long distance relationship is the fact that nobody
tells you about the good things. The longest I have spent without
seeing my boyfriend is about two months. It was hard and I did miss
him, especially when I saw other couples together but when I finally
did see him again it was like falling in love again.
In
some ways the distance actually brings you closer because you realise
how much you can love someone. When I left for University in the
first year a girl that worked with my boyfriend warned him that
we would break up and that I would cheat on him. This girl didn’t
even know me so for her to make such a judgement really angered
me.
So
if you’re worried about your relationship because of the distance
remember the good things and don’t heed the all too well meaning
friends who warn you it won’t work, make up your own mind.
After all it won’t be too long before you're back.
Karolina
Holeszowska
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