课程 34

Divorce parties
የፍች ድግስ

In today’s episode we will be discussing people celebrating their divorce with a party
በዛሬው ዝግጅታችን ፍቺያቸውን በድግስ ስለሚያከብሩ ሰዎች እንወያያለን።

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    练习题 1

练习题 1

Divorce parties

Look at the Session Vocabulary – make sure you know what these words and phrases mean:

  • hurt
  • draw a line under
  • closure
  • move on

Quiz

According to the UK’s Office of National Statistics, what is the most common age for people getting divorced?

a) 30-34
b) 35-39
c) 40-44

Listen to the discussion and find out the answer.

Listen to the audio and take the quiz.

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ዘሩባቤል

ሰላም፥ ስለአንድ ጉዳይ ወደምንወያይበትና ስለጉዳዩ ለማውራት የሚያስፈልገውን ቋንቋ ወደምናቀርብበት የEnglish Together ዝግጅት እንኳን በደህና መጡ። ዘሩባቤል እባላለሁ። አብረውኝ ደግሞ. . .

Phil
Hi, I'm Phil.

Sam
And I’m Sam, hello…. 

ዘሩባቤል
የዛሬው ዝግጅት የሚያወራው ስለ ፍቺ ነው። ስለዚህ ስለ ፍቺ በሚያወራ ጥያቄ እንጀምር።

የእንግለዝ ብሔራዊ ስታትስቲክስ ፅህፈት ቤት እንደሚለው ሰዎች በብዛት የሚፋቱበት የዕድሜ ክልል የትኛው ነው?

ሀ) ከ30-34 ፤
ለ) ከ35-39 ፤
ሐ) ከ40-44

ምን ይመስልሃል ፊል?

Phil
I think it takes time for people to want to get divorced – I'll go for c) 40-44.

Sam
Maybe people realise they made a mistake more quickly, so it could be a) 30-34. I don’t really know.

ዘሩባቤል
እሽ ማዳመጡን እንቀጥል። መልሱን በኋላ ላይ እሰጥዎታለሁ። ስለእርሱ እያሰቡ እያለ ግን በቢቢሲ ወልርድ ሰርቪስ አውትሉክ መርኃ ግብር ላይ ስለቀረበ እና በፍች ድግሶች ላይ የሚያጠነጥን ዝግጅት እናዳምጥ። ክርስቲን ጋላገር የምታወራው ፍች ከፈፀመው በኋላ የቀድሞ ባሏ የሚወደውን የአደን ሽልማት ይዛ ስላስቀመጠች ጓደኛዋ ነው።

Insert
And we had an outdoor party for her with a big bonfire and we ended up burning this guy's hunting trophy on the fire, which for her was kind of an exorcism of the marriage and the sadness that had fallen upon her life. So as a result of that, I really started thinking this is great, we were able to take her from a state of devastation to sort of drawing a line and being over it.

ዘሩባቤል
እናስ፥ ስለ ፍቺ ድግሶች ምን አሰባችሁ?

Sam
I like the idea – like Christine said in the clip, it sounds like a really good way to draw a line under everything.

ዘሩባቤል
'Draw a line under' መስመር ወይም ልክ ማበጀት ማለት ነው፤ የትዳር ግንኙነት በሚቋረጥበት ጊዜ ይሄንን ማድረጉ ጠቃሚ ነው።

Phil
I can sort of see that drawing a line's important… but isn't this a bit of strange idea for a party? Isn't there a danger that it could trigger a lot of bad feelings, bringing up all the memories of why someone wanted to get divorced?

ዘሩባቤል
'Trigger' አነሳሽ ወይንም ቀስቃሽ ማለት ነው፤ ይሄንንም ከመጥፎ ስሜት ወይንም ትውስታዎች ጋር ነው የምንጠቀመው ።

Phil
Surely a party about a relationship that's ended, probably for a bad reason, is going to trigger a lot of bad feelings and hurt.

Sam
I'm not so sure, you know… Closure is really important after something like a divorce.

ዘሩባቤል
'Closure' መደምደሚያ ማለት ነው።  do you think that's the most important thing to recover from a traumatic event?

Phil
Does a party really give you closure, isn't it a bit too much of a celebration?

Sam
I think it does give you closure, it marks the end of something and allows you to move on.

ዘሩባቤል
'Move on' ህይወትን መቀጠል ማለት ነው። ሃዘን ዌእም ፍቺን ከመሳሰሉ ትልልቅ ኩነቶች በኋላ ህይወትን ወደ ነበረበት መመለስ ጠቃሚ ነው።

Phil
I always thought that time was better for moving on from something, not spending lots of money on a party.

Sam
It means you can focus on it – you can focus on all the things around a divorce, so any other life event and try and find the positives… even something like divorce can have positive sides, you know.

ዘሩባቤል
እሽ፤ በጉዳዩ ላይ እናንተ ሁለታችሁ ስለመስማማታችሁ እርግጠኛ አይደለሁም። ስለዚህ ቀደም ሲል ላነሳሁት ጥያቄ መልስ ላቅርብ። በእንግሊዝ ሰዎች በአብዛኛው የሚፋቱበት የዕድሜ ክልል የትኛው እንደሆነ ለማወቅ ነበር የፈለግነው። እናም መልሱ ሐ) ከአርባ እስከ አርባ አራት ነው።

Sam
So you were right, again.

Phil
You sound surprised.

Sam
You seem a bit too happy, maybe we should draw a line under this.

ዘሩባቤል
ጥሩ፤ ጊዜያችን እያለቀ ስለሆነ ዛሬ ስንነጋገርባቸው የቆየንባቸውን ቃላት እንይ፤ draw a line under መስመር ወይንም ልክ ማበጀት ፥ trigger አነሳሽ ወይንም ቀስቃሽ ማለት ነው። closure መደምደሚያ ማለት ነው ሲሆን፤ move on ደግሞ ህይወትን ወደ ነበረበት ማስቀጠል ማለት ነው።

አብራችሁን ስለቆያችሁ እናመሰግናለን። ለተጨማሪ የኢንግሊሽ ቱጌዘር ዝግጅቶች በሚቀጥለው ሳምንት ይጠብቁን።

Meaning & Use

draw a line under something (phrase)

If you draw a line under something, you decide it is finished and you stop thinking about it. It's similar to the phrase make a fresh start.
I've apologised for eating your last cake – let's just draw a line under this and forget about it!
Celebrating her divorce really helped her draw a line under that sad time in her life.

trigger (verb)

If something triggers a feeling, it causes a strong emotional response, like feeling afraid, worrying about something or remembering something bad that happened in the past.

Having a divorce party might trigger bad memories.
I get triggered by loud noises – they just annoy me so much!

The verb trigger can also be used to mean 'causes something to start'.

Prawns always trigger my stomach aches.
Exposure to sunlight can trigger the skin to produce vitamin D.

closure (noun)

Closure is the feeling of bringing an unpleasant situation or experience to an end. You can then start new activities without thinking about any bad things that you may have experienced. We often use this word with the verbs find and get.

She got a real sense of closure from burning her husband's hunting trophy.
Getting closure is important after we have experienced something very upsetting.
I'm really trying to find some closure after my girlfriend left me.

move on (phrasal verb)

When we are talking about emotions and feelings, moving on means that you accept that a situation has changed and get ready to deal with new activities and experiences. We use this phrase with the preposition from to say what situation we have accepted.

It really helped her daughter move on and stop thinking about her divorce.
Stop being so negative – you really need to move on and forget about it.
I'm trying to move on from my break-up with my husband.

Check what you’ve learned by selecting the correct answer for the question.
ለጥያቄው ትክክለኛውን መልስ በመምረጥ ምን ያህል እንደተማሩ ይፈትሹ።

Divorce parties

4 Questions

Choose the correct answer.
ትክክለኛውን መልስ ይምረጡ

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ተጨማሪ ጠቃሚ አገላለፆችን ለመማር እና የማዳመጥ ክህሎትዎን በመለማመድ ለማዳበር በቀጣዩ ኢንግሊሽ ቱጌዘር ዝግጅታችን ይጠብቁን።

本课词汇

  • bonfire
    ደመራ

    bring up
    ማምጣት

    hurt
    መጉዳት

    focus
    ትኩረት

    draw a line under
    ልክ ማበጀት

    trigger
    ቀስቃሽ/አነሳሽ

    closure
    ፍፃሜ/መደምደሚያ 

    move on
    ህይወትን መቀጠል