Abortion: leave the laws alone!
L.N. and D.K.
L.N. has firm opinions on the IOM's current abortion laws which, she feels, should remain as they are. D.K. chose to remain pregnant at 16 and still lives in the IOM.
‘I’m pleased that abortion is not freely available in the Isle of Man. At the end of the day, abortion is the ending of a life and no one has the right to do that, no one.’
‘If you watch videos on the internet, it shows you how barbaric the procedure actually is. I don’t think that most women who have abortions would go through with them, if they’d watched these films. I was shocked.’
2006: abortion pill used for 35% of UK abortions
‘I think it’s correct that the Isle of Man laws don’t make it too easy for women to access abortion. Some women have two or three abortion in their lifetimes. It’s unbelievable! It’s as if they’re using abortion as some form of contraception.’
‘Lots of women have abortions when they’re younger but that’s not to say that they won’t regret it in later life. How could you live with yourself afterwards?
Maybe they’ll never get married, either and then they’ve lost their chance to ever have a baby.’
‘I’m not saying that it’s easy if you’re a teenager and find yourself pregnant but I know a woman who had a baby at the age of fifteen. Her social worker was very good and helped her to bring up the child, who now has children of her own. It’s up to the community to help the mother.’
‘There’s nothing to stop that teenager going to university after she’s had the baby. There are always choices available. It’s up to us to educate young women and help them access these opportunities.’
90% of abortions occur under 13 weeks
‘There are plenty of couples who would love to have children so why abort unwanted babies? Why not give the baby to a childless couple?’
‘I have three children myself and the thought that they could ever have been ‘got rid of’ before birth is unthinkable.’
‘Leave the laws alone. They’re fine as they are.’
'I was 15 when I got pregnant. I was going out with this boy and I really liked him but we were just messing around really. Nothing serious. '
'I was living at home and I had no clue who to ask for help, outside the family - and I did not want to talk to them until I knew what I wanted to do. '
'We lived in a village in the North and my mum and dad never had a car so we didn't even go to Douglas go shopping.'
IOM Steampacket boat, Douglas
'I had no idea if there were clinics where you could get advice or who you should talk to or if the doctors would tell your parents.'
'The only thing I knew, by word-of-mouth was that if you were pregnant, you couldn't get an abortion over here.'
'I had no money and he certainly didn't have any money and in some ways, the thought of going Across, on my own [for an abortion], was more scary than staying here and having the baby. I was terrified.'
'In the end, it was my aunty who got me in touch with her son's social worker and then she got another social worker to talk to me.'
'She was brilliant and she told me that if I did decide to keep the baby, I could get help with income support and that I'd still be able to do 'O' levels later, if I wanted to.'
'I don't think she was in favour of abortion but I wouldn't say she made my mind up against it. It was my decision, at the end of the day and I decided to keep it.'
'I wouldn't say that it was easy. Not for a minute. I did miss out on a lot of going out and stuff.'
'I stayed at home and in the end, my mum and dad came round to the idea and we just looked after the baby together, really.'
'It was hard but the social worker was as good as her word and she helped me so much. We're still in touch, even now and she's seen my baby grow up with me.'
'There's no question in my mind that I did the right thing for me.'
last updated: 30/09/2008 at 09:34
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R.C , ramsey.
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