drives the women who conceive children they know they'll give away?
Out gets to the heart of surrogate motherhood with the first hand
experience of two mothers from West Yorkshire.
Out Reporter Sophie Hull met two friends who arranged their own
medical problems left her feeling incomplete|
Lewis of Leeds, was devastated after medical problems left her unable
to have more children.
says, "We felt our family wasn't complete".
and her partner John let family and friends know they were considering
Langford, a mother of three teenage daughters, stepped in and offered
to have a child for the couple.
I heard about their situation I thought, ‘I could do that.’"
bore baby Joseph two and a half years ago through ‘traditional surrogacy’,
one of two surrogacy methods:
egg of the surrogate mother and the sperm of the intended father
are used. Conceiving is easier this way but it is often emotionally
egg of the intended mother is combined with the sperm of her
partner. The surrogate mother is almost like an incubator for
another couple's baby. An IVF clinic must be used. It is harder
to conceive through this method but often emotionally easier.
is Joseph’s biological mother, a fact which both say will never
be kept from Joseph.
says many people don't understand her reasons for giving him away.
say I gave away my child, but he was never mine to give away."
Out has learned that early findings of a new study are proving Ruth's
attitude is quite common.
suggests that women are unlikely to form a maternal bond with a
child they know will be brought up by someone else.
O'Reilly of Surrogacy UK confirms these findings.
having three children of her own and three surrogate babies for
childless couples she says it's simply an act of generosity.
says, "If someone close to you needed a kidney you'd give it, so
why not use your womb to provide someone with a better life?"
is illegal to become a surrogate mother commercially in the UK.
enjoy a walk in the park|
deters most women who are becoming surrogate mothers for reasons
other than the immense gratification they feel at giving others
the joy of a child.
is also illegal to advertise for a surrogate mother in the UK.
many surrogate mothers are friends or relatives of the intended
makes the relationship even stronger.
and Sarah, the situation works perfectly.
is a happy child who is lucky enough to have a ‘biological’ and
a ‘real’ mum.
can feel satisfied in the knowledge that she has made the Lewis
family complete and very happy.