I wanted to let
you know how moved I was by the article on stammering. Heidi is a wonderful person
and my eyes filled with tears at the results that little device had on her speech.
What a lovely person she is. Paul
I have had a stammer since i was
around 4 or 5 years old and i have tried numerous treatment to cure it. I struggle
everyday with my own voice and battle to get my words out when in certain environments. I
have always taken easy jobs and jobs where I don't have to speak to anyone unless
I have too. I have just completed a website designer course which I am quiet talented
in. I want to get a good career for my family and don't want to battle with myself
anymore. When I am asked a question by a stranger or someone in a senior role,
my entire body tenses up and I struggle to breath as I try to fight the words
out of my mouth. Unlike Heidi my stammer is not constant, I am fluent when
with friends and family but the telephone is my biggest challenge, I have had
so many people put the telephone down on me, I have run out of numbers to count,
I must sound like a crank caller, but all I am trying to do is get my first word
out. I was ridiculed at school and my teachers always used to get me to
stand and talk in front of the whole class because they thought it would help
me. Problem was - it broke me apart physically and mentally. It actually made
me worse. When I was younger, my face used to contort when I stammered but luckily
that has surpassed now. My wife told me about the Inside Out programme about
Heidi and I have been searching the net for the speech easy device. I have been
looking for a different approach for my speech and I hope this is the key. I'm
not looking for a cure - I am just looking for an aid to help me get my life the
way I want it, not my speech controlling my life. The problem with a stammer is
that so many people don't understand that stammerers are not stupid but we are
tarred with this brush 99% of the time. Nevertheless I will be saving for this
device now as I have something to look forward too, Hope. Craig Whittaker,
Kent Would it be at all possible to forward my best wishes to
Heidi and her family. After watching Inside Out last night I felt that Heidi is
an extremely brave young woman and I would like to let her know my feelings. Tony
I watched the episode about Heidi, and I really felt for her, because it
brought back terrible memories of my own affliction which made my childhood so
difficult. My case is slightly different, but the cause of the stammer is just
the same. All children learn to speak by copying their parents and others around
them. My father unfortunately had a motorbike accident in his younger days, and
the shock to his system caused him to have a stammer. I copied that when I was
beginning to speak, at a similar age to Heidi. I know she doesn't
want pity, I never did either. All I wanted was to speak properly and not to feel
left out. Luckily my dad could draw and he taught me to draw too... and that gave
me an outlet when I was a toddler, a way to express my thoughts. But I was still
frustrated by it... and sometimes felt embarrassed by it, or angry if anyone laughed
- and I had moments of deep unhappiness over it. Unlike Heidi, I wasn't angry
if someone finished my sentence - just relieved that the moment was over!!!!
Later in life my father had more or less gotten over it and was ok
but I had a terrible childhood and as I became more aware of my problem, I devised
a way of speaking to limit the effects as much as possible. I did this by trying
to think one or two words ahead and choose a word that I could say. Another trick
was to hold my breath - that also sometimes worked. Naturally I was a target at
school and was bullied I truly hope that Heidi was spared that.
But later in my teens I started to overcome the problem and that
was just from gaining confidence and learning to speak with calmness and to speak
a difficult word easily by turning the first sound my lips uttered, into that
word. That proved to me I could beat it the affliction. In the story, Heidi
had the ear piece fitted and she also said she felt calm. This is the key to overcome
this affliction, by the combination of feeling calm and relaxed when talking with
others and being confident. For those of us who have a stammer, instead of butterflies
in the stomach, or our arms or legs feeling weak this occurs in the vocal
chords. Then when we have to speak to others, the nervousness affecting the vocal
chords becomes magnified .. because we know well stutter, we worry about
it, and it adds to the stress we already feel. When my mother was
at school, a friend of hers in her class, also a girl, had a terrible stammer.
But, when she spoke to my mother, she never once stammered. Thats probably
because my mother made her feel relaxed. Then there is the comedy
star Michael Bentine. He had a stammer as bad as Heidis... but when he was
famous on TV he never stammered, because hes already beaten it by that time
in his life I truly believe that anyone with a stammer can re-learn
to speak properly, and when there is improvement, there is elation, more confidence,
you feel more relaxed and you dont think about it so much. That makes speaking
easier, youre more relaxed, and you keep on improving. Im
not sure if speech therapists are addressing the problem correctly because
it seems to me they concentrate on trying to get a person to speak the words in
a different way. Its true that if you repeat words parrot fashion... or
sing, you will never stutter (Gareth Gates is one example of that). Singing makes
the vocal chords more relaxed. I believe this was how Michael Bentine learnt to
beat his stammer. Heidi could try that too. Maybe the only person
who can help her overcome the stammer, is someone with a similar affliction, who
understands what she is going through, someone who knows how she is feeling, because
its all about the state of mind the less she worries about it, the
more relaxed sheLL be. If Michael Bentine won so can she... but she
needs the right person to help her, not fancy gadgets (as wonderful as they are)...
the only cure is by curing the worry, the fear, the nervousness, and the stress
from speaking. I hope she eventually beats this... and my heart
goes out to her, because Ive felt those emotions that she feels on a daily
basis. Martyn Sherwood, Rugby Heidi's is such an inspiring
story - I'm so glad that science has been able to come up with this stunning device
that can revolutionise people's lives for just a few thousands of pounds.
When I was younger, I used to dream of such a 'magic cure' as I had a stammer
like Heidi's up until I was about 17. With the help of Fortune along with a myriad
of techniques I've picked up over the years, I've managed to erode the effects
of my speech impediment so that it is now - I'm 22 - barely noticeable, so I've
been told. I'm sure you'll hear many stories of hardship, especially
in the school playground, but I'd like to share what I see as I turning point
in my experience. My parents and many of my speech therapists used to
try to comfort me, as a young boy, by assuring me that I'd "grow out of it"
in years to come. But when you're 10 years old and you can't even get involved
with your mates' conversation because they're talking too fast, this seems an
unrealistic and empty promise. However, as I reached my mid-to-late teens
I realised that there was no point waiting to passively grow out of my stammer,
I had to 'outgrow' it myself. This meant pushing myself so that I would become
more than just 'that guy who talks like a machine gun'. One day at school
my English teacher asked me if I wanted to read out a piece of my work as an example
to the others'. Some kid from the back of the class piped up, saying something
along the lines of, 'Yeah I want to hear every word' - the joke being that if
I read out the essay, it'd take waste the rest of the lesson. The usual ripple
of laughter followed. But for the first time I felt such a royal indigence that
this fool gained the appreciation of his peers from cracking a really dull and,
quite frankly, a gutless joke whereas I should have taken centre stage for my
top-quality work. So read the whole essay I did, every single word, and
I stammered uncontrollably. It took ages but I didn't care. My work was the best
in the class - for once it was me taking control and I felt a deep sense of victory:
no longer was I just 'that kid with a stutter' but I was 'the clever kid with
the stutter'. I felt that there was something more distinctive about me than just
my disability. As all sufferers will know, stammering is a relentless
vicious circle. You stammer so you tense up and stammer more. You get nervous
because you're stammering and then because you're stammering you get more nervous.
But it also works the other way around: once you gain more confidence, you speak
more clearly and when you speak clearly you become more confident. It's
a cliche, but my experiences have taught me to believe in myself. Only the conviction
that as an individual you are more than just 'a stammerer' gives you the confidence
to stammer in front of people and not feel shamed. Once you have pride in yourself
- with or without your stammer - then you can relax and this is half the battle
to beating it. Obviously I understand that these platitudes are not the
definitive answer and a lot of work has to go in to methods and techniques of
generating fluency. But in retrospect this moment of self-recognition was the
turning point in a long struggle. Since then I have gained a first from Oxford
(in English) and have even become (relatively) comfortable with speaking in front
of large groups. Although I still have the odd relapse, I'm not embarrassed
anymore and even laugh along when someone makes a joke. Whether you need a SpeakEasy
device or not, I believe that a strong will and self-belief are essential to managing
life with such an impediment - and I congratulate Heidi in showing these qualities
with graceful and good-humoured abundance in your programme. Well done
Heidi, you are an inspiration to many people out there who are suffering in silence.
Kevin Crowley
My name is Christine Meredith. I have stammered from
an early age, and have had various attempts at clinical speech therapy throughout
my life in order to improve my fluency. Some of it has been useful. I am now 45
and still struggle at times to communicate effectively, verbally. I am of
the opinion that anything that can help us stammerers make speaking easier should
be considered. After all, if you are impaired visually, you are prescribed spectacles
or contact lenses. If deaf, you are usually fitted with a hearing aid. I
see no reason why people who stammer should not try these devices, although I
know that most speech therapists do not promote them when discussing a course
of therapy with a client. I have been writing a book for the past couple
of years about what it's like to have a stammer. (Hopefully it may get published
one day!). Stammering is not just about getting stuck on your words sometimes,
but is a serious communication problem that affects you deeply inside. It is an
ever present torment. Simple verbal tasks that fluent people take for granted
such as answering the telephone and saying "Hello" can cause so much
anxiety. People who stammer do not only have to deal with their speech impediment,
but also with the uncertainty surrounding stammering, an affliction that is still
very much misunderstood. And no one has yet found the key that unlocks this
complex disorder in its entirety. Christine Meredith My name's Florence
and I've been a stammerer since the age of nine. I speak fluently when I speak
to myself but stammer severely when I speak to people. It's worse over the phone
or in public. I have attempted speech therapy twice. It seems to work slightly
at the sessions but when I'm faced with the real world, its back to square one.
It
has affected the way I communicate and feel about myself. I feel like the weird
person, the one who never says much, the one who guys will be ashamed to date
etc And it's not because I don't have an intelligent contribution to make to any
discussion but because I calculate in my mind how much time I will waste trying
to prove or state a point and maybe not end up getting the message across because
of the huffing and puffing and sheer embarrassment.
Over the years, I have
grown extremely busy with everything that focusing on my speech is now secondary
and I think that has put less pressure on me. However, the fears are still there. I
still refuse to answer phone calls in the office because I'm afraid I will spend
a minute trying to say "Hello, Siemens Energy Services, Florence Speaking,
How can i help?". I have tried it enough times to embarrass the caller,
me and the rest of the people in the office who have heard me. Regards. Florence
Osoka ! am a 60 year old man and I think I started stammering when
I was about 8 years old. I have always believed it was caused by an abusive female
teacher I had at that time. I had an uncle who had a very severe stutter, thankfully
mine was not as bad. I have had several attempts at therapy, the most
successful was when I was about 35 - it was an intensive course lasting 2 weeks.
It was called Smooth Speech and involved the participants starting off
speaking very slowly and smoothly, gradually moving up to normal speed.
It
was reasonably successful, but required a lot of practice and perseverance. Unfortunately
most of the benefits were soon lost on me, but I sometimes try and apply the principles
and they do help.
I have generally found most people to be considerate
and understanding. I sometimes wonder if stuttering should rank among the other
various disabilities. What do others think ? Ray What a most
humbling story! Absolutely marvellous transformation and I feel so proud of Heidi
and wish her every success not only today but throughout her lifetime!! Eddie
Connell Heidi. I am surprised that your dad didn't cry in the therapists
office, since both my husband and I had tears in our eyes. Well done on achieving
so much and keep going girl, you have what it takes. LJ Annandale
I
used to stammer really badly and I learnt to control it by looking at my mouth
while talking into a mirror. Any time I talk, I remember to think about my mouth
and the words. Now I hardly stammer.
Great story about Heidi and I wish
her well, wish I had this device 30 years ago! Lulu
Just watched
the feature on Heidi. I wish her all the luck for the future. Her new earpiece
was remarkable. J Leigh on Sea, Essex
I cant tell you how
excited I am from the possibility that there could be an end to my "secret
anguish". My condition is not as severe as Heidis but it still can
be very embarrassing especially when people burst into fits of laughter on hearing
me speak. It is particularly pronounced when I become tensed from fear of stammering
especially in public situations and during job interviews particularly phone interviews.
I have been to a neuro-linguistic programmer in Harley Street and tried
all sorts but Speech Easy appears to work really well. I dont have the money
now but I will start saving towards it. I just cant wait to be free of this
"plague". I wish we had it free on the NHS but in the absence of that
I will look to try it privately sometime. That was really brave
of Heidi and I wish her all the best with the little man. Simon,
London I've stammered the biggest part of my life starting at a very
young age so I do know what Heidi has been through in her life up to the present
date.
I went to speech therapist from a young age, they only helped slightly...
but I still had a bad stammer. At the age of 15 I attended a course in Burton
upon Trent for about 10 days, I can't remember the chap's name who took the course
but he was excellent. He had a stammer when he was young and developed his own
methods of treatment in the speech therapy profession.
Around 1971 I and
several lads attended this course, coming from many places and most had severe
stammers a lot worst than mine. He taught us relaxation, being tense is a root
of stammering, if you have one.
Another is speech he called "Unspee".
This was to miss out the first letter of a word that gave you problems. Example
is the word "What", say "hot" gradually increasing the "w"
sound as you go on. Using this technique we all started to string sentences together
without stammering.
One main thing is staying in time, a stammerer does
not stammer when they sing as singing is a continuation of words. Therefore, all
stammerers should sing their hearts out, this relieves tension as well.
Using
Unspee and keeping a constant time similar to singing you can speak without stammering,
we should know as we did it with the help of this man.
He also taught us
how to be confident on the phone which can be a problem with some stammerers,
this included the same techniques as before.
One thing is to concentrate,
that could be looking a person in the eyes or mouth and keeping your concentration
on those focal points while speaking.
Us stammerers have a lot to say,
sometimes far to much than our vocal chords can cope with, so, SLOW DOWN it does
make it easier. Also I noticed that on Friday nights, after having a few drinks,
I didn't stammer. Again, being relaxed is the key here again. This is in no way
an excuse to drink more but to realise what makes you relaxed.
I've not
stammered a lot for the past 20 years but anyone I meet who has a stammer I try
to pass on my experience and knowledge, they don't believed that I had a bad stammer,
but I did. If that man in Burton is still with us or his family ( I think he worked
for the education department in Burton), I thank him very much for what he did
for myself and many others.
Also, I once did an interview regarding stammering
when I was about 9 years old with BBC Radio Sheffield. I never heard the programme,
but my Gran did. I think that was my 15 minutes of fame.
Good luck Heidi,
we are special people, and to all the other people who stammer have confidence,
relax and let it flow. Regards. Mark I watched the recent Inside
Out episode with great interest and was extremely happy to see the fantastic results
that Heidi was able to achieve, helped by the SpeachEasy device.
I thought
it very brave of her and her family to take advantage of the pioneering treatment
and was warmed to see their bravery pay off.
I was hoping that you'd be
able to pass on my best wishes to Heidi and her family for the future and congratulate
her for all the hard work she has done in working towards conquering her stammer.
Richard Gardner I was most interested by your article this evening
on BBC TV. I have been a 'sufferer' for some 60+ years. I am a company director
and do not let this problem worry me unduly during my business matters, but nevertheless,
I am always aware and more so aware that others are watching me in private life. More
than often I will let my wife do the talking rather than myself, eg in restaurants
and the like. I get really upset when telephoning and the party at the other end
(unknown to me) starts to laugh or make comments and mimic my stammer. At 65 years
of age I should be able to cope with this nonsense but nevertheless it still hurts.
Therapy and hypnosis in my teens did not help - I live with the situation
but it would be great to get rid of the stammer! However, I must be grateful that
this is a small problem compared with the problems of many others - I can shut
up and no-one is the wiser! The possible solution shown on your programme is most
interesting. Stephen Farrington
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