Coping with embarrassment Dr Rob Hicks How many times have you been to see your GP and left without asking about what's really worrying you? Being honest gives your doctor the best chance to help you.

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Health problems Tell the truth

Deception Honesty pays

Whether it's bad breath, body odour, a rash in a sensitive area, depression or issues with alcohol, if you're embarrassed about a problem, you'll probably keep it to yourself and suffer the consequences.

Many people wrongly believe they'll be seen as weak, dirty or failing in some way if they talk about such problems, while others feel guilty. But you shouldn't, as it's not always your fault.

Your GP isn't there to judge you - they're there to help you. They won't be shocked, surprised or unhappy about what you say. In fact, they're likely to be pleased because by opening up to them you're making it possible for them to help you get better.

Embarrassment doesn't always stem from health problems. Sometimes it's caused by what you say, especially if your GP knows you're not telling the truth.

A common example of this is when people claim not to smoke, even though their GP has seen them doing so. Another is the amount of alcohol people admit to drinking when asked.

If you haven't taken the medicine your GP prescribed because of side effects, don't say you have been taking it, but tell your GP you haven't and why.

People are often embarrassed to tell the truth for fear they'll be letting their GP down. Your doctor won't be cross. It's better they know so they can prescribe something else and record the side effects you experienced.

It may come as a surprise to learn it's not only criminals who deceive others to get what they want: ordinary people do it too. What's more, they even try to deceive their doctors - the people trying to help them. It's amazing how many people need a sick note for work on sunny days, or at the start of the New Year sales, or when there's an important sporting event.

Mortgage applications, life assurance applications and travel insurance all require you to be honest when completing your medical details.

If you knowingly lie or conveniently miss something out, it could mean trouble in future. You'll certainly find it difficult to get similar policies again - and may even end up being prosecuted.

This article was last medically reviewed by Dr Rob Hicks in February 2007.