A diagnosis of cancer is very frightening, and it’s always a good idea when you go for your test results to take a relative or friend with you. At the time of your diagnosis, you may find it hard to take in everything you’re being told, and find you need information repeated to you at different times. At first, some people don’t want to discuss the diagnosis with anyone, whilst others feel the need to discuss it with everyone. Many people have feelings of fear, anger, sadness, guilt or disbelief which is very normal. There’s no right or wrong way to react.
It can be difficult to talk about your diagnosis with your family and friends and you may feel you have to put on a brave face. However, they’ll have concerns and worries, and if you can discuss things openly, it can help all of you. If you have young children, you may not wish to tell them all the details of your diagnosis straight away, but in general it’s best to be honest with them. When you have been given a diagnosis and a treatment plan, you may want to tell your employer. Obviously each individual case is different and you may not feel able to discuss it with them, but if you can, you may find them helpful and supportive. Your local Citizens Advice Bureau can provide you with information on your rights as an employee if you require it. If you have a friend who has just been diagnosed with cancer, it can be difficult to know what to do or say. Your friend may feel angry, irritable, upset or may not want to speak at all. These are all normal reactions but it can be hard for you to deal with.
You can help by being there, listening to them if they want to talk and share their feelings. You don't have to find answers for their problems - just caring and encouraging them to tell you how they feel is often enough.
This article was first published in February 2009.
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