Take the test: Am I cut out for marriage?

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1. Married or not

Marriage is important from an anthropological perspective, because it’s a signal of a long-term committed relationship. It isn't for everyone and some of us are happier being single.

Are you asking whether you are right for marriage, or a lifelong partnership? Or wondering if you are at the right stage of your life to take this step? Then take my test to give you a helping hand.

2. QUIZ: Marriage material?

Discover your compatibility with married life.

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Marriage is a public display of commitment to a long-term relationship and is present in some form in every society around the world. Inevitably successful long-term relationships mean a lot of compromise as you navigate different styles of communication, values and needs and adapt to sharing your space and time with a significant other. Some people find this easier than others and all marriages need to be worked at.

3. INTERACTIVE: What's your attachment style?

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There are four attachment styles: secure, fearful-avoidant, dismissive-avoidant and preoccupied. Our attachment type defines how we react when we are hurt, separated from our loved one or perceive a threat. Our childhood experiences of attachment can shape – but don't necessarily determine – our expectations in adult relationships.

4. Enduring love

Years of studying long-term relationships has taught me a few things about what helps to keep them going. Here are my top 10 tips:

  1. HAVE FUN TOGETHER. Escape the everyday and find new, fun experiences to have with each other.
  2. BE VULNERABLE. Couples who share innermost feelings are closer and more passionate than those who don’t.
  3. STEP INTO THEIR SHOES. Marriage is about compromise and understanding. Try to take the other person’s perspective.
  4. LAUGH. One of the body’s natural opiates, beta endorphin, makes us feel euphoric and content, and as it's addictive, want to stick with your partner.
  5. LOYALTY. This emanates from selflessness and commitment. It's natural to be truly loyal in every way to someone you adore with all your heart.
  6. APPRECIATE EACH OTHER. It's incredibly important to always express your gratitude.
  7. TOLERATE DIFFERENCE. Marriage is not about one identity subsuming another, but two identities forming a more interesting and creative whole.
  8. TALK, TALK and TALK. Communication is key in any relationship, but it can take time to understand each other’s style.
  9. TAKE A DIGITAL DETOX. Only by being present and fully attentive do we generate the love hormones that motivate us to stick together.
  10. COMPATIBLE ATTACHMENT STYLES. What was your result from taking part in the quiz? Be aware that some styles pair up better than others.