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  • Message 1. 

    Posted by listener (U10967204) on Monday, 15th December 2008

    Let's start some serious debate.

    Are all headteachers bullies and if so, does the job turn them into bullies or do bullies just naturally make 'better' headteachers?

    smiley - erm

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  • Message 2

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    Posted by View from the North (U2337741) on Monday, 15th December 2008

    And how many Headteachers do you know well enough to make such assumptions?

    Clearly you are referring to me.

    I always try to reference the message, not the messenger. You ALWAYS attack the messenger. Therefore you ARE the bully.

    Perhaps, like all bullies, you don't recognise this trait in yourself?

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  • Message 3

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    Posted by billygoatgruff (U11135437) on Monday, 15th December 2008

    Rot, VfN.
    You "and" Starlilol are the two biggest bullies on here.

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  • Message 4

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    Posted by View from the North (U2337741) on Monday, 15th December 2008

    Anything you say Jan.

    From the first day you were on here, to the very, very last, you've attacked the poster not the message.

    This explains why you live alone, work alone, and holiday alone.

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  • Message 5

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    Posted by Lurcher (U9758031) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    I've come across Head teachers that are bullies and some who are not. I think, if you're a bully all that power will bring it out in you.

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  • Message 6

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    Posted by lewarcher (U2330606) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    I should just perhaps say that neither of the schools that my children attend have bullies as headteachers.

    What is a much more worrying aspect of schooling is those amongst the staff who are known to be bullies. These people seem to be tolerated at almost every secondary school - even by the most reasonable headteachers.

    Perhaps those headteachers amongst us could explain this phenomenen.

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  • Message 7

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    Posted by Lurcher (U9758031) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    Yes, you're quite right I have have come across teachers who are awful bullies. My theory is that they all went to university and decided that they would rather go back to school than join the real world. Some of the one's I have come across think they are still in the 6th Form.

    I think head teachers are under so much pressure to fill teaching posts with the correctly qualified person, that personality does'nt come into it.

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  • Message 8

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    Posted by lewarcher (U2330606) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    But what sort of example does it set.

    In one lesson a Physics teacher at my son's school:

    1) made the fattest boy in the class jump off the work bench to demonstrate momentum
    2) asked muslim boys what they had eaten (it was ramadan)
    3) asked a sikh boy when he was getting the proper turban.

    Everybody knows he is like this - no-one does anything about it - except of course decaring regularly in oral and written form that bullying is unacceptable.

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  • Message 9

    , in reply to message 7.

    Posted by billygoatgruff (U11135437) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    RE: "This explains why you live alone, work alone, and holiday alone."
    On the contrary, VfN, posting on this mb for a few months has not in any way affected my life's choices.
    Incidentally, I don't work alone, actually. I do occasionally work from home so maybe that has confused you. Also, not that it is really any business of yours, I frequently holiday with friends, but actually prefer travelling solo.
    As for my preferring to live alone, if you looked at the statistics, (something you are always exhorting others to do) you'd find that a large number of women actually chose to live alone.
    I'm not surprised though that someone like you is threatened by an independent woman.
    But interesting to note that others also perceive you as a bully.:0)

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  • Message 10

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    Posted by Lurcher (U9758031) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    Mmm. Should'nt happen ever. At least adults can stand up for themselves. Bullies are cowards and it is easy to pick on children who are in your power. As far as I'm concerned he should be sacked and forced to apologise.

    Perhaps the example it sets is to teach children how 'not' to behave.

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  • Message 11

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    Posted by JamesStGeorge (U225334) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008


    Well the two we know here seem more robust than many a poster, so perhaps you are confusing lack of feebleness and being spuriously easily upset or offended for 'bullying'.

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  • Message 12

    , in reply to message 11.

    Posted by starlilolill (U11601004) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    People who stand up for what they believe in and defend the right to do so are not bullies!

    If some-one's opinion is different to yours it does not mean you are being bullied.

    I will repeat again, you cannot be bullied on a message board! No-one knows who you are so you are free to say exactly what you want! If someone attacks a post then you can attack back -stand up for yourselves in other words.

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  • Message 13

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    Posted by Prabhakari (U2255747) on Tuesday, 16th December 2008

    Sadly, if people are put in positions where they have power over others, a small number are likely to have a cruel streak in them. I have known a teacher who was a bully, but I knew far more who were kind, friendly, helpful, generous and good people, who did the best they could to encourage and aid me.

    I remember them with great affection.

    Be peace, Prabhakari.

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