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Bed Wetting and Worrying!

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  • Message 1. 

    Posted by MummyBom (U12669459) on Tuesday, 22nd November 2011

    Well my little boy (3 3/4) has started wetting the bed. He has been dry for well over a year, nearly 18 months. I am not worried at all about it but he is which IMO is only going to make it more likely to happen. I have tried my best to reassure him that it really doesn't matter and that I can just change his pjs and bedding and if needs be he can come in to my bed. I have never been cross with him or anything other than kind and patient about it.

    I am wondering if he has a UTI because he is doing lots and lots of tiny wees during the day instead of having a bladder like an elephant BUT he is not in any discomfort, his urine is clear and smells fresh. He isn't drinking more than usual. He keeps getting a very slight temperature but we all have hideous colds/sore throats etc. He gets very worked up about the doctors so don't want to take him unless I HAVE to. I don't want him to think I am taking him because wetting the bed is a problem IYSWIM.

    What else can I do to stop him worrying? He is one of life's worriers anyway and we have only recently got over the getting older, mummy dying, him not living with me worry etc.

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    Posted by butterfly (U14307468) on Wednesday, 23rd November 2011

    hi,smiley - smiley has he started anything new recently? change of routine? is he still ok in the daytime whereever that is ( is he at nusery and somethings changed there? ). Could you drop of urine at the docs without him having to go? maybe ring up and ask if this is poss? just to rule out a UTI.

    hope it's shortlived but if you say he's a worrier then maybe that's the main reason for it and then you can only continue how your are being patient with him etc.

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    Posted by bababoom (U14283530) on Wednesday, 23rd November 2011

    Could you take a urine sample from him and drop it off at the doctor's yourself? You could phone the GP and explain the problem.

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    Posted by MummyBom (U12669459) on Wednesday, 23rd November 2011

    He didn't wet the bed last night, and today has gone back to normal weeing pattern. He didn't mention it as he went to bed so fingers crossed he has another dry night and his confidence will be back.

    Lots has changed, DH works away mon-thurs. DD1 has started school, he does 2 full days at pre-school etc. He is also VERY tired and it is cold upstairs so think he either isn't waking fully enough or thinks it is too cold to get out of bed and tries to hold it.

    Don't think he has a UTI, think it would be more noticeable but will keep my eye on him and if needs be just get him to wee in a cup for some bizarre reason and drop a sample off without him knowing what I am doing!

    Thanks xx

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    Posted by bintanbabe (U9549214) on Wednesday, 23rd November 2011

    I could have written this post myself. DS (just turned 6) has been dry day and night since the age of 3. He could hold his bladder for an age and never needed to be lifted for a wee at bedtime.Then out of the blue in June, he started regularly wetting the bed, sometimes being absolutely saturated by 10 pm when I tucked him back in. Nothing had changed in his life and I've always been careful about how much liquid he has with his tea.

    We got referred to the hospital, following negative urine tests for IUI. He had a scan and everything was fine. The consultant was very reasurring and said this is very common, especially in little boys even when they have been dry at night before. It's also very common in heavy sleepers which DS is. You could drive a bulldozer through his room at night and he wouldn't wake! smiley - laugh The doctor said it will be a phase and he'll grow back out of it. The only medical intervention he could offer would be medication and I really didn't want to go down that route. One suggestion the doctor gave was to try and increase his drink intake during the day to get his bladder used to holding more but that's hard to control when he's at school. So for now we lift him every night when we come to bed to limit accidents.



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    Posted by MummyBom (U12669459) on Wednesday, 23rd November 2011

    Thanks for that BB, DS is a very heavy sleeper aswell. He shares a room with his two sisters and has often slept through the little one screaming like a banshee half the night! I do lift him at about 11ish when I go to bed because he started waking at 2 for a wee and thinking that was the time to get up, not getting back to sleep for ages and then not being able to get up the next day! Like I say, I am not worried about it at all. Have read so much about it on here that I know it is not a concern as long as physically well, I just don't want him worrying about it. Does your son worry about it or is he ok about it?

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    Posted by bintanbabe (U9549214) on Thursday, 24th November 2011

    No DS is very matter of fact about it and we are always very low key about it ourselves. I just feel for him when we sometimes have to hose him down in the shower at 10pm when he's soaking. If he ever stays at my mum's he knows we pack him a spare set of pyjamas just in case. Hopefully it won't last too much longer. It's just the washing that becomes a bit of a nightmare as if he has a bad accident I literally have to wash the whole bed....pillows, duvet and all! Hope it sorts itself out soon x


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    Posted by KidsKoach (U15109293) on Saturday, 21st January 2012

    Boys bladder control can take a long time to mature (sometimes bedwetting occurs in 12 year old). Little wees often are showing he is starting to register his bladder needs emptying.
    Whe going to bed fous on having a 'dry night' and maybe reward this with praise (not food or drink or presents).

    Unlikely to be UTI, but if colds and runny noses frequent - always worth a check. Take him to the GP for that and when there as him if he wants to tell teh GP about bed issue.

    Not sure if he is a 'worrier' or if he is expressing how he sees the world through his eyes. 'What can I do to stop him worrying' sort of reinforces his 'worrier' label.

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    Posted by MummyBom (U12669459) on Saturday, 21st January 2012

    Wow! I had forgotten about this. He has been dry again since this.

    I do absolutely nothing to reinforce his worrying, simply remain low key and reassuring but he is definitely 100% a worrier! His current worry is aliens!!!

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    Posted by islama (U1039316) on Saturday, 21st January 2012

    That's good to know. smiley - smiley
    He is still very young and if he was having some fever, it is normal to happen occasionally.

    Aliens is simple. They don't exist. smiley - winkeye
    Only on TV.

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    Posted by MummyBom (U12669459) on Sunday, 22nd January 2012

    I went along the lines of they don't exist. He came back with space is soooooooo big mummy, you cannot be sure can you. He is reasonably pacified that I will shoot anything strange that tries to get in the house and checks the doors are locked before he goes to bed!

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    Posted by islama (U1039316) on Sunday, 22nd January 2012

    Ah, ah.

    That's good too.
    Might work for burglars too. smiley - winkeye

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    Posted by John W (U15274553) on Saturday, 19th May 2012

    As a small child I had this problem myself.I seemed to get over it by making sure that the last place I visited before bed was the toilet.Children do sometimes forget this.I never had the problem again after remembering to do this everytime.something on his mind say worry could be the cause but I really think that not a late drink and toilet before bed is best

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    Posted by louwilou (U15318755) on Thursday, 6th September 2012

    Hi my little girl was 18 month when she as dry both day and night. Never had an accident ever. When she was about 4.5 she started wetting the bed. There were no significant changes in her life or anything to worry about. I took her to the doctors and she was referred to a behaviour specialist to see what the problem was, no one could come up with anything. She is now 5.5 and after a year of bed wetting most nights, and her getting incredibly upset, she has (fingers crossed!) hopefully stopped again. I just stayed patient with her, which can get frustrating sometimes, but its not their fault. The main thing I would say, not to do, is use pull up pants or anything because it confuses them and makes them feel more self concious, I started giving her a set number of drinks a day, so I knew what she was drinking and then at bedtime getting her into a routine, pyjamas, teeth, toilet, story. Then when I went to bed, I would lift her out and put her on the toilet and then straight back in bed. Been doing it for 6 weeks now and she's stopped. Good luck

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