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    Posted by BBC Parenting hosts (U7576855) on Tuesday, 14th April 2009

    Bringing up Britain is on Radio 4 tomorrow (15 April at 20:00) looking at contemporary anxieties and debates about parenting, with a panel of experts to offer practical advice, relevant ideas and experiences.

    Tomorrow's programme asks ‘What can parents do to help children with mental health problems?’

    This is your space to have your say about the programme, opinions on modern parenting and the issues families face across the UK.

    For more information, go to


    BBC Parenting team

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    Posted by pinktea (U13879621) on Tuesday, 14th April 2009

    woohoo, let the party start! smiley - laugh smiley - winkeye smiley - erm

    sorry mods! smiley - blush

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    Posted by CuriousTreasure (U13918330) on Wednesday, 15th April 2009

    I just listened to this program after I got home from football and was amazed how little hope there was in it. I’m 23 and it always saddens me, to hear that this country’s youth is the unhappiest. A few of my family members suffer or have suffered from depression, as have I. Hearing in the program that ‘resilience’ is the latest “buzz word”, for people suffering from depression, I don’t think helps at all.

    Every person in this world needs help at sometime in his or her life from someone else, a person that is solid and trustworthy. That will give hope to them and pick them up when they fall. The thing is that everybody trips, stumbles or falls, everyday of their life so there is no use putting your trust in the world or blaming other people; I know I’ve tried.

    Man can only attempt to fix “the symptoms, rather than the underlying problem”, which means it will never truly go away. But what is the problem…? Our hearts…nobody is perfect and our heart causes us all to sin. Our creator hates sin, which means we can’t know him. This leaves us empty inside and never truly happy “As water reflects a face, so a mans heart reflects the man”.

    However here is the ‘GOOD NEWS’ that can change your life completely. God, who created us, came into his creation as a baby. He lived a life as you and I, but was sinless, spotless, perfect! Then he died on the cross for our sins, took our punishment for us and rose again. He rose from the dead, he defeated death and is alive today in heaven! Through him we can know God we can have a personal relationship with him, Jesus said “I am the Way and the truth and the life. No-one comes to the father except through me”.

    This man was, is and always will be, Jesus Christ. So if you are lonely, down, lost or struggling. Then put your faith in him, he will never let you down, he will always be there and you can have eternal life with God in heaven through him. I couldn’t survive a day without him.

    “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”.

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    Posted by alphapenelope (U13918897) on Thursday, 16th April 2009

    Please could this programme be made available to listen to again. It is impossible to make decisions around priorities when programmes are not available in this way.

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    Posted by butterfly (U10650181) on Thursday, 16th April 2009

    I listened to the programme last night and liked the final sentence which said.......'We all need to grow up' !

    Parts were interesting but what ( imo ) it was basically saying was that we need to recognise and make children aware that life isn't going to be one big easy ride. Ups and downs are part of life and focussing on resilience is the key.

    I think it's good that these issues are finally being more discussed but it shows that mental health issues are still soooooooo complex and stigmas are still out there.

    I agree with the arguement that we shouldn't single focus on just one kind of solution to mh,as the government seems to be doing with CBT ( cognitive behavioural therapy ) which a whole bunch of politicians could benefit from , imo smiley - winkeye as we are all different and benefit / recover / cope in different ways with what life throws at us.

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    Posted by pinknote (U7303894) on Thursday, 16th April 2009

    sounds like a lot of sense, butterfly.

    What gets to me as a parent of 2 small children (and I know this has been covered in other threads before), is how few people-friendly, uplifting public spaces there are in British towns. Whenever I visit friends in Germany eg there seem to be well-maintained parks nearby, or cheerful playgrounds, or just traffic-free streets with benches to sit on and enjoy life while out and about with the children. Over here it's mostly narrow pavements, people who look down their noses if you try to make your way somewhere with a pushchair, and no safe place to sit unless you go into a (usually full and noise) cafe.

    I know this is a bit of a rant, and may be a bit unfair, but that's what strikes me between these 2 countries. Also: parental leave over there is 14 months, to be divided up between parents as they see fit. Result: parents are less stressed= happier baby from the word go.

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    Posted by butterfly (U10650181) on Thursday, 16th April 2009

    totally agree pinknote regarding less stressed parents equals less stressed baby.

    the programme did say the UK had some of the unhappiest children so yes we should be asking that question re set up/environment for them and maybe looking at other European set ups for answers to the problem.

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    Posted by peskylogin (U2369503) on Monday, 20th April 2009

    I sometimes wonder if teenagers who have set themselves on a path (eg I hate school/ a teacher/ parent, I must dress in a certain way, or even 'I am depressed' (like the girl on the programme)) find it very difficult, possibly more so than an adult, to say ooops, I feel better now, or 'I've changed my mind', or 'I'm sorry for upsetting you' or whatever. Having caused great rows and upset can't bring themselves to admit they've changed or don't want to lose face.

    I have distant memories of doing and saying things to my poor Mum and never brought myself to apologise even though I was completely over whatever the row had been about.

    The girl on the programme had had depression for years (I think) and her mother was ill with worry.

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    Posted by butterfly (U10650181) on Tuesday, 21st April 2009

    The girl on the programme had had depression for years (I think) and her mother was ill with worry. 

    She said it had been 3 yrs now. I know we only heard a snippet of the mother and daughter talking but it worried me how the mother was making the son out to be her 'rock' as she put it in all of it. How would that, psychologically, be affecting her daughter knowing she was the problem child and her brother the rock in her mothers' eyes anyway.

    Tough one though for all parents trying to know what's best for their teenagers and conflicting views/theories/advice doesn't exactly help the matter.

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