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  • Message 1. 

    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Monday, 17th December 2012

    hello everyone ,
    i am a chinese girl ,and now i am 21 years old . many friends of mine are all have their boy friends ,but i never have one .to be honest ,on the one hand ,i don't think what kind of boy is suitable for me .on the other hand ,i am really afraid of having a boy friend because if we are not suitable each other ,we have to be faced with breaking up ,if i do that ,i think i must be really sad about that ,but i really don't know the standard of a boy friend .who have some experences about the boy and girl friend ,would you mind share your own experences with me ?
    i am looking for your reples !

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Monday, 17th December 2012

    Hello,
    I’m 32 years old and I’m from Poland.
    I think standard doesn’t exist, all of us have a different point, requirements and so on.
    It doesn’t matter how many boy, girl friends yours friends have. It means nothing.
    I could be only connected with yours intuition.

    It’s lots of proverbs from the Magi’s Isn’t it?

    Have a nice day
    Damian

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    Posted by maryam (U15535997) on Monday, 17th December 2012

    Hi...
    I am maryam...the same as your age.
    I think breaking up is not as bad as u think...
    It can be an experient...I know it sad but it is an experiement...
    do not worry so about it...

    write to me soon..

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Tuesday, 18th December 2012

    hi,Damian,
    i can't understand what you said clearly ,what kind of intuition do i have means i want the boy to be my boy friend or my husband in the furture?what i am really afraid of is if i really fall in love with him but he just tease me ,i will be really sad.i think i can't stand that kind of feeling.you said you are 32years old ,you must know much about the circumstances which i said above .would you mind telling me something detail about that ?i am looking for your reply!
    best wishes for you !
    icybai

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Tuesday, 18th December 2012

    dear maryam,
    i am really happy to write to you the second time .i want to tell you what real happened on me about that .about 1year ago,i knew a boy on the internet ,and we chat really good ,later ,he said he want to be my boy friend .and i agreed .we chat on the internet often ,but recently ,he always doesn't give me his reply though he is on the internet .i don't know the reason .i think he doesn't love me any more ,but maybe at first ,he never love me.i just have one feeling that i was cheated by him .now what should i do ?can you tell me ?
    i am looking for your reply!
    best wishes for you.
    icybai

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Wednesday, 19th December 2012

    Hello icybai,
    I know that have 32 years for 21 age people is like you said.
    You think that I must know lots about it, but true is different. In my opinion when we are older we know more but also we realize more how much we don’t know.

    What I see is that you are a smart and clever girl.
    And no one can told you what to do. Only you know what you are filling about these. Be more determinate to achieve what you real want.
    If you are not convince to have this or that boyfriend just be patient, and waiting for your suitable men.
    It’s possible to have a guarantee ? In my culture definitely not.

    Please dont be sad, Youve got a long life forward.

    Keep well
    Damian

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    Posted by Serge69 (U15521994) on Wednesday, 19th December 2012

    Hi,

    I think you shouldn't have the confusion, because the best practic is begin to find the boy friend.

    I advice you to have a lot of contact with man for search own boy friend.

    You can search man on site, on social network, on dance, on ..., the most important it is make the meeting yourselves and dont hesitate.

    You can have the failure when you will by meet, but You should remember one rule, it is then you have a lot of contact then you have better chance to meet own boy friend.

    Good luck

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Thursday, 20th December 2012

    dear Damian,
    thanks for your praise and your advice ,i think i can have a better life in the furture and i won't disturbed by that bad boy .from you ,i know i have to solve some problems in my life instead of asking for help from other person.and i think i can try my best to be an outstanding girl at any aspects .and one day ,i just want to tell him ,you abandoned me is just his losses .and he must be feel regret about that in one day in the furture.
    thank you for telling me that .nice to know you and want to be your friend.
    now let me introduce myself .i am a chinese and i am a university student in china ,my university is shenyang normal university and my major is food science and engineering .
    what about you ?where are you come from?i am looking forward to your reply!
    best wishes for you !
    icybai

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Thursday, 20th December 2012

    dear Serge69,
    thanks for your advice for me .but what i want to tell you is my university is shenyang normal university and there are more than 90% students who are girls .so i hardly have chance to contact with boys on my campus .
    but by thinking over these days ,i think it won't make me worried about my boy friend .i think now i am a student in university , i will have a long way to go in the furture,so i think i should study much more harder to be a top student instead of finding a boy friend.
    would you mind if i am your friend ?let me introduce myself .i am a university student in shenyang ,china ,and the name of university is shenyang normal univerdity and my major is food science and engineering ,i am frendly and i like making friends no matter where he or she comes from .
    what about you?and where are you come from?i am looking forward to your reply.
    best wishes for you !
    icybai

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  • Message 10

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Thursday, 20th December 2012

    Dear icybai,
    You are absolutely right this is yours the best statement: “you abandoned me is just his losses”. There are too many boys over the whole world.
    You are valuable girl you’ll be an engineer for sure, and I’ll have what you want. Just believe yourself.
    I always try to help when I could, sometimes it’s enough to just listen because people have lots of intellectual potentials. Specially you.

    I’m also a student I doing my PhD at University of Economy in Poland. But I’m also interested in another topics I like theatre, reading books and do tinker.
    I’m really glad to be yours friend.

    Keep touch
    Damian
    Is it correct to write your namefrom small leter or capita?

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    Posted by maryam (U15535997) on Thursday, 20th December 2012

    dear icybai,
    thank u for sharing your real experince with me...
    I will be really happy to be friend with such an honest and kind girl like.......
    who???........ofcourse u
    ....if u do not mind?
    I be very happy when I see u were writting to the others that you are happy now and nearly try to forget it...
    my dear I think there are no word that can describe that terrible boy...so it didnot worth it to think about it.
    I am a university studen...I love sport...I go to a language school for learning english...what about u??
    write to me soon..
    yours maryam.

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  • Message 12

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    Posted by Serge69 (U15521994) on Thursday, 20th December 2012

    Hi Icubay,

    I am from Rassia and I am 29. I worked IT company and I begin to learning English for work. In scool I learned France leanguge and therefore have a difficult in English. I am kind and open man, but always I am straight. I live in not large city Tver, that located near of Russia's capital. Relatively you topic, in my city about 60% percentage is girls and 40% boys, accordingly perhaps here is easier meet boy. You are right that you need to learning, because only this way will give you a good job, nice friends and good ..., then guy will find you. Exactly was with me, now I am married and have the happiness.

    Let be friends together, I want to ask you few question:
    Tell me about China, what do you think about Russia?
    How do china's people meet New Year or Cristmas? (For example, in Russia New Year is main holiday in year )
    Your opinion, why China produce most goods in the world?

    Best wishes for you and look forward to you reply!

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    dear Damian,
    thanks for your praise and i am really surprised that you are 32 but you are a student !you know ,in china ,if someone is 32 years old ,he must get married and even have a baby!maybe you must be a hard-woking and promising man!
    Damian ,i am also happy to be your friend,and icybai is my real meaning of name ,you know chinese name is diffirent with foreign names ,my real name is Baibing ,which has the same meaning with white ice ,this name is given by my aunt ,who is the sister of my father ,maybe my aunt want me to have a pure heart .
    what is the deep meaning of your name ?would you mind telling me?in addition ,i am also want to know the culture of your county ,can you tell me ?
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    best wishes for you and keep in touch with you !
    your friend,
    icybai

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  • Message 14

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    dear maryam,
    to be honest ,i am really attracted by your sense of humor.i am really like to share my own things with my friends .on the one hand ,i think my friends can gave me some suggestions which are benefit for me ,on the other hand , i know if i tell my friends something what makes me sorrow ,the sorrow will become half of that ,if i share my happiness with my friends ,i believe the happiness will become two happinesses .
    now let me introduce myself ,i am a chinese girl and my chinese name is Baibing ,which has the same meaning with white ice ,i don't know why my parents gave me that name ,maybe they want me to have a pure heart just like ice .and i am also a university student ,and my major is food science and engineering ,and now i am in grade 2,after 2 years i will be graduate and i dreamed of going abroad to find a good job .if you want to go to Dandong of china(a city of china ,my hometown of course) for a visit ,i think i can be your guide.would you mind giving me something about you a little bit detail?
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    best wishes for you!
    your new and honest friend ,
    icybai

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    Posted by zek (U15210256) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    Hi icybai and all!
    In my opinion, real love is the love which is not confined to only this worldly life and also this love can not be only like animal and temporary.

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    Dear Baibing,
    Yours really name Baibing sounds easier for me than icybai. Baibing it’s so romantic. But I will say as you want.
    In my country people don’t worry about the name specially. But If you asked it was a good opportunity for me to check it. Damian Its from Greek which its damios mean “public” or “doctor”.

    I’m doing my PhD. I did my master degree, postgraduate… before PhD. It takes much time. I’ve been studding for 10 years in University of Economy and Technology. Someone said that studding it’s me hobby and it is true I loved it.

    I’m married and Ive got two daughters she is 5 and 1 years old. In Poland it’s not a must to have a wife when someone is 32 years old. Of course many have a wife with this circumstances (age), but people choose another options too.
    What aspects of culture do you interested in?

    It’s a pleasure for me to talking about culture and listening yours also.
    Best wishes for you, waiting for your replay.
    Damian

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  • Message 17

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    dear Serge69,
    nice to know you and i think Russia is really near to heilongjiang province of china ,you know i think you are really cool because you can say French!added your mother tongue ,you can even say 3 kinds of languages ,but to be honest ,except my mother tongue ,i can just speak english and my english skill is just so-so.
    my hometown is Dandong of liaoning province of china ,and the special food in dandong is seafood .but i study in shenyang of liaoning province of china and my major is food science and engineering .maybe you don't know ,there are too many students who come from your country in my university ,but we don't have any chance to communicate!i feel regret about that .
    to be honest ,i don' t know Russia well ,in my mind ,i just know Russia is really a cold place in winter,but china is diffirent,some places in china is cold in winter ,and hot in summer ,but some places are all warm all year round .
    in my oppinion ,china is a large country and there are 56 minorities ,and they are all consociate each other ,they have their own special cultures .
    in china , there are so many festivals .but the most important festival is spring festival ,no matter how far the people from his or her home ,when the spring festival is coming ,they must be back home to celebrate the festival with their family members .
    as for why chinese goods are wide spread in the world ,i think china is a develping country ,it should develope its GDP and economics.but on the other hand ,i think we can also have a conclusion not from the straight side that the global world can' t lack of china~~
    are you satisfied with my anwers?
    i am looking forward to your reply ,and best wishes to you
    yours
    icybai

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  • Message 18

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    Posted by maryam (U15535997) on Friday, 21st December 2012

    hi Baibing,

    Baibing is really a sweet name,..lucky u...
    now let me introduce myself...
    I am a 21 years old girl from iran and I am junior in Tehran university.
    we have entrance exam for accepting in university...what about u?
    I love sport and I do ...I am training in fight renjer...it is a kind of karate but more intresting...
    I love to see your country,I have heard it is so attractive...
    I am unemployed...what about u?

    keep in touch..
    yours maryam

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Saturday, 22nd December 2012

    dear zek,
    first of all ,i think i should thanks for your reply .but to be honest ,i can't understand the deep meaning of what you said to me .can you say something about that a little bit more detail?
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    best wishes for you
    yours
    icybai

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Saturday, 22nd December 2012

    dear Damian,
    thanks for you give my your reply first ,and if you feel call me baibing is more easier than icybai ,i think i am happy that you can call me baibing.i call myself icybai just because my english teacher told us our chinese name is difficult for foreigners .
    today i just finished an english test which is called CET 6.the test is just for college or university students.i have already prepared that test for a long time .but i don't feel good about that exam especially the test of listening skills .i don't know how to improve my listening skills i think i should have to prepare that again to pass the test next time .
    today i want to chat with you about the culture of your country,but first i think i should introduce the culture of my country.
    i don't know how much you know the chinese culture ,but i want to tell you there are so many minorities in china ,and every minority has their own charecters and their own special foods.
    the Chrismas day is coming,but the chinese new year is also coming ,January first is not the real new year of china because January first is the Solar Calendar,,and chinese people are accustomed to the Lunar Calendar ,this year ,the real new year is Febrary 10th,chinese new year is also the spring festival ,when this festival is coming ,the member of one family will go back home no matter how far their workplace from their home.
    there are also a lot of festivals in china ,so i think i can tell you gradually .what about the culture of your country ?i am more intersted in the food of your country.can you tell me something about that?
    looking for your reply
    best wishes for you
    your friend
    Baibing

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  • Message 21

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    Posted by zek (U15210256) on Saturday, 22nd December 2012

    Yes you are right, Icebai! As you say, that meaning was very deeply. I'm so sory for it...
    In fact, for understanding this idea, the reality must be known as follows;
    We all people would love somebody or something with our heart, if they are really everlasting.
    That is to say, if something( or somebody ) is temporary, it is certain that our love towards it, would be momentary (very shortly and bounded only worldly life)
    So, as a believer, I uphold the religious idea which mentions hereafter(the life after death).
    Accordingly, when I love somebody, I know that his/her life is eternal and we don't leave each other at all. So, I can fall in real love with him/her.

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Saturday, 22nd December 2012

    Dear Baibing,
    Thanks you very much for yours reply.
    I'm not worry about your English test, I see you are a hard working student. You have to be just patient I think that know English takes time.

    I'm know something about China but not too much. I think that I know about economy more than for example about chinese cousins. Fortunately i found a good person to took about it. Thanks you.

    In Poland we find Christmas as a good time to spend it with family. Easter and Christmas are the most important holiday for us. We start to celebrate Christmas from 24th December its time to have special meal which is called wigilia. We eat 12 dishes during wigilia such as: carp, noddle with poppy... And after that is time to Santa Claus coming and Finally we end 24th December in Church at 24.00. Its generally because not all people going to the Church here. We also celebrate 25 and 26 th December mainly we go to Church and sings Carroll's.

    I wish you Merry Christmas. and Im looking for your reply

    Damian

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Sunday, 23rd December 2012

    dear zek,
    thanks for your reply for me and letting share your real feelings with me .in my oppinion ,if you love one girl ,i think that girl must be happy because you can really love her,but maybe you don't know ,there are a lot of bad boys ,they cheat some girls .they said they are love the girls ,but in fact ,they don't .they just want to have sex with that girl .after having sex ,they can find all kinds of excuses to abandon the girl .i don't know what to say about that kind of boy ,i don't know what to say about these poor girls .i trust these girls don't want to be cheated ,maybe the girls are really love these boys .so i want to ask you ,how to judge a boy who is real love that girl or not?i am really confused about that.

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Sunday, 23rd December 2012

    Dear Baibing,
    Thanks you very much for yours reply.
    I'm not worry about your English test, I see you are a hard working student. You have to be just patient I think that know English takes time.

    I'm know something about China but not too much. I think that I know about economy more than for example about chinese cousins. Fortunately i found a good person to took about it. Thanks you.

    In Poland we find Christmas as a good time to spend it with family. Easter and Christmas are the most important holiday for us. We start to celebrate Christmas from 24th December its time to have special meal which is called wigilia. We eat 12 dishes during wigilia such as: carp, noddle with poppy... And after that is time to Santa Claus coming and Finally we end 24th December in Church at 24.00. Its generally because not all people going to the Church here. We also celebrate 25 and 26 th December mainly we go to Church and sings Carroll's.

    I wish you Merry Christmas. and Im looking for your reply

    Damian  
    dear Damian
    happy to chat with you the second time .i am really confused about that how do you know i am hardworking?maybe you don't know ,every chinese students are all hardworking.
    i know the chrismas dayis coming .so i want to say mary chrismas to you.in china ,when in chrismas day ,the shop will have 50% discounts to consumers.
    but seldom people will go to church and chrismas day is just one day.
    i remember i talk about the spring festival that day ,now i want to talk about the spring festival more detail.
    the spring festival is on the December 30th in the Lunar Calendar .before the spring festival ,people have to clean their house totally and decorate their families.at the first day of teh spring festival ,people will carry some "special money"to their dead ancesters'grave to burn for their dead ancester.it just a mean to send money for their ancester.in case of stealing money by other ghost ,people have to play some fireworks which are have big sound to make the ghost ,frightened and go .when people finish that ,they can go home and eat dumplings .dumpings is the special food in china .there are several mashes in it ,such as meat and vegetables.the outline of the dumpling just like the ancient money in old china.dumpling is also a symbol of fortune.
    after eating dumplings,some people play fireworks outside,but other people sit and watch TV with other family members.
    on the second day of the spring festival ,kids will say happy new year to old people ,and the old people will give kids money which is in a red paper bag ,it means the old people wish the kids will be safe and health in this year .other people will find something to entertainment themselves .the same curiculum wil last 2 days.it is also the end day of the spring festival.but it is not the real end .after these 3 days ,the man's wife will go back to visit her parents and some people will visit thwith some gifts .

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Sunday, 23rd December 2012

    dear Damian,
    i am sorry about the internet problem ,so i can't give you my reply nomally.in the last sentence of the last reply, i just want to say the forth day of the spring festival ,people will take some gifts to visit their relatives .
    are you satisfied about my explanations?if you like, i think i can tell you more abuut the other festivals in china.
    best wishes for you ,
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    yours
    Baibing

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  • Message 26

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    Posted by zek (U15210256) on Sunday, 23rd December 2012

    Hi Icybai!
    I absolutely understand you and all girls you mentioned are really in a miserable and deplorable situation.
    So, in my opinion, it needs that a true law which causes all hearts exactly.
    Do you know the Islamic rules about this situation?...
    If you wonder it, I can mention it ...
    For true Muslim, if he loves someone, he bears that love and respect for her, not only during her youth when she is beautiful, but also she is old and ugly...

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  • Message 27

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Monday, 24th December 2012

    dear zek,
    thanks for your reply ,you have your own religion ,maybe you can let you have good behaviors ,but nearly 90%people in china don't have their own religions .this kind of phenomen is really exists in china what i am mentioned about and these girls really love the boys ,but the boys don't love them at all in their hearts ,but they say they love these girls in their mouth.
    if the girls abondoned by the boy who have already had sex with the boy ,they always choose to be quiet about that because they have sex isn't known except that boy and herself ,if they tell her parents ,maybe you don't know ,in china ,if a girl have sex with a boy before marriage ,she will be considered as a bad girl. in a word ,if a girl have sex with a boy before marrige ,it is considered as a thing which make their parents lose face .so ,i want to ask you ,how do you know a boy if he real love you or not?do you know something about that?
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    all best wishes for you
    yours
    icybai

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  • Message 28

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Friday, 28th December 2012

    Dear Baibing,
    Firstly I would like to say sorry for delay.

    In Poland its Christmas time. Even that not everybody go to the church, its time to meet family. Its magic time for me too. At 24th December we have a special dinner with carp instead of turkey. Its probably the famoust dish for the event in Poland.
    After that its time to have two days of religious holiday. Im atheist and I mainly belive only what I see. But for many people here its time to go to the church and sing carols. Breakfast is not as important as dinner which is call "wigilia" at 24Dec..
    Wigilia start when the first star apear on the sky. Generlly it contain twelth disches which we prepere spacialy for this day.
    We dont eat pork during wigilia because of fast.

    What about yours cousine during the most important holiday ?

    keep well
    waiting for your reply.
    Damian

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  • Message 29

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Saturday, 29th December 2012

    dear Damian ,
    thanks for you giving me your reply!i know the chrismas day is really important for foreigners,so i don' t mind your delay of your reply!
    i am really happy that you introduce the custome of your country in detail ,and most of what you said i can understand ,but i don' t know which you said that you don't eat pork during wigilia because of fast.what's the meaning of because of so fast?
    today ,i want to chat with you about something else except festivals and religions .what are you doing recently?now ,let me tell you something about me .you know with the coming of the end of the year ,the final examinations are coming .my subjects are really difficult for me,and what make things worse is i have a bad cold and i have a high fever ,so i can' t pay all my attention on it .
    have you ever met the circumstances like me?and how do you deal with that?now i am really at a loss .
    looking forward to your reply! and best wishes for you!
    your sincere friend
    BaiBing

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  • Message 30

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Wednesday, 2nd January 2013

    Hi Baibing,
    I’m sorry again, that you are waiting too long for my message.

    Wigilia is fast day for us means we don’t eat meat as pork, beef during dinner “wigilia” we eat fish it’s possible to it also chicken, turkey etc. But the most popular to eat is carp, about 90% people eat carp.

    I’m sure that you cope with examinations. As I said few weeks ego you are a smart and clever girl. Just believe in yourself, and never give up. I still meet situations where it’s too much to do in the same time.
    Just do it immediately don’t put it off till tomorrow. The easiest thinks are the most difficult to learn for example regularity when we learn. Some exampel , you answer for my message really regularly,you can do that.

    Most of my time I spend at work where I work as Product improvement manager and also at my home with family specially with my daughters they are 1 and 5 years old its lots to do with my girls. When I have some free time I devote it for science if possible I reading, writing and learning every day for 2-3 hours. It’s what I do generally.

    Tell me more about your exams. What kind of subject do you study? How the process of learning look like (oral exams ? practice ?.... ) in China?

    Keep well, and good luck
    Damian

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  • Message 31

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Wednesday, 9th January 2013

    Dear mamian,
    Thanks for your reply and i don't mind you are late at all because I know you are really busy, after all you are a doctor and I know in china ,a doctor must do a lot of works ,recently,I am really busy because I prepared my final exams ,but now ,I finished that today,I feel really relaxed about that.i have a lot of subjects to learn such as English ,pe,math,and so on.but what make me feel most difficult is biochemistry and physichemistry.i have to understand the main idea of these subjects and recite all of the books.though it is difficult ,but I think I can pass the exam .but that not my aim.i think I should be a top student in my class and I want to get scholarship ,do you know something about biochemistry and physichemistry?Talk something about that.
    Lookong forward to your reply!
    Best wishes for you
    Your sincere friend,
    Baibing

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  • Message 32

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Thursday, 17th January 2013

    Hello Baibing,
    You have to be very patience with me. Thanks you for your answer and I’m sorry that you are waiting as long for my answer.

    I’m not have doctoral degree yet. But you are right it takes lot times to do it. I am on half road to have PhD.
    I’m really curious how you done with your exams. I’m sure that you cope with it. I appreciate your aim to be top student, I think it’s worth to work hard to achieve it.
    Biochemistry and physichemistry aren’t my field so I know nothing about it.

    By the way we can talk about education system in your and my country.
    First think its rate. What kind of rates you’ve got. Here it’s range from 2 to 5 at the university level. 2 means not pass whereas 5 it’s the best rate. Only the rate 2 you have to improve when you want to have a promotion to the next level.

    Have a nice time.
    looking for your replay.
    Damian

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Sunday, 20th January 2013

    hello Damian,
    i can really understand you and you won't be feel sorry about that you can't reply me on time .after all ,i know you have your own business and your own life .
    today i want to tell you something about chinese exams .because my major is food science and engineering ,so i have to learn biochemsitry and physichemistry.biochemistry is the subject which have the idea of biology to explain chemistry ,and similaly ,physichemistry is the subject which have the idea of physical to explain chemistry.
    by the way ,i talk about education system in my country.in colleges and universities ,we have the similar system of yours ,if you got 60 to 69 scores ,you can get one credit ,if you got 70to 79 scores ,you can get 2 credits ,if you got 80to89scores ,you can get 3 credits,if you got 90to 100scores ,you can get 4credits.but if your score is lower than 60,you can't get credit and you can't pass the exam!(those exams' full mark are 100 .)
    in elementary to senior schools ,they don't use credits to judge a students' grades .the more scores they got ,the better position in their grades.
    what about your country?
    i am looking for your reply!
    have a nice day and nice dream,
    baibing

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    Posted by Ali_Msk (U14816088) on Sunday, 20th January 2013

    Hi, girl from China.

    A boy (or a girl) is not a thing one has to possess, like a PC or a cell phone. It's a herd instinct that make you worry about that, because most of your mates possess something you don't. So, be clever, don't be a "battery in the system". You should not search for a boy, a boy is to find you. You are a girl, you must save your femininity and not debase making immense number of aquaintances with people of male gender.

    So... If you don't know or feel who is your favorite, do not stupid things. I believe, you gonna find your chosen among 700 million chinese boys. When the time comes.

    Best regards,

    Ali.

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Tuesday, 22nd January 2013

    hi ali ,
    thanks for your reply first ,but i am sorry to tell you ,you make a misunderstanding of my main idea second .i said my friends of my surrounding are all have their boy friends not means i am eager to find my own soul partner now .now i am a student in a university and i just want to be a top student in my class .
    you said i should waiting until a boy choose me when the proper time comes.i can't agree more with that.i think i can find my real love some day in the furture.
    thanks for your idea and nice to know you .i think we can be good friends .can you agree with that?where are you come from ?
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    best wishes for you
    icybai

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  • Message 36

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Tuesday, 22nd January 2013

    Dear Baibing,
    Thanks you for your message.
    Our education system is changing many times. Consequently I don’t how it is works exactly on the elementary levels now.
    I know little more about MasterD and PhD, but also on these are different thinks.
    Master degree it’s possible to do in private or public school. Some of them are system which include points another have marks. Generally due to pass you have to get 60% from each subject.
    I think it’s quite similar than in China. is it?
    PhD its different story it’s possible to do only in public school or privet school with well reputation and high rate academic cadre. There are also subjects which you have to pass but main think it’s to do dissertation. It’s an obese paper study which include scientific research and theory, synthesis,… its about 300-400 pages.
    By the way it’s always worth to study hard to achieve some grand’s etc.
    How about a job? it’s easy to find after you graduate school, is it?
    How the market job looks like ?

    Waiting for your reply.
    Keep well
    Damian

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Friday, 25th January 2013

    hi Damian,
    thanks for your reply for me first .
    as we all know ,china has the largest population in the world .so though you received high education ,that not means you can find a good job .maybe the system of china is diffirent from some foreign countries .as long as you attend the college entrance examinations ,more than 95% students can get higher educations.so i don't think university or college students have some advatanges than other competitors .i really feel annoyed about that .maybe you don't know ,though i am in grade 2 now ,but i have already worried about my job in the future .i don't know what i can do and how is the salary of my job and if i can support myself in the future .
    what about the education system of your country?what is the job market of your country?
    best wishes for you
    i am looking forward to your reply!
    Baibing

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  • Message 38

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    Posted by rudazo88 (U15590784) on Friday, 25th January 2013

    hi Baibing!
    i'm not sure are u still interesting in subject which u started about boyfriend but i'm answeringsmiley - winkeye i absolutely understand ur apprehension. i had been avoiding relationships most of my life and than i met some guy. he seemed to be good person but i didnt want to be with him because i was afraid of being hurt. he was so stubborn that after all i agreed to be his girlfriend and we were together several months. but some day our relationship was just finished. now i'm hurt but on the other hand i know that it's impossible to force other person to love. and i dont think it means that he's a bad guy or that he cheat me. sometimes we think we're in love but maybe it's just hormones which trick us???? so...should we take a risk???i think we should because if we dont try we will never find a love..
    regards
    Marta

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  • Message 39

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    Posted by Damian (U15455745) on Monday, 28th January 2013

    Hi Baibing,
    I’m sure that education help us in job market. And there are more invisible factors which do that. These are possible do see in C.V. or interview.
    Here job market its difficult I think here is abate 20% unemployed (some of them want to be unemployed , some don’t).
    Economic crises has big impact or it. Flexible is also important factor which has influence on unemployed number .Some professions disappear or market don’t need as many people.
    Globalization is also huge impact China also has an influence. Lots of product are from your country. China labor cost are lower than in Europe.
    Do you see these ? How about your access to all website ?
    China its very interesting country, yours culture, history and economic growth are amazing.
    Have a nice day
    Damian

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Tuesday, 29th January 2013

    hi Diamian,
    thank you for you give me your reply first .i know chinese labors are really cheap,i don' t know the reason ,but the china products are really expensive ,i don't know the reason exactly ,in a word ,i don't like china at all,when i speak out that to you , maybe you said i am negative ,in some areas ,the people are really poor ,but they never be cared by the goverment .not because china has no money,just because some governers put the money which belongs to the poor people into their own pocket .lilltle that kind of governers was throw into prison by chance ,but most of them become rich people in (more than 95%)that way.
    in the society of china , money is the permonent topic ,no matter the governm ent schools or the private schools ,they are all for making money.instead of letting students learn much .that is also the reason the students who got the master's or bachalor's even doctor's degree can't find a good job .
    after hearing my discriptions ,do you know much more the chinese society?i have had enough of that!!

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Tuesday, 29th January 2013

    hi rudazo88,
    thanks for you give me your reply first ,in my oppinion ,if one boy doesn't love a girl ,he shouldn't agree with a girl no matter how a girl beg him.if he agree with her at first and then abandon her ,it will hurt the girl much more than that he doesn't agree at first.
    there is an old saying in china says "one experence can make you teach you
    one lesson",from that ,i know if a girl have a boy friend ,she will put all her attention on it ,in other word ,the boy is her whole ,but the boy doesn't .if he have a girl friend ,he will have a comparison with other girls around him and if a girl is much better than his girl friend ,he will change his mind ,that is why if a girl break up with her boy friend ,he will sad for a long time,but a boy can began a new life instantly.
    that is my oppinion ,do you agree with me ?
    best wishes for you.
    yous ,
    Baibing

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  • Message 42

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    Posted by moji (U15595703) on Tuesday, 29th January 2013

    Dear icybai
    I'm a 25 years old boy, from Iran.Today is my first day on this site and telling the truth,your issue intrigued me. referring to your first statement, I'm sure now you are not as puzzled as past because lots of people shared their point of view with you. But I hope this delayed message is useful for you.
    At first I want you to concern about yourself. It's totally normal that you compare yourself with your friends and it's a bit annoying to be alone while your couple friends are spending time together. But don't forget that everybody has his/her own situation. So don't worry about this aspect.
    Let's deal with your main problem which is (In my idea) your fear of breakup and finding a suitable boy friend. Don't use the word standard boy friend; that's wrong to tag people as a standard or a low quality stock.
    The important thing in a relation is to play your role sincerely. Just BE YOURSELF. Don't loose your personality as a way for resolving problems.It's definitely wrong. The beauty of a relation is the ability to settle with each other. If you can reach a compromise then be sure there will be no unsolvable problem between you. but sometimes things doesn't work as you expect and a supposed lovely relation comes into an agony, That's when break up will be a haven.
    So I recommend you to start a relation with a favorable guy on the premise of a happy and lovely future. Then as you enjoy good times,Try to pass obstacles together.Then If breaking up happens you don't blame anybody, your ways were just different. and keep it in your mind that experiencing a relation is better than avoiding it, even though it ends in break up. smiley - smiley
    By the way do you know any Iranian here, Someone nice who I can communicate?

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    Posted by icybai (U15516083) on Friday, 1st February 2013

    hi moji,
    thanks for your reply first ,now ,i want to tell you ,i don't feel annoyed that my close friends are all have their own boy friends but i am single .
    now i am a student in university in china and now i am in grade two.my major is food science and engineering.so i want to study hard and to be a top student in my class instead of finding a boy friend .now i am not feel lonely because i have a lot of friends around me though i don't have a boy friend .
    by your advice i conviced that i will find a most suitbale boy for me in the furture.
    the last i want to tell you that i .last,i am sorry about that i don't know any Iranian here who can chat with you.
    nice to know you.
    best wishes for you and have a nice day!
    sincerely
    icybai

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    Posted by Vladimir (U14599522) on Friday, 1st February 2013

    Hi

    I like discussions about love, relationship etc. because it’s really crucial in people’s life.

    By the way, pay attention to message 18 in this thread: I am a 21 years old girl from iran and I am junior in Tehran university. 

    Best wishes.
    Vladimir

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    Posted by moji (U15595703) on Friday, 1st February 2013

    Hi Vladimir

    thanks for your help man, But now I'm facing another problem and that is how I can message her? for your information I'm going to apply abroad for master degree and I'm looking for a speaking partner to improve myself. Since I am a newcomer, I can't find a way for that and I would be grateful if you can guide me.

    About what you mentioned in the letter, actually I'm interested in this subject, too. I think it's a good idea to start a new discussion about love and relationship. I will follow your question surely.

    With regard,
    Moji

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    Posted by Vladimir (U14599522) on Saturday, 2nd February 2013

    Hi, Moji

    To communicate with your compatriot you may try to write to hers topics. List of these topics you may see if you click on her name on upper side of her message or may follow this link www.bbc.co.uk/dna/mb... .

    As you are newcomer here, I would like to suggest you to read this thread posted by Alex “TIPS FOR NEWCOMERS”: www.bbc.co.uk/dna/mb... . Also I advice you to read FAQ by clicking on link on the left side of this page.

    I don’t quite understand why you want to start new thread, what wrong with this one? I hope Icybai would not object to our participation here smiley - smiley . You see starting new thread somehow obliged you to keep it afloat, but I’m too lazy to put too much effort in writing smiley - smiley . Besides, as you are interested, you may read and share your opinion in these old similar threads - www.bbc.co.uk/dna/mb... www.bbc.co.uk/dna/mb...

    Best wishes,
    Vladimir

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  • Message 47

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    Posted by rudazo88 (U15590784) on Sunday, 3rd February 2013

    hi Baibing!
    I don't endorse being in relationship just to don't be alone and have girlfriend/boyfriend. i said that sometimes we think we're in love but we're not and it isn't anybody fault that a couple of people break up.
    i agree with you that usually girls put much more attention in relationship and in her partner than boys. this is why girls are usually more hart after break up. so when we're in relationship we mustn't forget about all our life. we must spend time with our friends too, have some hobbies. we can't focus all our attention on boyfriend.
    you're right after breakup the boys can began a new life but why girls can't???
    we can start new life too!!!
    best wishes for you
    marta

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    Posted by moji (U15595703) on Monday, 4th February 2013

    Hi Vladimir
    thanks for our help.It was very kind of you smiley - winkeye
    so lets continue the title here.Now I have a general question and I want everyone who is interested in this subject gives an answer to that. I think this approach will lead us to an acceptable conclusion. The question is: "What do you expect from your lover?" that means what makes you to love him/her more and on the contrary what aspects do you detest in him/her? you can mention only some of crucial matters and the reason that makes it important to you.

    with best regards;
    Moji

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  • Message 49

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    Posted by vikram (U15602198) on Monday, 4th February 2013

    Hi, I am Vikram from India. I think you should search for some qualities in a boy before making him your boy friend. Those qualities must match with those contained in you. Like habits, nature, mutual understanding, what does he do, what type of sense of humor he has etc etc. After deeply analyzing these all you would be able to come to a conclusion. Be patient in making decision. Leave rest on God. Best of Luck!

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    Posted by Vladimir (U14599522) on Monday, 4th February 2013

    Hi, Moji

    What do you expect from your lover?  I think the answer should be – to be THE BEST parent to your children. It doesn’t mean that this concrete person is the toughest person in the world, but you unconsciously convinced yourself about that, and you believe it, and because of that you don’t see (and you don’t want to see) in your partner any negative aspects. Or more exactly any his negative aspects you perceive as virtues that distinguish your partner among the rest.

    I think at the moment when one will notice his partner’s deficiency and will start to consider percentage of pluses and minuses at the same moment it will be the end of his love.

    Best wishes,
    Vladimir

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