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  • Message 1. 

    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Tuesday, 23rd October 2012

    Hello Everybody!

    I am quite excited. smiley - smiley I used to write here when I was in the UK . It was so fun as i was lerning about new things, cultures , different types of hobbies that people have.

    I am happy to be back and I would be grateful if you could kindly write to me as well. smiley - smiley

    Best ..


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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Tuesday, 23rd October 2012

    Hi Melissent!
    Well come back! Your English seems fluent. I am Bachir from Algeria. I am both Arabic and French speaker. I would improve my English skills. I want to be fluent. I know that needs a lot of work. Even it needs to steadily practice listening, reading, writting .... I hope we can help each other ... Cheers Bachir

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Wednesday, 24th October 2012

    Hi Bachir

    Thank you for your reply! I am from Turkey, Izmir. I would like to improve my writing skills as well. I read your previous comments and I think you are quite good at writing too. How nice that you can speak French. It is one of my favourite languages even though I can’t speak. I had registered for a French course at the beginning of the year but couldn’t continue coz of the timing. But I am still listening to French music and watching movies, never became disterested. smiley - smiley

    Well.. It is time for me to go back to work. Have a great day and hope to catch up again soon .

    Best wishes.

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Wednesday, 24th October 2012

    Hi Melissent
    Thank you for your quick reply. I guess we can share a lot of stuffs. I am interested in literature. poetry. daily life. music. travels. psychology. History; Tell me about you. about Izmir; I know it was shacked many times by earthquake. My own city was shacked many times as well. I never been here. but I know how Turkey is amazing. I hope someday to go on trip there. I like Turkish music and dervish dance. I went many times to France and have there dinners at Turkish restaurants. I found Turkish food tasty. I can say I a bit keen of Turkey. Waiting your reply Cheers Bachir

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Wednesday, 24th October 2012

    sorry I did so,e keyboard-mistakes

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 3rd November 2012

    Hi Bachir

    Sorry for my late answer. I was on holiday with my friends for the bairam and had a great time. How is everything?

    You informed me that you are interested in psychology, history and music. Which topics in psychology you are more interested in? What kind of music you are listening to ? I like history as well but I am not very keen on.

    Reading is one of my passions. How about reading? Do you read as well? If so what kind of books do you like?

    I think I asked lots of questions smiley - smiley

    Bachir I probably write back to you at the weekends.

    Have nice weekend! smiley - smiley


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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 3rd November 2012

    Ups! Here are my answers... smiley - smiley

    Izmir is a beautiful city and one of the favorite destinations for a vacation. Cesme, Foca, Bergama are quite famous places to visit. I am a nursery teacher and enjoying my job because I love my little students. smiley - smiley

    You meant Zeybek, the famous dance in izmir smiley - smiley It is nice to watch a couple when they do the Zeybek dance.

    I am very keen to philosophy and often listen to BBC iPlayer for the philosophy subjects.

    Best smiley - smiley


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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Saturday, 3rd November 2012

    Hi Melissent,
    Thank you for your reply. I psychologie, I am interested on the topic which have direct link with daily life, relashionship and becoming. I teached relashionsips to adults, many years ago. I liked that. It was a lot improving for me (as a teacher you learn more than you are learner). I discovered then a huge Americain psychologist Carl Rogers Whom is known as "the father" of therapy centered on the client. Carl Rogers worked deeply in psychology and educational fields. He wrote a lot of books such:
    In becoming a person,
    Freedom to learn
    Of course, I read these books in French.
    Elias Porter, was among the team of Carl Rogers, a kind of disciple. Carl Rogers did the classification of humain behaviour on six main types. Their studies (Carl Rogers, Elias Porter, Their follovers) show some "behaviour' are improving for people and relashionships and some other, in quite reverse, are
    relashionship's killer ... its smother blooming.... We 'll talk about this topic if you were interested with ....
    About music I am keen of word music .... I am quite eclectic .... I like all is beautiful ..... and, the are some gorgeous universal tracks .... and songs ....
    such the following
    Yes I like reading .... even we can change ideas about that
    Of course I am waiting to know more about You Chers Bachir

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 3rd November 2012

    Hi Bachir

    Thank you for sharing the information about Carl Rogers. I didn’t know that he is the second influential psychologist after Freud. I used to read articles about psychology and follow a website

    In the past I read lots of self development books and my favorites were Emotional & Social Psychology (Daniel Goleman) I had planned to read The Enneagram (Helen Palmer) but couldn't make it. Now I am reading Feeling Good ( Dr David Burns) and The Metamorphosis (Frans Kafka) it is a bit disturbing though. Probably the next book will be the Men's Search for Meaning (Victor Frankl)

    As to Philosophy, I don’t follow a specific philosopher I just like to know their thoughts about the life, their answers etc. If you are using an Android telephone you can install the BBC Iplayer than click the History section and it will enable you to listen to the philosophers’ lives and thoughts from the well known academics.

    Music! Here is a few ones that i really like to listen:

    By for now : )



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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Saturday, 3rd November 2012

    Hi Melisent,
    Thank you for the information and the links you sent. I'll look at them later. I am sure they be helpful. I read the metamorphosis about 40 years ago. it made me uncomfortable. In french, when you want to say some situation is ununderstable .... irational ... you can say it is "kafkaian". Even thank you for the music. Hope to morrow I 'll tell you more Cheers Bachir,

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Sunday, 4th November 2012

    Thank you Bachir.

    Have a nice week by the way. : )

    Best, Melisent.

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Sunday, 4th November 2012

    Hi Melissent,
    I think the issue of each humanbeing is how to be himself. Since you were born a lot of things tend to make a distance between you and yourself. As the gap is large, as the evil is deep. More you can be yourself, more you are in great health. More you are far from your self more you are sick. It's both simple and complex. The issue for the psychologists is how to lead you to refind your self. It's a long and hard way. That way is scattered with obstacles. It's likely you take a wrong path. It's not without danger. .... Which is your opinion? Bachir
    **Hope my English is ubderstandablesmiley - smiley

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Monday, 5th November 2012

    Dear Bachir

    First of all , I would like to indicate that your English is really clear.

    Being yourself is an important subject and it is sad that people generally suffering from this subject because the consequences of not being your self are painful as it affects people psychologically. I think the first basic thing to do is be at peace with yourself because this attitude will bring happiness and will help people to communicate effectively with others.

    In the past I used ask the same question to myself : Are you being yourself?? As I am getting older I feel very confident and it enables me to be myself in every way. The experiences have a big influence on me as well. : )

    Have a nice day!


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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Monday, 5th November 2012

    According to the previous message, here is the most famous quotation from one of the most influential Muslim poet, jurist, theologian, MEVLANA :

    ''Either exist as you are or be as you look.''



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  • Message 15

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Friday, 9th November 2012

    Hi Melissa,
    "Either exist as you are or be as you look" ..... This saying of MEVLANA seems absolutely right and very easy to do .... But it's well known that people to could life among their society, school, work, family, etc .. need to be polite .... to not express all their thoughts, they need a behavior "like a" ..... then to wear a mask .... to not be exactly themselves .... To bloom, to improve yourself, you need to be really "yourself" .... How can we to reconcile these two opposite constraints? Cheers Bachir,

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hi Bachir

    Hope you are having a nice weekend! : )

    People shouldn’t wear a mask when they need to express their real thoughts on a particular thing and of course should be polite to each other in everywhere. ( I know it sounds weird as it is impossible to come across such thing , politeness in everwhere!!??.....

    I would like to give an example about two types of behaving (the basic ones). You are very relaxed and can be yourself when you are with your close friends. The situation is different when you are at work as you are unable to be the same because it wouldn't seem professional. There is no need to wear a mask there, just be professional.

    The phrase of ''just be yourself'' is all about giving the right impressions about who you are, what you want and what you do. Not pretending the one that you really aren't at all. Self awareness is the key for a self improvement and a main source of being yourself

    Best. : )

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hi Melissa,
    You are absolutely right ..... life needs some compromises ..... things sould not be absolutely white or absolutely black ..... It's just matter to be honest .... it's just matter to don't be at the opposite of one' self .... to not allow to the gap between "what we are" and "what we look" to become too large .... Anyway, I'll be pleasured to know more of you .... of your daily life .... your projects ..your dreams .... Cheers Bachir smiley - smiley
    PS about my week end(week end in Algeria is on Friday and saturday) On Friday I attended the commemoration of the death of a close friend of mine dead about a year ago. He was "IBADIT". Ibadism is a way to practice Islam. Ibadism is located in an area called "wadi mizab" and in the state of Oman. They are some costumes differents from the sunite way. For example social link are more formal than ours. And when they gather to celebrate some event ... it's very difficult to identify who is wealthy ..who is poor .... they dress the same clothes ... solydarity between the members of this community is great ... they are known to work hard and proprely .... to seek for continually improving they selves by learning etc ... Hhere are some photos of Mzab

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    Posted by Huberaime (U14328763) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hello. The contributions in this thread are of a good level so I feel like joining in. I'd like to make new pen-friends on the BBC MB. I'm a French retired teacher. I'd love you to see my photo blog about Provence and to give me some feedback, which could be a good starting point for friendship:
    All the best.

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  • Message 19

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hi Huberaime,
    I am Bachir from Algeria. I am senior but I still work as sales manager at small compagny of building. I experienced a lot of jobs, among them teaching relationships to adult people (I mutch enjoyed that). I looked to your blog. What you do is great. I welcome you in our talk. Cheers Bachir
    PS. I wrote some poems in French, If you were interested to read one I chose for you, you would look to the following link:

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    Posted by Huberaime (U14328763) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    A very nice poem, Bachir! Yes, love is life's engine. Without it, existence is a painful search. If you like my blog, you can recommend it to your friends. I also wrote a free-reading illustrated bilingual travel book: huberttabutiaux.word...
    I'd love some feedback or comments.
    See you soon. H.

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  • Message 21

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Dear Bachir

    Thank you very much for sharing those photos. I didn't know anything about this type of religion and about their rules as they have been differentiated from others by their own rules.

    Today is a very important day for our country. We are remembering ATATURK on his 74. anniversary of death. I joined the community that shows their respect by walking with our flag. ATATURK is a well known leader who had launched the Turkish revolution and reform for his country's welfare. We owe him a lot!!

    Best wishes.


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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hello. The contributions in this thread are of a good level so I feel like joining in. I'd like to make new pen-friends on the BBC MB. I'm a French retired teacher. I'd love you to see my photo blog about Provence and to give me some feedback, which could be a good starting point for friendship:
    All the best.  
    Dear Huberaime

    Welcome to the board. We are happy that you enjoyed our conversation and would like to join as well. I am Melisa, 28, from Turkey, Izmir.

    I have looked at your blog; it is quite impressive as you have informed people about your valuable experiences. It is a very useful blog. Unfortunately I don't have any blog to share but I am posting the links to the board (Bachir has created one already) about music that I appreciate a lot as I am very keen into music, history of art, psychology. They can be seen at :

    Best wishes.


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  • Message 23

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    Posted by bachirbachir (U15171572) on Saturday, 10th November 2012

    Hi Melissa,
    Yes Mustapha Kemal Attaturk is well known. We can't understand anything about modern Turkey wihout reference to that great man. Eventhough, any change always bring both positive and less positive things. I love your country and hope all people get along and continue to do their best to make Turkey reach the top of nations and rewin it's glorious history. Cheers Bachir

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  • Message 24

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    Posted by Huberaime (U14328763) on Sunday, 11th November 2012

    Thank you Melisent for having a view at my blog. I followed the 3 links to You tube. I like the 3 old songs. Spend a good Sunday everybody. H.

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  • Message 25

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    Posted by MELISENT (U15474604) on Tuesday, 13th November 2012

    Dear Bachir and Everybody

    I would love to share one of my favorites again!

    And Bachir this one especially for you : ) You might have heard about this already tough.. Just in case.




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