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ok guys, i just moved school and there's this boy i like. ok, so don't laugh, but 1) i havn't talked to him yet (he's in none of my classes) 2)i'm pretty new to this and 16 (a late bloomer) and 3) he has a girlfriend.
i know what you're thinking: as if you have a chance. but i don't care and still want him to know i'm interested incase they split. (btw they aren't a serious couple).
so, how should i approach this? i'm thinking about smiling at him in the corridors and stuff, but what do you think? and to all the guys out there, i would love your opinions...
(suggestions about just strolling up to him out of the blue and saying high is out of the question
) thanks xxx
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Hi Yasemink. You shouldn't worry about being 16. I'm 16 too and I haven't had any romantic experiences yet!
I can totally sympathise with you because I'm in a very similiar situation. I would try smiling at him in the corridors. Do you know any of his friends? Or even his girlfriend? Talking to the girlfriend of the guy you like seems very risky, but you said they aren't a serious couple. Try getting your group of friends to hang out near where he hangs out at lunch. Even if you don't talk to him, he'll still see you!
I hope me advice helped a little and best of luck to you!
CharismaViolet
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thanks so much!
yeah, our groups sometimes hang out very closely together, and im positive he's seen me because we've had eye contact a few times. and as for his girlfriend: well first of all, she's in two of my classes and i have talked to her a few times (she's very sweet, which makes it harder for me!) and well, when you compare the two of us, she's alot prettier than i am. but hey, i'm still gonna go for it!
thanks for the reply again
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Don't worry about being 16 and 'a late bloomer', I'm 16 in a month and I've never had a proper boyfriend. ('I'm going out with him' when you're 12 doesn't count
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I'd say catch his eye when you walk past him and smile, just a bit, so it's not too obvious - and maybe if there's a good opportunity when he's near you, introduce yourself? Just say you've seen him around a lot and wondered who he is?
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Listening to: 'Everything Will Be Alright' - The Killers.This is a reply to this message.
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also have some friends set up the ring of sound...
it's what i did for the ultimutly unsuccsessful crush my freind had.
have your freinds listen to their conversations, see what the situation is between them, how they talk...how they feel about hte relationship...general intelThis is a reply to this message.
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thanks for the advice guys! i saw him in the corridors and said to myself 'eye-contact an smile'. so, i looked over casually and we gained eye contact but i froze! lol, doesn't matter i'll try again tommorow!
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Have you tried just saying a couple of words to him just saying hi or something. But try not to sound like a 2 year old girl.
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Matthew, i'm guessing you're a guy. such a coincidence since the guy i'm talking about is matthew, but anywho...
no way. it will be too weird to stroll up to him infront of his mates. thanks anyway
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Why would you go after a boy that has a girlfriend? What's the point, you'll only cause trouble for yourself at this new school. I think it's very silly. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but if you're not in any of his classes and you haven't really talked to him then you really don't know anything about what he's really like. It seems like a crush to me and although that doesn't make it any better for you, you'll still hurt and everything, but you will get over it.
But don't go after a boy who has a girlfriend. If they split up, then that's fine, but causing trouble will only make enemies for yourself at school.
Wait, don't rush into things. The right boy will come along.This is a reply to this message.
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I don't stray into the lounge much - well, ever. But today I have, and this is top, and I have a little nugget of adivce.
You're a living, breathing person, made of flesh and bones and dead skin on the end of your fingers. He is exactly the same, with bones and skin, he's not a fingernail-less god, so think of him as a regular person just like you. For all you know he might know about you and want to like you, so next time you make eye contact, think of that and relax, and smile back.
No need to rush, he will keep on living and since you go to school together, one day your paths will cross. Unless you're really worried they wont, ask him for his mobile number or something. Like I said, both only humans, both equal.This is a reply to this message.
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Thanks Kim, don't worry, im not some realtionship-breaker or anything. i just want him to know that if they ever split up, i'm interested. and i do know about him through friends, but i get your point, i need to know him before i start to like him.
thanks again
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thanks for the advice Mikey, i get what your saying
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it's what makes us human kim.
i find if they're in a realtionship it makes it more diffficult and you do more to impress them kinda the
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I'm sorry I didn't mean to be so blunt. I just think you deserve better than to wait around for someone to dump someone. This happened to me, I really liked this guy and he had this girlfriend. Then when they split up I went out with him, but oh god, it was terrible because I was the rebound girlfriend and that's never a good thing to be, especially when they end up calling you by her name, oh god that was bad! That's not to say that you would be a rebound girlfriend, lol...but getting to know him first as a friend would be good. Who knows you might end up falling for each other any way.
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don't apologise for expressing your opinion
i totally respect your views and i find your advice very helpful.
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I was in the same situation and now im dating him :D
The one thing i did was smiling when i went past him , and just talk to him he'll see how much you rock and he'll follow yoou ! Plus there was extra help with the fact his girlfriend just didnt get him and also well i went through something preety bad and he was there for me and BAM ! Just happend like that xxxThis is a reply to this message.
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thanks for the advice
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Please remember that however "not serious" they look, another girl's guy is out of bounds. I just had a best friend lose her boyfriend because of someone who decided that he should be hers. It kinda makes me feel a bit ill.
Wait till they split otherwise it could land you in a lot of guano. Also at 16 it's probably better to focus on studies than agonise over someone who could turn out to have the personality of a turnip.
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