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i've got a mate, i can't say what he's called and he's got a crush on a girl.
He came up to us asking for advice, three of us just mocked him and refused to give advice, so he asked me,
i've never what's it called...flirted with a girl, nor have i ever had a crush on one, thus i offered even less help. but just to not let the other enjoy watching him mess it up can some of you lend a hand. please, if he messes up they'll never let him live it down, so please, anything i can pass onto him??? -
Hi jetguy
Lots of guys have no idea how to start a conversation with the girl they like, and I know it may be surprising to you, but so do girls with boys.
We girls like it when boys take an interest in our views and don't become blinded by their own and their friend's opinions.
Rule One: Guys who act the 'player' in front of girls don't get the vote. Its the ones who are genuine and want to know more about us that we like
But don't over do it (stalking isn't the 'done' thing at the moment)
It also depends on what kind of status your friend is with this girl at the moment...
Have they talked before? Do they have any classes together? Do they know each other?
This makes a huge difference. Because it let's say your friend has a crush 'from afar' and has never spoken to her, he shouldn't ask her straight out "what are you doing tonight?"
It just doesn't work like that.
Although we want the man to take control, we don't want to move fast, because chances are, we're looking for a real relationship.
Taking the chance is the best thing to do. If you are waiting next to her in the school canteen, say "Hi" hopefully she will respond back. Make some kind of conversation... about her day, if she asks you, tell her honestly, and hopefully it should hit off.
Talking to her after that should be easier, as you know how to deal with the situation and not to scoff your words
But don't interrupt a discussion with her friends, because it may seem strange but friends are usually the 1st priority, as they are more likely to stick by you when their boyfriend isn't...
I hope that helps.
I know it was a bit of a ramble, but good luck!
x x x
NikkiThis is a reply to this message.
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He just has to be himself. Be confident and I don't know where he'll talk to her, but I'm assuming she's in the same year as him, so he could start talking to her about a lesson or a teacher or something they both know about so the conversation gets going. He could ask her something about herself so he finds out a bit about her, but basically, he needs to just be himself cos he won't be able to keep up putting on a different personality.
I don't know if that helps or not. But hopefully it will a bit. :P
Rosie x
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I agree with Rosie. He's got to be himself. If she doesn't like that then she's not the right one for her.
Though I used to just get people I knew to ask others out for me so I'm not the best person to ask.This is a reply to this message.
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i'll pass it on, i'm seeing him for HE sports today, i'll tell you how it goes, we're on the verge of a bet of money that he'll mess it up (when moneys involved, IT'S PERSONAL!)
thanks nikki, that made real sence, i hope it does to him!
we're home ed so it's semmi regular, we meet up for diffrent things, so just to check up
1. be himself
2.don't stalk (even i guessed that)
3. take intrest in her views
4. show intrest in what she likes
5.be confident
watch this post, this is not the end i bet!
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he he hee
he came closer to messing up than my first EF-16 flight (-<-that close)
but i worked, bet is on, he started off like a french man meeting an english girl, she didn't understand most of the start, but now the've got aa date! this should be GOOD, more help please?This is a reply to this message.
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Aww that is so cute!
It depends... where is he taking her?
For example: if it is to the cinema don't push her into a 'first kiss'. Watch the film together and discuss afterwards.
Its nice if he can walk her come to her front door, it shows a sense of control and she will feel more protected.
If he is taking her to a restaurant be careful to eat what you like, but bring some tooth paste (or something less obvious like gum or mints) to freshen your breath if you eat something with strong taste.
Make sure he looks smart but casual... jeans and a shirt, no tie is a nice look
Also, make sure he pays for the most of the date... again, this shows control.
But like I said... it depends where he's taking her????
x x x
NiksThis is a reply to this message.
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I'm glad he got a date! But what niks =) said was right, he shouldn't say anything about a kiss - a couple of my friends went on a date and the guy asked afterwards 'can we kiss now?'. They never went on another date because the girl didn't like that. It does depend on where your friend's taking the girl though because then we can give more advice on what he should do.
He definitely should look casual, but not like he doesn't care, because it's nice to know guys make an effort as it shows they like you.
Rosie x
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I will ditto most of that. He shouldn't be too forward, I think. And yes, he should look like he cares without caring TOO much (coz that's just scary on a first date).
Hope this works out!This is a reply to this message.
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kiss????????hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
he'd never even think about it.
i don't know what their doing, she doesn't even call it a date, she thinks it's just freinds. so we need more help, how do you go from pals to boyF/girlF.
please help, i just got out of paying for him not getting a date, you are helping so how do you go from A-B?? pity the fool (slaps self)This is a reply to this message.
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Don't slap yourself for it! You're not a fool
I wouldn't worry, you're doing the right thing asking
Well, generally its just getting closer to that certain person that you know a fair bit about them. That's the friend part. But you don't need to know *every* single thing about her. There are always surprises, so he should just take it as it comes.
He needs to let her know he's there for her whatever happens, so there's that sense of security with him.
Now, the transition of going from one to the next is hard, I think.
I don't know about anyone else but there is always a risk that going from A to B will ruin the friendship (well, thats happened to me before).
But I'm not saying there's never a chance. So many of my friends (boys and girls) have been out with each other more than once and its never changed their friendship.
I'd say they should keep going places together so they can talk one to one and learn more about each other. Which is the good thing about the fact they've already got a date.
Hope that helps
x x x
Niks
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A. i must say i do care about this guy, but don't think i choke down a laugh every time he trys to flirt.
the 'date/film night' went well, he still is nowhere, but her opinion of him is getting higher, i did tell him that i wasn't all my help and that your helping so he told me to say 'cheers' to youThis is a reply to this message.
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Hey!
Glad it all went fine
I'm sure it will all work out. Feel free to ask any more questions or anything.
Niks
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hey!
Well I like a guy and he used to like me but stoppedbecause he tought i didn't like him. Well I say just tell her if he knows her otherwise ask her to go to the park.
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Well tell your friend this because hopefully it will help:
1. Girls love boys who have confidence but NOT rowady and arragance. It makes our day if a boy we like chats to us or even asks us something or gives us a pencil. SAD I KNOW!
2. We find it embarassing if you ask us out in front of our friends. We think you're messing about if you're friends ask for you. So get us alone and ask us BY YOURSELF!
3. Your 'I am very strong' or 'I am hard' tactics DON'T WORK! We hate boys who boast so try and be senestive and listen to her and answer he sensibly.
4. FINALLY get to know us before you ask us out. We won't agree to go out with ANYONE if we have only talked to them once or twice.
MY final guide:
1. Get to know her.
2. Chat and ask her things.
3. Ask her out.
4. Make the first move.
5. Sound confident all the way!
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i think he can do that,
he not arragent!
he is nice!
i'll tell when the time comes not to do it in front of us!
he's strong so i'll tell him not to boast!
the fourth is easy that's what he's doing...i think!
he's not quite at asking out, he is starting from scratch. as before thanksThis is a reply to this message.
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Haha i was just about to write a comment. but you pretty much summed it up!
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I actually really enjoyed reading this! Sadly, I hadn't got to read it sooner otherwise I would've given a little advice too. Really glad everything went well though (date i mean)
xxxMilkyThis is a reply to this message.
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hey, dw bwt this every1 feels nervous.
I kno how to tlk to girls and what i like to hear.
basically a girl wants sum1 hu is funny and kind. u need to make her feel comfortable round u so tell him to b friendly, tlk to her nicely and get her to like him. then see wher it goes from ther.
thts all i can say. keep us updated on him plz
Casey xxx
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