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This is the Conversation Forum for Being a Mistress My Marrried Man is looking for more >> Subject: Friendly with his wife - how to divide attn? Posted Jun 30, 2009 by courtlove30   Posting 1 I am finding myself in an odd position. I am friendly with his wife, who is lovely. Her husband has been known to be with other women so I can't imagine that she doesn't know on some level. She is very secure with herself. It might even have become a threesome if I hadn't made clear my nonsexual feelings about women. The trouble is.. how do I behave around her so that things aren't awkward? I sometimes feel insincere because I don't know when to ignore him and when to pay attention to him when we are all spending time together. I also don't know how to behave when they are affectionate to each other (cuddling, kissing, etc). I am not jealous about it but do wonder about the appropriate way to react without seeming suspicious. Do I ignore it? Say "Oh you are so cute"? Just smile? So when it is him and me alone, I am free to pay lots of attention to him, but with them as a couple and me as a friend, how do I divide my attention so he still feels special and she does not feel ignored? Read the First Reply to this Posting Subject: Friendly with his wife - how to divide attn? Posted Last Week by sidneyli42 This is a reply to this Posting   Posting 2 I am married and have been seeing someone for a while now. He is my husband's best friend who is married. I see his wife all the time and my husband knows that I see his friend and is ok with it. My problem is stemming from the fact that I love his friend and my husband. It started with all three of us just having sex for fun and has evolved into me and my husband's friend seeing each other alone. Which is still ok with my husband. I have been asked to do this for years...always turning them down and then just went with it one day. The truth is that I have always loved him secretly never letting anyone know. I cant fight my feeling any longer and it has taken over my life. I do now know what to do. There have been days that I want to end it but I know I would be misreble and my husband knows and told me to do it if it makes me happy. He does when I see him. I need some guidlines to help me get throught this with my head and heart in tact. I know this is a unusual situation and need help from anyone with this experience. Conversation list Most of the content on h2g2 is created by h2g2's Researchers, who are members of the public. The views expressed are theirs and unless specifically stated are not those of the BBC. The BBC is not responsible for the content of any external sites referenced. In the event that you consider anything on this page to be in breach of the site's House Rules, please click on the relevant button to alert our Moderation Team. Conversation list

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