Posted Oct 2, 2002 by kasei_girl
I used to be a bit of a liar. Especially to myself. I would tell myself that I was happy with certain situations, that I was okay about certain things when I really just wanted to scream in frustration.
But about 2 years ago I went through a bad break up, and for some reason this abolished my "self-lying" ways. It wasn't a thing that I thought about and did, it just happened. Since then I have been brutally honest with myself, and this has stemmed to me being honest with those around me.
The thing is, that since this change, I have never felt so free. I know that if I'm not happy with something then I'm going to say something about it or put an end to the situation, and others know this about me too. And I think that this makes other people comfortable around me. They know that I'm going to tell them straight up what I think. So they ask for my opinion, whereas before, people would just tell me things and not want to hear what I had to say.
So, me? I'm all for honesty
It sets the soul free.
But hey, there's never anything wrong with a little sugar coating every now and then.
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Posted Oct 2, 2002 by GoatBoater
I agree. I am all for honesty. For a start, lying to someone can be a really arrogant thing to do, because it assumes you know exactly what another person is thinking and feeling (Highly unlikely).
To give an example, I have only been unfaithful once in my life. Before the 'fact', I had a bit of a 'what she doesn't know wont hurt her' philosophy that is, inaccurately, developed in the school yard during our formative years. Afterwards I confessed to my partner, and during that conversation I realised how I actually valued honesty in a relationship (it is now the only thing that concerns me - if you have an honest relationship, nothing else matters).
In this instance though, it all worked out well. My girlfriend, although not happy at what I had done, had always had difficulty in trusting her partners and she was now convinced that I was going to be honest with her. I was from that day forward and have been in every relationship since - not always though has this been a positive thing for those relationships!?!
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