Posted 3 Days Ago by blicky badger...busy preparing the sett for a new little badger all being well.
I think there's a pattern here Xan.
I have never had any sucess from *attempts* to attract women. Of the guys I know who've been sucessful at what we might call "pulling" the women they have attracted despite having exotic looks and erotic behaviours those women have rarely turned out to be good long term partners. The same is pretty much true when the genders are reversed.
Since I stopped trying to pull I have had a much more fruitful time in the dating game. OK its not all been unmitigated sucess, relationships are sometimes tempestuous and the fallout can be painful and expensive, but attracting people is not something you should do by conceit.
Its for the best if people like AND dislike you for who you really are. The other way lies madness. You will become obssessed with maintaing the image that brought you together and they will get cranky when you drop the pretence thay bought into.
At the moment Im in my most sucessful and happiest relationship ever has come out of my life long obsession with sport. I hung out with lots of burly men, rolling in mud and taking showers together. I started telling other people how to do it and ended up coaching a womens team one of the women players sister liked the cut of my jib...
I did not worry about the colour of my shirt or how much aftershave to wear. I did not waste time and money in bars I dont like looking for a woman.
Love is what you do. Its not something you find. The harder you look for it the less time money and energy you will have for what really matters.
Im utterly aghast and a little dissapointed for you at your craven attitude to your own education and future,
"the chances of finding a girl before then are looking quite bad. Which is annoying, as that was the main reason I went to uni in the first place".
I personally think anyone who cant be happy with themself is going to find anyone who is hapy to be with them. I hope your studies and exams go well and if they do the best thing you can do for yourself is to go and follow your own passions. Be someone who attracts people, who is interested in people and not some sappy date hound.
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Posted 3 Days Ago by Pit ( carpe diem - stay in bed )
 Plus, there is this old old illusion that WE decide. No way, brothers. TGEY do. And their lie detectors are not bribable.
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Posted 3 Days Ago by Beatrice
Who are TGEY? The Great Elusive Yeti? Tall Guys Enjoying Yoga?
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Posted 3 Days Ago by Pit ( carpe diem - stay in bed )
That was a typo, but maybe freudean. Tall Girls Enjoying Yoga...gives me ideas.
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Posted 3 Days Ago by Bright Blue Shorts
"Love is what you do. Its not something you find. The harder you look for it the less time money and energy you will have for what really matters."
Generally I'd agree with that. Most of my 'encounters' have come as a result of the normal twists and turns of life. Internet dating for example hardly got me anywhere.
That said, I will put the caveat that you have to be putting in some effort.
My suspicion is that the easiest way for anyone to meet people is to be very smiley, very approachable, and friendly. Seems rather obvious yet I don't think most of us are! Oh ... and then the difficult bit is swallowing your pride and asking for a date and being willing to risk rejection ...
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Posted 3 Days Ago by Xanatic, juice for Allah
I´ve just become rather disillusion with academic education, after meeting so many who have been unable to use their degrees for anything. The last place I worked full-time, I think half the people doing the same job as me had degrees, and not in fine arts.
I´ve gone through periods where I haven´t cared and times where I´ve been actively looking. On the whole, things have gone better when I have been looking.
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