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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by AlsoRan80
Once again it has happened.
The dreaded knock on the door, the entry of a fleet of specialists, all standing around and ending with a tail of the constabulary.
All looking grave, and sad, and vaguely understanding.
Amd the centre of it all, a much loved member of the family. Tragically affected by a hereditary mental illness which continues to rear it's ugly head, thirty seven years after it was first experienced,
Will we ever get used to it's recurrance?
Will we ever be able to live with it's sly, devious intrusion into our lives.
Will we have the strength this time to pick ourselves up and try to live again.
I wonder
CME
AR80
Thursday 5th November 2009 6.15 BMT
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Not-so-bald-eagle
My dear Christiane,
What upsetting news, my thoughts are sincerely with you at this difficult time. Please keep strong dear lady, hard as it is, and as tempting as it can appear to let go.
 
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by AlsoRan80
Thank you so much
CME
5.11.09 6.20 GMT
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by The Return of The Unmentionable Marauding Pillowcase!!! (Visit U185434)
I'm really sorry about this AR80! I will pray as well.
Love and best wishes,
Willem
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by  Galaxy Babe - Blue Moon, you saw me standing alone...
Thinking about you and yours, dear Christiane.
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Teuchter - Snorter of Ignorance
Thinking of you and yours.
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by lil~ACE/Scout {Auntie Giggles}
Dear Christiane,
I am so sorry things have come this far. I am hoping it is only a short glitch and that all will be well again, soon
love,
lil xx
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by AlsoRan80
thank you all so much. I am off to visit this afternoon. Hope I can keep from crying.
CME
5/11/09 10.30 GMT
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by AlsoRan80
Hi my dear friends,
Well I have just returned and am much happier than I was yesterday afternoon.
It is an exceptionally well designed ward and although it sn all male ward the smoking area - to which one has to be escorted - is outside. he seemed very happy to see me and pleased with the fruit and cigarettes which I had brought. the staff also looked very pleasant - I have yet to find disagreeable staff in the the psychiatric wards - so I am hoping that this will be the last time that he finds himself in such a predicament.
To think that when he first fell ill the cause was not even known. It was thought to be because of bad parenting. Thank goodness now it has been established that it is genetic - which does not make it any easier for those who have inherited the genes - Anyway I am much happier than I was last night.
Now I hope that he can be discharged for Christmas and then hopefully we can plan our holiday to South Africa for a coup0-le of months. That would be great and would help to reward him for having really had a bad time since I left Sevenoaks.
So thank you all my so dear friends for thinking of us. Mental illness is such a probelmatic area and generally is not understood or giving the empathy which it deserves because it really can destroy lives and relationships.
Go well
Christiane
AR80
5/11/09 16.25 GMT
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Paul H . If you think I look old, you should see my father
Hang in there, Christiane .
My best friend has had to deal with borderline schizophrenia for decades. He's also a sweet, droll person who has a wonderful way with cats, and a wife who loves him very much. There's more to a person than his illnesses, whatever they might be.
Unfortunately, the use of psychotropic drugs rather than institutionalization has left some mental patients on the streets. If they have family to look after them, fine, but if they don't, there can be a lot of suffering. One of my co-workers had a friend who fell in the cracks between bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. The drugs that would have helped with one condition tended to aggravate the other. It was no-win all the way, and he finally died.
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Not-so-bald-eagle
Don't forget to give yourself a pat on the back plus a hug from me. Don't get all twisted with the gymnastics though. Mental illnesses are hard to bear, for those who suffer from them certainly, and also for caring family and friends.
I'm pleased that the facility seems pleasant enough but hope that you're not missing him too badly.
South Africa for a few months! That should be some trip. Will you be travelling around a lot or concentrating on one place? I hope you'll be taking plently of notes to keep your friends here informed....
You once mentioned, I think, going on a cruise. Are you planning to travel by ship to S Africa? (no flirting with the crew!)
I'm pleased to hear that you're feeling better than this yesterday and hope K makes good progress soon.
All the best..... and now for a whole bunch of
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Hypatia
Christiane, I'm glad you had a good visit and are in better spirits today. You and your family are in my thoughts. I'm sending as much light as I can muster in your direction.
Hyp
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by AlsoRan80
My so special friends,
Yes, schizophrenia is such a feared illness. However yesterday was something which neither of us had ever experienced. A stream of people flooded into the flat ending with the constabulary. Then I knew there was little either of us could do.
However, as it turns out, it is a good thing. He has been without any sort of medication for nearly five weeks, which meant that we were seeing the real person. He was so much like he was when he was the happy enthusiastic friendly sportsman/poet when he was young.
Funnily enough, he was the only one of my five children for whom I was ambitious. He has so much. I believe he still has and I think that this cleaning out of the system of the old medication has done him good and that hopefully with the new environment and the new specialist they will manage with the new medicsation, not to stupify him but find exactly the right dose so that he will be able to leave a legacy of some of the talent with which he was borm.
He was very happy to see me. The staff seemed fine and so did quite a few of the other residents.
The only fly in the ointment was the driver of the taxi back. In a big car, listening to music from Istanbul and singing as well. I could have done without that. !!I tried to tell him about having gone to Instanbul and visiting the marvellous Blue Mosque, but he was very surprised and said that he was not even born in 1971 when we went there, So I then told him to drive more slowly. !!
So I am back to my nagging self. !! sorry to hear about your expdriences Paul H with the schizophrenia of your friend. They really are such gentle people, but unfortunately there has been a lot written about it which really does the sufferers no good at all.
Thank you for my beautiful s and I shall have a virtual feast this evening. !!
With much affection to you both.
Christiane.
AR80
5/11/09 16.55 GMT
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by The Thinker
Hello Christiane, I am very glad that the news is better now and that he is happy in himself. I hope that he will be discharged in time for his holiday in South Africa. 
You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care
Warmest wishes
Katrine 
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Websailor
Christiane, I have only just found this. I am so sorry you are having a tough time again! It is good that today you are feeling a little more positive. It must be very difficult indeed for you.
It is good that where he is has kind people. It sounds as if he will get good treatment which isn't easy to find these days.
I hope you will soon be back together in time for a trip to S.A.
Websailor 
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Happy Nerd
Christiane,
How unfortunate that K has had a relapse, but how good the staff sound. Here's my best wishes for K's recovery and the specialist's success in finding the exact right medicine. Take excellent care of yourself, plenty of relaxing  and rest.
Happy Nerd
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Posted Nov 5, 2009 by Paul H . If you think I look old, you should see my father
Psychiatric clinicians do some heroic things. I'm reading a new book called "Life in Rewind," about a promising 24-year-old man named Ed Zine who so fears death (after witnessing his mother's death) that he devises elaborate ways to take a step back for every step forward that he takes. He degenerates to a virtual prisoner of a basement apartment who can't bathe or change his clothes for years. Michael A. Jenike, the Harvard Doctor who slowly gained his trust and tried everything under the sun to help him, is a co-author of the book. Jenike drove to Ed's house on Cape Cod (more than 100 miles one way) many times and spent hours going through the protocols that Ed had set up before Ed would even let him in. Moving Ed to a treatment facility was out of the question. Ultimately, it was Ed himself who was so impressed by Jenike's commitment to him that he began to heal himself from the inside. He has escaped his self-imposed prison and is raising a family and working for a living now.
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Posted Nov 6, 2009 by Gnomon [See A60420098 for details of new sign-in system]
Best of luck to K and hope he's better soon.
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