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Gays here have it easy.

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Message 141 - posted by asianboyleeds, Jun 8, 2007

35?

which in gay years is 72 lol

Go on, how old are you?
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Message 142 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 8, 2007

No not all men, but yes some do, i lost count the times that people have said to me, "i dont mind gays, just aslong as they dont come on to me" I regard that as self flattery. Im male ergo they fancy me.


Yes that is wrong. But i do beleive part of it is due to the greater propensity of gay men to be predatory, more so than straight men.

I've just asked all the birds ere at work. The consensus is, when they walk into bars to chat with other work collegues after work, they at the most get starred at a little, and thats it. It would be a very rare one of for someone to start leching over them. Yet in a gay bar, if two work collegues go after work for a beer and a chat, it is not uncommon to find piercing constant stares, someone pulling a chair up right next to you to breath heavily in your space whilst oggling at you, and then for people to follow you to the toilets and attempt to grope you. dispute it or not, but the level of predatary actions are far higher.


lol Utter BS. You percieve to notice it more becuase you are a (straight) male. I notice it more becuase i see it in both sexes, i watch the men talking to women who cant stop undressing them with their eyes. So i would say that they are on par with eachother.

As i said gay people tend to be more upfront, they make it known what exactly they want, straight men take a more subtle approach but want the same thing, but to say that gay men are more predatory compared, is just not true.

Out of the two who is going to cry physical assult ? Yes the women.

Also as faraky said, its more then likely to be the married man in the pub/club on his own after a fling to satisfy his hidden urge, not your average gay bloke.

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Message 143 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 8, 2007

35?

which in gay years is 72 lol

Go on, how old are you?

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You seem to think your the expert on all things gay. Im gay so you tell me.
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Message 144 - posted by asianboyleeds, Jun 8, 2007

i've stated your 35, which in gay terms is 72. So how old are you really then?
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Message 145 - posted by asianboyleeds, Jun 8, 2007

anyway we will have to agree to differ,but even gay women who go on the gay scene point out at how sexually charged and overly predatory the whole gay scene is, they notice it too. Still, blame it all on the closet married guys, as opposed to the main bulk of the gay scene who are out, loud, and very predatory.
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Message 146 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 8, 2007

The "bulk" of gay people dont even go out on the scene. So your majority view is infact incorrect lol. For someone who is only 23 you have a lot of life to see before you start with majorities and minorities.

If i were to comment on the straights and picked any high street in the UK and classed it as a "bulk" then we would have some really classy looking striaghts wouldnt we. IE most straights vomit, most straight lie in the street with their trousers round their ankles, end up being arrested, fighting. etc etc
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Message 147 - posted by asianboyleeds, Jun 8, 2007

But that is irrelevant. If people are gonna form opinions from on what gay people are like they are most likely to base it on the gay community, part of which includes a very predatory and sexually agressive gay scene.

And as for drinking loads and being sick, both the gay & straight scene are like that, with the gay scene more heavily drug fuelled than drink fuelled.


and ive noticed your skirting away from your age, which suggestes your a lot older than 35
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Message 148 - posted by bigfatprodigalson, Jun 8, 2007

Ladies, Ladies - put your handbags away !!!
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Message 149 - posted by U2999339, Jun 8, 2007

I knew it wouldn't be long before paedophilia was mentioned.

I find it sad that even today people (usually with a malicious homophobic agenda) always seek to link homosexuality with child abuse.

The fact remains, homosexuals are no more likely to 'fancy' children than heterosexuals. In fact the vast majority of CSA's are actually parents and 'straight' members of the family.

Unfortunately this proves the sort of ignorance gay people continue to face in modern society.


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Oh, absolutely. What an injustice! How on earth do you cope with this 'homophobia'?
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Message 150 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 9, 2007

But that is irrelevant. If people are gonna form opinions from on what gay people are like they are most likely to base it on the gay community, part of which includes a very predatory and sexually agressive gay scene.

And as for drinking loads and being sick, both the gay & straight scene are like that, with the gay scene more heavily drug fuelled than drink fuelled.


and ive noticed your skirting away from your age, which suggestes your a lot older than 35

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Yes of course they base it on the gay community, thats why its completely innacurate lol. Does every straight person go out every weekend ? and all gather in one place ? no lol.

If your basing research on a night out on the town then im sorry to say that your information is far from correct and a silly assumption of what ALL gay people are like, its not even a majority of the community.

No im not over 35, i just dont see how its relevant.
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Message 151 - posted by asianboyleeds, Jun 9, 2007

*yawn*

you're arguing against something i havent even said. I'll repeat it again. Fawkary said why do straight guys always assume gay men will fancy them and try it on. I said that is partly because of the very sexually aggressive predatory nature of the gay scene, which will RIGHTLY OR WRONGLY give people that impression.

The fact that their assumptions and conclusions may be based on only a proportion of the gay community ie the gay bar & club scene is neither here or there. Wheather it is a silly assumption is neither here or there either. All i've done is give one of the reasons why gay men may be seen in this manner.

No im not over 35, i just dont see how its relevant.

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you're the one who asked ages, and to guess, that's why its relevant lmao. But, its pretty obvious your at an age where gay men do not like to disclose their age ;)
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Message 152 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 9, 2007


Oh, absolutely. What an injustice! How on earth do you cope with this 'homophobia'?

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Mike, Dont confuse homophobia with stupidity.
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Message 153 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 9, 2007

Ok i get ya now, so these self flattery types who probably havent met a gay person in their lives. Can only go on a steriotypical model they have heard about becuase thats the only place gay people exist to them LOL. The ones that have said to me "i dont mid gay people blah blah" dont appear to be the brightest of people.

I didnt ask ages, i was being sacrcastic.

Im 32, hardly anything to be embarresed about :p

So whats your story with visiting the cattle market ?
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Message 154 - posted by U2999339, Jun 9, 2007


Oh, absolutely. What an injustice! How on earth do you cope with this 'homophobia'?


Mike, Dont confuse homophobia with stupidity.

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Pray explain, sweet.
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Message 155 - posted by Alexander Rednaxela, Jun 9, 2007

Pedophile: an adult who is sexually attracted to children.

Homosexual: A person who is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted or committed to members of the same sex.

Stupidity: is the quality or condition of being stupid, or lacking intelligence.
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Message 156 - posted by U2999339, Jun 10, 2007

Pedophile: an adult who is sexually attracted to children.

Homosexual: A person who is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted or committed to members of the same sex.

Stupidity: is the quality or condition of being stupid, or lacking intelligence.

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Well, I'm aware of all those definitions. But why the exhortation not to confuse 'homophobia' with stupidity? Surely 'homophobia', like other phobias, is a fear of something, in this case, homos. It's got nowt to do with stupidity, any more than, say, agoraphobia or claustrophobia. Phobias are also sometimes based on experience, for example someone assaulted by a homo as a child is likely to grow up 'homophobic'. That wouldn't be based on stupidity (a term I hate anyway. I'm always telling my small kids not to use the word. All the more disappointing to hear it from adults!)
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Message 157 - posted by minnie3, Jun 10, 2007

I still don't think you can force people to consider being gay as the norm. It is unusual. Where i work the students are very silly about being gay and tease each other.

I don't agree with them being told off about it either or reported which is what you are meant to do. However i would not stand by if someone was being horrid to someone else (i.e. bullying) but these days you are meant to snitch about the slightest comment.
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Message 158 - posted by pompomwhiting, Jun 10, 2007

Why do some of them moan so much..



You've said it there Tommy. My neighbour's son and boyfriend are about to adopt their second child. Never hear them moan about Britain's politics any more than I do. They don't like safety cameras either!
Pom believes that moaning homosexuals about their sexual identity acceptance is as infrequent as homophobia.
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Message 159 - posted by U7410096 - alt id 2, Jun 10, 2007

Being gay is as normal as not being gay. It is now comparatively unusual to find rational people who think otherwise. And most people are rational.
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Message 160 - posted by U7209542 - alt id 7 (all banned), Jun 10, 2007

Do you have to be in a big majority to be 'normal' minnie? Why do you say most people don't consider it normal? Do you only speak to people who ignore what they see and hear around them or are members of that very small number of families offices workplaces without one or more gay person in them?
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