http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html en-gb 30 Fri 01 Jan 2010 21:51:44 GMT+1 A feed of user comments from the page found at http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=18#comment9 Respect is an issue. Probably, many young offenders or anti-social youths don't actually have respect for themselves let alone anyone else. I'm sure they reckon the world and society owes them a living. How do you change that attitude?You can read more about these type of issues on my knife crime blog - http://knifecrime.blogspot.com .I have started an opinion poll about anti-stab knives... would you use one in your home? Please take a look and vote if you could spare the time. Many thanks.mark. Tue 07 Jul 2009 19:27:29 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=16#comment8 Respect is important, but should not be mistaken for pride. This argument has gone on most of my life, with so-called friends being sarcastic every time I speak. I was heckled in my own home when nerves were bad, abused when upset and generally taken advantage of with a constant shifting of goalposts. After years of stress related illnesses because of this I could take no more. I sent open letters to these people with the same sort of comments about their issues. I suddenly found CID men after me. Wed 17 Jun 2009 12:02:45 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=14#comment7 I definately sympathise with her, i too have lost someone, but the media seems to talk about knife crime as if these boys are just plain mean but amongst them are good boys and girls who just need direction and need to feel like they part of something in order to stop the anger and rage from building up inside in order to stop it from happenoing in the future. All we can do now is look to the future. Tue 16 Jun 2009 22:38:00 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=12#comment6 We are all looking for ways to be happy. Sadly for those who have no idea how to do this (by having esteem and genuine self-respect) look for alternative ways to feel okay. For some, to abuse gives a feeling of power. This may be the only way they know to feel okay. This however is not gaining the respect they wish, only contempt. The only ones who look up to them are other weak people who see abuse as the only avenue to eleviate their insecurities. They are so weak (lacking in esteem)inside that they cannot take even the slightest critism and the more violent they need to be to feel okay again, to be in control again. Their aim is to ensure that they are not threatened in any way because they just can't take it. This is a sign of their weakness not strength and definately not respect.Genuine self respect is about liking the person you are, feeling proud of yourself. I wouldn't waste any time waiting for any signs of remorse, they have already proved that they act of weakness, some people just don't have enough strength to look at themselves or to respect others. Life isn't easy and many things can seem out of our control (I grew up on a council estate that was not safe and the expectations of the majority were low), but we do have free will and can chose the type of person we wish to be. Tue 16 Jun 2009 16:47:15 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=10#comment5 lil-shanti56, post 5, I can see exactly what you mean, black boys/girls, think they have no future in this society, I cannot argue with that, but the young people who are dying, have no future either, what would you say to Serina Samuels who has lost her brother. Mon 15 Jun 2009 22:05:41 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=8#comment4 I think all the people who are heading the case over knife crime are getting it all wrong. Put yourselves in their position, they live in a society where everything good comes through having enough money and only comes if they manage to fill up a qouta of one black or asian per job. The main thing is they are not able to get very far in this society because this is not their country none of those boys can become a prime minister while an english boy growing up in england has a huge chance of becoming whatever he wants to be without having to work twice as hard or be lucky to fill a quota. The difficulty is these kids grow up thinking that they are black british but think about they dont have a comparable life to a british person so they feel without respect which is how anyone would feel especially as a man so dont blame them. There are also those foreigners who grow up here and know that they do not come from here so they realise that they dont deserve much, they are the ones who are not trying to head a community through crime. So these boys come up thinking they are so mething thy are not, this system deceives you THAT IS THE PROBLEM. Mon 15 Jun 2009 19:16:07 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=6#comment3 Ref: RESPECT - I work with Young Offenders and have come to the conclusion that respect on the street equates to either fear or envy. Real respect is grounded in consideration of someone's rights as a human being and, if they are worthy of it, added to by admiration or regard for who you are and/or what you do. Those who need to carry a weapon to get 'respect' are kidding themselves - it is not the real thing! Mon 15 Jun 2009 18:21:17 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=4#comment2 RESPECT? This has nothing to do with respect,it`s about making people fearful in there local community. They are a bunch of thugs who need a good hiding! I was brought up in the east end of London during the 50s and 60s and we did`nt have much but we did`nt expect much, I left school at 15 with no qualifications but I was taught from an early age that if you wanted something you had to work for it. Why do we constantly look for reasons why some of our youth act like savages. I had 4 children,all raised in the east end, they were taught to be respectful and not break the law, my 7 grandchildren hopefully will be the same. Mon 15 Jun 2009 18:20:20 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=2#comment1 Thank Goodness someone willing so speak out and so bravely spoken! RESPECT is also campaign being run by BigPinkHeart, a voluntary organisation trying to get people to understand what RESPECT is and to be more RESPECTFul to others! With positive respect we can learn to be more tolerant of each other. We may not have the same views as the next person but we should be learning to agree to disagree and remain friendly, if not friends! Tolerance and Respect go hand in hand - BigPinkHeart is working hard to make our communities a stronger, happier, healthier, more tolerant place to live. Mon 15 Jun 2009 18:19:20 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/theoneshow/consumer/2009/06/15/what_is_respect.html?page=0#comment0 It is funny how these black gangs can talk about respect when they dont think twice about gang raping a girl/woman. It happens and these are the same gangs that are carrying knives and whining about how they live in poverty and need to do crime to live. Think of the wider scale before you try and make excuses for these people who are breaking the law pls. gary Mon 15 Jun 2009 18:19:19 GMT+1