http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html en-gb 30 Fri 01 Jan 2010 08:38:33 GMT+1 A feed of user comments from the page found at http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html?page=16#comment4 Then again Dave, there are infuriating so-an'so's like myself who can't pretend or change character. I just sit in my chair [I've been told] and pontificate on how i think some things should be done and give advice when it's not wanted. Especialy if i think i could do better. Sun 10 Aug 2008 17:35:27 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html?page=12#comment3 Hi Dave,Well, I thought your comment was right on the money. I can't tell you how many times I've felt uncomfortable with others helping me, and I love your phrase "my pretend muscles got sore"!I have an autoimmune disease, which means my disability is invisible to those who don't know me well. My fatigue levels are such that any kind of physical labor is hard, even taking a shower or sweeping the floor. Putting these kinds of feelings into words helps us to deal constructively with those feelings. Good post! Julia http://reasonablywell-julia.blogspot.com Fri 08 Aug 2008 21:28:39 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html?page=8#comment2 I can see how you might have felt useless on move day, but i would not worry. A few months ago i helped an Able Bodied friend move into her new Flat. Now she was so excited and and nervious (first time living on her own) she was a complete basket case. So as friends we did what friends do. We sat her in the new flat with a cup of tea, and moved all her stuff for her. All she had to do was point, and make jokes. Your friends probably were not helping your because you were disabled. they were probably helping you because they are your friends. Tue 22 Jul 2008 09:52:00 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html?page=4#comment1 I find (manual) wheelchair users *incredibly* useful when there is heavy/bulky stuff to shift."Here, let me put this on your lap and hold onto it, and I'll push you..." - it's a LOT easier than carrying the stuff myself... ;)Or maybe this was more of a putting stuff on shelves/in cupboards kind of situation? Tue 22 Jul 2008 08:54:58 GMT+1 http://www.bbc.co.uk/blogs/ouch/2008/07/heres_what_really_happened.html?page=0#comment0 Well I'd have felt absolutely fine about it. After all, it's no different to employing professional removal people. If your friends hadn't wanted to help, then they wouldn't have. Sometimes you just have to sit back and let others take the strain. And carrying guilt when it's unnecessary is just debilitating. Mon 21 Jul 2008 15:28:39 GMT+1