Help for victims of domestic violence

"Daphne" suffered 14 years of abuse at the hands of an older man she was in a two-year relationship with. She suffered horrendous levels of physical, sexual and psychological abuse. She spent years denying what was happening and even blaming herself for it. It was only when others intervened that she was able to get away from him. In the last three years she has started regularly calling the police and had him arrested. In the last year the violence has stopped. Watch her story.

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• Two women a week on average are killed by a partner or former partner. Millions more are recurring victims of domestic violence.

• Domestic violence is any incident of threatening behaviour or physical abuse that takes place between people who are family members or have had an intimate relationship.

• The abuse can be physical, sexual, psychological, emotional and financial. Generally this comes from the abuser’s need to assert control over the relationship and the individual they are abusing.

• Domestic violence itself is not a crime but many of its forms of abuse are. Domestic violence victims are victims of crime.

Find out more about domestic violence and some of the myths and stereotypes about this form of abuse.

• Abuse affects all parts of society regardless of age, gender, race, sexuality and social status. The police receive an estimated 1,300 calls a day relating to domestic violence.

• This accounts for 16% to 25% of all recorded violent crime. However, government statistics suggest only 24% of all such crimes are reported, as victims are often too scared or nervous to come forward.

• While men can suffer from domestic violence, most cases affect women. One in four women experience some form of domestic violence in their life. A third of those will suffer it four or more times.

• Many individuals suffer physically abusive relationships where they are disrespected and controlled. Many do so without saying a word to others and even covering up what is happening.

• There are a number of agencies that support people in this situation. It is important to talk to someone, be it an agency with years of experience or someone you know. You don’t have to deal with it alone.

• Most forms of domestic violence are a crime, the police can protect victims. Dial 999.

Find out more about organisations and support groups that can help.

• Often the victims of abuse deny what is happening, even to themselves. Intervening can be sensitive and difficult.

• Let the person know that you are concerned and ready to provide support if they need it. Let them know you are being supportive and not interfering.

• Get support yourself. Contact an agency that regularly deals with this situation. If you think a criminal act is taking place, call the police.

Find out more about helping someone you know.

The BBC drama Criminal Justice looked at the issue of domestic violence. Watch an interview with writer Peter Mofatt about how he researched the main character.