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Don't Tell The Bride: Planning my fiancée's wedding

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Simon Candlish Simon Candlish | 11:10 UK time, Wednesday, 22 September 2010

My partner Kaleigh and I applied to be on a BBC Three show called Don't Tell The Bride. The concept sounded simple - we get £12,000 to get married, with one small snag. As the groom, I have to plan everything.

How hard can it be? I've been with Kaleigh for six years, so I'd like to think I know her really well.

We had talked a lot about getting married - she wanted a fairytale wedding in the UK, I had plans of grandeur and the bright lights of Las Vegas. Kaleigh didn't seem keen as she believed Vegas was, in a word, "tacky".

The day arrived. Day one of filming and we were both very nervous but the crew did a good job of keeping us at ease. A small camera, a nice bubbly producer (Zoe Page) and a guy with a comedy 'tache and a wit to match (Dave Gibson) were to be following our every move for the next three weeks.

Kaleigh had departed and my best man Anthony Shore had moved in - it was time to get organising our big day. The question was where do we get married?

I wanted Las Vegas, Kaleigh wanted the stately home so there was only one way to decide - a spin of the roulette wheel. Black for Vegas, red for the UK.

We entered the casino and placed our bet. Watching the ball roll around seemed to take forever to drop to reveal our wedding destiny, finally... black.

One thought entered my head: "She's going to kill me!"

The decision was made and the first stop was to book the flights. I hadn't prepared myself for the cost, as the first travel agent quoted £12,000 to fly all of us out there. This was going to be a lot harder than I'd thought.

I had to cut the wedding party down to the bare minimum, which meant leaving a bridesmaid, my sister, and Kaleigh's brother at home. It was a heartbreaking decision to make.

I chose the dress for my bride-to-be and, in my mind, what I had set up was an absolute dream and would knock the socks off a UK wedding.

You'll see in the programme why, the night before, I still wasn't sure if I would be a married man the next morning.

On arriving home, there was some explaining to do. Kaleigh's sister Sam didn't talk to me for a week but thankfully now all is forgiven.

On reflection, if I was asked would I do it again, the answer would be yes, but I wouldn't have gambled on a wedding with only half the family being present.

We're planning on having a blessing and a big bash, where all our family and friends will be invited. I think I'll leave the planning to Kaleigh!

Simon Candlish is the groom is episode six in series four of Don't Tell The Bride.

Episode six of Don't Tell The Bride is on Tuesday, 21 September, at 9pm on BBC Three.

To view all future episodes, please visit the upcoming episodes page.


  • Comment number 1.

    Can't believe she didn't like the dress!?!?!?!?

  • Comment number 2.

    just the dress!! what about her sisters lipstick, the wedding should have been a skiing trip to aspen, she'd have been their like a shot

  • Comment number 3.

    I can't believe her mother went on to say that in the end she believed the groom had done it all for Kaleigh. Err, no, he clearly ignored everything that was important to her and pushed ahead purely with what he wanted!! What a selfish man. Although, I'm guessing you would have to let yourself believe that kind of nonsense if your daughter had just married someone like him.

    I really do hope that he has learnt a lesson from it all and tries harder in future to do what is right for his wife and family and not just himself.

  • Comment number 4.

    This is the worst groom I've ever watched on this show. Either way you look at it he a) completely doesn't know the woman he is marrying at all, or b) he knows her but is so selfish and egotistical that he completely ignores all her wishes. I think it's a bit of both.
    I didn't even feel sorry for him at the crisis point. How can you be so oblivious to everything but yourself? It's not even like she was asking for a lot.

  • Comment number 5.

    This guy is the most selfish man I've seen on one of the programmes. All he did was have a good old holiday in Las Vegas with his mate. If he'd have planned it all from home he could have taken more family. He spent all THEIR wedding money on a holiday for himself. Did she even get to stay in Las Vegas after the wedding? Didn't look like it to me. She was a prat to have married him. Selfish and egotistical do not cover it. He knew exactly what she wanted but he didn't give two hoots.
    I'm not suprised the family wern't happy when they got home and I bet all will never be forgiven. He showed his true colours!

  • Comment number 6.

    Can anyone tell me where the reception was held?
    such a beautiful room!!!!!

    i need to know to plan my own vegas wedding!

  • Comment number 7.

    I can't believe the BBC waste money on pathetic programmes like this. Can we have some programmes that don't appeal to the brain dead?

  • Comment number 8.

    I watched this episode here in Australia recently with much interest because my daughter and her fiance are getting married in Vegas on 27/4//11. The difference is that they both agreed on Vegas as opposed to this couple! I felt very sorry for the bride as she had compromised her dream wedding for the whim of a selfish fiance. I feel uneasy about their future life together - marriage is a partnership and this groom has no idea what that means.


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