Ask Anthea

Super-temp Anthea Jennings has certainly made her mark at Lilian’s company Amside Property Services. With her no-nonsense, methodical approach, she’s been solving problems left, right and centre.

So who better to give advice to some of Borsetshire’s more troubled residents in this, the first of an occasional series?

 

Dear Anthea,

I have a friend – well, more of an acquaintance – who has fallen on hard times. Recently, he has even resorted to sleeping rough. As a Christian, I’ve tried to help him as best I can but he is a proud man and it is difficult to get him to accept our good-intentioned offers of assistance. What can I do?

Stablegirl

Dear Stablegirl,

I think you need to take a hard look at yourself and decide why you want to interfere in this man’s life. Are you trying to impress an authority figure, or perhaps compensate for a recent change in family circumstances? In my experience, well-meaning amateurs can often do more harm than good. Unfortunates like this are usually best left to the proper authorities. To get involved with them can often spread the misery, not reduce it. Leave well alone.


Dear Anthea,

I used to be very happy in my job, but my new boss constantly finds fault with what I do. It’s got to the stage where I am doubting my abilities and dreading going to work each day. How can I break out of this cycle of bullying?

Less-Than-Perky

Dear Less-Than-Perky,

Are you sure that you are in fact as capable as you thought you were? Perhaps your new boss is right to question your abilities. In my extensive working experience, I have encountered many mediocre performers, who often have an inflated option of their own capabilities. You may be one of them. Hope that helps!


Dear Anthea,

I am in a relationship with the most wonderful man in the world. He’s kind, thoughtful, incredibly handsome, successful in his career and, er, bedroom relations are the best I’ve ever had. There’s just one tiny snag and that’s that he’s married – although they are living apart and he only sees her occasionally. How can I get him to commit to me fully? We are deeply in love, and he is even fond of my little boy.

Lovestruck

Dear Lovestruck,

They always go back to their wives. Get out now.

 

Anthea was giving dictation to Archers scriptwriter and web producer Keri Davies

 

 

 

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  • Comment number 35. Posted by Mieteka

    on 20 Sept 2013 12:10

    Who is Andrea, Keri?

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  • Comment number 34. Posted by Keri Davies

    on 19 Sept 2013 11:04

    >My daughter has recently gone to Yorkshire to work for a year. Even though she is entirely ghastly and annoying she at least provided some talking points at home. Now she has flown the nest I fear all I and my earnest but dull husband will have to talk about are cows' uteruses (uteri?) and our son's rapidly expanding chicken empire. What shall I do?

    Dear RA,

    I recommend an portable audio player (for some reason this site prevents me from typing the name of the the most popular model) and a good pair of headphones. Audiobooks, music and downloads of your favourite radio programmes mean never having to say you're sorry - or indeed say anything at all.

    Andrea

  • Comment number 33. Posted by helena handcart

    on 11 Sept 2013 16:35

    Dear Anthea,
    I am not enjoying the Grey Gables storyline.
    Shulasbiggestfan

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  • Comment number 32. Posted by JoinedPeetsBoard_Smeesues_too

    on 11 Sept 2013 16:21

    Good idea LP ... Anthea should stick to the day job. She is excellent at AmSide - but a terrible Agony Aunt ..

    No need to pay her off .. I don't think she really likes being an Agony Aunt.
    JPBS

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  • Comment number 31. Posted by The Leech Pedlar

    on 11 Sept 2013 15:54

    Having seen this week how the Beeb buys off possible criticism from departing staff. Might I suggest that we have a quick whip round, to see if we can raise a suitable amount to pay off Anthea?

    I'd be happy to donate 50p, so that just leaves another 50p to raise and her column on here is history.

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  • Comment number 30. Posted by JoinedPeetsBoard_Smeesues_too

    on 11 Sept 2013 15:36

    To: Editor@BorchesterEcho.com
    From: Pat_Archer@BridgeFarm.Ambridge.com

    Dear Sir
    I am writing to complain about "Anthea" who responds to readers problems in her "Ask Anthea" column. So far as I can make out she is using her column to indulge her ego and amuse herself at others expense. I provide as an example her response to the reader who asked advice about bullying at work.

    I would be grateful if you could remind her that workplace bullying is NOT something to be laughed at.
    yrs etc
    Pat Archer

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  • Comment number 29. Posted by Abatha loves Anton

    on 11 Sept 2013 10:28

    I would just like to offer my support to Keri. As a victim of workplace bullying myself in the past, I think the way Anthea responded to Kathy's letter was spot-on how many people view the problem- which is exactly the point. People like Anthea do trivialise this kind of incident. I agree she's a stickler but she is also thick skinned and old fashioned. She would have to be to not object to the way Lilian spoke to her at first.

    All of the responses made me chuckle.

    Incidentally, I love Anthea as a character- please can she stay?

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  • Comment number 28. Posted by Nemo399

    on 10 Sept 2013 16:06

    Message 27: Agree, Mike! I enjoyed 'Ask Anthea' too, and I'm finding the golf club story-line amusing too---I think Kathy's holding up rather well in this situation, as I said before. As for 'bullying', goodness, much as I love Anthea as a character, as a woman, I'd hate her to be my boss! She'd probably be even more exacting, controlling and judgmental as Martyn--look how she tries to dominate Lilian!

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  • Comment number 27. Posted by mike

    on 10 Sept 2013 15:10

    Well, I enjoyed "Ask Anthea", just as I'm enjoying the golf club storyline - definitely one of the best ones this year!

    Keep up the good work, Keri + your colleagues!

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  • Comment number 26. Posted by Mieteka

    on 10 Sept 2013 14:58

    thanks for posting your own post in defence of Keri from Mustardland, OI.
    But of courses it is not just Chris who protested. Here's another view from Mustardland about the blog and Keri's response, from fondant fancee this time:
    "Keri having another little hissy, could almost hear a Lynda sniff!
    For a professional writer his skin is as thin as his ideas for fun. "

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