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The One Show Team | 12:12 UK time, Monday, 22 February 2010

Adrian and Christine were joined by actress Felicity Kendal.

The Rambler's Association are celebrating their 75th Anniversary. Gyles Brandreth told us more.

In the final film of her series about the major political parties, Kaye Adams looked at the Liberal Democrats.

Mike Dilger met bird trainer Lloyd Buck and Ellie, his trained Goshawk.

This week is Brain Week on The One Show! Michael Mosley started with a part of the brain known as the Broca area, which is crucial to speech and language.

Christine is training to water-ski across the English Channel for Sport Relief. Donate online or via a text:

What did you think of tonight's The One Show? Add a comment.

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  • 1. At 6:59pm on 22 Feb 2010, bwoods30 wrote:

    The Good Life, what a crap show

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  • 2. At 7:01pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    Please tell Adrian that jumpers should not be tucked into ones jeans.

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  • 3. At 7:03pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #1 bwood30

    Are you mad? Felicity Kendal makes it compulsive viewing.

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  • 4. At 7:05pm on 22 Feb 2010, Fionacarroll wrote:

    after listening to Felicity Kendal's comments at the beginning of the show regarding adults and bullying, i am just wondering, has she ever been bullied, because whether an adult or a child, sometimes you do need help in solving it, its not that easy! I am quite disappointed in her.

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  • 5. At 7:06pm on 22 Feb 2010, onenonblonde wrote:

    I'm furious at Felicity Kendall's comment that adults should just be able to deal with workplace bullying and not require someone to talk to about it. She has clearly never been bullied! As an actress, she doesn't have to turn upto one permanent place of work under the authority of the same boss week in, week out for years on end. She therefore cannot know the stress and misery of being bullied and undermined, feeling powerless to complain when it's so easy to be booted out on some trumped-up charge. She should research the topic more thoroughly before commenting on something she clearly doesn't understand.

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  • 6. At 7:08pm on 22 Feb 2010, G4WTV wrote:

    Ramblers Association

    There are in England and Wales, well over 123,000 miles of public right of way, which include footpaths, bridleways, "byway open to all traffic" (BOAT), and tracks classed "road used as public path" (RUPP). Of this extensive network, only a measly two and a half percent is available to be used by off-road vehicular aficionado's, which is four wheel drive motorists and motorcyclists. The selfish greedy zealots in the Ramblers Association, and certain upper-class toadies, not content with the huge amount of trails for themselves, want that 2½ as well. Which will prevent a minority of enthusiasts, together with my chums and I, from enjoying our right to the countryside and this pastime. Ramblers are usually in shock when they discover that there are other legitimate users as well. The sad thing is that these people believe they're right to claim the countryside for their own exclusive use! On top of this, I have been physically attacked by these so called countryside lovers, on one occasion, when out on my motorcycle.

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  • 7. At 7:08pm on 22 Feb 2010, NOIDLETALK wrote:

    Felicity Kendall's comments on bullying were ill thought out and unhelpful. Perhaps she should remain silent on matters she has no knowledge of rather than spout drivel. Many people who have high self confidence would even be wary of directly confronting a work place bully in a high position. Such bullies act knowing that they can intimidate with all sorts of sanctions and will do whatever it takes to follow through against their victim. Victims need to be very careful to deal with this and help from outside can be an essential part of that.

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  • 8. At 7:09pm on 22 Feb 2010, Mark Hatwood wrote:

    Why is it that no one talks to 'The Scary Guy' )(www.thescaryguy.com) when it comes to bullying. He has helped improve the attendace and problems of schools many up and down the country, is endorsed by many police forces (e.g. Wales and Dorset) and has spoken to over 7 million people worldwide in the last seven years. This guy is the Bullying Guru, but the press never seem to find him for these important programmes.

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  • 9. At 7:10pm on 22 Feb 2010, Anna wrote:

    I work for the Public Service in occupational health & bullying is exceptionally high in this draconian, dictatorial area but it is also covert and very difficult to deal with. Felicity is very ill informed and quite wrong. You cannot 'stand up' to managers who openly humiliated often shouting in your face and have the 'power' to manage you out of the organisation. People are affraid of loosing btheir jobs so just go off sick with stress and depression. The Government is the tip of the iceberg - look deeper!

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  • 10. At 7:10pm on 22 Feb 2010, flunklumpard wrote:

    #2 sxg123

    I agree, but fashion has changed.

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  • 11. At 7:10pm on 22 Feb 2010, essexwerkstatte wrote:

    What planet is Felicity Kendall on? Stand up to bullying when you are an adult, spoken like a person who is niave or clueless. There is one Essex council who sack people who stand up to workplace bullies. Lets hope Felicity meets one of those employers and finds out the hard way - like all those sacked employees of that council have. You believe you are strong, you stand up to it, then your life is destroyed.

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  • 12. At 7:11pm on 22 Feb 2010, Liz Wood wrote:

    I agree we should be able to stand up to bullies at work but I was the victim for years is and there are some simple truths.

    It's your word against the bullies and the reason their able to bully you is generally their superior position

    Most people will tell you, you're not a child any more and you should be able to handle it

    and most of us can not afford to loose our jobs and if you make a complaint you risk your job, not of course because of your complaint that would be illegal but there are always other things you can be sacked for.

    I was lucky I got out and work for a great boss, now the only bullies I face are my customers.

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  • 13. At 7:11pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jo_Treasure wrote:

    I've always loved Felicity K. as a wonderful actress . . . but I was a bit surprised by her dismissal of the problems faced by some adults who are vulnerable to bullying. Yes, I agree that, in an ideal world, one learns to deal with it as one grows up, but not everyone lives in an ideal world. I suggest that being dismissive of the problem is perhaps only adding to it.

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  • 14. At 7:11pm on 22 Feb 2010, catherina123 wrote:

    What a sweeping statement to make! Bullying is not acceptable and should not be tolerated. You shouldn't be afraid to ask for help if you are being bullied, and in many cases employers don't support employees enough. She is living in cloud cuckoo land. Is Eastenders on yet?

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  • 15. At 7:11pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #10

    Adrian fashionable?

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  • 16. At 7:12pm on 22 Feb 2010, Stuart Spagatner wrote:

    Felicity Kendal -typical air-headed actress, not living in the real world! You can't always just get over being bullied by resisting it! People have killed themselves cos they can't deal with it! I can't stand pompous arrogant smugness, coming from spoilt 'got it all' people!

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  • 17. At 7:12pm on 22 Feb 2010, Leeds2754 wrote:

    I am astounded by the arrogance of Felicity Kendal's comments on bullying!

    I guess in her job she hasn't had to deal with bullying at work and to state those being bullied should just front up to the bully is misguided and arrogant!

    I suggest that her comments were irresponsible and doesn't take into account the pain and suffering adults can actually endure at the hands of bullies.

    Extremely disappointed!!

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  • 18. At 7:12pm on 22 Feb 2010, mrsjonah wrote:

    I love Felicity - but has she ever been really bullied? Her comments show no insight. A bully is an abuser and uses the same tactics as all other abusers. If the bullier is an employer it can be incredibly difficult to prove as the amount of proof required by the bullied seems to be inversely proportional to the amount required by the bullier. Clever bullies play the system well and get very good at covering their backs so proof of bullying is difficult.

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  • 19. At 7:12pm on 22 Feb 2010, matt154 wrote:

    re: MP bullying, totally agree with felicity, don't they have something better to do, like restore public confidence and run the country!
    I'm sure bwoods30 quote "The Good Life, what a crap show" would have been at school when this series first run....what would he know!

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  • 20. At 7:13pm on 22 Feb 2010, Anonymous wrote:

    I was looking forward to tonights show, but am now rather disappointed by Felicity Kendals attitude to bullying in the work place. Having been very badly bullied I would like to share the fact that if you are on the receiving end, it is impossible to stand up to the bully who is generally your boss or superior. The bully grinds you down to such a level that you cannot even ask a perfectly reasonable question in the supermarket, let alone tell the bully where to get off. You lose total confidence and cannot even make a decision about which brand of teabags to buy without worrying yourself stupid that whatever you decide will get you into trouble. I would be grateful, Adrian and Christine, if you would share my comments with your viewers as I am sure I am not alone in my thoughts and the comments made, however innocent, just rekindle how terrible the situation can get - of course, standing up for yourself is the obvious answer in a black and white world but, in reality, life ain't like that.

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  • 21. At 7:13pm on 22 Feb 2010, subudi wrote:

    I was not at all happy with Ms Kendal's comments about bullying - something to the effect that as an adult you should be able to deal with it. I imagine that as an actress and moving from one drama to another she does not have to put up with having the same boss, and she can pick and choose who she works with. That is not the case with the vast majority of people who when they get a job, have to do their best to try and keep it and also have to put up with childish and bullying behaviour of adults when they get power. As a victim of bullying myself I know that it can make a person seriously ill, ill enough even for them to take their own lives.

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  • 22. At 7:14pm on 22 Feb 2010, sue mullins wrote:

    Re: bullying comment by Felicity Kendall - bullying is illegal and unfortunately even adults need protection from bullyingin todays society, especially in the workplace when the bullying usually comes from an employees superior or manager and it is very difficult to stand against this for fear of retribution. Thats why we have employment law-to protect us from bullying. However I don't think that the Anti Bullying Helpline should have spoken out and breached confidentiality potentially damaging confidence in the service it provides. Something doesn't sound quite right about what happened.

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  • 23. At 7:14pm on 22 Feb 2010, Romeo Bravo wrote:

    Please, if you are going to encourage people to go walking in the countryside, then at least get Giles Brandreth to show people how to climb over a gate properly.

    Just in case, people should climb over a gate near to the hinges. Reason, because it puts less strain on the hinges, therefore they don't break.

    This causes farmers problems and walkers get a bad name.

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  • 24. At 7:15pm on 22 Feb 2010, GAZ911 wrote:

    The one show really likes birds of prey

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  • 25. At 7:15pm on 22 Feb 2010, lola584 wrote:

    Felicity Kendal has obviously lead a sheltered life - Re: Adults should stand up to bullying! Lucky her never having been on the receiving end of bullying, let me assure her as an adult I have been the subject of bullying by my manager & have witnessed that of my colleagues. People are too scared to tackle the situation for fear of retribution, ie losing their jobs. Sometimes because your an adult you are expected to know how to handle everything however bullying in the work place is extremely difficult to deal with without the use of union & the bullying helpline.

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  • 26. At 7:15pm on 22 Feb 2010, linda wrote:

    Felicity Kendall has never been a person to represent the real world and her throw away comment about bullying proves that she still isn't. Clearly she has never been a single person, facing daily bullying from a boss in a job she relies on to support her children and herself. Sometimes it is impossible to just 'deal' with it, unfortunately, in the real world, this isn't always possible.

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  • 27. At 7:16pm on 22 Feb 2010, Paddy wrote:

    Felicity Kendal is lucky that she has never suffered fom bullying at work. Her words were thoughtless anf ill considered. The whole point about bullying is it is difficult to deal with. A bully can destroy your self confidence in a very short time. I have been trying to get something done about a workplace bully for over 4 years. It is not an easy task.

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  • 28. At 7:16pm on 22 Feb 2010, Helen from Worcester wrote:

    I completely disagree with Felicity about workplace bullying. Adults too need support to deal with this. If it was easy to solve it wouldn't happen. I was bullied at work by a senior staff member and when I complained to my boss I was sacked

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  • 29. At 7:16pm on 22 Feb 2010, noel01 wrote:

    Bullying !
    Gordons tv manner is bullying and quite aggressive.
    Mandy always bullies even on the tv. Just with his aggressive manner.

    Its great to see the anti-bullying agency pointing out that all public figures including our politicians need to be discouraged from bullying.







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  • 30. At 7:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, Stuart Spagatner wrote:

    Felicity Kendal- typical air-headed actress, not living in the real world! People have killed themselves after suffering bullying. Pompous arrogant, atitudes like that, make me boil!

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  • 31. At 7:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, Cascara wrote:

    The feature on the Ramblers was very interesting but please let your viewers know that you can't walk across all land. Walkers must stick to footpaths or walk freely on open access land, but for some areas experience will be essential to avoid accidents.

    Some land is not accessible to people because of the wildlife interest for example breeding birds, and walking (especially with dogs) causes disturbance and will affect these fragile sites.

    Walking in the countryside is good, and to be encouraged but please do it responsibly and don't just jump over gates as suggested in the feature.

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  • 32. At 7:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, Abanazar wrote:

    I was getting increasingly annoyed, now I am angry. Why does The One Show always start 'early' or conversely why does BBC2 end late. If I watch BBC2 'til just before 7pm the One Show has already started. I adore Felicity Kendall yet have now missed her introduction. Curses.

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  • 33. At 7:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, matt154 wrote:

    lol, it bit him!!!!!!!!!!!

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  • 34. At 7:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, surreykid wrote:

    Much as I am a fan of Felicity Kendall, I find her 'get over it' comments on bullying rather upsetting. Why would anybody want to confront a bully if they fear verbal abuse? Easier said than done I think. There are many 'normal' adults who suffer at the hands / tongues of bullies and they need 3rd parties, such as helplines to help them deal with their situation.

    Some people who feel bullied can't put thier finger on what the problem actually is, fearing others won't believe them, even though they know they are being bullied. Please understand Felicity, we are not all comfortable, confident and beautiful people.

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  • 35. At 7:18pm on 22 Feb 2010, bwoods30 wrote:

    Christine reminds me of a Gremlin.

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  • 36. At 7:18pm on 22 Feb 2010, Helen Kaminsky wrote:

    Hi there - I was very upset with Felicity's comments that adult's who have been bullied should just 'deal with it'. I personally have been through adult bullying at work and as a consequence now have a speech disorder known as Spasmodic Dysphonia. Its all very well for someone to say this when their reality is quite different from the reality of the person being bullied. So sorry Felicity - please realise that your reality is not necessarily the same as others.

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  • 37. At 7:19pm on 22 Feb 2010, terry wrote:

    felicity kendal what would she know about bullying, has she been bullied. I was bullied in the work place and reporting to a boss is easier than said done.

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  • 38. At 7:19pm on 22 Feb 2010, GAZ911 wrote:

    re 35 so what does adrian remind you of?

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  • 39. At 7:20pm on 22 Feb 2010, bwoods30 wrote:

    A GIT

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  • 40. At 7:20pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jennie wrote:

    Some people are not lucky enough to learn how to cope with bullies as they are bullied from such an early age by family & peers that they try to please people all their life & cannot cope when someone bullies them when they older. It can lead to depression, low self-esteem and worse. I am happy for Felicity that she obviously has not had to cope with this problem but I am sorry she does not have much understanding.It can ruin your life & career.

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  • 41. At 7:21pm on 22 Feb 2010, pete s wrote:

    regsrding the comments about Gordon Brown and the alleged mis treatment of staff. This is the old 'Man bites dog technique'. If you asked David Cameron "do you beat your wife" and he repled NO OF COURSE NOT. would this then appear in tomorrows papers as " DAVID CAMERON DENIES BEATING WIFE "

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  • 42. At 7:22pm on 22 Feb 2010, janie wrote:

    I am dissapointed with Felicity Kendals comments on standing up to bullies. As someone who was bullied at work it is not as easy as she thinks standing up to a bully. After three years I am still suffering and I did stand up to the bully it only made the situation worse.

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  • 43. At 7:22pm on 22 Feb 2010, lola584 wrote:

    Does Felicity Kendal not realise bullying is ripe in the work place & irrespective of grade or title the higher one goes the more intense bullying can become?

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  • 44. At 7:22pm on 22 Feb 2010, Cheryl wrote:

    I completely agree with the above comments reagrding Felicity's attitude towards bullying. I have been bullied all my life and have never managed to learn how to deal with it. It is not simple to fight back and I often find that when I do try to fight back I am shot down down by the bully with denials that what they have been doing is not bullying!!! They are all cunning and know how to get around being punished.

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  • 45. At 7:22pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jennie wrote:

    Well done Mrs jonah, I agree totally with your comments.

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  • 46. At 7:23pm on 22 Feb 2010, mrsmullholland wrote:

    Bullying is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone, child or adult! Please support the adults going through this dreadful ordeal by correcting what Felicity said.

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  • 47. At 7:23pm on 22 Feb 2010, bwoods30 wrote:

    Felicity Kendal is just a dumb ass actor brain dead

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  • 48. At 7:24pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #18

    I don't think you mean inversely proportional.

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  • 49. At 7:25pm on 22 Feb 2010, peterburton wrote:

    One way to deal with people who bully is to call upon those trained in mediation or other Restorative Practices. These practices support people who want to call to account those who are behaving in ways that are causing pain and suffering to others so that the person bullying realises the impact of their actions and stops.

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  • 50. At 7:25pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #30

    A bit like the contributions from some bloggers...

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  • 51. At 7:25pm on 22 Feb 2010, HRW11 wrote:

    I think Felicity Kendal's comment about bulling was totally offensive. Bullying is a REAL issue in the work place. It can be formed of verbal or physical abuse-the same as it would be with children in schools or those in suffering domestic abuse. The victims of bullying in the workplace are not just going to stand up for themselves as Kendal said. There are many different situations where a person is dominated and forced to behave in the way the abuser wants. Humiliating people in front of clients, other work mates ganging up on a person and even lying to get bonus's also sabotage of a persons work. It is a real issue and I think Miss Kendal's comment was very very unfair and dismissive. I am a confidant 30 year old and I have a degree and a masters, I know how to stand up for myself but over the course of a year my bully at work broke me resulting in my resignation. I had o money to pay rent and I had to find a new job whilt my usual confidence was at an all time low. This happened in 2004 and only last year do i feel like i am back to my usual confidant and happy self.

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  • 52. At 7:26pm on 22 Feb 2010, Mr Eggert-Hobbs wrote:

    I would like to high light a few thoughts:

    A: The right to roam is only on designated areas of the UK not the whole UK as was implied.
    B: It would be a nice change if the BBC were not so one sided, we country folk watch and pay for the TV/license.
    C: There is already to much damage done by people trespassing on private land. There are plenty of legal foot paths, that have to be maintained at great expense to the land owner.
    D: A little more research and maybe 2 sides for a story would make for better TV. Not a propaganda channel run by White Hall?

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  • 53. At 7:27pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #43

    Rife not ripe.

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  • 54. At 7:27pm on 22 Feb 2010, Kate wrote:

    I also agree with MrsJonahs comments. Felicity should have given more thought to her response and hopefully will now be regretting her comments!

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  • 55. At 7:28pm on 22 Feb 2010, Mike Chirnside wrote:

    Ms Kendal clearly does not understand what bullying entails or, more importantly, how the recipient feels. Stand up to the bully? She MUST be joking! The fear that can be induced by a bully can completely destroy the recipient, leaving them unable to fend for themselves, so a third party MUST be available to assist, guide, mediate - or even intervene!

    Ms Kendal should be invited to rethink and revoice her opinion. I am no longer a fan.

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  • 56. At 7:29pm on 22 Feb 2010, David White wrote:

    Please tell Adrian that Ramblers do not vault over farmers' gates as Gyles did.This gets us a bad name -what an example.
    David White
    Altrincham Ramblers

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  • 57. At 7:29pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jenny wrote:

    Right to Roam
    We have had this in Scotland for a long time. I live in a beautiful part of the West Coast of Scotland - 2 miles from my nearest neighbour. However we get ramblers/walkers who come right up to the house, look in my windows and have no respect for my privacy at all..... some also leave rubbish along the way. This is the minority spoiling it for the majority, however when I am on a day off work and would like to lounge around in my dressing gown or less, I cannot for fear of people looking in. What would happen if I went for a walk in their back garden and looked in their windows, dropped rubbish in their garden?????

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  • 58. At 7:30pm on 22 Feb 2010, caza wrote:

    Felicity Kendall and the Good Life - brilliant. Part of TV history. But why ask her about bullying? What does she know about that? Clearly nothing, since she says people (adults) just need to deal with the bullies. Well, the very nature of bullying makes that a very difficult thing to do. Thanks Felicity for your very useful, profound comments!
    Are the BBC comfortable in continuing to ask celebrity guests to comment on real issues that they have absolutely no idea about in their closeted, cossetted world? I don't have much respect for good old Fliss any more (sorry!)

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  • 59. At 7:30pm on 22 Feb 2010, flunklumpard wrote:

    18&30&43

    Felicity Kendal is not wrong - bullies only continue their bullying if allowed to. If it's that bad, walk away.

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  • 60. At 7:30pm on 22 Feb 2010, Colonial_Pirate wrote:

    Interested in the section on Goshawk but disappointed to see it written up as a good news story when Goshawk and other Birds of Prey are still subject to illegal persecution and are almost non exsistent in numbers in one of our most famous national parks. Perhaps you should suggest the bbc looks into the issue - maybe an investigative journalist would be interested.

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  • 61. At 7:31pm on 22 Feb 2010, Anna wrote:

    What's the point in commenting as not one comment was actually used in the programme????

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  • 62. At 7:33pm on 22 Feb 2010, SuzyQ26 wrote:

    Mrs Jonah does mean inversely proportional, sxg123!
    They can pick you up on your job on the merest suspicion or hearsay but you would practically need to prove being nailed to the table to get anywhere if you complained. As for standing up for yourself, Felicity, someone as beautiful and confident and middle-class as you would have no trouble in the first place because people would not dare to bully you for fear of being found out. In addition, you can be bullied at work without even realising that is what is wrong and blame yourself for poor performance, which compounds the bullying.

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  • 63. At 7:34pm on 22 Feb 2010, mrsjonah wrote:

    Re 48
    What is the definition of inversely proportional?
    A relationship where a number either increases as another decreases or decreases as another increases. Inversely proportional is the opposite of directly proportional.

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  • 64. At 7:35pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #61

    This is par for the course. Welcome to The One Show blog.

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  • 65. At 7:36pm on 22 Feb 2010, wordsmith79 wrote:

    Felicity Kendal's comments on bullying in the workplace were extremely insensitive, ignorant and ill informed. To suggest being the victim bullying is something one should automatically have learned to be able to deal with by the time one reaches adulthood is quite frankly very stupid and potentially damaging.

    As another blogger wrote, being the victim of bullying at ANY stage in life can lead to lifelong suffering and in extreme cases, suicide.

    Such comments, flippantly passed by people like Ms Kendal who clearly have no place speaking publicly about these very serious issues, only serve to discourage victims from standing up and talking about their experiences and therefore, perpetuate the already widespread problem.

    Ms Kendal should be ashamed of herself.

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  • 66. At 7:36pm on 22 Feb 2010, Margy55 wrote:

    Does Adrian or anyone check what he looks like before he goes on air? Tonight he looked as if he forgot to take out the coat hanger from his jumper - or has he sprouted horns from out the top of his shoulders. Also he would look better if he didn't tuck his jumper into his jeans.

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  • 67. At 7:36pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #59 flunklumpard

    Agreed.

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  • 68. At 7:39pm on 22 Feb 2010, flunklumpard wrote:

    #61 Anna

    Your comments were never intended to be used on the programme. It's a blog and I have no doubt that the programme makers look at posts and may comment in another programme.

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  • 69. At 7:41pm on 22 Feb 2010, flunklumpard wrote:

    Kaye Adams has got away with it tonight. Must be the bullying bit.

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  • 70. At 7:42pm on 22 Feb 2010, Anna wrote:

    #64 & 68, thanks

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  • 71. At 7:42pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    #63

    Indeed. But I think your contention was simply that the burden of proof on the bullied is greater than that on the perpetrator. Proportionality doesn't make sense in this context.

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  • 72. At 7:42pm on 22 Feb 2010, Tony in Chingford wrote:

    On Felicity,

    What a lovely lady, one of our national treasures.

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  • 73. At 8:01pm on 22 Feb 2010, catherina123 wrote:

    How can one just walk away from their job and secondly why should one have to! I used to like Felicity Kendell but just think she hasn't had much contact with the real world. I think the one show should do a piece on how to deal with work place bullies and make something constructive out of this. Hopefully they will have a guest on who isn't so narrow minded next time!!

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  • 74. At 8:03pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jasper B wrote:

    Thank you for highlighting the cyclist issues on the roads of London. I'm a motorcyclist and currently a courier. I find that cyclists are often extraordinarily aggressive and seemingly hell-bent on either self-destruction or seemingly that of any other road users, including pedestrians. The absolute minority obey traffic lights. They appear, to my eyes, to consider that their journey is more important than anyone else's, and that it must be completed in some kind of Olympic Qualifying time. They often attempt to overtake me, inside, outside, any which way. I have many times had to make an emergency stop when setting off from a green light in my favour in order to avoid a collision with a cyclist who has chosen to cross a junction on a red light. I have witnessed cyclists shouting at a motorcyclist waiting at traffic lights to get out of their way, as though they were being illegally blocked from shooting the lights. I have been almost knocked off my bike (while carrying a passenger), waiting at traffic lights, by a cyclist who barged his way past, knocking my handlebars. No apology or acknowledgement forthcoming. I feel that the title Critical Mass suggests in some way that cyclists are all RIGHT and therefore CRITICAL of all others who do not rely upon the internal combustion engine to make forward progress, and are therefore (in the eyes of cyclists) WRONG. That's fine, up to a point, but it has to be said that cyclists require no insurance, pay no road tax, or undergo stringent testing to gain the privilege of a licence with which to use the roads, all which I and other motorists do.
    I have absolutely nothing against cyclists, as a rule. As far as I'm concerned they are two wheelers like me. Two wheels good, four wheels bad. But, and it's a big but, the nature of civilisation is (correct me if I'm wrong) such that we all agree to abide by certain rules based on common decency and restraint, and above all, a duty of care to eachother. I notice these rules becoming less and less prevalent. I notice, too, that pedestrians take little or no care of themselves whilst crossing the roads. There IS such a thing as society, whatever Mrs Thatcher says, and we are in danger of really losing touch with it, and civilisation in this country, unless we accept responsibilty for ourselves a little more. I have enough to deal with on my motorcycle on a day to day basis watching out for other motorists doing deranged and unexpected things, without having to take responsibility for all pedestrians and cyclists as well as myself. I'm also a colleague of Ms Kendal, having appeared with her on stage almost a year ago at the Trafalgar Studios in Simon Gray's and Hugh Whitemore's The Last Cigarette.

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  • 75. At 8:18pm on 22 Feb 2010, cashleypoledancer wrote:

    74 Jasper

    Gosh.


    Loved Christine's dress tonight. Please tell me where she got it. I think she's worn it before. It is lovely though.

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  • 76. At 8:19pm on 22 Feb 2010, Gogglebox888 wrote:

    Felicity Kendal is right about standing up to bullies but it is not that simple in the work place - I sood my ground with a boss a few years ago only to find my company car taken off me and my P.45 in the post. Many people simply no choice but to put up with bully boys (or bully girls). How often do we hear of people commitining suicide or suffering braekdowns from the stress of workplace bullying.

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  • 77. At 8:20pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jasper B wrote:

    Cashleypoleperson, Gosh?

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  • 78. At 8:27pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jasper B wrote:

    By the way, bullying is totally and utterly unacceptable in all forms and all walks of life.

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  • 79. At 8:31pm on 22 Feb 2010, Dave wrote:

    Felicity Kendal's comments on bullying just show how out of touch with the real world she is. As an actress I rate her highly, but when it comes to her comments on bullying she doesn't have a scooby.
    My wife has been off her work for nearly 2 years now because of the stress and anxiety caused by a couple of bullying line managers/supervisors. This is a local council who seem to have a culture of bullying in the lower ranks and they continue to get away with it! Not only has my wife's health suffered and her confidence is almost non-existent she has suffered financially as she has received nothing for over a year now even from the state. She has not been offered any support from her employer and to cap it all off they are coming to give her a P45 on Wednesday because they say she is now incapable of working for them. and what happens to the bullies? They are still working for the council with nothing said. Justice is something in the favour of the bully. I doubt very much if Felicity will get to read this but I used to like her a lot as many red blooded males would but I see her in a different light now.
    I hope she never had to face bullies as a child or an adult because it can hurt no matter what age you are. Just because your older doesn't make it right. Waken up ms Kendal My wife might never work again because of bullying, you should be ashamed of yourself.

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  • 80. At 8:50pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    Almost every child (including me) has been bullied at some time or another. Almost every employee (including me) has experienced workplace behaviour that could be contrued as bullying. You just have to deal with it and move on. End of.

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  • 81. At 8:52pm on 22 Feb 2010, sxg123 wrote:

    80 contrued s/b construed

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  • 82. At 9:17pm on 22 Feb 2010, 244087 wrote:

    i am currently being bullied at work, would Felicity Kendal like to explain how I stop that. I need my job and and the income it provides to keep a roof over my family's head. bullies are extreamly clever in covering thier tracks and getting a different job is limited. trying to get proof and someone to help when the bully is your boss is non-existant. luckily i have a great doctor but taking anti-depressents isn't the answer, I still have to face it every day. Perhaps she should step into my shoes and see what happens when you try to tackle the bulling head on

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  • 83. At 9:19pm on 22 Feb 2010, Jasper B wrote:

    Cashleypoledancer I like that you liked the dress...

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  • 84. At 9:26pm on 22 Feb 2010, 244087 wrote:

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  • 85. At 9:26pm on 22 Feb 2010, chrissy1955 wrote:

    hi this is the first time of being able to comment on the show. I think its a great show and i watch it most nights. thank you.

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  • 86. At 9:28pm on 22 Feb 2010, cashleypoledancer wrote:

    This comment was removed because the moderators found it broke the House Rules.

  • 87. At 9:29pm on 22 Feb 2010, hope wrote:

    I tuned into One Show tonight and was completely disgusted by Felicity Kendall's attitude to bulleying!! I was so angry I have joined your "blogg" and felt I had to comment - however I see many people have put their comments and I am so glad..she obviously has no idea the affect on people, I have a family member at the moment going through a crisis because of this, I m sure if it was her family she would take a different point of view..."oh, too walk in other people's shoes"!! still angry new member...

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  • 88. At 9:43pm on 22 Feb 2010, SuzyQ26 wrote:

    Re 82 & 84, are you alright 244087?

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  • 89. At 9:44pm on 22 Feb 2010, cr1cket wrote:

    Why don't the BBC show a goshawk preying upon its natural quarry , Not chasing a presenter through a pretty wood, All nature programmes seem to promote these days are birds of prey, badgers,seals and foxes. usually described in a soppy whisper. What about hares, voles,and song birds, all in decline thanks to these preditors.
    But of course,birds of prey, seals, foxes,and badgers are easy to film because there are so many of them about.


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  • 90. At 10:07pm on 22 Feb 2010, alice wrote:

    RE: MP Bullying. Gordon Brown must be the most bullied person in the UK!

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  • 91. At 10:15am on 23 Feb 2010, Mrs B wrote:

    Has Felicity K had some 'work' done on her lips? They looked rather odd. Her comments about bullying were unbelievable; I'd hate to work for someone like her.

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  • 92. At 10:21am on 23 Feb 2010, casbar wrote:

    It is no wonder that farmers despise 'ramblers'. In this article the gentleman vaulted over a five bar gate - obviously 'showing off'. Not only was there a perfectly good style to his right he vaulted at the end of the gate furthest from the hinges. This action coupled with his weight will loosen the hinges, the gate will be unstable and even fall over. The farmer's stock will escape and the farmer will be sued for negligence. The ramblers have no concept of rural living and their organised marches which inevitably destroy crops are tantamount to an army on patrol.

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  • 93. At 11:32am on 23 Feb 2010, David White wrote:

    I must protest more strongly on Gyles' actions in vaulting a metal 5 barred gate.What was he trying to achieve?
    He set a terrible example.I have been a member of a rambling club for many years and have never seen anyone attempt what he did.Shear stupidity and can only do harm.Please think before you show actions such as this again.
    He could easily have damaged the gate-even worse there was a pedestrian gate at the side of it.He should be ashamed of his actions and apologise.
    David White
    Altrincham Ramblers

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  • 94. At 12:15pm on 23 Feb 2010, Ms Mac wrote:

    it was quite obvious from Ms Kendalls remarks that she has never been bullied in her life, has she not heard of domestic abuse, this is a form of bullying and if the person being bullied could stand up for themselves as she suggested they would not be bullied. Its the ones who cannot stand up for themselves, the quieter person, that are bullied.
    I found the whole of MS Kendalls interviews through the show showing that she is a very hard woman with few feelings !!!!!

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  • 95. At 12:51pm on 23 Feb 2010, Rinty wrote:

    I have had three bosses in the past who tried to bully me. I found it easy to make them stop. A quite word with no witnesses present always did the trick. A bully is easily scared off.

    Nowadays one is encouraged to go down the official route of a formal complaint. At the end of which lies a fat compensation payment. Some of these payments are astonishingly high - six figures in some cases. Given my time over I might consider being bullied as a career choice.

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  • 96. At 1:00pm on 23 Feb 2010, Hubert wrote:

    Would the BBC please stop this constant praise for the Ramblers' Association? This is an organisation with charitable status that spends thousands of pounds every year on court and other actions to prevent legitimate use of the countryside, especially the rights of way network, by people other than walkers. I spent 2 days last week at a Public Inquiry into a Right of Way in the Peak District at which members of the RA were trying to overturn the evidence of vehicular status put forward by and supported by the county council. Recent RA inspired legislation has already deprived the law abiding motorised community of whole classes of unsurfaced roads and they seem unwilling to stop until every one is closed down.

    For the record, the most popular participation sport in the UK is Angling, not Walking.

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  • 97. At 1:17pm on 23 Feb 2010, Staggered wrote:

    I was amazed by Felicity Kendal's comments on the subject of bullying. The fact that she thinks the answer to the problem is to just tell the bully to stop, shows a staggering level of ignorance. It's disturbing that she can spout this drivel on prime time TV without being challenged. The One Show producers should question the wisdom of letting their guests loose on complex subjects when they obviously don't have the intellect to deal with them. Let's hope the victims of bullying at home haven't been further damaged by this woman's comments.

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  • 98. At 1:45pm on 23 Feb 2010, David Patten wrote:

    The claimed Ramblers Victory was far from it. The vast majority of Somerset walkers support the landowner. There has never been any obstruction to walkers. The five year legal action started by a local Retired Rear Admiral has cost perhaps £500,000 – over a set of gates! The Somerset County Council secretly indemnified the plaintiff to continue the action. A perverse High Court judgment last week has meant that on many rights of way all gateposts, kissing gates, pedestrian side gates etc must be demolished. Full story on www.barcroft-gates.co.uk.

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  • 99. At 2:03pm on 23 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    Bullying can be insidious and standing up to it can leave you lonely, while suffering it will leave you disturbed. My father used to run out of the kitchen and accuse my uncle of lying every time he spoke. He began to get panic atacks whenever he planned to visit and gave up doing so. A single family friend was a prime scapegoat and ended up permanently in a mental hospital.

    Once you would threaten or hit those who kept picking on you
    to make them stop, but that is against the law. Give them a taste of their own medicine and you get arrested for harassment. Trying to tell people nicely, as per my training, got me ridicule, abuse, character assassinations and introduction of additional issues for me to deal with. I became quite ill and people were able to exploit me in this vulnerable state, even knocked on my door with allegations of crazy talk.

    I live in a world of spoilt children who think they are more self-aware than a proved genius like myself; noboody will accept what I say. People would rather lose my from their lives or involve police,
    rather than learn a little give and take. So I have no choice but to have no close contacts, like my uncle, or become a semi-reclusive like my bullied nephew.

    Felicity, you ought to be ashamed of yourself!

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  • 100. At 2:18pm on 23 Feb 2010, Antoinette Tootle wrote:

    Why do Adrian and Christine have to keep touching each other ? No other news readers or presenters seem to have a problem with sitting up straight.

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  • 101. At 2:25pm on 23 Feb 2010, callyfragilistic wrote:

    Yowza! Bit of a clumsy opening salvo on an unsuspecting guest - What is your take on bullying? A subject of immense sensitivity and subjectivity. A great many have personal, often private, experiences in different environments at all ages. These can be scary and scarring. Attacks physically, mentally and emotionally. Not a light-hearted bit of fill-in banter leaving people reeling in dismay and indignation. I guess the questions are pre-planned but is there a rehearsal?

    Actually, I'm surprised there wasn't an additional question fired off at the end of the programme along the lines of - What's your take on the current developments in neuro-science Felicity? (we've got five secs to fill).

    On a lighter note, it was good to see the delectable Felicity Kendal on the show - Razzle, Dazzle and Adrian. Oh well. I recall seeing FK at Glastonbury twenty years ago. Admittedly, she wasn't exactly topping the bill but looking pretty cool in the audience. Giving my best 'Mickey Pearce' - whistle and Ooee! Love ya! (No PC in them days). I guess she didn't hear me. P'raps Ms K gets a bit irked by yet another Mickey Pearce oik an' the same old patter every day of the week.

    Thought the Goshawk was fantastic. Any chance of seeing Adrian leaping majestically and with gay abandon through a fork in a tree please. Oh and don't forget the deft barrel roll. Rig-up any way you like - slow-mo, fast-mo. Go on Adrian - For Sport Relief and the mirth of the nation-in-anticipation mon.

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  • 102. At 2:45pm on 23 Feb 2010, dutchblog wrote:

    101 ~ callyfragilistic
    A sensible remark at last within this blog ! Well said, first paragraph.

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  • 103. At 4:04pm on 23 Feb 2010, Rinty wrote:

    re #101: callyfragilliistic,

    Your first two paragraphs: Spot on - yours is an accurate description of how TOS frequently treats its guests. They generally look amazed at the crass questioning to which they are subjected. It is a pity that so many of the bloggers on this site are unable to realise that.

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  • 104. At 4:34pm on 23 Feb 2010, Barbara wrote:

    Felicity Kendal is about the same age as me, but looks about 20 years younger. Oh, well!

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  • 105. At 5:41pm on 23 Feb 2010, Anthony wrote:

    Aww I watch the Good Life just to see her and I went and missed the One Show when she was on because I was at work! I forgot to record it and I dont have enough megabytes of internet left to watch it on iplayer! Grr

    I want to see the tellycopter out and about again!



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  • 106. At 7:58pm on 23 Feb 2010, watchingone wrote:

    For those of you unfortunate enough not to live in Yorkshire and Lincolnshire! just wanted to pass on how good Mike Dilger's Inside Out special about the lion rescue from the Romanian zoo was last night. It surprised me by being the full half hour of the programme and it was well worth watching to see the patience and care used to transport these animals.

    Also want to echo that reponsible Ramblers do not climb gates in the manner demonstrated by Gyles, or drop litter, or wander of paths. Im sure there are those who do, but they give responsible ramblers a bad name.

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  • 107. At 2:25pm on 24 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    I accept that guests have irrelevant questions thrown at them, but there is surely some expectation of what will happen. It is clearly something that Felicity Kendal does not fell strongly about, but I would respond with passion to such quizzing.

    It is all to easy to be dismissive of others. I have heard all that opinionation before several times, always from those who had been booing their eyes out to me five minutes previously. In 50 years I was never able to make them see reason about this, owinhg to the fact of them paying elaborate mouthy games so they did not have to listen.

    Being prevented from having my say over a lifetime I consider bullying. I was forced to take drastic action to clear my head, which got me into trouble with the police. Now I suffer flashbacks while condemned by those who cried to me with impunity.

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  • 108. At 7:38pm on 24 Feb 2010, Sandra Gillman wrote:

    2 days later I'm still crying after FK insensitiveness and TOTAL lack of knowledge about bullying. Walk away - what from a job you love, from somewhere you have worked for 30 years and have a 30 year pension and when you are single. I lost my job 2 years ago. I worked for a PSYCHIATRIST who bullied me for years. I reported the 'narcissist with psychopathic tendencies' ('..' - not my words, but the bully's colleague). I reported the bully, taking advise from the National Bullying Helpline - the same organisation as the 'supposed' MP's have turned to and 'power' one and I lost my job. I am constantly suicidal and am so trying to pluck up the courage to do it. A relative has cancer and I feel like I'm hanging on for the news they will be getting better, so my suicide will be less of a burden on my family, although every day, I don't know how much longer I can hold on. I desperately wanted to write to The One Show when it first happened for some help but I could never sit at the computer long enough to compile the story. Its obviously too late now.

    Word of advice for future subjects. Pre-warn the guest of the subject they will be asked to comment on and if they are NOT knowledgeable, I'm sure people would appreciate 'I would rather not comment as not knowledgeable enough' rather than make a flippant comment that has caused untold offense, upset and damage.

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  • 109. At 8:03pm on 24 Feb 2010, Auntie Beeb wrote:

    If you're feeling in despair or suicidal, it could make all the difference to talk to someone about what you're going through. You could talk to your GP/family doctor, or to someone who is trained to help. Medical professionals and counsellors will be more equipped to help you deal with the problems that you may be experiencing.

    Please try to speak to your GP, or talk to someone at the Samaritans, their contact details are below:

    The Samaritans Telephone: 08457 90 90 90 Website: http://www.samaritans.org/index.shtm
    Email: jo@samaritans.co.uk Text: 07725 90 90 90

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  • 110. At 8:30pm on 24 Feb 2010, Sandra Gillman wrote:

    Comment 109 - past Samaritans help. Thank you.

    I am a patient in the same organisation as the bully! ....whoops don't want to tread on toes, so I'm stuffed.

    Thank you anyway, I wasn't really expecting advice, more giving advice to the totally ignorant.

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  • 111. At 9:10pm on 24 Feb 2010, 244087 wrote:

    for suzyQ26 thanks for thinking about all of us suffering from bullys. no i'm not really ok i'm off work so stressed and even frightened to call in sick but had too i'm trying to go down the personal injury route as i cannot go constructive dismisal as with all bullys they cover thier tracks it got so bad my head 'exploded' with the pressure and stress,i'm a nervous wreck. maybe the BBC should make a programme about adults who bully in the workplace or maybe the law needs to be changed to make it easier to bring these bully bosses to justice.

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  • 112. At 10:40am on 25 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    Re Sandra Gilman:
    You must have very selfish people in your personal life. If you were able to get these things off your chest as a natural part of interaction, I am quite sure they would not loom so large.

    I agree with you, the law needs to be changed. This practice of abusing vulnerable people into breakdowns and then sending police after them has got to stop. People hide behind the police instead of taking responsibility for their actions. The amount of people who have their lives destroyed like this is unacceptable.

    I have seen them: permanently in mental hospitals, reclusives with panic attacks or self-destructive and pestering strangers for sympathy and understanding.

    I actually feel quite sorry for Gordon Brown, but hate Labour that created such biased laws of harassment. Police are effectively enforcing domination of the conversation and this can be laid at the door of self-righteous Tony Blair.

    One day so-called friends are heckling you in your home when your nerves are bad, another you have a CID man at your door, while those whose abuse he enforces preaches Christian morality at a local church.

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  • 113. At 10:46am on 25 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    Johnholyer than thou. I always welcome your caustic comments and fascinating facts. Even with shows like The One Show, there will be a producer saying "can we do that bit again?"

    It is not exactly live is it? It may be almost live, if that.

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  • 114. At 10:51am on 25 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    Ramblers association? I knew a rambler. As well as wandering along footpaths he could not stop launching into patronising lectures about every little thing.

    He used, abused and slandered me, leaving me too ill to be chief mourner at my mother's funeral. Then, in the best tradition of born-again Christians, he sent a CID man after me.

    You see Felicity, that is how bullies operate.

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  • 115. At 8:56pm on 25 Feb 2010, alan leggett wrote:

    I jump to the defence of Felicity Kendall.What a brainless stupid question to throw at her in the first place, especially as there was no follow up on this subject. Being the very first thing that Adrian came out with,I thought it took her by surprise. The original question posed by Adrian was what did she think about the Downing St bullying accusations. I thought that she, like most of us, hadn't given a lot of thought about it and just improvised with a general opinion, albeit unfavourable with those who have suffered in the hands of bullys. Heads should roll for this blunder. Would I be right in thinking The One Show is classed as "light entertainment"?

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  • 116. At 08:23am on 26 Feb 2010, callyfragilistic wrote:

    Dear Sandra G @ no.110 from 'im @ no.101, Thanks for your constructive comments from your own experience. Other folks will be able to relate and understand to these I'm sure. Hang on in there Sandra. The eggshells soften. Take time - for everything.

    What you say to all of us helps. To borrow a certain, maybe somewhat over-used slogan -Every Little Helps. In your case, personally - Every little helps ALOT. I could ramble on (but I think that was covered in an earlier programme - ahem,sorry) about communication being the key and all that stuff, so it's good to have you aboard the blogging bus (oops! Looks like I'm stuffed too now for un-moderated lingo!)

    You're doing a great job and have obviously achieved a great deal in your life already. Keep going gal, and I look forward to reading your future comments . . By the way, what is your own personal take on this jumper down the trousers thing adopted by the WoBlAy bloke? Personally, I think he should have kept with the ferret. Cheers Ross

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  • 117. At 11:49am on 26 Feb 2010, Johnfrum wrote:

    1) In my experience such shows as The One Show are recorded earlier in the day. Guests have some inkling about the show's subject matter.
    In my experience most people consider the issue of being treated badly, but are not interested if they do not have a personal axe to grind.

    2) Life is too short for a little every day. I have wasted my life in illness because I could not deal with the bullies. To avoid greater destruction I had to fight back. I am now nearly sixty, so such things do tend to be a matter of urgency.


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  • 118. At 7:52pm on 26 Feb 2010, essexwerkstatte wrote:

    To post No 108, hang in there and wait for your moment, sooner or later the person who destroyed you will themselves be destroyed or there may be an opportunity to add fuel to the fire to add to the humiliation of the bully, that hope keeps you going.

    My bully had great training for her role - well respected and volunteer for the Samaritans, then moved into education sector where they train you to spot bullying (and to hone your bullying skills) - and what's more guess where she boasted that she had a friend working!!!! I am there waiting to add my evidence when the time comes. One day she, or her organisation, will speak out about bullying - I will be there waiting, I just have to hope the Press are there :)

    Hang in there Sandra, I know what it is like, life doesn't go back to normal but I think that you can become a stronger person. You have spoken out, that is stage one, my bully is in a vulnerable position now, I have been pushed into a corner & I am literate - I have the article all ready and waiting for the right time - write down your experiences Sandra. You may not have the opportunity to use what you have but take my word that you will feel empowered. If you aren't around to add your fourpennyworth then there is no change - remember the old sayings 'don't get mad get even' & 'the pen is mightier than the sword'. Keep strong, bullies are scum.

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  • 119. At 9:12pm on 27 Feb 2010, Sandra Gillman wrote:

    Reply to 118

    Thank you.

    Unfortunately there won't be a 'sooner or later' as I was sacked and was told in the nicest way (not) I could never come back. As for the bully, I don't think they will be ever be destroyed.

    However, I truly wish you luck and success but you BE AWARE and take on board comments from -

    no 111 - (244087) that 'bullying' will be twisted to something like 'tough love!!'.

    no 12 - It's your word against the bullies and the reason their able to bully you is generally their superior position.

    no 18 - it can be incredibly difficult to prove as the amount of proof required by the bullied seems to be inversely proportional to the amount required by the bullier. Clever bullies play the system well and get very good at covering their backs so proof of bullying is difficult.

    no 44 - I am shot down down by the bully with denials that what they have been doing is not bullying!!! They are all cunning and know how to get around being punished.

    no 55 - I opted out of mediation as I could not face the intimidation and verbal abuse I would have been subjected to by this bad tempered, intelligent - 'swallowed a dictionary kind', but more over, person in a VERY POWERFUL position.

    AND FINALLY FROM ME

    As much as I do admire 'Bulling Helplines' and would never suggest 'they give up the cause', if I am ever able to go back to work and God forgive if I'm ever bullied again, I will never put up with it again, I would just leave. I stayed because I loved my job and the people I worked with, one person in particular. I wrongly interpreted them as 'my friends' but when it came to the crunch, they were no support and in 2 years, not one has picked up the phone. They were my 'friends' outside of work too, so I have nobody now.

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  • 120. At 9:21pm on 27 Feb 2010, Sandra Gillman wrote:

    Reply to 112

    Hi John - I'm intrigued how you surmised/interpreted 'I must have very selfish people in my personal life'.

    Thank you

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  • 121. At 9:26pm on 27 Feb 2010, Sandra Gillman wrote:

    Reply to 116

    Am intrigued how you surmised/interpreted 'I must have achieved a great deal in my life'.

    Thank you.

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