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Navneet Navneet | 15:13 UK time, Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Ahh!! It happens with me all the time. I keep something at a safe place and then forget where that 'safe' place is. All the tiny instruments that control my life have gone through this diaspora. Just to mention a few are car keys, laptop charger, phone charger, nail cutter, small scissors, coins, house keys etc. Sometimes I think that these things acquire microscopic shapes and go into hiding whenever I am out there looking for them.

Likewise many useful- useless items rest in peace in the lost world of Atlantis in my cupboards only to come out when I am on cleaning spree.

But the last weekend I did something exceptional. The weekend was going perfect, lovely lunch followed by icy mocha in afternoon sun, then shopping at the mall and local organic store. On our way back home Mr. Husband enquired about my phone. And alas!! The damage was done. I didn't have my phone with me. Neither could I remember the last time when I used it or saw it. And then began the ferry back to all the places where we had been during that 3 hrs. I spent the next one hour in anticipation on how to get the phone back. I worried on whether my phone has landed in the wrong hands. Cursed myself for not setting opening password for the phone, for not transferring the pictures stored in the phone and wearing high heels on the day when I had to run up and down in the world's largest mall (Dubai mall).

Finally Mr. husband suggested that better we go back home and then decide on which new phone to buy to replace my 'old' phone (in these technology freak days one and half year old gadget is categorized as old). And guess what .... I opened my apartment door only to hear my phone ringing...I had in first place not picked the phone before leaving and it was resting in my gym bag (I wouldn't say resting peacefully because I had made 80 calls to my cell phone in the meantime).

Hope I keep finding all my lost things ringing.... Like my cell phone.....

Comments

  • Comment number 1.

    Hi Navneet, I want to thank you for your nice writing also the interesting topic of your post! Your English is really excellent and clear as someone like me who is at a weak level could understand you. Waiting for your next post.

    Wish you the bests

    Karoun - from Iran ( Tehran )

  • Comment number 2.

    Ha, i am an absent-minded person. i can hardly remember what i just told to others and always miss some microscopic stuff such as cell phones and keys....do you guys think i got the Parkinson`s diseases.. KAKA...i wish it was wrong.....

  • Comment number 3.

    By the way, teacher bloger Mss. Carrie has forgetten to write somethink on her blog for a long time.

  • Comment number 4.

    Hi Navneet,

    I liked your post and your writing is way too fabulous. I commend your ability to write such an engaging article with lots laughing moments. I guess you have funny bones.

    Looking forward for your next post.

    Best Wishes,
    Rajeeb

  • Comment number 5.

    Hi Navneet,

    Excellent topic yet again. I think forgetting is everyone's problem - yet some people forget more than others. When my husband can't find something he would usually say he kept it somewhere safe, he just doesn't remember that safe place. I wish there was some sort of gaget which could detect things for you. I am OK with my keys, coins, nail cutter and chargers etc as we always keep them at one place but I forget things sometimes, like leaving home without taking my cell phone with me and many times I had to go back to get it.

    The one big problem that I have with forgetting is passing on someone's message exactly as it was given to me. Most of the times I forget half of the words and it is very upsetting at time when I try to remember something important and I can't.

    I believed that some people have good memory than others and that I am one of those unfortunate people who don't have very good memory. But recently I had a discussion with someone and he suggested that there is no good or bad memory, it is due to some people paying proper attention to what has been said and some don't and that that's what makes the difference. I thought about this again and again and I have now reached a conclusion that he is right.

    When I thought about my forgetting problem, I found out that I lose my concentrtaion very quickly leading to not remembering much. At the moment I am working on my concentration span, I am trying to keep myself concentrated somehow and hopefully that will help me remember more stuff. This is a big chanllenge for me and I am hoping to overcome this problem sometimes soon. Please let me know if you have any suggestions. Thanks in advance.


    Looking forward to your next post.

    Varisha

  • Comment number 6.

    Thank you very much for this post, Navneet!

    You have written this so well, and I'd really like to congratulate you on this admirable quality to be able to laugh at your own shortcomings. I think you have struck a note which a lot of readers can relate to.
    As far as I am concerned, I find I've gone through very similar experiences a lot of times - and it really makes me feel less bad about it to know that there are other people out there who tend to forget things too;)
    I was glad to read though that things turned out alright for you in the end (which they didn't always for me, by the way).

    So, congratulations on your fabulous sense of humour and best regards to you and Mr Husband from

    Elisabeth (Austria)

  • Comment number 7.

    Hi Navneet,

    This time you have selected a nice topic and I think most people face this problem in their day-to-day lives. Actually your English language usage in all of your posts was really good. You have written about your humorous personal experiences in this post and I also have faced similar situations.

    Most of the time I forget where I kept my pen, spectacles, phone, keys, etc. sometimes, when I go to town, I see whether I have forgotten anything before I leave. But, on my way to town I start to feel that I have forgotten something and when I come to town I find what I have missed.

    Also when I want something at the moment and try to find it, I wont remember where I kept it and I start accusing everyone in the house that they must have taken it. When my work is finished somehow and when I'm doing another work, I will find what I was searching earlier.

    I also agree with what Varish said in her comment. Actually I can remember things I study well. I have this forgetting problem in my other works (other than studying). When I'm studying I have my full attention on what I'm studying at that moment. But, when I'm doing some household work, I start thinking about what are the other things to be done next. So, although I have finished the work I was doing at that moment, I forget where I kept the things I used for the that work.

    So I think concentration is the fact which affects our memory.

    Waiting for another post from you :-)

  • Comment number 8.

    Hi Jayashani,

    That's brilliant that you can concentrate on your studies, I wish I was like you. Anyway, I am trying hard that no other thoughts come into mind during studies, it's hard to avoid but I think with practice I should be able to increase my concentration span.

    You are right, when there is a big to do list than things can be easily forgotten and I think that's most people's problem I think.

    Looking forward to another post

    Varisha

  • Comment number 9.

    Hi Varisha,

    You are exactly correct. Its not easy to avoid our mind from going everywhere,when we are studying. But, I think there is a n amount of time during which one can keep his or her concentration on the studies. Actually, its difficult for me to study one subject continuously for more than 2 hours. This time period changes from one person to another.

    When I was doing my A\L studies, I didn't have much time towaste, as I had to go toa shool which is far away from my home. I had to spend about 4 to 5 hours for travelling. So I had to do my studying in the remaining time (time which is left after reducing my sleeping time) without wasting a second. since I annot concentration on one subject continuously, the trick I used was to change subject I'm studying according to a timetable and have a small break after each subject. It was realy a sucessful method for me during the 13 years of my school life.

    In day-to-day work, to avoid the problem of forgetting, now I'm trying to avoid thinking of the list of work. I'm just doing the thing tobe done now and thereafter think about the next work. Its not easy. But I'm trying.

    As I'm a Buddhist I believe in lord Buddha's words. The following is one such statement.

    "Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment."

    Wish you all the best for your hard working on increasing the concentration span.

    Looking forward to another post.

  • Comment number 10.

    Jayashani,

    Thanks for sharing your experiences with. I also must say that you should be credited for travelling such a long distance to school every day. I won't be able to get anything done if I had to travel on a daily basis, well done!!

    Making to-do list also work for me, I get things done much quicker. It helps me not thinking about what needs to be done. I think it is a simple technique but very useful.

    The quote you provided is brilliant, we certainly need to concentrate on the present rather than the past or future.

    Thanks again!!

    Varisha

  • Comment number 11.

    hi, everybody

  • Comment number 12.

    Hi everyone,

    It is so quite on this message board these days, just wondering why is this so. People in European countries could be busy due to Christmas but what about people in other countries. We want some comments pleaseeee.

    Varisha

  • Comment number 13.

    Hi elisabeth,
    Hi varisha...
    Hi.. Jayashani....
    Thank you for ur comments and making me believe that i m not the only one forgetting things .... Ha ha .....and Jayashani you are really a brave gal ..... So much travelling and managing studies.... Impossible for me....
    Well friends sorry for late reply was away for Diwali holidays ......Diwali - the festival of lights ....

  • Comment number 14.

    Hi karoun and rajeeb...
    This was my last post actually the previous post on language was supposed to be my last post but Ms. Carrie told me that i have time to submit one more post .... So i was glad to take up this oppoutunity...
    But I will remember the journey through this blog forever and the comments and appreciation which i have received through readers will always be cherished....

  • Comment number 15.

    Hi Navneet,

    Happy Diwali and thanks for all the posts in the month of October and November. You have a good command on the English language and I have learnt quite a bit through your posts. Best of luck for the future.

    Varisha

  • Comment number 16.

    Hi Navneet,

    Happy Diwali for you and your family. I also got a good knowledge through your blogs.
    Your English is really good and your vocabulary is good (actually much better than mine). So thanks for sharing your experiences and knowledge with us.

    Good luck!

  • Comment number 17.

    Hi Navneet,
    This is my first comment in a web site. I am from Bangladesh. Just few times ago I have read your blog the topic you have written is very interesting, and I realize, your English is petty good. I am also learning how to write and speak fluently and I thing that this blog site will help me to learn English very well. Good day…….

    Thanks

    Rahman

  • Comment number 18.

    hi,i'm Claudia from Sardinia,Italy. IT's the first time for me and i'd like to learn to speak english? HOW DO I LEARN? thanks

  • Comment number 19.

    Hi Navneet,
    I was a little engaged last month, had to prepare for a couple of exams; as a result could not actively participate in the discussions :(

    Went through your posts, it was interesting! Being an Indian, I could relate well to the topics :)

    Thanks once again for the wonderful info and ideas you shared. And love the command you have got over the language.

    All the best,

    Sumayya, India

  • Comment number 20.

    Hello there everyone,

    This is my first comment at the BBC learning English site, I just wanna say that these kinda things happen to everyone;)

  • Comment number 21.

    Hi Navneet and everyone,
    Navneet your writing is very interesting , we all suffer from problems like this specially with small and worth things , waiting for your next post.
    Best wishes

  • Comment number 22.

    hi Nanveet,
    could you please tell me what the word diaspora means??
    thnkyou,
    best wishes!!

  • Comment number 23.

    Hi Nanveet

    I've just starting reading a blog here and I found your blogs are very intersting and informative. Keep it up!

    Thanks

  • Comment number 24.

    hi.is anybody here from russia

  • Comment number 25.

    I thought, U've got a talent to be a story teller, I'd like to read this post..U know what ?..every single sentences has really connection between each other,I knew what are U trying to talk about....and also..that was really common happened for every member here....:),thanks for sharing it :)

  • Comment number 26.

    Dear Navneet
    So sweet article by you! I am often absent minded & forget not only my personal belongings but some important works of mine. I seldom remember birth-days except mine.
    Indeed, it is a good story & often relates to every individual in the some way or the other. All of us forget something in our day today busy life....
    Looking forward to hear more interesting blogs.....

    Best Regards
    Santosh Kumar

  • Comment number 27.

    Very nice post. Its a commendable effort! :)

  • Comment number 28.

    Hi Navneet, I'm new here and my english is not like yours. But we have something in common: I always forget where I keep my things. I'm so absent minded that always ask my wife to take care of my things. Your pos is very interesting.

  • Comment number 29.

    Hi Navneet,

    don't worry you're not alone.
    I forgot my new photo camera in a fitting room during a trip in Mugello (Italy), but I was really lucky: during the return trip, when I realized that the camera was missing, I called the shop using the phone number in the receipt (I bought a shirt ) and the shop's employee said to me that she found the camera.
    We spent (me and my friends) one hour more than the necessary to get back the camera and get home, but for a new photo camera lost and found in the same day, is not so much. Is it?

    P.S.
    I joined to this community to improve my English so please apologize me if I make mistake.

  • Comment number 30.

    All this user's posts have been removed.Why?

  • Comment number 31.

    Hi friend I am new here . Though I am the student of English literature but I am still very weak in speaking also writing. As my mother tongue is Bangle so I wish I can make myself better by improving English. I should try my best

  • Comment number 32.

    Hi Navneet,

    Thanks for your interesting experience and excellent writing. I jointed this blog recently and found out the usefulness of story-sharing and comments.


    Cheers,

    Tue

  • Comment number 33.

    Thank you for your post..It is a very interesting theme. I am a brazilian student and I need to improve my writing part of my english study.. in my opinion when you can read you can write in a good way.. dont you think?

  • Comment number 34.

    This comment was removed because the moderators found it broke the house rules. Explain.

  • Comment number 35.

    by reading your short type of real faced story it looks like lots of burden over the head can steer us to the short memory..but the way how you explained in simple words that was really an splendid job? and am happy to comment for the first time so hope to get your words....soon

  • Comment number 36.

    Well, you narrated it beautifully. It is ironic fact that we remember special events, occasions or things but we tend to forget about the most common things in usual life like u mentioned. Looking forward to see your next post.

  • Comment number 37.

    Teacher blogger Mss. Carrie has forgotten to write anything on her blog for a long time.

  • Comment number 38.

    hi navneet!
    i congregate writting you mention most of people' s problem you know that human is scatterbrain but if person be more careful, will overcome this problem good works everybody ... enes

  • Comment number 39.

    hello;
    I am 30 years old.I am from Turkey.I am married. I am learning English. I want to learning very much this language. I think need to a lot of time.How I learn quickly.Please Can you help me.

  • Comment number 40.

    hi
    you are absolutely right navneet . This happens to me day and day out. Everyday i place my key chain at place thinking that to be very safe place and i wont find any problem in finding it .. but alas what??...i forget the place itself and get confused with the day before yesterday's place..

  • Comment number 41.

    Hi Navneet, your story is interesting because what you are describing is something that happens to so many people. In English We refer to this as "absent minded" or "absent mindedness" or if you are interested in a more colloquial term in English we say "to be- scatty". You are certainly not alone. For some interesting expressions visit my blog where I talk about improving your English. www.you2canspeakenglish.com

  • Comment number 42.

    Thank u!

 

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