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My date last night...

Greg James | 13:11 UK time, Wednesday, 31 March 2010

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Update 1st April at 4pm: Yesterday I was talking about my evening out with Scott and I said something a bit inappropriate and I wasn't really thinking to be honest with you, it was a flippant remark that I really shouldn't have made and I'm really sorry about it.

Comments

  • Comment number 1.

    think those plates belong on antiques roadshow!

  • Comment number 2.

    YOU MAKE A LOVELY COUPLE BOYS =)

  • Comment number 3.

    Why did you find breastfeeding so off putting?

  • Comment number 4.

    Scott looks like hes got a wedding ring on?!?!?!?!?!?

  • Comment number 5.

    You really don't look too put off by seeing a baby breastfeeding, I just wondered why you felt the need to bring it up so negatively. Comments like yours are incredibly unhelpful.

  • Comment number 6.

    Greg, I'm really disappointed with the breast feeding comment you made on your show around 3pm today. It wasn't helpful, it wasn't right and to be honest, people like you saying things like that are really unhelpful and offensive to mums like me who feel proud to have breastfed my child and women who wish to do the same.

    I will not rant here about the benefits of breastfeeding, as I'll be here for hours but I think its safe to say there are many.

    Seeing as you are on live radio, on a popular radio station, you may like to think before you speak in future.

    Id really welcome your apology.

    SJ

  • Comment number 7.

    Looks like you had a good night, despite seeing a baby being fed.

    The comment you made on your show about breastfeeding disappointed me. Would you rather have had a screaming, hungry baby spoil your night? It is thoughtless comments like the one you made that make women feel uncomfortable to breastfeed their babies in public.

  • Comment number 8.

    Aside from the fact that I can't see why on earth seeing a baby being fed would put you off your food, I'd love to know how exactly you think women should feed their babies? Should we not leave the house in case they cry out for food? Or should we switch to formula, not because it's best for baby (because we all know that breast is best) but just in case feeding our babies the way nature intended accidentally offends someone?

    It's not a wonder that breastfeeding rates in this country are woefully low, when comments like this on a national radio show make women think that breastfeeding in public is offensive and wrong.

  • Comment number 9.

    How dare a mother breastfeed her hungry baby when you were eating your meal on the next table. How inconsiderate of her. Next time she should let the baby go hungry or at least have the decency to have fed her baby in the toilet. Let's hope your meal was not too spoilt by the sight of the most natural thing in the world.

  • Comment number 10.

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  • Comment number 11.

    Im really disappointed about the comment you made re a woman feeding her child while you were at dinner last night What was it about a mother feeding her baby that "put you off your mango chutney" Should women stay at home until hey are no longer breastfeeding? Should all women bottle feed their children to ensure that people like you are not put off their dinner? Or perhaps you should realise that comments like these are unhelpful upsetting to women struggling with feeding in public. As a public figure you should know better, I suggest you find out more about breastfeeding and its benefits to baby,and apologise on your show.

  • Comment number 12.

    Another person here rather disappointed at your breastfeeding comment. I struggled to feed both my babies myself, despite constant pain and problems, because I know it's the best thing for them. It was flipping hard though, and there were times when a comment such as yours might well have pushed me to stop. It was a very irresponsible thing to say - the health benefits of breastfeeding are undisputed, as a public figure you should be trying to encourage it, not making childish comments that might put mums off trying.

  • Comment number 13.

    Yes, another irate mother here. It's totally up to you if you find breastfeeding disgusting, it says more about you than the woman feeding her baby. To be fair before I had children my immediate response was similar. What is not fair is that the comment you made could have put off someone who is struggling with others perceptions or is not sure if she can feed her baby in public because of ill educated and rude views.

    If you enjoy seeing a page three girl with her baps out in your morning paper you're being a lot more perverted than the woman feeding her baby and indeed, may need to question why you find the human mammary gland so erotic.......

    I'll wager your perception of breastfeeding will change as you get older. In the interim I'd suggest you avoid comments that could seriously upset people who really don't deserve it. It's just not very nice.

  • Comment number 14.

    Greg, perhaps you would have preferred it if that off putting breastfeeding mother were to have fed her hungry baby in the toilets? Or better still, you could have eaten your curry in there so that you didn't need to look at her off putting actions. Feeding a baby in front of her family! How terrible. It would never have happened in the posh restaurant... oh wait, yes it could have because it is one of the most natural things in the world and is legally allowed to happen anywhere.

    New mothers and mother to be often feel that the breast is best slogan is rammed down their throats... but flippant comments like this on national radio remind us of why the government needs a campaign to promote the optimal way to feed babies. It is so sad that breast-feeding prejudices are still so prevalent *Sigh*

  • Comment number 15.

    Breastfeeding in public is fine if done discreetly.
    Clearly for Greg to notice it in a busy restaurant it couldn't have been very subtle. Clearly the woman had no consideration for the other dinners.

    Think you are all taking the comment well out of context anyway!

  • Comment number 16.

    Discreetly or not Loz, a baby needed fed. How on earth could she be being inconsiderate feeding her baby????

    Have you breastfed? Do you know anything about it? Some women find breastfeeding hard and to be discreet can be a struggle and they still persevere with it because they want to give their baby the best start in life. They should be applauded not lambasted on a national radio show.

    I think you'll find that even if it is obvious that a woman is breastfeeding there is far more on show on the front pages of most magazines than you would see when you're feeding a baby and you don't find many men complaining about that!

  • Comment number 17.

    Oh apologies Loz.

    Out of interest, what context should we have taken his comments in?! I thought I was responding to the context in which the story was shared.

    I have only taught numerous women to breastfeed so I had no idea that it should be done discreetly and in a way that no man in the room should ever be able to guess that a woman is daring to feed her child- so thanks for your information ;-) You are so right that for Greg to have noticed it she must have been sat there topless in the middle of the table so that all diners had to notice her- that is clearly the right assumption as it is how most women breast feed. Thanks for setting the right context.

    She really must have had no consideration for other dinners- how dare a mother put her baby first! How very rude of her. I hope she heard herself being lambasted and shamed on public radio so that she knows she needs to improve her breastfeeding technique so as not to offend those who think breasts are purely for sexual purposes. Maybe she'll even get the message just to give up!

    You may find this website of interest:
    http://www.kellymom.com/

  • Comment number 18.

    Well said Debs. And Loz, breastfeeding in public is fine, full stop. It's not always possible to be discreet, I was in so much pain feeding that I often had to position my baby in a way that probably wasn't as discreet as it could have been, simply to be able to get through the feed without it becoming too agonising.

    You'd see more on any beach, in the pages of many newspapers and magazines...

  • Comment number 19.

    Surprised the baby wasn't put off by you eating your mango chutney!

  • Comment number 20.

    Cheers for the on-air apology! :-)

  • Comment number 21.

    I love how just because Greg actually manned up and aplogised for his flippant comment it has just caused a shedload more comments of people jumping on the bandwagon to slate him. Greg obviously appreciates it wasn't the right thing to say, what more do you expect him to do now, how about everyone just calms down and moves on.....

  • Comment number 22.

    oops, my first comment is completely special. I was seeing the 1st april and assuming the comments were posted after greg's apology today, but seeing the time they were posted, realise now i was being a muppet......my bad...

  • Comment number 23.

    I think you'll find that all these comments were posted before the actual apology Jon. So no one is jumping on any bandwagon.

  • Comment number 24.

    hmmm... here i was thinking this was a free country, where people could have their own opinions!! clearly i was wrong... some people are more comfortable with seeing such things than others, who says you cant express your opnion? get over it

  • Comment number 25.

    OMG some people need to get a life.
    Yes breast is best but if you go out to eat the last thing people want to see is someone breast feeding. so why cant you express??
    I agree with greg.
    The mother had no consideration for the other people trying to eat in there, noone is saying dont feed your child so the people who are make those comments need to grow up, but express your milk if you are going somewhere that people are trying to eat.

  • Comment number 26.

    I think Greg's comments were perfectly justified - he's entitled to an opinion, and frankly it's one that I agree with. Seeing someone breastfeeding *is* offputting when you're trying. Would I rather hear a hungry baby screaming as I'm trying to eat? No, what I'd like is for you militant breastfeeders to show a bit of consideration for others and do it in private!

  • Comment number 27.

    I don't find it off putting but it can be a bit awkward because sometimes it catches your eye and you hate for people to think you're staring! Never mind Greg, you've apologised and if anyone still has a beef with you that's their problem not yours. Love the show keep it up!

  • Comment number 28.

    I completely agree with other posters. Breastfeeding is fine but i do think it should be done discreetly. No not everyone wants to see this. Obviously you need to feed your child, im not saying that but whats wrong with expressing. i don't like seeing breastfeeding when im out. Somethings can be done discreetly including this. Oh and im sure now im gonna get some backlash from some people, but this is my opinion and im entitled to it. Greg would never want to offend anyone he is a nice guy, he has apologised so what more do you want. Love your show Greg x

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