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Look what we found in the Walford Gazette... again!

Nickie | 20:25 UK time, Tuesday, 4 May 2010

Like father, like son? Looks like another member of the Walford community has been appealing to the Gazette's problem page for help. Maybe the advice you lot gave to Masood the other week was so good that this person felt the need to reach out for your helping hands...

What advice would you give to despairing 'Anonymous' from Walford?

 

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Comments

  • Comment number 1.

    Tamwar!! Finally someone in the family can see the whole picture. It is unlikely for the family to accept Syed as who he is though, they would never understand but i'm glad you do!! Chyred forever. (: ♥

  • Comment number 2.

    GO TAMWAR!
    He finally understands Christian & Syeds Love. I don't tnink the family will accept Syed being gay, but i understand your concerns for your mother & father, they do need each other. BUT SYED NEED CHRISTIAN MORE. Chyred.ox (:

  • Comment number 3.

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  • Comment number 4.

    Tamwar , you are a legend ! Syed listen to your little brother and get yor man back !

  • Comment number 5.

    Tamwar, you seem to be stuck in the middle of all this. I dont think your parents will split over this theyl sort it out after a long talk, but they will never agree or come to terms with what Syed and Christian are doing, I dont think your dad will ever be ok with Syed again and your mum will never accept that he is gay, but I dont think shell banish him, I think she will still keep in contact with him so she knows hes ok, but it wont be the end of Syed and Christian, theyl stay together, maybe not on the square but I do think they will stay together, they love and care for each other far too much.

  • Comment number 6.

    well he was in the family he just won't in the other part of the family

  • Comment number 7.

    Tammwar!
    Someone now see's the whole story of it! He's put it in the very correct manner of writing style. Masood should see sense ad Zainab should move back in. The parents should never give up on their kids, i thought their child was meant to be a gift from god? Not showing god much respect their aye :) Come on, FORGIVE ZYED!

  • Comment number 8.

    Tamwar you are my hero I love you. You clearly see how Syed feels about Christian they should be together just wish your parents could do the same. Hannah xx

  • Comment number 9.

    tamwar,
    you should get them all together, in a room andtalking to each other and say that if they dont start talking then they might as well say goodbye to you and if they wont do it for each other do it for you and comeale because whats the point in breaking a family apart, tell them all the things thats been bothering you and say tha they need to grow up and stop lieing to themselves and tell them that they need to set u and comele a good example

  • Comment number 10.

    what a right mess this is, eh??
    syed needs to go get christian... love conquers all!!! he wont be able to hide his feelings forever, it will destroy him.
    syed may have to sacrifice his family to do this, but he isnt exactly popular with them now, even though he isnt seeing christian anymore, so he may as well just get with him :)
    he still has his little brother, and in time, mam and dad might come round. if they dont, then there is nothing more he can do about it now... follow your heart syed!!

  • Comment number 11.

    Dear Tamwar...

    If you want your Family to be back togther, show them how it was before all of this happened, show them Happy Memories. But make sure you put yourslef infront of your family. show them how its effecting you aswell.
    If your Family love you they will put all there Issues behind and work on the future.
    Your parents shouldnt turn their back one Syed and Then expect everything to be alright. They will be respected for choosing the right thing. Not turning their back on Syed, he is a gift from Allah. Protect each other or when the time comes they will have nothing left

    Best Regards
    Naiema x ♥ x

  • Comment number 12.

    Yey Tamwar! I REALLY want Christian & Syed to be together! Syed needs Christian more than ever right now and should go vist him in hospital! Tam, you understand their love and thats all that matters. YOu should show your parents how much Sy needs Christian and mabey they'll realise that the best thing to do is support their son, not thinking what other people say! It's a shame that Sy and Christian are gey though beacuse their well fit! Nadia xoxoxo

  • Comment number 13.

    Chyred forever x♥

  • Comment number 14.

    Tambo! Pouring your heart out to Walford Gazette 'aint gonna get you anywhere. Yes, Zainab has been thrown, but keep it cool. Kameel will be oblivious and then forget her. Forget Syed. Forget you ever knew him. You started the thing at the table, saying you 'weren't applying for university'. Let it be Tambo.

  • Comment number 15.

    Anyhow, I'd say you shouldn't worry. Promise.

  • Comment number 16.

    i read that Roxy kills syed so that will mean that they will never be 2gether. well christan can do better

  • Comment number 17.

    Whichever BBC EastEnders site editor published this "gazette" is dreadful in how they write it!!! Tamwar wouldn't talk this straight!!! wanna gazette written? I'm your man!

  • Comment number 18.

    I think Masood should leave Walford with Jane and they should get a muslim baby. I think Zainab should get pushed into a wall and die and I think it'd be very cool if the writers of EastEnders could also get some lesbian action in the show, all we keep seeing are gays, the show needs to show some lesbians if they show is to progress.

  • Comment number 19.

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  • Comment number 20.

    I personally think the Masoods need to get a grip, they're making a big deal out of the whole Syed situation, even Tamwar is grown up enough to understand the situation, his Zainab and Masood are adults. They need to start acting like them. MORONS

  • Comment number 21.

    Maybe best to just get on with your own life and maybe learn from others' mistakes. But if you feel you need to, then see your brother when you can. As for your parents you cant really tell them how to lead their lives! Just stay calm yourself!

  • Comment number 22.

    Tamwar you are "the wise one" of the family so don't be shy to make your voice heard!
    I was bitterly disappointed that your father, Masood, seemed to undergo a character transplant once he found out about Syed and Christian. Prior to that he's always been so reasonable and understanding - a perfect foil to the explosive emotions of your mother!
    Relying on you to make everyone "see sense" - no pressure ;-)

  • Comment number 23.

    yoyur parents are being silly, just explain to them that syed cant help being gay or falling in love its just human nature

  • Comment number 24.

    Dear Tamwar,


    I think your dad did a good thing by throwing out your mother of the house. I am sorry, but I believe that all of this is her fault by pushing Syed to get married. Her pride is actually nothing more than greedyness, she is more worried of her reputation and of her business performances than the well being of her own children. She thinks of herself, and the apparences but did she care of Amira's feelings or life by letting her getting married knowing it was a scam!
    She was already a pain with your sister who did found her way out of it!
    Maybe you should get in touch with her and see if she would agree to come and help you out of this mess.
    It will be nice to have her back! And maybe she could come and announce that she actually left because she is a lesbian and felt that she would have never been understood by her family. (that s just a thought!)
    But anyway, Zainad has to go and see a therapist or get some angry managment courses, she is arrogant, selfish and mean to people! And even if she thinks that it is coming from a good intention she should realise she definitly not a good model as a mother and as a wife, she is driving her family to fall apart.
    Is that make her a good muslim? I don't think so!
    Just be there for Syed as for the rest of your family, but don t torture yourself for their mistakes!
    Talk to your brother about how much he loves Christian and how it would be a shame to turn his back to that happiness! But don t forget that you can t decide for others!
    Let it be Tambo! And think of you for a change, go out there and get yourself a cute girl or boy, as you wish darling! Don t forget to ring your sis!

    Good luck and take care.

    Marina

  • Comment number 25.

    Well, I wouldn't try to help out your parents. Your dad will calm down eventually and he'll hear you mum out. Yes she should have told him about Syed and I can see why he's angry.

    Also, I would give up hope on Syed. He's let the family down before and he's just done it again!

  • Comment number 26.

    If Tamwar wants to make them understand Syed is who he is because of love then he should find another gay Muslim and make his parents talk to Tamwars parents. aaw i love christian when he got beaten up I actually cried :| i wish christian was my brother (Y) aaw bless the babe x

  • Comment number 27.

    Hey Tamwar dont worry yeah I can see where these problems have all come from i think you need to get everyone to try and sit down and talk about the problem and i can understand why your mum may not have told your dad but i think she should of been honest with him but i can clearly see that there maybe a problem about acceptance in the religion and the rest of the people in the community who are asian and i think your mum was very keen to keep her family together and also not be known as some one who has sinned and caused there family to breakdown.
    With your dad i think it is just going to take some time to come to terms with everything that has happened and i think in the end your dad is going to forgive your brother and then the family can then rejoin and have a stronger bond with in themselfs again. But i think your brother is going to have to prove himself but i think your dad is going to come to terms about your brother been gay and loving a man as long as your brother is honest with him. i also think that is your brother is going to start of with lies again then he is going to struggle to stick to them and i think he needs to be honest with himself and sort the situation out and then i think as lon as he is honest and knows what he wants out of life then i think he could easily get things sorted and be honest that he is gay and loves men and not women then i think things could work themselfs out.
    but dont run away and just try to remain strong while this situation gets sorted out and just be prepared to understand that there could be alot of shouting happening until the family sort the matter out and just remember to be strong and help them as best as you can. dont try to push it though to make things better because this could easily send it the other way and this could cause the family to split up or worse they could turn on you and i know you dont want that. I think with your brother as well i think he needs to know fully what happened to christian and how he is bruised and battered and i think that would make everyone realise and then the situation could get sorted out and then if your parents could be ok with the fact that he is gay that would be a great relief for him. i also think that your family is not totally bothered about the fact that he is gay i think it is more the fact that he has been lied to and i think it would of just been better if he had been told the truth from the start and then none of this would of happened but i think it was because then amira came in to the picture and with you been against her at the beggining i think it is just going to be the same thing here and once they get used to the fact he is gay it should be ok

  • Comment number 28.

    We are 9CAR from Carmel College in Darlington. We suggest that you all go away on holiday to calm down and stop worrying. We think it is important that your parents get back together to set a model example. It is important that your family support Syed with his problems. Perhaps Syed and Christian need to relocate so that the family don't feel so upset by this. Many thanks. 9CAR from Carmel.

  • Comment number 29.

    Dont worry! But roxy's aparently meant to kill syeed so.....

  • Comment number 30.

    Don't you just LOVE Tamwar!! x

  • Comment number 31.

    Oh, bless you, Tamwar! How your parents managed to produce such an intelligent, thoughtful and open-minded young man such as yourself is one of life's great mysteries. Maybe you were switched at birth?
    Anyway...
    Your mother, I'm sorry to say, is beyond help at this point. She's a nasty, selfish, ignorant, petty-minded bully and a sorry excuse for a mother. I know you still love her, as she's still your mum when all's said and done, but she's driving away everyone close to her and sadly it might take her being left with left with nothing and no one for her to finally start to question her actions and accept that her behaviour is wrong and has to change.
    Your dad has also behaved apallingly recently, but deep down he is a decent and intelligent man. Again, there's not a lot you can do right now,but in time I believe he'll come round to accepting your brother for who he is.

    As for your brother, he really needs your support right now. He's lost everything that gave his life meaning, he's full of guilt for the pain and suffering he's caused Amira, the "shame" he's brought on the family, and he's heartbroken because he's lost the man he loves. He's in a very fragile emotional state, and desperately needs help. I think you should get on your laptop and find some Gay Muslim websites that your brother mentioned when he went to see the Imam, and try and put him (your brother, not the Imam!) in touch with someone who can help him (and possibly your parents too) reconcile his faith with his sexuality.
    Then lock him in a room with Christian and refuse to let them out until they agree to get back together and make a real go of being a proper couple. Don't forget to set your webcam up first though, some of us want to see their reunion in full detail ;D

  • Comment number 32.

    You can't expect to fix the problem yourself. It is not your job to fix what is happening. Your family needs to understand each of the problems it is going through in order to attempt to move past them. Zainab should have stopped Syed marrying Amira but it happened and is now in the past. Each of your family members should work past the blame and hatred they are feeling towards each other before than can accept that they need each other now, more than ever.

  • Comment number 33.

    why do people write so much ;)

  • Comment number 34.

    Tamwar, you are my idol! :b xD

  • Comment number 35.

    Tamwar speaks more sense than all of them! Tamwar cant expect to fix the situation. Masood and Zainab need to accept Syed and what he wants and if they cant i think Syed and Christian should move away.

  • Comment number 36.

    Greenlight711 for Prime Minister!! I would like to echo their every word in comment 31!
    And I love you Tamwar! Seeing your brother fall to pieces is ripping me to shreds and, as you know, the only one who can put Syed back together is Christian. I have a horrible feeling we're going to have to watch them both suffer even more for a while yet, so just keep on supporting your beautiful big brother until Christian gets over the shock of the beating and comes to put Syed back together again (please God and the producers at Eastenders!!!).

    Nadine xx

  • Comment number 37.

    Totally off topic but how do i get in touch with the cast? Thank you Hannah xxx

  • Comment number 38.

    I feel sorry for poor tamwar as he is stuck with his evil mother and now his evil brother xx

  • Comment number 39.

    Well, Tamwar! the only one who actually has some sense in this family!
    Lets start her, if your mum loves Syed she will get over the fact he's GAY!.
    Your dad he's a proud man, he might not ever accecept Syed and Christian but in time he will have to get over it if he loves Syed!
    Your parents will sort out their relationship in time cause it's obvious they love each other!
    And finally Syed, he's in love! People cant help who they are, or who they are attracted too! Christian is a lovely guy!, and if they make each other happy theres nothing to be ashamed about!
    Sort him out Tamwar, get them back together!!!!!

    Chelsea xxx
    Chyred Forever!xxx

  • Comment number 40.

    Dear Anonymous,

    You need to tell your brother you thought he was really brave coming out back to Walford after what happened but tell him now he looks like a disgrace because he still only wants to please his mum and dad and ignoring the one he truly loves. As for your mum and dad, tell them you think Syed deserves to be with his soul mate and if they can't bear to see him with Christian then tell them they can't bear to see Syed happy. They need to get a grip and I think saying that is the slap in the face they need(don't really slap them in the face). Tell your parents that if their pride is so important, even more important than family, then they obviously don't need family and stay with some friends for a couple of nights. They may come over and try to reason with you but tell them the only way for you to come home is if Syed can follow his heart and for them to give him their blessing. Don't make acceptions or anything stick to the plan. Hope it goes well!

  • Comment number 41.

    If Syed's parents really loved him, they would accept him for who he is,and not put there religion before there son.

  • Comment number 42.

    i think its a bit daft wen only a few weeks ago amy (roxys child) has dark hair now all of a sudden she has bright blond ? i know its only a programme but its ment to be as real as possible ? xxx

  • Comment number 43.

    Syed and Christian's relationship started as a purely sexual one that involved both parties selfishly lying to others and knowingly deceiving people that cared about them and that they were involved with. Does a healthy plant grow from a bad seed?

  • Comment number 44.

    Tamwar!
    Be brave stick up for Siyed no matter what your parents think your his brother he excpects you to be there for him now more than ever! But dont get on the wrong side of your mam and dad!

    Or you could ask your sister for help contact her or soming!
    But be there for Syed most of all!

  • Comment number 45.

    emma x
    What does Roxys child Amy have to do with Tamwars family?

  • Comment number 46.

    oh my god tamwar u are such a geek lol

  • Comment number 47.

    Tamwar, Your mother is the trickiest thing to get around in this whole situation, just tell your mum and dad to sit down together no arguing because camil your baby brother and you will be in the room, tell them that they can disown syed if they want to over a stupid thing about his sexuality he is a big boy he can look after himself! Tell your mum to start chilling out if she wants to talk to syed talk if not dont, same with you he is your brother and you are old enough to make up your own mind! Tell you dad that you have a religion yes but syed also tried making his marriage work although he already knew he was gay! Tell your dad that takes guts-- to keep a little secret to yourself but your sexuality!! Get hold of syed and tell him that there are no more lies now he obviously still loves christian otherwise he would have fought for amira that night his sexuality came out the closet! And then go have a word with christian tell him to pull himself together and get the man he loves with or without anyones permission!

    All The Best Tamwar!x

  • Comment number 48.

    I have got suggestion for an Eastenders storyline, in the episode that was Broadcast on 7th May 2010, Jane was looking after Heathers baby george and Jane can't have Children so i was thinking why doesn't she start a business looking after children? There are a few babies and toddlers on the square theres Janes stepson Bobby, billy's kids, Heathers baby, Roxy's baby, and when Tanya comes back theres her baby. and Stacey Slaters when its born.
    Jane could eiether open up a creash, or start one at the cummunity cencre, or even from home that would please Ian

  • Comment number 49.

    Tamwar Your Brother could do with being like you. You are very clever. Make your dad realise that the family will never last if he doesn't hold it together.I think The storyline between Cristian and syed is brilliant.

  • Comment number 50.

    The best thing to do is to have a family meeting and sit down as a family and discuss the issues syed can not help who he is and everyone around him should get use to it.You should ring Amira and discuss visting rights but your mum and dad should take it uppon them to be a prober parent and love there children no matter what x

  • Comment number 51.

    Luk Tamwar i think you shoulden't worry much i can empathise how your feeling i think you should have a talk with your mum and dad but separately in case they start a fight again in your face and that's never good but running away is the worst solution its just going to make your mum and dad blame each other for their son's disappearnce. And also have a talk with your and try your best matter what to stop him from falling into another mistake by lieing and saying that his over this bisexuel issue its just going to make things worse, tell your parents thats they are going to have to get use syed as a gay person because by telling him to stay away isn't going to change anything it may stop him a bit but deep inside his heart he will always be a gay and most importantly tell masood that he must keep his family together like a big building and prevent it from breaking and mostly tell everyone to not be afraid the more they stay inside in shame the more worse it will be walk around walford like nothing has happened ignore the gossip and the staring, and be a family because without a family member there is no family.

  • Comment number 52.

    Well Tam,
    you may want to just accept that your brother is gay. I know it must be hard for you being the person in the middle of this family fued plus having to take care of Kamil. This is a family emergancy and i suggest that you just listen to your heart and you will find the right path. You do what you think is right Tamwar.

    xx Olivia

  • Comment number 53.

    Tamwar I understand how you feel but take it from me... this family of yours needs someone strong and even though you father is supposed to be the strong one his head is rapped around the situation on hand. You need to pull this family together and bethe strong one for the time being. COME ON YOU CANN DO IT!

  • Comment number 54.

    We at Carmel College think that you need to slow down, communicate as a family. We think a counsellor might help you. Honesty is the key and the best policy. Syed should be allowed to continue his relationship but be more sensitive to other peoples' needs, particularly his wife. Carmel

  • Comment number 55.

    i think i am in love with tamwar only if he was the gay one

  • Comment number 56.

    Wouldn't it be soooooooooo funny if Tamwar had an affair with Syed?

    Tamwar you should RUN AWAY!!!

  • Comment number 57.

    look your family is a seriouly messed up one!!!! So what if your brothers gay and if he wanted to lie about the way he felt then and now then let him he is the only one he can hurt!!!!
    If your mum and dad truley love each other then they will get back together on ther own accord!!!! Stop trying so hard to get them together it will only pish them futher apart!!!!
    Don't run away from home but live your own life!! Yes your family is breaking apart but still you have to struggle through it otherwise you are going to be running forever because some day it will catch up on you!
    Your Parents know who he is and what he is so if they truly love him then they will accept him but it is not your jons to try and make this happen!!!!!!!!!!
    and lastley don't stop your brother from making the mistake!! life is full of them just accept it and move on!!
    Its your life! so live it for yourself and not others!! you will make plenty of mistakes in your time trust me

    Jessica xxx

  • Comment number 58.

    Really freaked by the person who said it would be 'really funny' if Tamwar had an affair with Syed! They're brothers!!!!!! :-S

    Tamwar should stick by his brother, he's the only one in his family who will stick by him no matter what he does or who he turns out to be.

    Syed should also listen to Tamwar and follow his heart.

  • Comment number 59.

    I actually really like the masood family, they are a pleasure to watch. Even though i do not agree with the way zainab is acting, she is in shock and probably never expected her son to be gay! I think she needs time to adjust! I dont know if she will ever come to terms with it properley but we all know she loves her children and i think she will come round!

  • Comment number 60.

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  • Comment number 61.

    Well for starters, I would set up a meal for your mum & dad, to tell them that they are going to all come through this together and that they're going to spend some time alone, whether they like it or not. You just explain that it's not just them it's effecting and that you are just expected to cope with this. So basically tell them how you feel. Then go and speak to syed and say that if he really wants to make things right, he has to prove it, not just to your mum and dad but to you and Kamil. Also get your mum and dad on board with what you have said to syed. Maybe it would also help if you just ask Christian to back off and let the family be, in a nice way and tell him that all you want is your family to be reunited. I'm sure he'll understand. Maybe make a phone call
    to Amira and say that you are sorry for your brother's behaviour and that you hope she is ok. Your parents will just need time to adjust to things right now. x

  • Comment number 62.

    Tamwar, you should continue to give your support to your brother, but you should also get out and go to Oxford – no, make that Cambridge. You're too sophisticated for Walford.

  • Comment number 63.

    Tambo, hang in there. Go and see Libby, she's your friend and she'll hear you out. If that doesn't work, call the Samaritans, they will listen to your concerns and you don't have to give them your name. This storm will soon pass, it's all a part of growing up. As for your parents, just give them space to sort out their problems. It's not fair for you to carry the can. Just carry on with your life and talk to your family as you normally would do. If they act different to you, remember it's not your fault. Stay strong. You're number 1 !!!

  • Comment number 64.

    You are the only member off your family who is putting loyalty and love before your religion, so go Tam! But seriously, i can't believe how much stick you get from your mom, when you are the only one who hasn't let her down! Your mother needs to learn that her family should come first, and she should be more worried about them than whether people ae going to disown her! Get your prioritys right Zainab!!! Good Luck Tam! xxxx

  • Comment number 65.

    Hi Anonymous! Don't worry! Just tell your parents how you feel and they WILLsort it out! Promise!

  • Comment number 66.

    Tamwar im glad you are trying to stick by your brother syed. So what if hes gay i don't see the crime in it i mean he cant help it !! why should he love someone else just so his family will love him, they should respcet his choices and love him for who he is ! you should not let your mum and dad control your life either you should move in with syed and then they will see that being controlling is making them lose all of you. this needs sorting and your the best person to do this. Love Amy xx

  • Comment number 67.

    Tamwar my good man. ttry and make your brother go to the hospital to see his true love and maybe then he might see sense. now about ur mum and dad, well i think ur just hav to keep out of this one.
    love your secret admirerer,
    ronnie rocks

  • Comment number 68.

    Oh Tamwar... maybe let the whole situation calm down a bit.
    Its been a bit of shock all round so everyone is still at each others throats! Just be there for your brother and make sure he doesn't do anything stupid!!! Let the whole square gossip all they like... just you wait, it will be alright!
    Bobbie xx

  • Comment number 69.

    Dear Anonymous,
    Ok, so you are pretty messed up at the moment, you are caught in the middle of your family problems with no way out. Firstly you should go to your brother and ask him honestly if he does love this man. If he does you should convince him to tell him. You also sit your mum and dad down and explain the situation to them and try to make them see it through your eyes. Tell them your brother would always love them even if they did something bad so why should they not love him? And your brother hasn't even done anything wrong! There is nothing wrong with a man loving another man or a woman loving another woman, hey, you can't choose who you fall in love with! Hope things work out for you,
    Love
    Laura Elizabeth Clarke.
    xxx

  • Comment number 70.

    hey i know things wont be easy it is so easy to get stuck in the middle, stay strong and calm your parents will be relying on that. also continue to tell your brother how much you love him and continue to support him the best you can he will need you in the coming months. if he loves this man then he will find a way through this after all you cant help who you will fall for.
    take care shaz xxx

  • Comment number 71.

    Heyy. We all know that it is hard for you to cope with everything' it feels like your whole family is falling apart but what you have to think that no one can helf there feelings for one anouther, remeber that there are loads of people like you that are in the world and stuggling with how they feel about a person.
    The only advise i can give you it make sure you dont take a side keep them both close remeber they are both your family. Put yourself in syeds shoes think how he is feeling his mum hate's him, if that was you would you be figthing or would you just be letting them slip away?
    Try bring back some of the old memories that you had when you were all one big family as you will say now "The happy day's"

    Take care.

  • Comment number 72.

    Hiya,

    You have shown great courage dealing with all these issues. But most of all you have shown that you truly love your family regardless of how they are behaving towards each other and you. You are able to offer a natural unconditional love towards your brother, this is a vital support line for him right now. Continue to love him in this way as he struggles to come to terms with the conflict he feels inside with regards to his sexual orientation, faith and relationships.

    God Bless you and your family Scarlet xx

  • Comment number 73.

    Tamwar, I admire you. You are most mature in your family. Your mum is too much of a decisive ***** for me, your Dad isn't so bad any more.

    You should give it time, it will all blow over soon :) you know, once people find out the truth about Lucas, the man who said 'Thou shall not kill'-laugh out loud!

  • Comment number 74.

    All of you people need to get a life! it is a tv show IT IS NOT REAL!!!!!

  • Comment number 75.

    tamwar u know ure family will never excpet syed for who is and his love for Christian . i really think that ure family inculeding syed should go to family consnileing . i thinking ure mum was roung for not telling ure dad cause then mabey this all could of been avioded and the heart break amirea . but dnt stop talking to syed caus ure family dont aprove hes still ure brother and his love for Christian is real and he didnt chose to be gay its just the way these things happen .

  • Comment number 76.

    Talk to your mum & dad! dont be scared at all, just tell them the truth, the right thing. If your brother is gay, and is in love with this man then clearly you should tell your parents to see through all of this homophobia and accept that their son is gay. your parents should love your brother no matter what.

  • Comment number 77.

    why do his parents care more about there stupid religion than there own FLESH AND BLOOD

  • Comment number 78.

    I don't understand this anger of Zainab. She is soooo stupid. I can't stand watching her.

  • Comment number 79.

    HI TAMAWAR UR THE SMART ONE JUST THINK !! AND THEN THE ANSWER WILL COME TO YOU

    BYE

  • Comment number 80.

    tamwar i think you should just leave and not come back or stay with a mates because your mum does not realise your even there

  • Comment number 81.

    Listern your family need to sit down with Cristian and your bro to see what you can do with the situration if your family loved your brother when he first arrived they should love him the way he is gay or no gay but if they only follow religion tell them this 'Your family or your religion' and also if i was you i would put your opinion across because they should listern to you.
    thanks for reading

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  • Comment number 83.

    I think Tamwar is the most human out of everybody, Syed is gay sooo wat, Syed is still his borther and Tamwar is stiking by him, Syed would have done the same, Tamwar should run away from that mad house a.s.a.p so should Syed and Masood, they should take Camile too, does no body no Zainabe she is the mother from hell. Masood should find somebody eles but NOT Jane OMG! the Beals and the Masoods h8 each other!! imagain Ian and Zainabe then Masood and Jane, if Zainabe was a real person and she read this, she will die then come to hunt me down in this life and the after life LOLZ, Tamwar u should run away with ur brothers and ur dad or tell Zainabe to sling her huk, tell Peggy to say dat 4 u !!! LOLZ

  • Comment number 84.

    thankyou tamwar! you obviously have more brains than anyone else on the square. unfortunatly i dont think your family will ever except syed as he is different to anyone they have ever known, and it is hard for them to handle. as long as you are willing to except him, that is all that matters!


    :) machelle

  • Comment number 85.

    It is important for your family to take a reality check and realise that despite their own views the damage to your familys reputation is done and if any good can come out of it your brothers happiness.Besides which your mum cant talk anyway when she was expecting the baby she wanted to get rid of it aint abortion against the family belief so she should look at herself. Your dad kissed another woman what about that.standn by your brother and his boyfriend and show support of him being himself.

  • Comment number 86.

    Tamwar is the only normal one in that family

    TeAm TaMwAr

  • Comment number 87.

    Dear Tamwar,

    I think that you should have a word with your mum and dad, even if you have tried already. Drop hints show how upset and angry you are , but don't be aggressive, you should accept that your brother has let you and your family down. Yes, i do agree with him coming out of the closet, but he should have said before, so none of this ever happened. Your parents should accept him for who he is, their son, and for what he is. Don't you worry about this , even though you are trying to help your brother, but you are getting hurt in the crossfire, and you shouldn't let this get to you. Your the only logical person in the family, maybe phone your sister up, and ask if you could talk to her, for advice. I agree that Zainab is driving the family apart, by keeping all of this to herself, she should have told your father before, and maybe none of this would ever have happened.Masood is slowly trying to get to grips with it, but your mum is taking it to far, by expelling him from the family entirely, she should stop behaving in this way and grow up. Finally, i do think that Cristian and Syed should be together, fate has drawn them together, but Syed with Amera? maybe when hell freezes over. Running away isn't going to solve anything, in fact, it is just going to make things worse, because your mum will be worrying about you, and wondering where you are, try an talk to everyone in your family , AS A WHOLE, families should discuss things like this together, not cast family out. the only other option is, let time solve this, even if it does take a long time, you don't worry about it, just worry about what university you want to go to, or what job you want to do,don't worry about things that are just going to make you ill.
    Just focaus on what YOU need to do, not other people.


  • Comment number 88.

    GO TAMWAR!
    I understand where you are coming from because my brother has the same problems and my parents are fighting about it but it isn't as big as a deal as your problem.You just want to scream at them and just tell them it is his choice. But the part you play you have a religion you can obvisouly can't just say accept him like he is.I think if your parents cant accept him and you can that is all that matters because at least he has one person supporting him and on his side. Your parents should just accept him for who he is not what he is because it is what matters inside not what they are (gay lesbian)i think you should sit your parents down and have a serious talk to them and tell them how you feel and see if you can come to a sensiable route not just because he is gay

    GOOD LUCK WITH THE DISCUSSION!

    NAOMIXXX

  • Comment number 89.

    tamar parents should still talk to syed because its their son i think it not nice to disown their kids

  • Comment number 90.

    tamwar, i understand that your family belevies in ala and belevies gay is a sin, ut within in time your family especially your mother will come to terms with it if she loves her son, yes your mum should of said something and shouldn't of made syed marry amira, but she thought she was protecting him but obviously she wasn't leas syed knows that you are there and that will make him a lot happier, syed will go his own path soon and so will your family, but they can't just forget about it and beleving that it is christains fault its nobodys fault, it just love, your dad seems to want everyone to stay together, your mum shouldn't think what her friends or neighbours are going to say as family comes first

 

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