When a mate gets it totally wrong.
If your friend has bad breath...
...do you tell 'em?
If your friend is with the wrong squeeze do you tell 'em?
How about if your friend doesn't have a squeeze but every potential partner they bring out is COMPLETELY wrong for them. Do you say anything then?
I have a friend who, every time she comes out on her own with us, talks the whole night about finding Mr. Right. The whole night. Nothing wrong with that, I suppose, except she now does it so much, it has become her currency of conversation.
So then when she does manage to present a po' beau (potential boyf.) out for a meal or a drink she doesn't know what to say, to us - or him!
Of course the night is awkward and a disaster.
How do you tell a close and dear friend that they are 100% barking up the wrong tree and having achieved this, how do you make them believe that you know and the rest of the world knows what's best for them more than they do?
For this is the case my friends.
Hope you are all as well as can be expected and that you still have all the major body parts you did when we last occassioned this blog thing.
CLP.
2009.
X.
P.S. Good luck with tatt/piercing badinage.
P.P.S. Finished the Bryson book. It is simply awesome. Will be "borrowing" lots of stuff from it for the show over the next few days.
© MMIX~RS~q~RS~~RS~z~RS~26~RS~)
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Afternoon Chris - nice to get an early blog again!
Difficult one that you posed............people don't tend to welcome advice in this area and it's so hard to see you own mistakes - when others' are blindingly obvious!
Am waiting for my BB book to arrive from a well-known retailer - think you may have started something here!
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CLP
sometimes you just have to let a friend know how you feel and then let them make their mistakes. remember to be there if it all goes wrong!
I don't think you can look for Mr right - i found a man by pure chance but then maybe I'm just lucky
Glad you liked the BB book - i enjoyed it too and found it most interesting! It was very accessibloe to read as well which helped.
super bp x
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Afternoon CLP
Thanks for the good tatt wishes! Still not found a tatt pardner .... so if anyone fancies a Friday afternoon in Feb holding my hand .... ! ! !
To tell or not to tell. Hmmmmmmm. I have a very good friend who is with someone and is very very happy. BUT one of her other friends (who has known her longer than I have, and is male) thinks her fella is totally wrong for her. This has caused upset and they are not on speaking terms at the mo, which has made said friend very upset to say the least.
The thing is, because he's male, does he have ultirior motives for saying they are not good together ..... ?? Hmmm???
Well done for finishing the BB book - you could have loaned it to be and saved me a few quid! Gonna start my copy tonight.
btw: have you ever been to The Globe on the South Bank and seen Shakespeare is it's meant to be seen? Absolutely awesome! But hire a cushion - the bench seats are a little hard!!
Right, off to place nose back up against that grindstone .... will dip in as the afternoon gently lopes towards 5.00 pm.
Chezza la Diva x x x x
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Hi sbp - I too met the 'right' one when I wasn't looking at all and was at the tag end of a bad relationship - these things happen for a reason!
I have some friends who have continually chosen the wrong men - who cheat and hurt them etc etc - but when they're all loved up at first they won't listen to any negatives from anyone else - so as you say, being there for them when it all goes wrong is about all I could do.
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Hi Chris,
Well ...... she is just trying too hard, isn't she? She is so desperate, she's bound to make any guy run in the opposite direction!
Is it possible to tell her that unless she relaxes, and starts to believe in herself, she'll never get anywhere with guys? Very difficult, this one!
And unfortunately, if she is with someone, and you know it's the wrong someone, you just have to bite your lip. Only two exceptions: 1. You know he is violent; 2. You know he's being unfaithful.
Other than that, you have to hope for the best. How about she tries to improve her self-esteem? Surely if she has you for a friend, she would listen to your advice?!
Good luck!
C xx
P.S. Yes, you do have to tell your friend if they have bad breath! Friendships are seldom easy!
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Afternoon
Always difficult giving advice this is why after wanting to do a few shifts for the Samaritans I had to think twice.
You are only there to listen and I don't think I could stay silent.
However a friend of mine once approached me for advice when she fell out with her then boyfriend. Fortunately I stayed very non commital. As she later married him I very glad I stayed on mutual territory. People can quite literally lose their heads over relationships.
Clodagh- The hair thing well thanks for asking. It is growing but still what I call a boring bob with layers. The salon has awarded me a free hairdo in Feb but somehow I don't think I will be going back.
Gingembre bet you can't wait for the post. I too am awaiting a parcel not as exciting as yours though. It is 40 candle light bulbs from an Internet company and I may yet even stock pile more.
have a good day all
PP
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Ah, fi, are you really me?
Christophe, what posers indeed! I'm always around to pick up the pieces...well, I like to think I am...having got (and had) some lovely friends who do the same for me...but you can't tell people really...they only end up shooting the messenger...so unless you never want to see her again, I'd keep a bit schtum...I'm sure you've tried to change or re-route the subject when you've been out with your friend but it'll all be babby talk soon enough...(yes it will) so you never know, that might give her another focus...or get her knitting...nowt like knitting to sharpen the mind...I just wish I could knit...
a bandage on your piercing
love
hazel
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never put a plaster over a new tat .....
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Morning/Afternoon everyone, interesting blog today. I suppose it's like the "Friends don't let friends drive drunk" philosophy. They might not like what they hear at the time. But in the cold light of day the next morning, most agree it was the right thing to do. I think in this instant, some brotherly sort of advice would be warranted. Something like, " I know you're keen to find someone. I have some suggestions on how you might find/hang onto Mr. Right" Or something like that. It's still a tough conversation though.
Hope everyone had a good weekend.
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CtD, that sounds like one of those modern day sayings...... LOL
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Oooh, CLP be careful in that minefield there!!
I would say no, don't interfere, as there's very little chance your friend will be grateful for (what she will probably see as) your negativity.
How about gently trying to steer the conversation away from romance once she starts. Maybe if you do it often enough, then you'll have other things to discuss when a "beau" situation does present itself.
Hello to everyone by the way, hope you're all keeping well, afraid I haven't been keeping up (bad flower!) as been very busy at work (only 7.5 working days to go!!) and shattered by the time I get home.
AF xx
ps had the smelly feet conversation with a friend once, wasn't pleasant. But not as unpleasant as the feet...
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ps CtD, are you still going for Alice, or am I way behind here? xx
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PP, having read your post again, after having thought 'well, if the leccy and gas go on strike and it all turns into 1974 again, we can all go to the Prof's house because at least she'll have light' then I saw the word that says 'bulbs' which I take it will need leccy.
am now in corner wearing the I'm Stoopid hat
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Hazel - nope, definitely 2 of us - I was away doing some work when you posted!
Afternoon to everyone else - how's it in the good ol' US of A Bondy? Now it's grey and wet here and I rather miss the bright, cold weather. No pleasing some folk..............
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hello flower!
#12 - not going for Alice now - something my mum said late last summer along the lines of "you never know what he may be up to until it's too late ..." (i think she was referring to rock star scandals, which are plentiful!)
So, I'm having stars, joined on a vine, cascading over left shoulder and down upper arm area.
Cited!
Ooooh - and 7 days til Russell Brand!! Hope he's gonna be ready for me .....
x x x
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Sentimentations Of Elloness Ter CLP And Most Indeed Ter ALL Of The CLP UK Blog!!!!
Bingo Star ere.....
CLP - woooow... wow.... CLP... this friend of yours.... give me more details!!!!
I understand what it's like when yer continually single and forever failing... falling in the game of..... love but noot falling in love, just falling. (my goodness there's a song idea in there!!!)
On top of that no offence ter you and Tash (noot the song idea bit) and all other romantically linked romantics. But yer know when all your friends, relatives are getting married, aving babies aka in love and all is going well.
As much as yer very 'appy that yer friends, family are 'appy and in love etc, etc, etttttterrrrrrrrrrRA.... it just rubs it in abit and makes yer feel a little more a failiure in love when your the only one sitting around the table who's on yer own, who's going 'ome terneet alone.... who's noot gonna get any wild jig, yer can only feel but moan!
Maybe that's why she might be feeling a little insecure or talkin about 'er love life aloot.
Plus us singletons always go for the wrong ones don't we. We're like a magnet for the lyers.... and a Britsh built Saddam 'ussein super gun for the reet ones aka fire them away... at 'igh velocity - know what am sayin'!!!!!
CLP, feel for 'er man.... feel for 'er... I do!!!!
PS Am available... a need details.... 'eight, age, inside leg meassurementations.... 'air colour... star sign... BMI index..... resting pulse rate.... blood pressure.... etc.... etc... we could be made fro each other..... or maybe noot.... life ain't easy, life.... LOVE ain't easy!!!!
All a can say CLP man... be easy on ere.
PPS At least yuv goot some friends too - know what ams ayin'!!!!!
PPPS Also CLP, remember if she is boring you with 'ere love life stories.. at least you ave Tash and can count yerself glad ter noot be as Beyonce put it 'A Singlette'!!!!!
All the points ave raised on the above matter a.....'ope this 'elps!!!!!!
PPPPPS - A feel am abit like your friend writing on the blog too much about my failed love life!!!!!!!
PPPPPPS - 'eard the new Beyonce tune 'Singlette'.... the chorus goes (FAST REPEATED LYRICS).......
"if you like it.. you should ave put a ring on it,
if you like it.. you should ave put a ring on it,
if you like it.. you should ave put a ring on it"
If a waz doing a Beyonce duet my bit would be (in capitals)...
"if you like it.. you should ave put a ring on it, (A DID)
if you like it.. you should ave put a ring on it (A DID),
if you like it you should ave put a ring on it (IT GOT ME NOWHERE) (A SAY BEYO... IT GOT ME NOWHERE)"
Damn it.... doin' git, sorry it again talkin' about me failed love life!!!!!!
GOURANGA 09!!!!!!!!!
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#16... the best a can get - With blogs this damn long am never gonna getta #1 blog postion!!!!!
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That will be a no then Christoph - once told a friend - wrong man chuck - didn't speak to me for the 2 years they were married!!!
Afternoon Mr Bond.
Quiet here today? Thought I'd have loads to catch up on!
Beesmum xx
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Hazel don't give me ideas.. might start my own wind farm next.
But without sounding like Mr Ludlight. Bulbs for light fittings with dimmer switches cost about £6.00's each for two of my candlelabra light fittings alone that would be £72.00.
As it is I have secured 40 candle bulbs for £21.00 inc postage and packing.
Electricians are having to take retraining courses at their own expense.
Can you imagine this happening in Spain... no they don't take the EEC seriously like we do here.
Makes me wonder what the Government will ban next.
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plum
we have investigated energy lights as we got 5 for a pound and found they do fit the sockets we thought they wouldn't fit - which is a relief as I didn't want to shell out for two wall lights and two over head ligths right at this moment!
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PS All - A 'ear Stevens Wright aka well known broadcaster/ DJ 'as 'ad ter go sick terdee.
I 'eard Rich Al say 'e's gone ter the dentist ter ave 'is abs assesed?????
Abs assesed... surely yer would want a personal trainer????
Must be a Wrighite new year resolution, ter get the washboard look.... me too!!!!! (Whatta coincidence).
PS Just 'ope Tash ain't drop before 5 or Rich Al's gonna be the only one on a emergency 5 'our stretch!!!!!!!!!
GOURANGA 09 .... snova!!!!!!!
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Super B And PP - The energy saving bulbs... get yersen down ter B and the Q.... they've gotta a selection of energy saving bulbs of all sizes - yer know for all the different sizes.... like lamps, picture lights, the dangling small lights.... etc!!!!!
'ope this 'elps your situation in question!!!!!
GOURANGA 09..... yet... snova!!!!!!
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Afternoon everyone . . .
A winter sun is hanging loosely over a Belfast sky - threatening thoughts of summer through to our office desks - yet all I can think of is an impending ski-break!
The weekend was a blur of parties, dancing, comedy, diy, self composure and solitary confinement (not in that order, though . .)
I've come across your quandry manys a time in my circle - the lazy way out is to let nature play its curse - eventually said friend should catch themselves on, wake up and smell the coffee - the problem is that this may indeed take some time . . .!!
Its the yin and the yang of the wonder of friendship . .
Take it easy everyone . . .Happy Monday !!
DtM x
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Bingo - you hit the nail on the head. It is very difficult being single when all your friends are married and have children.
I went to a 50th Birthday party on Saturday night of a very good friend who I've known since I was 11. At one point during the evening I nearly burst into tears (and believe me I don't do public displays of affection).
It just suddenly struck me that everyone was a couple, his kids who weren't even born when I first knew him had their boyfriends and girlfriends there (which made me feel really old) and at one point he was dancing with his 16 year old daughter and I thought to myself I'm never going to be 50 with a 16 year old!!
If I ever get round to having kids I'm going to be too old and knackered to appreciate them.
And if one more of my married friends says "you're better off single" I might dock them one! Yes it has it's perks, but it also has it's downsides and sometimes they are more than the perks.
Sorry had to get that off my chest.
AliB
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Lost Ali Baba - I am with you, I am with CLP's single friend!!!!!
But am also with CLP too, I understand all areas!!!!!
PS Thanks for the compliments about 'itting the nail on the 'ead!!!!!
Normally a 'it me thumb!!!!!!
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...akshully Christophe...I've just had another thought.
How about a nice cup of tea.
It is three pee emm (m) ish so it must be about then. A lovely cuppa char to take the mind off worriting and fretting about telling your friend or not. Am also wondering if she has the bad breath too, or if that was just rhetorical..?
Plum...a wind farm...wonderful idea...I'm wondering if I can harness the power of the Badger Snore somehow, but that's probably not for here...
...and a Singlette. Is this not an M&S vest?
love
hazel
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Mmmmmm difficult one that! It sounds like your friend needs to chill a bit and what will be, will be!
As for the bad breath bit - Yes, you have to tell - diffficult but has to be done! Bad breath's a terrible thing and has to be dealt with
Happy Monday
Liz x
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Po'beau - what a brill expression!!!!
Tis very difficult, I think I have to agree with what some of the others have said - just be there for her when it all goes wrong ... It's very difficult to tell someone else where they're going wrong - especially in a situation like yours, when you're all loved up and about to have a babby! Or maybe I should say it's sometimes very hard to hear stuff like that from someone in your situation when the other person is still single and searching!
From experience, the best friends I have are the ones who love me no matter how many times I make the same stooopid mistakes, they are always there to pick up the pieces and make me feel better again, and wish me better luck next time!!
T xxx
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Hi beesmum and derbyfi, hope you are both well and had a good weekend.
We had another 6 inces snow at the weekend. Another storm coming this week mid-week along with sub zero temperatures. Of course that's sub zero fahrenheit....brrrrr.
Took pic of the snowy course from my office this morning. I'll post it to FB soon.....
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Seems like it's never ending cold weather for you Bond - is this typical or unusual for your area?
df
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dunno bout you lot, but it's stoopidly dark here. really dark. i mean, dark! and its only just after half three ....
weird!
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Yup Diva dark and miserable - thought it was time to go home!
Look forward to the pic James.
Bees xxx
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derbyfi, snow and cold yes, but sub-zero temps, not windchill, are rare. It's not uncommon to have snow in April.....
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Dark, dank, and miserable where I am too. At least it's warmer and I am not freezing my nether regions off in the church office this afternoon!
AliB
xx
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aww AliB - I do so hate it when one's nether's freeze off! most uncomfortable! xx
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CtD, There is indeed nothing worse than freezing nether regions! It was so cold last week, they nearly did fall off!! xx
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ouch!
;-)
what's everyone having for tea tonight? i'm treating Mr Diva to liver and bacon, with fried onions, mash, peas and thick gravy.
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
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#24 AliB - so totally know where you're coming from!! Big hugs to you!!
T xxx
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We're having fish fingers, chips and beans. YUM.
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Hello Chris,
All body parts have checked in. :)
Friends: to have a good friend- you need to be a good friend my friend, and good friends always stab each other in the chest when required. Having plunged the knife as deep as it can go; you can both see it - and pull it out together over a pint/lunch/walk/ or whatever floats your boat.
Some people see finding Mr/Mrs Right, as the road to happiness, but that doesn't work. There is no journey to happiness. Happiness comes to you. Nobody can make you happy - what they can do, is bring out the happiness within you. It's already there- so just be.....
Understand happiness and you will be happy.
TVWx
PS. How is that Power Plate thing going?
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Danish Stew....
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what's Danish stew? i'm thinking bacon .... ?
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CtD, that sounds lovely!! Have toyed with the idea of a 2nd tattoo myself (sorry to join the conversation so late!), but I wouldn't like to go to anyone I don't know, and the last (and first...) one I had was when I lived in Belfast - it's a bit of a trek for a tatt!
Good luck with yours!
AF xx
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PS Lost Ali Baba - ope you didn't think I waz making light of your blog comentation.
Thought afterwards maybe it sounded like a wasn't taking your situation/ and at the party serious - but I am!!!!!
Am in exactly the same boat as you!!!!
A waz just trying ter be light 'earted about the nail on the 'ead bit!!!!!
Sentiments of 'ugs to you from me.. now ter make up for earlier {{{{'ug}}}} xxx
Chow!
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Thanks Tinsel xx
I'm having spag bol - should be nicely defrosting as I type.
AliB
xx
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Bingo, No offence was taken at all, thanks for the 'ugs, right back at ya with bells on xxx
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Bingo, AliB, can I have an 'ug too please?
Am another singlette with many married/parent friends. Although I do have a couple of friends who are in a similar position to me, so it's nice to be able to call on them for a drink after work (my married/parent friends seem to need two or three weeks' notice to get together!).
I am a believer that it comes along when you're least looking for it though (love that is!!), so I try not to dwell.
You never know, 2009 may be our year!!
AF xx
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{{{{{}}}}}} For you Flower xxx
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ps leaning towards fish 'n' chips hee hee!
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mince (they call it hamburger here?), leaks, carrots, other veg that I can't think of right now. Serve over creamy mash potatoes.
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I should point out that no danes (great or otherwise) are hurt or injured during making and cooking of said Danish Stew......LOL
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'Leaks' James???????!!! I really hope not - won't ever be eating chez Bond if so!! LOL
Reminds me of that old film 'The war of (or between?) the Roses' - Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner I think! Also liked the bit after the 'leak' scene when she crushes his beloved car!
df
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Odd isn't it. The comment about married and parent friends I mean. Le Badger and me aren't married (or parents unless you count the cats - last time I still had two) and we seem to manage to make and keep to arrangements...but other friends of ours, who are married or engaged, not necessarily parents...can't organise a p up in a brewery without having to change the date fifteen times, by which time it is now the summer or the winter and everyone else has forgotten why we were getting together in the first place.
Planning is where it all seems to go wrong. The baby is usually, and very inconveniently, poorly, and it couldn't possibly have been poorly during the last three months we've been waiting to see eachother! Oho no...the iddle widdle darlings save it up! Although Christophe...I do have an odd feeling that this won't happen to you.
Me and Chezza - fell down in the planning.
planning is the square route (sic)
love
hazel
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Flower, you're s'posed to get ugs in a size smaller so that they can stretch, but you'll just have to wear more socks for these I think! 'UG!
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leaks, I only eat them in this stew. If you cut them up really, really small it's fine. The stew is missing something if you leave them out though.......
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Woohoo! Just realised the time! YAY YAY and thrice YAY!!!
I hate to break with my new tradition, so I shall have a soft boiled egg, some toast and a cup of tea for my repast this evening.
did have a rather substantial lunch y'see...happy Monday indeed
love
hazel
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AliB, try the cold water method if you can face another egg yet!
...and following the Beijing Olympics, the British committee have decided to name the sporting venues after food (remember the Birds Nest?).
The athletics stadium shall be known as the Yorkshire Pudding, and the pool area shall be called The Leak(again sic)...
You heard it here first
ciao bananas it's been lovely
x
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Ah CLP therein lies a minefield. Tread carefully.
I can honestly say I've never been on a mission to find Mister Right; from the evidence I see all all around me, when you start foraginin' for Mister Right you end up with Mister Right Eejit. Or worse.
It's like Liz Jones' Diary in the Mail supplement. Is that woman for real, or what? I'm compelled to read it with the same compulsion as picking at a scab. Oops sorry, if you're eatin' Bran Flakes.. What a twit she is. Unless she's completely fibbin', in which case she's a genius.
Any road, Last tale about Renee then that's me for a while.
I may have mentioned that I made the GD and BF a haggis lasagne. Well, I also made one for Renee and put it in her freezer so she can help herself when I'm gone back to Ireland.
I've just returned from Liverpool to see said lasagne, or rather, half of it, out on the side.
"Ere," says she. "That lasagne tastes a bit funny, I haven't eaten it all."
"Funny how?" says I, a tad puzzled.
"Just funny. That cheese sauce tasted a bit sweet, maybe it needs a bit of salt."
"Cheese sauce? It's already in it, mum, you don't need to put it on..... Er, (thinks), what cheese sauce are you talking about?"
"That jug of cheese sauce in the fridge."
Oh-oh.
"Mum," says I. "That's custard."
Bless her. Well she gave it her best shot.
Haggis and custard, anybody?
Clodagh.xx
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That's funny Clodagh......
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Ah Mr Bond - chopped leeks are fine. Just don't like the other kind!! LOL x
Sorry............product of generations of teachers you see, and am rather pedantic about spelling! [Not that I can type 3 words without an error - thank goodness for automatic spellcheck!]
df
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LOl derbyfi, I just realized the point you were trying to make....LOL No leaking, just leeks....LOL
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When I was younger I couldn't even see myself with a nice boyfriend, let alone married with a little one by now. All my friends had boyfriends (at least, that's what it felt like) and I sometimes think I just joined in, just to feel like them, wondering if I'd ever actually like my boyfriends. Anyway. Mr Jumpy found me and fell in love - I don't know who was the more surprised! The rest is history, as they say.
It amazes me though, some of my single friends - how on earth they haven't got a steady b/g-friend is beyond me. Some of the lads especially, if I wasn't married, good grief I would be after them. A couple in particular.....
But as for telling your friend. I don't know. A friend (who I'm not really in contact with anymore) used to ask me frequently what I thought, she'd ask me not to lie, to speak my mind, etc etc - and when I did, after persuasion, she didn't like what I had to say - and I know that she knew I was right and she just didn't want to hear it. But because it was somebody else saying it, instead of her saying for herself, she could direct the anger and upsetness at somebody else (namely, me) and once again brush the problem under the carpet. I still don't know if she's acknowledged the answers she knows for herself. As lots of you have said, it's up to her to wake up and smell the coffee, so to speak!
Anyway, onto other things. Dinner. I was going to make casserole, I might make that later ready for tomorrow at this rate. So it will be leftover cheese and onion pie, with gravy yum yum yum... and coffee and yumyums for pudding! Mmmmm :)
Right, off to put the shopping away while the little man is distracted.
xx
me
and the jumpybean
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Clodagh - ah, bless Renee! Easy mistake to make I suppose...........and it could have been worse - chocolate pudding and cheese sauce maybe?
df
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Clodagh- haggis and custard!! Well done Renee :)
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Phew!! Thanks for clarifying Bondy....................
I may be showing my age referring to that film - must be 20+ years old. But he did take a ....... in her dinner you see..........!
Maybe no-one else remembers it or maybe I am finally losing my last remaining marbles?
Will go quietly into the corner now and chunter gently for a few hours.
df.
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Hazel: you are so right. In general, people when they get married/have children just stop making the effort with their friends.
In my case, I became what I thought was a sister to my best friend when her marriage was over. She came to our house twice a week, we went everywhere with her (not holidays, but lots of socialising) and just in general looked after her.
When MsS came along, I made sure I still saw my friend after work every Friday, the way we had done for many years, I saw her every second Saturday and I called her every night.
After kissing a lot of frogs, she did meet a lovely guy who we liked so much, we were both so happy for her. Within four months, she had changed beyond recognition, had become so distant with me and eventually I confronted her with it. She said to me "I'm sorry, but my life has moved on now and I can't put you before Adolf".
Nice, eh? End of friendship!
As you can see, it doesn't bother me. Much.
C xx
(P.S. His name isn't Adolf, but you get my drift!)
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Blimey. I toodle off for the 4.30 meeting and you lot go bananas!
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Hmm. We still make an effort! But I know what you mean. At our church in Manchester, we seemed to be the only married couple that still regularly went out with the young adults - because we were young adults. We hardly knew the other young married couples because they were all off doing married couple things on a Sunday afternoon instead of hanging out in the pubs and bars in Manchester! We just happened to make friends with a couple with a baby when we moved down South before I got pregnant, which is nice now we both have little ones and our other friend/couple have a little one on the way. Just the way it seems to have happened...
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Blinkin' blimey though. I'd be wondering about Adolf, if he was really the right person for her if that's how much she changed in four months.... But then, what can you say :(
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Swooooooooooooooooooooooooooooon!
I've gone all unnecessary, thanks to the awesome Steven Tyler crooning to me via the R2 airwaves ..... now there's a man with tatts to write home about!
He just wants to hold me close ...... awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
hey
hey
hey
whoooooooooooooooooooooooosh!
Thanks CLP! Made my day!
Chezza x x x x
Not enuff Aerosmith on R2, IMO !!
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Hi all, just trying to catch up.
Firstly, Chezza, re. your last post on previous blog, and I am not trying to be funny here, just genuinely intrigued;
What in the name of goodness is a cruit from hell? Am imagining all manner of objects - a scary salt cellar? A putrid pepperpot? Do tell.
CLP, got the book for Christmas, haven't read it yet as I am still Reading "The Other Queen" by Phillipa Gregory, all about Mary Queen of Scots, the alluring minx.
Not around much these days but lurk occasionally and enjoying the funnies, keep 'em coming.
One last thing, I emailed my office the other day to say that I wouldn't be in that day because of "my stinking cold". When I read it back I had written "stinking cod". Which also is a good reason not to go to work I suppose.
Love to all,
A x
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Wow ChrissieS, that IS tough. I think we all have been duped by people who portray themselves as our "best of friends" only to find out that's the farthest thing from the truth. For me it almost cost me my job, but thanks to a boss who saw right through this person. I am now very, very careful who I let into the "inner circle"......
Being on this blog and FB is absolutely huge for me. If I ever seem distant, you now know why.
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LOL boleyngirl..... I think that just help emphasize the point.....
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Jumpy: you are right. I hate to say it, but he turned out a complete nutter. What goes around ...... and all that!
Clodagh: I'm glad I am not alone re: Liz Jones! I read that stupid page every week, and I am never sure whether she is genuine/a nutcase/fabricating the whole thing. But like you, I HAVE to read it!
C xx
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Hi Bloggers & CLP- just wrote a really long reply to the blog and it won't let me post anything long :(( Luv Lyndyloo xx
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So I'll have to do it in bits soz...
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CLP- please try to understand that us girlies don't always need a solution to a problem just a friendly ear to listen to it. Saying that it's not good news if the po/beau is the only topic of her converstaion.
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I have to agree with some of the other bloggers here and say it must be hard for her to see you & Tash getting on with all the things she wants so badly.
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Secondly
Bloggers in relationships: it's very easy to say how all of us singles should just lighten up and get on with living and how much easier being single is...
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personally I have a great single life, have a fab social network, loads of friends both single and married and dating etc etc but I'd love to find a partner to share my life, I'd love to have a baby, I often contemplate another bear...
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I just go through my life having as good a time as I can manage. That doesn't mean that I don't sometimes crave the coupledom life that some of my friends have and sometimes find my own solitude the most wonderful thing on the planet.
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007: yes, I agree, it makes you very wary. Once the trust is gone, in any relationship, it takes a very long before you can let people in again.
I am not exaggerating when I say to you that the best thing that has happened to me in many years is this blog. Through it, I have met Amanda and Mary - between them, I have discovered that is wonderful to have friends again!
C xx
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That's it... thank you for your patience... Luv Lyndyloo & Booboo xx
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Hey Lindy Loo, this is like that bit in Love Actually where he reveals his speech, page by page, to Kiera "I look quite pretty" Knightly. Riveting!
A x
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Sorry Lyndyloo: I interrupted you!!
xx
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Sorry if I went on a bit {{{blush}}} xxx
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ps. yes always tell friends if they have smelly breath... it's only polite to do so... after all they might have no idea!! xx
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Lyndyloo (sorry I spelt it wrong) I was serious! It was a real page turner, and beautifully put!
A x
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Thanks ChrissieS.... I have not made any contact with this person since despite several attempts on their part to rekindle our "friendship".... Once bitten and all......
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Lyndyloo, also, I found your comments yesterday about your dad very moving. I lost my dad this year and he was very funny. He has to leave school and work at 14 (! ) and he never got a single qualification but, like yours, he had so many "understated talents", and gave us so much. He was so proud to see us off to university etc.
A x
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Ahhh Boleyngirl- thanks for that... it's always good to reminisce about my Dad and I know he'd only want me to be with someone who made me happy :)) xx
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Evening all.
So it seems that Monday to Wednesday the blog shall be all but a blur to me. It seems that at work I can't get in here if more that 100 posts.
I don't know if I would be able to tell a friend that they had bad breath because I would be worried about upsetting them. Does that make me a wimp?
Tinsel, bread update. Limited edition Hot Cross Bun Loaf. Very nice, but I don't see the point. If you want a hot cross bun, you buy a hot cross bun.
One of 'The Family' are down to visit tomorrow. Mr 'W' the Managing Director. Cue lots of very busy, and stressed smurfs at work today. To the point that 'words' were had in my office between a few today. Very uncomfortable.
And tomorrow I have to do an analysis of some Health and Safety survey results. Not done anything like it before. Not sure where to start and trying not to let those stupid insecurities set in. Bugger.
Off to give the 5 year old a shower now, back later.
Debbie x
PS: Cheryl, seafood lasagne here tonight. Did I make it? No ;-)
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Opted to wait in the end.
See, four weeks tomorrow we are off to the sunshine and seawater, sun and lashings of suncream are not particularly good for a newly healed piece of body art.
So, I'm going to book in the day we fly back.
I missed the discussions on the subject over the weekend, but, as a few said, it is a personal thing that some get, some don't.
Apart from a pierced ear when I was 15 (think mid-eighties, hair-metal, in a band. Need I go on?) I really don't get pierced, ahem, 'body parts'. No sir.
Mind you, given my track record with needles - almost fainting at the thought of a blood test - how I have survived any inking at all is a miracle.
Tally ho.
Peace etc
MfR
PS David Vine. Legend. RIP.
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evans your blog was put on when you got up was it?
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killers luck warm hit
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LOL boleyngirl .....
cruise. not cruit. love typos tho - totally change the meaning of something innocent!
MfR - wise to wait! new tatts and sunshine .... noooooooooooooooooo!
too ouchey to contemplate!
dinner ready already
x x x
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now playing this up to the news brighting up all the drivetimers
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CtD.
(And any other rockers in the house).
Just finished 'Watch You Bleed', another G 'n R biog. It is worth a read, albeit simply a variation on a well worn tale, but it does seem to rely heavily on third hand information and, at times, plain speculation. But hey, it was written by the guy who penned Hammer of the Gods - the Led Zep 'unauthorised' story, which in itself is worth a read. Just remember to take a large pinch of salt with it.
So I'm now just about to launch into When Giants Walked The Earth. No, not a potted history of dinosaur existence, yep, you've guessed it, another rock biog. This time Led Zep again.
So. On the subject, best rock biogs?
(I'm sure we've done this before, so apologies for repetition and tedium)
Careless Love/Last Train to Memphis - Peter Guralnick. The definitive Elvis tomes.
The Dirt/Heroin Diaries - Motley Crue/Nikki Sixx. Why would you do that? Want to know what?, read and find out. Don't lend either to your mum though.
Eric Clapton, the autobiography. My new mate from the petrol station tells all. And drinks everything in sight along the way.
Slash - by Slash. Probably the best G 'n R book by someone who was there. Even if he can barely remember anything that happened.
Scar Tissue - Anthony Kiedis. The RHCP story. This was a real surprise. Well written by someone who barely deserves to be still alive.
Morrissey and Marr The Severed Alliance. Moz may not be fond of the author, Johnny Rogan, but the story is gripping as the egos inflate.
Sinatra The Life. There are probably hundreds of books about 'ol blue eyes, but I chanced upon this one on holiday and found it fascinating.
Walk This Way. The Aerosmith story by our friend Stephen Davis of Watch You Bleed and Hammer of the Gods fame. A bit of a corker this one, if only for the gargantuan drugs intake by Tyler and Perry, who somewhat unsurprisingly obtained the nickname 'The Toxic Twins'.
So there you have it. My authoritative guide on what to read if rock and pop is your religion.
Off to push record for 24 - for the first time we have caught up with Jack having trawled through the DVDs - and watch our mates shout alot about 'EXCEPTIONALLY GOOD FOOD!!!!!'
Love
MfR
PS Charlie don't surf.
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jaguar now bring out 2 new cars xfr and xkr.sat in the garage with the doors open drinking with my mate paul .standing on the jags doorstep with the drinks on the roof 19million candle light tourch .ran out of vodka paul said to me lets go to the shop .............sat in the car moved it out of the garage a short drive of a 18 feet to step out and walk the rest of the way. drive was short yet seemed to take ages.returned back to the jag with a larger vodka bottle drove back inn the garage music ,torch on now cups filling up .first trip to the tollet so backing out jag crack someting under the wheel.whot was it ....................
fixed it somehow and i really dont know how this happened #the cover of the mirror had scaped agianst a trye #pissed in the bucket drove back in paul put in the palm of my left hand some hand wash smelt fresh .
night carry'd on a guy turned up knows x-bow just come back from his night out kept looking at the car ,we wre having plentyful amount of fun vodka ran out 12:30hrs went to asam 's indian returned with a bells wisky knew this was going to be the killer but reached a stage where i was nt bothered about leaving
checked the car sunday morning and can conform wisky was spilt on the seat and smelt the drinks on he roof however when 1 gets knocked over it runs down the windsceen or the drains around the doors this in all makes it perfect bar,club,if i was rio id move the farrari he crashed last week into the garage and call his mates round to wet the babies head
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Crumbs.
I'll have one of whatever he's drinking.
Actually I won't. I'm on Day 12 and going great guns.
Thinking about it, I'd advise against having one of whatever he's on.
MfR.
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LOL Matt - you're on form tonight!
Scar Tissue was an amazing book. Definitely one of my favourite books ever.
Really.
I've got a couple of music biogs on the shelf awaiting my attention - namely Lennon by Philip Norman (thanks Tiggs xx), also got one on Dean Martin and one on Sammy Davis Jnr. Hopefully 2 weeks on a Greek Island around July time will see them read, and me probably red!
Deb - I love the mental image of loads of panicky smurfs running around - hilarious!
And have self-belief: remember our chats last week ...
And also Deb, I felt oh so guilty this morning. Almost as if I'd been infaithful to you .... there was none of "your" bread in the supermarket so I had to buy a load from a competitor!!! I'm so sorry!
;-)
Chezza x x
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Blimey. Its them typos again ....
unfaithful.
loaf.
Obvious really, innit?!? x x
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CtD.
Last one, I promise. Unless our Jaguar loving friend from above pops his head back in.
Two things freaked me out in 'Watch You Bleed'.
First was Guns' first gig over here in 87 at the Marquee.
As I have mentioned before, I was there as a fresh faced young rocker (aged 16) and I have amazing memories of the night being right down the front and not being able to hear for several days after.
The book however talks about even Guns themselves being shocked by the crowd as bottles and even hyperdermics were thrown at them while they played.
My, I must have been young and naive.....
Second up was Donington.
I have also waxed about this in the past, so I won't churn out the gory details again, suffice to say that the book goes into a bit of length about what happened (only a year or so after the Marquee show) and I don't mind saying that I shed a tear or two when reading that chapter.
Peace
MfR
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Matt
Would you recommend this book over Slash's tome?
I've also got The Dirt yet to read, and a biog of Iggy Pop that I got for Mr Diva last christmas.
Maybe jaguar is really James May ...... ?
Gigs: scariest for me was when Mr Diva took me to see The Wildhearts in Cambridge. The whole hall was one big mosh pit and a bit too much for me.
Loudest gig: definitely Motorhead supporting Alice Cooper at Wembley: I've never before seen hard-faced rockers going into the gents and emerging with bits of loo paper to stuff in their ears! That was weird .....
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Chez
Slash's book is pound for pound the better read. He is quite candid, and, after all, he was actually there. Most of the other books, including Watch You Bleed, seem to get too hung up on Axl and his disappearance up his own backside.
Loudest gig?
Hmm. Toss up between Slayer at Hammy O or Iron Maiden, same venue, Somewhere In Time tour.
Mind you, we all had whiplash for several days after Slayer.
That'll be a pain in the neck, as opposed to a pain in the....
MfR
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Matt I've never read an autobiography but you have inspired me. I may just give one a go.
I bought mum Paul O'Grady's for Christmas, think I'll give that one a miss though.
LOL Cheryl, they aren't so much panicky just really, really serious. I so want to have a laugh with them, must shake them up a bit ;-)
And honestly, buying another brand of bread? How could you? I am truly hurt and offended. You won't enjoy it you know.
Very much looking forward to April by the way. LM tonight, just about to nod off after his last story and suddenly his eyes fly open and he says 'Mum... I forgot......naughty Sam in Red Class today, he kicked me in the crackers!'
I know that I shouldn't have laughed but I did. Bad Mummy.
Debbie x
PS: And yes, tomorrow I will believe in me. Thank you x
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Mr CLP - If you are asking about telling your mate she's too indepth searching for a chap, then deffo... however, if she already has located a pot-beau and he's inappropriate then I would suggest a slight hint while it's still early-daws BUT if it's moved on to snuggley stage, too late and ride the wave!
BTW:
Hazel - thanks for the head's up re text... I sent it this evening so I hope it wasn't too late. TOTALLY AGREE - whatever rights and wrongs, this is not helping....
And I love (auto)biographies - waiting for one about pirate queen of the 17th century - cool....
And, yes, I too have a tatt... had it for more than 20 odd years and want to get a t=shirt that says "I had one first!"
Debbie: Cracker-jack!
LOL
jx
PS Mr R = hello!
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Surprisingly I am waiting to read Roger Moore's autobiography, "My Word is My Bond"
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Debbie, ta for the bread update! Hot cross bun bread sounds like genius to me, so much easier to toast!!
Bless your poor LM - did his voice go even higher?!!
Right, off to watch Masterchef on Iplayer - can't believe I forgot it was on!!!
By the way, phone all fixed - for some strange reason they'd turned me off at the exchange (oo er!!!)
T xxxx
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I just thought I would take a look at the blog while I listen to Morrisey... How soon is now. Thing is Jag James has totally confused me.
Not a big reader more of a music listener.
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PS Bingo
Good job you changed your name you would never have been a star with the name Bingo Starkey.
The cheaper bulbs in B and Q and other DIY stores don't do dimmer switches .
Hence why I am buying as many traditional bulbs as possible.
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The Clapton Book was good whilst he was drinking, drugging and chasing anything in a skirt, but it got a bit boring once found God, sobriety and the love of a good woman.
Have just embarked on the Led Zep book also, a weighty tome indeed.
Does the Jag Mag realise where he is posting? I rather think not!
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Good Tuesday morning to you all!
Looked in briefly last night but as I'm not a heavy metal rocker and the new jag man completely bamboozled me (I thought I wrote some gibberish!) I decided to slink out again quietly.
Working again today - isn't life fun?! And roll on February - I hate this month with a passion! Think I must have that SAD thingy.
Will pop back at lunchtime to catch up on the fun.
df
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Morning derbyfi!
Toosday! Monday done. Week well under way.
Actually quite looking forward to work today (straighjacket - now!) Why? Well yesterday I finally managed to get my little orange box of an office just how I want it. All the 2008 archiving done. Shredding stuff from years ago that was just kept .. because, bit of a re-arrange, sort out, more shredding ..... been there a year in Feb and it's now starting to feel like "my" office, if that makes sense .....?
Got a fair bit to do today but will keep dipping in for a paddle on the good ship blog throughout the day.
Also - need to get a prezzie for a female friend's 40th. We only got the heads-up last night from her hubby (good friend of Mr Diva) that we're all meeting up on Saturday to celebrate her entry into the 40 Club ..... but what to get her?? May venture into town at lunchtime if its not raining. I'm thinking something totally inpractical but gawjus ....... a trip to the impractical and gawjus shop on the cards then!
Catch up with you all later.
Chezza x x x
PS: Deb - you were right about the bread!
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Morning all, hope you're well?
Chris, what a conundrum (sp?) it's tough being upfront and honest but as someone else has already stated when your friend thinks about it in the cold light of day and realise you are a friend and wouldn't be so honest 'just for a laugh' but because you all care I reckon it'll be ok?
Autobiogs....love 'em. Currently on Graham Roberts (ex Spurs when we were good!), have Roy Race's next which my mum got me as I was an avid reader of his comics as a child. Not sure what to expect from that one though???
My faves have included Frank Skinner, Bruce Forsyth and both of Bob Monkhouse's...mind you Cloughie and Greavsies are a great read. Oh and Barry White, I'll stop now if not I'll just list every book I've ever read!!!
Tattoos - I have 4 which are very personal to me. Might get a 5th too which will be even more personal and quite emotional to carry, not sure whether to do it yet though.
bonnet de douche
KWx
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Hi
I love auto biogs - have recently read both of Hamsters that were good and John barrowmans which was interesting. I have the two guys from little britain and john lennon (thanks Tiggs) to get through and my mum has dawn french/paul o grady and parky to read and then I can borrow them
Never got a tatt - have always wanted one but could never decide what to get as my tastes change so much - would love one at the base of my back but scared of having a needle there!
super bp x
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Morning everyone! I've enjoyed a few autobiog's speshly Frank Skinner who made me laugh out loud loads as well as cry (I think you have to be into footy to cry)!! Tatt's nope- you can keep them I'm not a fan but each to their own. It's your body... Luv Lyndyloo xx
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Hello again
One thing that really irks me about autobiogs is when stoopidly young and not always amazing people decide it's time to share their story. My examples:-
Coleen Rooney
Leona Lewis
Katie Price (3 autobiogs already?)
to name but 3. All in their 20s / 30s and let's be honest - not amazing claims to fame.
Yes, I know Russell Brand was only 32 when he released Booky Wook, but if you've read it, you'll see that there was definitely a story to tell, and then some!
Right, that's that pot well and truly stoked!
Chezza x x x
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Morning All
I think I have worked out what Jag James was trying to say.. Well if anyone has ever used Via Voice a product which enabled you to talk into a mic and the typing would do itself that is the result which could occur at times.
Oh no, not Tatts again. I really don't see the point. Of course the little insignificent ones that no one sees is ok I suppose. But what is the point then?
If somebody wants big tattos for somebody to see can't the point in that either.
Seems to have been a fashion thing in recent years but when it goes out of fashion..... I guess they don't come off with Cillit Bang.
PP
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Latest Biog Leona Lewis .. famous for five minutes... just a money spinner for celebs.
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Morning PP
I think the tatt discussion is in response to CLP's PS on the above Blog entry, which seems to come on the back of our discussion on the same subject over the weekend.
Lovely to know CLP reads us as much as we read him!
x x x x
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Morning CTD
Indeed yes.
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Shhhhh creeping in quietly hello everyone
I am also one of the singlettes - I fill my out of work hours with loads to do so I don't always face the four walls at home and the two cats to talk to. I've had relationships and several bad engagements but no one special at present. I agree it is nice to occasionally have someone special around to go for walks, pictures, meals out and those fireside companionable chats but it isn't always possible and so I make the most of what spare time I have to play sports, do charitable work and supply parties for other ladies to enjoy themselves. I meet some really wonderful people and my inner circle is very small but when I do manage a get together socially it is a very pleasant time. Hence my enjoyment as a night owl on this blog.
Debbie thanks for the heads up on the bread will look out for it as I love to toast my hot X buns (tut tut kept typing nun instead of bun).
Loving the typos they are just so funny.
Keep up the chins everyone its a wet time in Dorset at present.
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Morning Phoenix
Not raining here in my Doset!
Good heavens no, never rains in Bournemouth.
You seem to enjoy life good for you. However...... Ladies parties I'm afraid I avoid those particularly the underwear ones where all the ladies have a giggle and snigger.. and no I don't want to buy a pair of backless crochless string knickers for ten pounds with only twenty pence worth of material in them.
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Morning Phonix - I only have one chin!!
Toasted hot cross buns (or nuns for that matter!) laden with chocolate spread .....
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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Morning
Quick peek in here while I have the chance. Strange here today, hardly anyone about. They must all be on the shop floor, or in last minute meetings before Mr W gets here.
Fancy some of that hot cross bun bread now, wonder if there's any in the kitchen.
Back later if I get the chance.
Debbie x
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Now your talking CtD mmmm indeed - like mine with honey on after lightly toasting first.
PP you're so right I don't like those parties either but upmarket lingerie is so much nicer with lovely silks and lace - shame it's just for me to enjoy. Just looked out of the window and the rain has stopped chucking it down as well.
I won an award for being in the top ten for my area for last year I was stunned so those with faceache may see me tagged in a friend's photo album - mind you I did ask her not to tag the photos so you might not see the results but if you perchance to see the idiot between two lovely ladies with flowers it's me.
I really enjoy making women laugh and have the chance to obtain really nice lingerie and the occasional fun item. I've been doing this for 7 years and still have a laugh - when I don't enjoy it I'll stop.
CtD good job you don't have two chins as Mr Diva wouldn't know which one to kiss first!
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Phoenix
I am still pondering the whole facebook thing. As my new Guru Tina from Celebrity Big Brother put it. "If you have 8000 friends you are a sad act". Well I have 8 does that make me an even sadder act or normal, I'm not sure.
By the Way Could La Toya have had a sex change at some point in time?
Making women laugh well good on you.
Don't know where you are in Dorset but not been raining here all morning.
PP
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Is v grey and mis in Brighthelmstone this morning...mind you is better than yesterday when it was blowing a hooley and you couldn't see air between the rain!
... I ran 'those' parties for a while a few years ago...was fun, but I can't be doing with the screeching m'self...excellent commission though!
...and Jen, thank you for that...you weren't too late...and they are taking the petition to Downing Street today, so it's still not too late if anyone else would like to take part...
Please text 'ceasefire' to 81819 for Gaza.
Phoenix, glad you're feeling better lovey!
...and for all you clubbers, or used to be clubbers, and please accept my apologies, but I know quite a lot of people whose livelihood may well be affected by this..would you mind all signing please? It's not war, just more petty beaurocracy...thank you!
http://petitions.number10.gov.uk/NoNoiseControl/
am going away now to chunter in opposite corner to fi
love
hazel
x
sorry they aren't as much fun as Prof's utube
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...and MfR, David Vine...the voice of Ski Sunday and the Horse of the Year Show...the only sports I ever watched...
A lovely man by all accounts.
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Tis very spookily quiet round here this morning... maybe everyone is exceedingly busy? I'm doing completion admin which aint very exciting but still a gals gotta do... luv Lyndyloo xx
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Morning
Just catching up on the blog and have a few comments to ad:
Lyndyloo - feel exactly the same way you do re #79 and #80, thank you for putting it so much better than I tried to do.
Debbie C - I shall look out for the Hot Cross Bun Bread sounds fab.
On the subject of "Tats" I'm plucking up the courage to treat myself to one as a late 40th present to me. My Mum will kill me, but then it will be in such a place that she may never know. I've been a good girl all my life, never caused my parents any trouble, but getting a tattoo would be, to my parents, like getting pregnant without being married!! A big No No. Still the rebel in me still wants to go ahead with the Tat - how naughty of me....hee hee.
AliB
xx
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Hiya Ali,
You could always practice first and wear a temporary one so that you can see what it would look like with different types of clothes on. I have a rebel one but it was forces rebel and I was one of 14 who got an army law changed. It is definitely somewhere where it occasionally appears but not often.
Do I regret it - nope
I had my ears pierced on my 18th Birthday as my mum didn't approve of them.
I am working but have some time spaces where no one is around or the work is waiting to do so hence my joining in today.
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I have not got anything pieced - the thought of putting metal in your body every day really turns my stomach.
But I do like tatts so try to figure that out?
super bp x
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Heidi hi everyone!
I think it's best to leave your friend to make her own mistakes but be there for her if / when things go down the pooper.
I find that if I'm told to do one thing, I will do the opposite; we all have our inner rebels to contend with after all.
Bill Bryson - never read any of his but I have Stuart Maconie's books and have been told they're similar so might swich past them at my next visit to the bibliotheque.
Clodagh - lovin' the Renee / Custard story. My Gran (85) once put the Yorkshire pudding mix on top of the trifle thinking it was custard. Bless.
How's everyone else?
Rosie x
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Hey blog folks!
I'm still here - lurking away. Ear drum still not working .... ENT next stop me thinks! Ah well.
Hmmm friends.....try staying out of it as much as possible and then when it all gets too much - just come out with it - a bit like ripping the plaster off.
CtD why can't you put a plaster on a tat?
for all those stressing about leccy etc take a look at solarkitdirect.co.uk - lots of different ideas - we have some of our hen houses lit by solar panel lights - even way up here and in the middle of winter - still enough power for 4 x 9w (eqv. 45w) lights.
Is there anything that can cure/subdue tinitus? AGHHHH - constant whine in broken ear is driving me mad!
quack
x
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hi dooki!
when you have a tatt, it takes a few weeks to heal properly and part of the healing process is it scabbing over and kinda shedding the scabby bit, so a plaster is not really ideal. they also say NOT to use vaseline, but a gentle antiseptic cream (i use a nappy rash cream on mine!) to help it heal.
MfR very wise to wait til after his sunny holibob too - new raw skin under sunshine - ouch!
sorry if you were eating lunch whilst reading that post, anyone!
CtD x x x x
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lostAliBaba- glad to know there are others that feel the same way.
Dook- I don't have any answers for you sorry. My Dad had tinitus for years and it drove him mad. I just hope yours is something that can be sorted... will look at the light site... Luv Lyndyloo xx
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Hurrah - time for lunch.
Tinnitus dook - poor you! Mr df gets it too but for no known reason (except perhaps too many loud gigs and revving motor-bikes in his mis-spent youth!) He's not found a cure but seems to have got used to it by now. I hope yours passes quickly and that the folks at ENT can help.
df
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arrow everybody!
Saw that hot x bun loaf this morning, will give it a try. Also Sainsbugs have the teacakes on 2 packs for a quid and we treated ourselves at the weekend, blooming lovely!
Have always loved the super toastie loaf so don't thik will be going back to the H brand again. what are the crumpets/pancakes/english muffins like?
Tiggs xx
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Dook, good to see you...you could try turning Jezza V off...I can't be doing with his constant whine...and he seems to be getting a bit Jeremy Kyle lately...but try this site in the meantime...
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/23068863/
again, not as exciting as Prof's utube
Anyhoo, you can't put a plaster on a new tatt because it needs the air to it directly to help the clotting and healing process. It is also possible for the plaster to absorb some of the dye that has been used for said tatt, so you'd end up with a blotchy and uneven design. If you need to cover it for any reason use a lint free cloth fastened to the skin well away from the tatt site...
i trust that helps
love
hazel
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...CtD, good point well made, and the sun can also fade a new tatt as there aren't yet enuff protective layers of skin over the dye...
am now feeling a bit ick and bleurgh
need lunch
love
hazel
x
ps Dook, are you all now de-turkeyed?
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Hi Tiggs. The crumpets are the best and Mr Debbie loves the pancakes.
Just been in a meeting with Mr W, what a very nice down to earth man.
The H brand, as I've just discovered are our biggest competitors at present. Boo!
Poor you Dook, hope that you feel better soon.
I'm a wimp when it comes to tatts and piercings, had my ears done when I was 11 and that'll do me.
Debbie x
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Afternoon all,
Have two tattoo's - run liberally with savalon or equivilent cream till they scab and shed to reveal beautiful tat underneath............
In relation to the blog - does your friend read the blog? If so then you may have already got your message across to the intended reciepient!!!!!!
C
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Thanks Debbie, will be trying the crumpets and pancakes soon then!
Isn't it nice when big bosses don't have airs and graces?
Tiggs xx
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Cheers peeps!
I've always had a bit of the ole tinitus - but my broken ear is amplifying it 10 fold and I can no longer ignore it!
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quack
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Oh dear folks I've just opened the big box of wine gums that was given to me as part of a Chrissy prezzie.... am going to have to hide them very soon!!! Luv Lyndyloo xx
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Debbie - is Mr W THE Mr W from the TV? You know the one who walks his dogs on the hills and is accosted by two older wifies, and goes to the cinema and the guy behind him suggests making a huge loaf?
If it is - I haven't yet managed to find another company to beat their crumpets - the others stick to the roof of your mouth - please let him know his crumpets are the dogs whatzits!
quack
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Ah Rosie bless your nan.
Fair play to Renee, though. Once she realised what she'd done, she finished it off.
"What you pullin' your face at." Says she. It's only like Chinese."
Bless. The Heston Blumineck of Wigan.
As for Bill Bryson, you're in for a treat. If you liked Pies and Prejudice, which, as a Wigan Bird like Mr. Maconie.. not that 'e's a bird, like.. had me in absolute stitches, you'll thoroughly enjoy Neither Here nor There. Chronicles his trip around Europe.
And then do The Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid. Top.
Right. Now then I have a dilemma.
Am packin' for Ireland, from whence I shall be doin' me whistle-stop trip to New York. The schedule is already a bit punishing, in fact as I step off the plane upon returning from said Big Apple, I have to drive down to Cork and do another full weekend, then back up to Dublin via Wexford to hand in my case-study for me diploma.
I'm already out on the town Tuesday and Wednesday night for what could be a heavy session; and now I've had an e-mail from another friend who's wanting to come down from Boston and do dinner on Monday. Now, much as I appreciate how lucky I am that people WANT to catch up with me; especially since I throw their priceless puffer-fish outa windows; I don't think I can stand the pace. I mean, I haven't seen them for at least 3 years so there's no way I'll get away with just an hour or two. But it seems bad Karma to fib and make an excuse.
What d'you reckon.
Clodagh.xx
PS. Ew get me. I promise yous it's not as glamorous as it sounds!
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Clodagh - I'd say do the Monday, for the company - you never know when/if the next chance to see that friend may come along - but try to pace the drinking throughout so you're not too wrecked.
Can you sleep on the plane back? I find it hard but those who can are very lucky!
Enjoy the trip!
df
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Clodagh
DO IT! Go on you know you want to, life's too short and all that!
As df said you don't know when you might see them again.
AliBxx
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NEW BLOG!!!
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Hazel thanks but I don't think my You Tube stuff is particularly special. I just upload some of my favourite tracks to my account. You see the Internet is more about music and comedy for me although I have met one or two special people.
Clodagh_ You can't go all that way and not meet up.
This is one of my favourite places in NYC
http://www.rivercafe.com/
Next door is some sort of Registar conducting Weddings every few minutes for chinese couples. Every few minutes the next lot arrive.... A Chinese.takeaway I suppose.
Debbie glad the job is going well but it keeps reminding me of Wallace and Gromit.
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bad smell in the car has now gone
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was a good night though untill 3am
jonny vagus
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jhonny i for got the code i m sure it was chtissevans
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trever nelson you do know leeds has an airport to take you off the roads and you know janine texted me friday the 199 show radio edit was brilliant eating all that suff has nt helpped rampage goes to show the last words are more important than the 1st
totally threw them off course
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