A Young Carer’s Open Letter to her Mother

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Last year the BBC reported that there were a quarter of a million young carers in England and Wales alone. Shannon is a young carer aged 15. For the last seven years she’s been looking after her mum who has multiple sclerosis, and things haven’t been easy. BBC Children in Need funds a Young Carers group at Voluntary Action South Leicestershire where Shannon goes to get support and help. For Mother's Day Shannon has written an open letter to her mum about the challenges she faces as a young carer.

Dear Mum,

I was 7 years old when I found out you had multiple sclerosis. It happened faster than anything I could have imagined. I remember us being home alone and you were ill. I didn't know what to do so I got the neighbour. They couldn't wake you up, so I called the ambulance. Seeing you ill was bad enough but seeing you rushed to hospital, unconscious, wearing an oxygen mask was even worse! After that day our lives changed forever.

We were really close before this happened. I remember when you were able to walk around without falling over. I remember when we played together and when we were really happy, but after this happened I guess we grew apart. You were so busy with hospital appointments and had your own health to worry about, let alone mine. I didn't see as much of you as I wanted to because you were always in hospital. I didn’t understand a lot of what was happening, so I always worried. Later on I had my own health problems too, but I tried to keep smiling for you, mum.

Shannon and her mum

I think ‘normal’ teenagers sometimes take their childhoods for granted. It’s harder for me to make friends because I come straight home to clean up and help with simple things such as putting your socks on or doing your makeup. Making my own dinner and looking after myself is something other people my age can’t understand. I say that it's ok, not everyone has to do this but I do and it's my life and I can’t change it. Some days it's really hard to keep a smile on your face when all you can think about is someone else's safety but you have to be strong!

I worry about the future because I realise that at some point you could lose all of your stability and would have to be in a wheelchair all day every day. It upsets me watching you get gradually worse. I worry, but no matter what I will always be there to support you!

Mum, you are my inspiration. You’ve always got a positive attitude to life and even when you’re having a bad day, you’re still happy. Sometimes I know you’re hiding how poorly you feel, and don’t tell me. It just goes to show that no matter what goes on in your life, there's always something to smile about!

I love you Mum,

Shannon.

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  • Comment number 1. Posted by Victoria Taylor

    on 30 Mar 2014 21:39

    What a beautiful, moving letter from a such a brave young lady.
    I can totally relate.... both my children are young carers and have been since they were 5 yrs old and 2 yrs old. (www.caitlinswish.co.uk to read our story)
    What struck me was that my daughter could have written parts of this letter.. which just goes to show that so many young carers have similar feeling about their caring role despite the situations being different.
    This is such an inspirational letter in which their love pours through each and every word....
    I hope you and your Mum were able to enjoy a memorable Mother's day today Shannon.
    Lots of love and best wishes for the future
    Victoria. xxxx

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